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[evilyisme]

we can simultaneously:

(1) have an internal valid, natural, and strong emotional response to this situation. we have the right to feel angry, disgusted, disappointed, betrayed, etc.

AND

(2) externally express those feelings through empathy, not spite or revenge. if you truly believe that ALL PEOPLE deserve basic human rights (shelter, food, healthcare, etc.), then you have to defend the rights of all.

that’s one of the truly hard parts about being leftist. you must always consciously act with empathy, in line with what you claim to believe. otherwise… you’re implying you DON’T actually believe everyone deserves automatic basic rights.

for example, if someone who’s trans does something horrible that you disagree with… you wouldn’t start misgendering them out of spite, right? if you did, that would imply something about you. that you think trans people have to EARN their identity and that trans folks can lose the most basic respect for their identity if you simply dislike them enough. I hate Caitlyn Jenner for instance. I think she’s evil. but me thinking she’s evil is a completely separate issue from her gender identity. I can simultaneously respect that she is a trans woman and also criticize and hate her for her actions. these things aren’t mutually exclusive.

with this current Trump administration, some of his voters are having their first “I never thought the leopards would eat my face” moment. you guys have to understand that MAGA is like a cult. people in a cult rarely ever think they’re in a cult. it takes quite a bit to for people to break free.

internally, you can be a bit spiteful, take a moment to think “I don’t care. we tried to tell them and they didn’t listen. this is what they voted for. f*ck them.”

but externally? your actions must remain focused on rights for ALL, even the rights of ignorant assholes. this is where—when an ex-Trump supporter turns to you and says, “I’m so confused. I didn’t know. I didn’t realize. I wouldn’t have voted for him.”—we say, “we tried to tell you. right-wing media lied to you to get what they want. they took your trust and money and betrayed you. i’m beyond pissed that you chose to believe them, but i’m still sorry you’re losing your rights. you’re here now and you see it. we’ve got to stop them.”

no one deserves to lose their basic rights. we can express our strong emotions towards those who voted Trump (voting not only against their OWN interests, but also against the interests of countless other people) without celebrating the results of fascism.

when you openly celebrate and advocate for certain people losing their basic rights (no matter how much those people suck)… you’re celebrating fascism.

you’re showing that your belief in basic human rights hinges on whether or not someone has “earned it.” similar to the MAGA crowd, you’re saying “these things are privileges, not rights. and only certain people deserve these privileges.”

internally, you can feel however you like. you don’t have to forgive or forget. but externally, you must make the conscious decision to keep fighting for everyone’s rights.

don’t feed the spite. it’s exactly what those in power expect and want from you.

remember, the oligarchy wants us fighting horizontally, at each others’ throats.

the only way forward, is to fight vertically, together.

[lenkadeer]

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I don't got much but I got heart and soulI found myself through all the highs and lowsOh, will you drown in the pain or go dance in the rain?What are you living for, living for, living?

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[evilyisme]

reminder to adhd friends !!

Dodson, the doctor who coined the term RSD, has crappy, half-assed research that seemingly promotes the sale/use of drugs that aren’t as beneficial as he claims.

there are more accurate & widely used terms in the medical field! rejection sensitivity is a part of many mental disorders & has more in-depth, widespread, & valid research than Dodson implies it does.

rather than looking specifically at rejection sensitivity dysphoria (which is a term pretty much exclusively used by Dodson)...

check out research under DESR & rejection sensitivity. these symptoms tend to overlap, especially with ASD, ADHD, & BPD.

you are likely to find more, & more accurate, information this way! i hope this helps!

hey, i'm still relatively new to learning about adhd and i suspect i might have it (i'm planning to see a doctor about it to see if i qualify for a diagnosis) but what does RSD mean? i've seen it used a few times but i'm not sure what it means. thanks!

RSD is Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria. 

Basically, when someone says something negative to me, or i interpret that they feel negatively about me, it makes me REALLY upset, really fast. Like going from having a good day to just going home and crying in bed and wanting to die just because someone made a mean comment. 

Example - a girl at work called me lazy, it REALLY got to me, so I thought I’d show her I’m not lazy by not sleeping for 2 days. I spent those 48 hours hating myself and thinking I was so stupid by giving in to her mean comment. It’s an awful cycle to get into. 

We’re more sensitive to criticism and rejection because we function differently to other people, and we have poor emotional regulation and impulse control. Not a fun mix. 

