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"Name two people with more beef" but its me and that fucking high pitched barely audible sound my phone charger makes
#kers ramblings#being neurodivergent sucks ass because sometimes there's that aspect and NO ONE else in this house can hear such things#even my mom who's also autistic#ever since i was a kid i had increased sound sensitivity and at some point i thought i was making things up because no one would believe me#i can also hear the humming of lamps in the stores and lots of other things that can barely be heard#loud sounds almost feel painful to me tho.. especially in the conditions I'm living in as for now#fun thing is that i enjoy loud music and something in me purrs when the bass is good but i can't tolerate certain irl sounds
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i think this was funnier in my head.
#puppy draws#yo-kai watch#katie forester#jibanyan#whisper#whisper ykw#usapyon#hailey anne thomas#as a diagnosed autistic person i can confirm that the autism evaluation results#just being a picture of the autism creature with text saying you have the tism is accurate#i don't even remember how this idea came to me i think i was just overly tired this morning and then this happened#also ignore the fact that i refuse to accept nate as being canon protagonist katie is like way better sorry besties <3#that's like 80% a joke. every main yo-kai watch character is my blorbo and nate is included in that#i just also prefer katie. playing 3 and rewatching the anime + reading the manga did endear me to nate more though#i like how he's average but also totally bisexual. no i will not elaborate#why do my tags always get so derailed. uhhhh back to autism. hailey is so fucking autistic ngl#there's like at least five different instances in 3 of her just completely failing to read the room#she's totally hyperfixated on sailor cuties and next harmeowny#she has adhd vibes too i think but. the tism is very strong#i can't decide my favorite part of this between the “yippee!! you have the tism” image and jibanyan asking what autism is#he doesn't know because he has autism by default through being a cat he didn't need a diagnosis#i feel like all of them are autistic tbh but that's probably just me projecting. i totally gave katie autism in the rewrite though#i wasn't even trying to i just don't know what neurotypicals are like because i got that autistic rizz. and adhd rizz. mostly the adhd#i am definitely also autistic but i think my adhd effects me a lot more in day-to-day life#since i usually just interact with my moms who know i'm autistic and are also both neurodivergent#and people online. most of who are autistic because it's mostly on tumblr and this is the autism website#yo-kai watch more like yo-gay watchtism amirite-#oh also very amused by hailey just poofing into existence in the second picture. as you do
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My dad is like a cartoon character to me because why is he always announcing his every move like I gaf. "I just had 6 sandwiches but don't you worry about poor ol' Carlos... I still have space for my coffee with milk" okay.... good for you I guess. Everything he says is so random and inconsequential and he moves so strangely too like I am aware I do the exact same thing but it's wild to see it on someone else. Yesterday I told him he's going through menopause and he went "Nooo I'm pregnant" I asked with WHO and he just said my mom's nickname. Also he does in fact refer to himself as "pobre Carlos" and "Carlos Puerta" the 1st one being because he grew up really really poor and the 2nd one cause he's always fixing doors at his job. He is not a real human being to me he's like on the same level of mythical roommate as Mila
#diary#He behaves so autistically sometimes it's not even funny. also I get my stutter from him. go figure#''chucky come look at my toy car collection'' and he's laid them all out on his and my mom's bed#(he calls every kid ever Chucky)#he gave me a pair of pants he got for himself but ended up not liking and now keeps trying to give me clothes I don't need#also ''you know what we should buy you like 5 pairs of those same exact pants'' like Okay my thoughts exactly but I am good on clothes now.#he's always weird about gifts too in the sense that he Needs to give things to people.#Anyone who comes over WILL be leaving with a pack (or two) of these white cloths we use for cleaning. and they all love them
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I love learning ASL it’s so good. Makes me happy to learn it. I’m so glad my university has classes for it with professors actually steeped in Deaf culture.
