#femmeofhearts thoughts

[femmeofhearts]

i hope (know) this is how everyone who has ever fumbled me feels

[femmeofhearts]

not to be sappy and reflective on main, and feel free to ignore this, but…i think something that is really important in relationships that can be sometimes overlooked is putting care and attention into the things your s/o cares about, even if it’s not something you would typically care all that much about.

for example, one of my biggest love languages is gift giving. while i was in a relationship with my ex, every year i asked for the same type of flowers for my birthday - light pink roses (i like a very specific shade). nothing big, no huge complicated bouquet or fancy extras. just the roses.

every single year she got the wrong shade. i celebrated three birthdays with her.

is it small and silly and stupid to most people? probably. but it still made hurt pang inside my chest every time.

and the fact of the matter is, this isn’t the only instance of this sort i could reference. there were a lot of “small” things like this that, when they all added up together, turned into a really significant source of hurt for me, especially as we dated and lived together for longer and longer.

anyways. this is the shade of roses i like. i think they’re very pretty :)

i like to think that maybe somebody someday will get my roses right.