My therapist told me that being told things like “ you’re lazy”, “ you’re stupid” upset me so much because deep down, i believe them. Working on my self-esteem has really helped my RSD. 

Here’s a good article about it - https://www.additudemag.com/rejection-sensitive-dysphoria-how-to-treat-it-alongside-adhd/?tos=accepted

[leagueofloneliness]

I'm participating in GISHWHES (an international scavenger hunt), and my girlfriend needs a twitter poll answered so she can make a graph for one of the scavenger items! She's super close to 400 responses, so please go answer the poll and retweet it if you can!! Thank you so much

[jaspertheshark]

@evilyisme Brian is actually really far down on the list for me but I do love his dog

[evilyisme]

When you get this respond with 5 things that make you happy and then send it to 10 other people on anon :)

(in no specific order)1. swaddling myself in blankets when I’m cold✨2. falling asleep with my cat curled up at my side✨3. knowing my best friend is in a good mood✨4. songwriting / just music in general✨5. receiving letters from the guy I’m dating✨

[mariconja]

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[undercoverwatermelon37]

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[brittlebutch]

evilyisme replied to your post “me, realizing i’m feeling genuinely suicidal today: hm. troubling....”

when i’m anxious(but more restless/hyperactive feeling): “is there any work i can do right now? can i work ahead on anything? what needs to be done around my apartment? do i need a shower? what have i been meaning to do but haven’t gotten around to?” i find that if i keep myself busy with the small things, the big things become easier. it‘s easier to regulate my impulses and remind myself that “the fact that i feel bad, means i have more room to feel better”

thank you so much for all of your sweet and helpful comments on this post; they really helped! I’m feeling a lot more solid now, and i really appreciate you taking the time to write these out for me. thank you so much, I hope you have a wonderful day/night and that you feel better !

[xannerz]

evilyisme replied to your post: “agoddamn replied to your post: “few things make me more uncomfortable...”:

c:

THAT ONE

is actually really cute

C:!!

[raccoonrogue]

Rules

1. Always write the rules.

2. Answer the questions of the person who tagged you.

3. Write 10 new questions.

4. Tag 10 random people.

5. Tell them you tagged them.

6. Tag me in your responses.

Tagged by Jaegermon!

1— What is the most embarrassing thing you own

I cant ?? think of anything really ???

2—Are there any words/phrases that you started saying ironically and now you can’t stop saying them

radical

3— What is your favorite kind of bread 

tigerbread! :D

4— What’s your favorite smell 

I love lavender, but also the scent of rain, cinnamon, freshly-baked bread/cookies and generally incense 

5— Are there any songs that you associate with certain memories when you hear them? What are they 

basically all songs of Nina Simone, it just reminds me of spending the days at home with my mother and relaxing. Good times.

6— If you could be any wild animal what would it be

raccoon duuuh 

7— Whats your favorite episode of your favorite show 

I dont really watch tv shows, and I usually never have a real fav episode

8— Do you like dogs and what is your favorite kind of dog because everyone likes dogs

yes i love dogs, my favorite kinds would be Dobermanns, Beagles, Sint Bernhards and Jack Russels

9— Would you rather fight 100 duck-sized horses or 1 horse-sized duck

One shetland-sized duck bring it on fight me irl 

10— How do you like your eggs 

anyway ! :D fried, scrambled, hard, soft , anything really. i literally grew up on eggs and potatoes

My questions; 

1. What are some of your fondest memories?

2. What are some of your biggest fears? 

3. How old do you hope to be before you die?

4. Why did you join tumblr?

5. What colour would you dye your hair if you could? 

6. What would be your weapon of choice? 

7. Favorite instrument?

8. Favorite flower? 

9. Favorite candy? 

and since ive ran out of ideas i will stop at 9 .. uwu

[evilyisme]

I hope you like dissonance. (Beware of the ending if you do not.) Breaking glass Across the front page Waiting to be picked last As I lean and pull my own weight I can feel the weather warming up But I just want to be cooled down How did you decide That I was worth your time And not mine Running through the sky Flashing through the night Shedding untold lies Believing I was right Heading back to try Rushing back in time Reading between the lines Sheathed from my own sight Just a kite in the wind Looping round again Swaying side to side The moment I have you tied To me Is a moment I can’t wait to see Running through the sky Flashing through the night Shedding untold lies Believing I was right Heading back to try Rushing back in time Reading between the lines Sheathed from my own sight sight (x8)

[mariconja]

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