#blue chatter#am I good at ASL? hahahahahahaha. no.#ASL and English grammar are incredibly different and even when I remember my vocab I am easily clockable as hearing#but I do have some language capacity now. enough to communicate the basics.#and I just. genuinely really enjoy it. it’s fun to learn and engaging in a way most of my classes just aren’t.#and I can. yanno. communicate respectfully w Deaf ppl. and learn about their culture#which is incredibly important given that I want to go into a field where there is a higher incidence than typical of Deaf people#autistic? you’re more likely to be Deaf!#not to mention the fact that sign language can sometimes be a useful alternative to speech for nonspeaking/nonverbal people#depending on the person obvi; some nonspeaking/nonverbal autistics cannot use sign language and that’s okay#but surely at some point I will encounter either a Deaf client or a nonspeaking/nonverbal client who uses ASL#and when that time comes I should have some idea of how to communicate with them#I also rly like the Deaf church by my parents’ house#their community is really welcoming and their services are really interesting#I think it’s rly cool how they take intentions directly from the congregation#they’ll raise their hands and then sign what their intention is from their pew to the ambo#which is rly neat#it is funny bc every time I go the Deaf ppl I talk to will tell each other ‘go slow she’s hearing’#which is ENTIRELY fair bc. I am hearing. and I do need them to go slower.#but it also makes me laugh bc truly everyone knows within a few minutes.#oh hey the new person? they’re hearing. yeah they’re learning ASL at college. sign slowly for her.#which again makes sense bc a big Deaf culture thing is keeping ppl informed. it’s not gossip it’s getting everyone on the same page.#Deaf ppl do NOT beat around the bush that is like the height of rudeness to them. u say what u mean goshdangit. do not waste their time.#which I appreciate the heck out of bc i don’t have to try and phrase things delicately or w/e#it was also funny bc my mom came w me while I was home for Christmas and they asked her if I was her kid#and she said yes. and the lady running the kid’s craft corner thing was like ‘great you’re doing a craft now’#and I’m sitting there. visibly over 18 years old. amongst several seven year olds. trying desperately to figure out how to say hot glue gun#I made a v pretty pinecone tree it was a lot of fun ^-^
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Never try to be """"supportive"""" as my mother does
#she keeps reminding me I'm alone piece of shit#'you have to reach out of people instead of being so withdrawn'#this is fucking terrible because I do what I can FROM years and thanks for reminding me it all goes for nothing 👍👍👍#even if some people tolerate me I just feel like a spare part#it's always like there's a group of people who are great friends and honesty nothing really bad happens if I would dissapear#because I'm always like a passenger#my mom told me also that I'm going to be bitter old maid if I won't change#thanks I know it 👍 but I'm already old bitter maid lol#'I know you're in spectrum but even autistic people have friends and raise a family'#thanks for reminding me that even as autistic I'm unworthy peace of shit#yes I told her that I don't want to talk with her about all of this but she kept talking and made me feel even more terrible#and this is being 'SUPPORTIVE' according to her!!!#i want to fucking cry
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oh btw i went home to my hometown yesterday and i finally showed my mom the heart killers pilot. her verdict?
"we're watching this"
#my mom is a huge first kanaphan fan and also a joongdunk supporter so i'm not surprised lmao#btw i didn't tell her anything about it#the only thing that i mentioned before i hit play was that there'd been rumors about a firstkhao mafia series/romcom#i even made sure she wouldn't see the thumbnail with JD on the poster#the way she went ''OH?? interesting!!'' when she finally saw joong in the shot where he picks up the knife that first pushed off the table#and then later ''oh this is going to be INTERESTING'' when dunk showed up too lmao#it was very entertaining#the heart killers#frau mutter#airenyah plappert#mama schaut adrm#mama schaut thk#adrm#she also wants to watch leap day lmao#i mentioned that gun (who she also adores as an actor) was gonna play an autistic character#and she was like ''oh YES that sounds like a role for him''#so i showed her the trailer (that was before we watched the heart killers trailer) and she wants to watch that one too for gun hahaha#(same tho tbh. i have this one on my watch list to revel in gun's acting lmao)#i didn't tell her about any of the other shows (yet)#there's some that i think i could watch with her but i wanna wait until the shows air before deciding whether i think she'll like it or not
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yeah its important to have interests that arent just for children as an adult because at the end of the day it’s good for you and the way you percieve media overall to have a variety of things that you like but like you also shouldnt make fun of adults who are passionate about childrens media and imply theyre stupid for it. i think both of these takes can exist at once
#i dont like how some people are taking ''read a book for adults'' as ''do this so you are less cringe and stupid in my opinion''#rather than ''do so because its genuinely good for you''#and even so if someone likes childrens media and they like to analyze it and theyre not being a jackass to kids about it#just leave them alone? sometimes that's just what their interests are and thats okay. it makes them happy#and i hate to be That Guy but uhhhh. yeah theres an overlap here w nd adults#not all of us but certainly a good amount bc some special interests are so strong that they last throughout childhood#past an ''acceptable'' age#and again not the case for everyone but like most autistic adults i personally know are into childrens media#and have been into a specific property since they were a young child#and thats just autism like im sure for people with down syndrome and others have a similar experience#and even if they like something recent like bluey like. who cares it is not hurting you#echoed voice#and it also annoys me that most posts like this have people going ''um well fandom moms are annoying tho''#or even worse literally implying there's inherently a sinister motive#as if its not common for adults to get mocked for being childish and naturally get defensive#and as if every single adult into a pbs show or toh is inherently a bad person or something.#bc people will go through several mental gymnastics to defend being a jackass over something not socially acceptable#before they go ''yeah thats kind of rude sorry''
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My gender complex goes back 3 generations and through two queer women and their family trauma, I feel like I know what I'm talking about. We know a thing or two because we've seen a thing or two.
