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yooo so I still check tumblr fairly frequently but I’m not on here a lot, feel free to follow me on twitter :)

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While I definitely want to and will try to do everything I can to protect the experiences of kids online, it does worry me that the public internet safety campaigns of yore aren't common anymore... hell, I wasn't allowed to access the internet in my own room alone until I was 18 and while I definitely didn't follow that rule (sorry parents) it made me wary of the waters I was wading into.

Also like one of the commenters mentioned, kids, just because someone listed their age and says all the right things doesn't mean they're not a predator. Often predators are really fucking good at looking like unproblematic harmless people.

Curate your own experience. Watch yourself. Don't put everything online. Don't trust someone just because they seem to have all their information upfront. If you sense something is off, get out, log off, and don't be afraid to talk to a trusted adult if you need help. This is BASIC internet awareness.

I found these tags on that post asking adults to list their age. This is one of many who seem to agree with OP’s sentiment.

I think kids on the internet these days–and by “kids” I mean anyone under 18 honestly–need to be re-taught about internet safety and keeping your personal life away from your internet life, for safety reasons. I’ve been noticing this a lot lately, but I’ve found that the younger generations just never learned about Internet safety and keeping your personal information… well, personal.

Listen. I am a 90s kid in my late 20s. Yes, I do list my age on my description, because I feel comfortable doing so. But lately, there’s been an alarming trend where you, the younger generations, expect us to cater to all of your needs and keep you safe. And more, even.

The internet is a big, scary place. People my age and older, and some a little younger, grew up with the internet. We grew up with the dial-up noise and “get off the internet so I can use the phone!” and being limited in the way we interacted with the internet because it was expensive and strange and modems were not a thing. We also grew up with massive internet safety campaigns and worried parents scared of the unknown. Scared of the predator on the other side of the screen. It was normal for parents to be worried and assume predator until proven otherwise. 

As such, everyone in my generation and older grew up with a massive internet safety awareness. Don’t give out your personal information, don’t tell them where you live, your name, your age, where you study or what. Say nothing. Share nothing. Most of us have created for ourselves internet personas, much in the way that I am Saku on the internet but someone else in real life.

Yes, the line has blurred somewhat, and over time people have lost the alarm and concern that the internet caused in them. But most of us still remember what it was like back then. Most of us remember the safety rules, remember the techniques and tactics to tell if someone was or wasn’t telling the truth, remember the golden rule about not sharing personal information on the internet.

Because the internet back then was a big, scary place. And the internet now? It still is a big, scary place. It’s just more…. normal. More a part of our everyday lives that we all just sort of take for granted. 

What you kids are missing now is that we, as the older generations on the internet, the generations that grew up with the internet, still remember what it was like back then. And we still abide by our internet safety rules.

You all may think that sharing your age on the internet is not a big deal, but it is. Whatever you post on the internet can be used against you, regardless of how “safe” you feel. And one way or another, we are not responsible for you or your internet experiences. We protected ourselves back then, we policed and monitored our own internet content and use, and so should you.

The internet is not yours, it’s all of ours. And we got here first, way before you were even born, in some cases. I’ve been on the internet since I was 9, and that’s well over a decade and a half ago. If anything, fandom spaces are made up primarily of adults. Who do you think writes the good content that you consume? Who do you think produces the best art and the best fics? Who do you think writes the well-written, hot, sexy smut you shouldn’t be reading at 3 in the morning?

When we got here, we all assumed that everyone was older than us on the internet. For some reason that’s changed, and now people assume that everyone’s younger, or their age. But we’re all still here. We’ve been here for the past 15, 20 years. Even longer.

There is nothing wrong with us. We don’t owe you anything. You make your own safety on the internet, and you are the one responsible for making sure you’re safe. That’s not on us, it’s on you. 

If you’re uncomfortable talking to an adult on the internet, then you’re more than welcome to unfollow, or block, or whatever. But it’s not our responsibility that you do so. If you want to know something, ask.

Most importantly, we’re not all predators. Don’t shame or fault us for existing on the Internet. We were here before you, and we enjoy things just as you do. They aren’t yours, you don’t own them any more than we do. And we have a right to be here too, without having to bend over backwards for you just for existing.

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A L S O can we talk more of the implicatons of a dalish elf being the inquisitor tbh bc they kinda fucked that up in the game but the whole religion thing,,, plus a minority thrown into this whole world and expected to just act like this is all normal and chill and being saddled with this responsibility for other ppls lives??? with no one really respecting their background/heritage/ethnicity anyways bioware could have made this rly interesting and compelling but nooooo

godddddd I also have an angst fic lined up for that too because holy shit - I felt bad but I honestly just laughed in disbelief in the hinterlands during that quest with the random cult in the hills, cause every time he was asked mahanon would tell people that he wasn’t the herald of andraste, didn’t believe in andraste, so that quest went like this for him:

cult lady: so you’re the *supposed* herald of andraste

mahanon: nope

cult lady: bet you can’t close rifts either

mahanon: actually no I can do that

cult lady: sure

*mahanon closes rift*

cult lady: by the maker I was wrong!

mahanon: it’s cool, I-

cult lady: you ARE the herald of andraste!

mahanon: *internal screaming into the void forever*

seriously the more you assert your dalish identity the more alienating it is and just... everything is terrible and if the game won’t explore the ramifications then I Will

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maybe not tonight but... does anyone want to hear about the worst scene study I was ever in...... from.......

....this play?

