#feminism long became a mindset of antagonising men and i don't want to do anything with it!

[katyspersonal]

@feminismisstillahatemovement actually made a VERY good point about blaming the category of people for individual crimes that made me rethink my stance.

Imagine, hypothetically, if all crimes relevant to drug-dealing and robbery got analysed, and statistical majority just happened to be the people of colour. What would come of that? Like... Would that become suddenly justified to look at a black or latin-american person and think ‘yeah, a drug dealer and a criminal potentially’? Of course not! This would be a QUITE bigoted and racist take. /gen

But in this logic? Then how is this okay to analyse all sex-related crimes, figure that majority of criminals are male, and let it result in seeing men as potential rapists and abusers BY DEFAULT?

I didn’t really thing of hypocrisy of this mindset, but in a way, this is... just this. By looking at a man and just automatically suspecting a potential rapist/abuser/misogynist, we are doing the same thing the racist cops do! The cops that see a black person and automatically suspect a drug dealer or robber or whatever. I was not thinking about the absurd of the situation of ‘every man is up to no good until proven otherwise’, but I do now.

And I think I do not want to be a part of this anymore. Men that hurt me to the point of my life being ruined were an anomaly rather than the rule, and I think I should fight my fear before men - the same way racism biases should not be accepted. Thinking that men and women have equal rights is not feminism - it is just being normal. And not being okay (as a woman) with ‘feminine’ professions and roles forced on you by society is not feminism - it is independence. The trait found in men as well.

I no longer want to be the part of THIS as a woman. I think I am finally ready to accept myself as a woman despite all contradictions both biologically and socially - but also I want to have them as our friends, sons, brothers and fathers. There is no need to treat men the same way racist cops treat every non-white citizen, and if some fear is left in me, I will overcome it.

[butchladymaria]

EDIT 12/21/22: K//tyahina has come mask off as a transphobe. Link is here, screenshots below. Do mind the tags, this one is a mess.

I don’t think I need to explain why saying being trans is a choice is transphobic, along with pretty much everything else stated here. If anyone has genuine questions as to why that is, my DMs are open. But given this was a message sent to s\\intmicolash, who proceeds to call trans people fake, I believe the context alone is self-explanatory. It is no longer a matter of simply defending and minimizing transphobia anymore. This has escalated to participating and encouraging it. K//tyahina is literally parroting arguments made to pass laws that claim supporting your trans kid is child abuse.

I strongly recommend you don’t engage, as there is a high probability you’ll get hit with harassment.

EDIT (4/21/23): It's apparently gotten worse.

K//tyahina has discussed her views on feminism with a bit of transmisogyny and lesbophobia on the side.

K//tyahina regularly engages and agrees with a user "feminismisstillahatemovement", who is racist, transphobic, misogynistic, homophobic (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10), and just a general all around bigot who claimed they would vote for trump if given the chance. In this post further elaborating on her views about feminism, K//tyahina, who is white, compares women fearing violence from men to racist cops murdering unarmed black people. She also states: "feminism long became a mindset of antagonising men and i don't want to do anything with it!". K//tyahina also reblogged this islamophobic meme with the commentary "not all cultures/religions are nice!".

K//tyahina reblogged this transmisogynistic post written by a TERF with the commentary "i dont think enough people realize how messed up it is that people guilted into having sex to not be accused of every -ist and -phobia is. it gets silenced often and people who speak up about such cases are just treated as 'bigots that make wholesome accepting community look bad!!!' but it is there" (with a very ironic "condemnation" of TERFs tacked on at the end given the source of the post).

K//tyahina has recently doubled down even further on her defense of s//intmicolash in this post, stating about the multiple instances of the user actively misgendering trans people to their faces, calling people slurs, saying being trans is a disease, etc: "Saintmic never harassed anyone, ever, in his entire life! He was just sharing his feelings and opinions in his blog, which is everyone's right on free speech. The worst thing he could do is to reblog a post he disagrees with with a harsh objection but that's not harassment, that's disagreeing in the internet (again, check free speech)".

K//tyahina claimed here, about me presumably, that "honestly them having a she/they pronouns and changing it the very day after their dumb post just to accuse me of misgendering was a DEAD giveaway for their malicious intentions". I described here how what k//tyahina did is misgendering regardless, but I cannot express my utter resignation at the fact that in her mind, my own personal self discovery is part of some spiteful vendetta against her.

Finally, k//tyahina seems convinced that I'm personally responsible for every negative or critical anon she receives with apparently zero evidence as far as I am aware. I haven't looked at this since the last update in December, so I am unsure where this perception came from, nor am I inclined to speculate.

I didn’t want to have to make this post, but after discussion with others and a lot of thought, it feels irresponsible not to.

The amount of casual and even blatant transphobia I see enabled on a daily basis in the Bloodborne community is honestly quite sickening. I and those I care about have been personally impacted by this behavior — often coming from, and enabled by, popular blogs on this website. I am going to be focusing on the behavior of one individual here whom I feel it could be damaging to other trans people and our allies to be unaware of their behavior. Trigger warning for varying extremes of transphobia under the cut.