#i got my gender from my she/her misogynistic transmas gay dad who's also the mother of my mom.#my sperm donor doesn't matter here.#he's kinda fruity though and swears he's just a straight southern boy in alaska.#my dad/grandma and my sperm donor/dad were/are both autistic though.#im pretty my great-grandfather (whom i was named after (whom was named after his father)) was autistic to.#and even though he was an abusive piece of shit the autism had him connect with one of his four lesser-sons.#so she got a bit of a complex from really admiring him. i got a bit of a complex from really admiring her. i was named after him.shit's wild#oh yeah and a psychic told my grandma in a past life she was her fathers husband and she thought it was crazy but he said that makes sense#(in that past life he was his daughters wife to clarify)#he didnt even believe in that shit she was blown away when he said that like ''dad you're joking right?'' (he wasnt)#it was to explain why he always broke down in tears hearing the bag pipes.#this hardcore military man would just start crying when he heard bagpipes playing. absolutely break down.#and the psychic said it's because they played bagpipes when my grandma/his/her husband came back from war after leaving her to fight.#she had the gaul to give my mom his last name. her maiden name. and well my mother never married so i got it too.#the family hated us for that.#and he treated her(my grandma's) daughter way better than any of his own kids. so the family hated us for that too.#my mom's also an ace/bilesbian lol.#out of all the confusion im trans so like. i feel like i have a better handle because of that.#i take a bit of pride and freedom in the confusion.#hexacles.txt
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Listening to Chappell Roan and thinking of all the sapphic encounters I’ve had and lost or friendships that were just a bit too close but we were too scared
God 17 yr old me would’ve loved u, Chappell roan
#I mean obvi I love her now#but damn each song I think about a different girl and I’m like woah now#casual is about my first gf who didn’t say we were gfs until after she broke up w me#good luck babe is my friend who got married to a man she wasn’t sure she was ready for and blocked me after she got pregnant with him#she moved so far away so even if I wanted to make sure she was safe I have no way to and it breaks my heart every day#red wine supernova reminds me of my recent ex#I never felt out of love but they wanted children with their husband and I wasn’t ready to date someone with kids so I fled#but yeah#and pink pony club is just a queer experience lbr#I think of my dad more than my mom tho#my mom didn’t hate that I was queer she hated me being autistic#Kyōjurō rambles#edit additional tags; good luck babe also reminds me of another friend#we’re both attracted to each other but she’s a mom and also in a monogamous relationship w a man so… good luck babe!!
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man they really weren't kidding when they said the grief of late diagnosed autism hits hard oooh boy did it hit fucking hard today
#my evaluation isn't til February 🙃😵💫🥴#but my therapist and doctor are both like yep and my bf professionally works with autistic people and he's like you're super autistic dude#anyways super fun to find out that I'm literally blind to so many important parts of human nature and socialization#and by being blind to it I've also been completely blind to who knows how many times I've unintentionally hurt other people's feelings#I'm almost 27 and my bf is having to explain to me how to participate in a relationship#and it turns out not everyone is afraid and scared of everything all the time#and the grief of like I needed so much help and never got it#and looking back on my struggles and like fuck I needed accommodations#it's insane no one said anything about autism (to my face) until I met my bf#I've had at least 2 psyc evals in the past few years and also have seen several therapists and was in a whole therapy program#and like I had a LOT of the signs as a kid and even had to learn to hold my pencil#my sister and I suspect our parents were told but our mom has a big aversion to the autism word even tho my nephew is being assessed rn#and that kid is helllaaaa autistic#anyways ok thanks for reading love u bye
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#not having a great time today after my mom commented on my interests#i'm a person that is interested in shit i don't know this is why i'm very likely to follow disabled youtubers#in my time i have watched molly burke. multiplicityandme and a collection of autistic youtubers (guess why lol)#and my mom made a quite patronizing comment about how i ''take on causes'' by learning about stuff#and/or supporting fun and interesting youtube channels#but anyways it sucks even more because on her comment she made it clear (once again) that she doesn't believe me when i say#i might be autistic. and it fucking sucks!#because when i first talked to her about it even I didn't know much about it. i was just starting to do my research#and i was trying to make sense of things still but she dismissed it#but now that i do know more and things do make more sense#i can't even bring it up because the fact that i have been watching a lot of youtubers talk about autism will make her think#i'm just trying to be like them... which is stupid#but it's also the reason i didn't tell her that my best friend in my teens was trans. because i was trying to figure shit out myself#and telling her he was trans and then a bit later that i am as well was going to make her go ''everyone's trans now blah blah''#and dismiss that as well... but now i'm trapped in the same thing about autism lol#and her stupid loophole of a dismissal isn't just by saying ''no you're not autistic'' it's saying this like ''well MAAAAYBE you COULD be#but that doesn't mean anything and it doesn't matter and why would you want a diagnosis if it's not gonna change anything''#same thing as her whole ''sure you're a man but why do you have to look and act differently? YOU know who YOU are#who cares what others think?'' in a don't transition way#like that's so stupid!