(theatre majors no spoilers)

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every once in a while I remember that mahanon was canonically sent to the conclave “as a spy” and like.... my mahanon tho

as a spy 

a SPY

like honestly the keeper was probably just like “hey so this bullshit is happening could you go see what the fuck is up” and mahanon just like “okay” and walks in as a mage, no pretence, just “sup everyone”, and only AFTER everything goes down people are like “OMG WHO INVITED YOU”

“....I just walked in”

“SO YOU’RE A SPY FOR THE DALISH”

“I literally did not realize the Dalish were explicitly not invited to this meeting”

“WHAT WERE YOU HOPING TO DISCOVER HERE SPY”

“idk just wanted to see who’s killing who in the name of your ‘maker’ I guess and anyway everything blew the fuck up so does it really matter?? what the fuck??”

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BELIEVE ME THIS IS ALSO HOW I FEEL ABOUT IT (though I did cackle out loud) (sorry boo)

There was no good way to post this on here, so I just posted it to Twitter and am bringing it here via screenshot. @foxnonny this is about you

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ALSO UR OT3 STUFF IS SO IMPORTANT BECAUSE NO ONE FUCKING EVER WRITES OT3 ANYTHING TBH and when they do its usually porn which is chill but seriously sometimes a bitch wants a fully developed and healthy relationship between three people okay and anyways im grateful bc ur the best ot3 in any fandom ive seen so thats another thing i love about your fics!! healthy polyamory ftw!!!

ADALKDMALKSD BIG MOOD ANON BIG BIG MOOD LIKE

I live for the fiddly negotiation bits and the way that they love each other equally but DIFFERENTLY and just the way it builds and how they negotiate it and become a family and HERE I WAS WORRIED I WASN’T WRITING ENOUGH PORN TO KEEP FOLKS INTERESTED NGL

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*bilbo voice* oh! now here is a sight that I’ve never seen before!

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so I just found this subject line in my drafts with....no follow-up and no memory of having written it in the first place and

it feels like a pissed-off me from the beyond sent a prompt forward in time and I have no earthly idea where it came from but goddamn I’m kind of tempted to write this now

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okay also one of the MANY reasons i love your canon dai fic is that by virtue of it being a video game i think the story loses something in terms of character like how you decide whether other people live or die and this doesnt affect your character as much as it should bc its a video game and they dont have time to get into that but anyways thats why i love your fics bc they explore the spaces between the plot points in the game which is so much more interesting and compelling

ANON AKJDNAKSJDNAD I DON’T KNOW HOW BUT YOU’RE SOMEHOW MANAGING TO TAKE DOWN EVERY ONE OF MY INSECURITIES ABOUT WRITING FOR THE OT3

Like literally I’ve been sitting here like “man I want to write more ot3 but maybe people aren’t super into self-indulgent oc stuff” and “man I want to write all the fill-ins for DAI between quests but it’s all ponderous character building maybe I should just keep that for me” and “god I want to write some really fucking deep and terrible angst for mahanon but again maybe that’s Too Much and I should just keep it for me too”

thank you thank you thank you for saying these things it’s honestly so goddamn encouraging and I just??? thank you so fucking much

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not to be That Bitch but r u gonna write more exploring mahanons ptsd,,,,, idk why i wanna see my sweet little boy suffer but the way u write it is so Real and Raw and cathartic and anyways i love that bit in the fic where bull is giving mahanon a bath and hes thinking about how mahanon feels so responsible and its killing him anD ALSO KILLING ME OKAY

oh man oh my dude oh my bitch oh my lovely lovely anon like

the next one in the roster that I’m halfway done takes things back a bit (pre-relationship dorian’s perspective) but bELIEVE ME I HAVE PLANS

I fucking live for how mahanon’s slowly destroyed by the inquisition ngl so short answer yes we are absolutely going to see that and how it develops because oh boy...it develops

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I DONT EVEN WANT TO READ THE LAST CHAPTER OF HSG I DONT WANT IT TO BE OVER AHHHHHH

HI THIS WAS MY ENTIRE MOOD WHILE WRITING IT I KEPT HITTING “LAST MOMENTS” AND PAUSING TO CRY A BIT SO SAME HAT MY LOVE SAME HAT

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also sorry if all these asks are bugging you but it seems we are both cursed with being awake at five am :) (im p sure we re both in the same time zone lol) anyways i live for!! hurt/comfort!!! i love mahanon and never wish any pain on him but those types of fics are so cathartic tbh and i end up rereading them over and over soooo (also tbh ur the best writer in the DA fandom ive ever read so!!! all the Boys are so beautifully in character and it feels like you actually Get Them)

ANON YOU ARE THE OPPOSITE OF BUGGING ME YOU’RE...I COULDN’T THINK OF THE OPPOSITE OF BUGS BECAUSE IT’S 5 AM

I also live for hc it’s honestly my bread and butter (if you’ll remember me didn’t set my brand from the get go) I’m just honestly so so chuffed you enjoy them because they’re so fun to write but the validation just makes everything better and I’m RAPIDLY RUNNING OUT OF SENSE

YOU’RE LOVELY ANON LIKE HOLY HOT DAMN

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I’m already thinking of people I forgot to thank in the epilogue so if you keep getting email notifications about updates from HSG I’m either editing chapters for podficcing or remembering more people I want to thank...forever

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bull meeting the inquisitor like

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pros of living at home: food, no rent, can focus on school and commission work, mental health support system close by

cons of living at home: hearing my parents argue causes my dumb anxious inner 10 year old lizard brain to rear its ugly head