My point in making this post is to simply give context to publicly available statements made by tumblr user k//tyahina, who has expressed some very disturbingly transphobic views in defense of another user, s//intmicolash: an open transphobe, among other things. I refuse to have the type of absolutely vile things this person was saying anywhere near my blog — and beyond just that, there is literally just too much to cover it all. It is to the extreme of calling trans people “mentally ill”, stating that “transphobia doesn’t exist”, and that being cisgender doesn’t exist, rather “it’s called being normal”, and other disgustingly bigoted things of the sort.

For context: a friend of mine (who will not be identified as I refuse to make them susceptible to harassment, especially because they are trans themself) sent an anonymous message to k//tyahina regarding the fact that she very regularly platforms s//intmicolash. Katya never responded to this ask directly. However, shortly after it was sent, the following post was uploaded to her personal blog:

If you don’t understand why Katya’s statements are transphobic, that is okay. No one is born understanding these things. However, I want to make it clear that in context, these statements are the talking points that transphobes have repeatedly used against trans people to demean and disrespect us.

Point One: the way to change someone’s bigoted beliefs is not to expose the people that are being targeted to said bigot by regularly platforming them.

Point Two: this point is clearly coming from the perspective of someone who has not personally had to face transphobia before. Trans people have every reason to be afraid of, upset by, and angry at people spouting bigoted views. Those people have contributed to the systemic oppression we have been enduring, and still ARE enduring, to this day. Trans people are not overdramatic or unreasonable to expect their allies to do the bare minimum by not platforming bigots. If an “ally” is unwilling to do this, they are not an ally in any meaningful way. Finally, human rights are not up for debate. Bigotry cannot be “logically debated” away — because it is fundamentally not based upon logic. It is based upon hatred. Not only that — I feel it is hypocritical for Katya to demand that trans people “debate” someone’s transphobia away when she, herself, refuses to challenge this bigotry in any meaningful way; rather electing to publicly defend this bigotry as “ ‘questionable’ ” at worst, and hurling accusations of “twisting words” and general disingenuity at an actual trans person said bigotry is directed towards

Point Three: not reblogging from an out-and-proud transphobe is not “throwing someone who is wrong away from society��. If you have more allegiance to making bigots feel safe than the people they are targeting, it calls into question how much value you place on trans people’s safety and wellbeing.

Point Four: someone who has claimed that trans people are mentally diseased, that transphobia doesn’t exist, and who regularly invites TERFs to engage with their content is not “questionable”. They are a transphobe and a bigot. To downplay the severity of those extremely bigoted statements is wildly belittling to the point of being an outright lie. If you place your desire to “reblog shitposts” over platforming a bigot, it calls into question how much you actually value trans people’s safety and wellbeing. To equate becoming violently transphobic with “expressing pain slightly differently” is an extreme misrepresentation. S//intmicolash is not critiquing the flaws in the trans community, they are calling trans people a disease. No matter ANY personal bad experiences, spouting off bigotry is NEVER acceptable.

Final Point: a trans person not wanting to interact with a transphobe is not petty, overdramatic, or unreasonable. Not wanting to have to see transphobia, or the defense of it, is NOT the same as “blocking people you dislike”. To state such an equivalence belittles the severity that exposure to transphobia can have.

Tags: to state that someone who quite literally just asked if k//tyahina was aware that she was platforming a transphobe is a “creepy stalker” for doing so, when s//intmicolash’s bigotry is front and center regularly, is an extreme misrepresentation of the situation. Calling s//intmicolash’s transphobic statements bigoted is not “twisting his words”. Said words were quite literally that being trans is a disease. There is nothing that could possibly be misinterpreted there. No “missing important facts” could contextualize those statements in any way that would make them less transphobic or bigoted.

These points are also recycled here.

I also want to highlight the fact that Katya’s immediate response to a single person requesting if she was knowingly platforming a transphobe was to IP block them and vaguepost about how they need to “touch grass”. The fact that she did not even publish the original ask sent is also very bizarre to me. If she was so confident she is in the right, there would be no reason to not give the context for her statements.

I am making this post to provide that context which Katya was unwilling to, make an argument explaining why it matters, and provide both sides of this story. More than anything, though, I am making this post in hopes of starting a civil discussion about how we handle transphobia when it presents itself in our communities. Katya is also somewhat correct about something: others can do a lot to encourage people to change when they express bigotry — but not by staying silent and letting it slide. I sincerely hope the situation improves, and I hope that others who are able to do their part to encourage this positive change.

I am NOT making this post to start “drama”, to invite the harassment of ANY party involved, to make the accusation that Katya was acting intentionally or maliciously, to “““cancel””” Katya, or to start ““discourse””. Again: do not harass k//tyahina OR s//intmicolash. Doing so is malicious and unproductive. I do not condone anyone using my statements to justify pointless cruelty or bullying.

However, trans people do not deserve to be treated with such open malice, suspicion, and scorn when trying to make our communities a safer place for ourselves. I will not tolerate anyone choosing to belittle the severity of this issue.

I implore everyone to be civil and courteous in the notes. If you have any questions or concerns, feel free to DM me. I am not, however, interested in “debating” whether or not it is acceptable to minimize, excuse, or defend transphobia as demonstrated here. If that basic idea is not something you can get behind, you are not welcome on either this post nor this blog.