#dkfjhkdfhkdfg#i'm angry and i feel trapped#i have figured out a little bit ago that i don't stim near as enough as i need to BECAUSE i live in the same house as her#and the idea of ear defenders and other stuff like that is very appealing but i can't do that while she's around to judge#and IN PUBLIC?! that's unthinkable!!#i still remember the time she threatened with not going out with me (to the supermarket) because I commited the huge crime of#buttoning the top button of my button up shirt....#that's it. that was the whole reason.. she thought i looked ridiculous and she didn't want to be seen with me...#imagine if i wear ear defenders out...#not gonna risk it lol
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#been thinking about genetics and nature vs nurture and all this sort of stuff a lot lately#and just contemplating why people are the way they are and how much is sort of hardwired vs learned etc.#anyway I'm definitely wayyyy more like my dad than my mom and i think i have actually learned to become sort of the ideal companion#for people like my mom#because my mom is the harder to please and stronger personality in the household who is way more obviously emotional and sensitive#and i empathized with her automatically in a sort of female solidarity way as the household is all boys otherwise#but anyway i know im just naturally like my dad in disposition and humour and looks and everything else but i also know i probably studied#how he handles my mom and her outbursts and insecurities and learned to react to it similarly to him as well#she's a very odd mix of one of the most empathetic kindest people you'll ever meet and also incredibly critical and sensitive to criticism#and she barely ever will tell you you did a good job at anything and will point out mostly only the bad stuff or flaws in whatever you do#yet also HATES that her own mom is exactly the same way and was traumatized by that growing up herself#i honestly 100% believe her mom (my grandma) is undiagnosed autistic and simply doesnt even realize how she comes off but it really#affected my mom growing up and now she is constantly on alert for anything that could possibly be a critique of her and will throw you#under the bus instead if you ever say something even remotely close to negative about her or arent extremely thoughtful about showing up#to the multiple events she hosts every single week#anyway the way my dad usually reacts is just being extremely quiet and steady and dry humoured in reaction to this and when she starts#critiquing him and bringing up all his past failures as a way of making herself feel better about her own bad self esteem he kind of just#takes it and doesnt take it personally because he knows shes doing it for low self esteem reasons#even though its not really fair to him and she would absolutely hate anybody doing the same to her#when i think of my dad's gentle quietness and humour and how much he hates being aggressive or critical i think of when we played a#board game called qwelf once and in the game he was made to act like a drill sergeant and scold and yell at all of us as we moved#our pieces around the board and the best he could do was to mutter stuff like 'get your buns in gear there soldier!'#it makes me lol to remember it my god he simply can't it's the most unnatural thing for him in the world#anyway i always wonder how much of my similarities to him are just genes and how much are learning from him#by watching and admiring and mimicking#because having nieces shows me that kids are absolutely little sponges who try to do everything they see you doing without even knowing#if it's a good thing to be mimicking or not and that can be a bit of a terrifying responsibility as the adult#i am glad i learned good coping mechanisms from dad and how to handle unfair criticism and lack of praise in stride as well but#something i had to teach myself as an adult was how to have healthy boundaries and be assertive when i feel like im being treated poorly#because my parents are both huge people pleasers who struggle with it themselves
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This may be the depression speaking + the earliest trauma I've ever gone thru (completely accidental as well), but I think it's kinda pointless to give me gifts. I have clothes that still fit me and are in excellent condition. I have shoes. I have a sizeable movie collection (that tbf I can always add to), and all the books I'd want. I don't paint anymore so it's useless giving me art supplies. And unfortunately even giving me money is hilariously pointless bcus I'm not even gonna spend it on anything, I'm just gonna put it into my savings account and keep living day by day as I do: doing nothing...interesting
#post#how am I this lifeless at fucking 25 dude. holy shit#vent#personal#my hobbies are watching movies. then writing fic. this if I can even squeeze it in between my classes#(sighs) I'd told my mom at the beginning of the semester that I won't be able to go out anymore#she didn't believe me#she's always desperate to get me to go outside to some event or the other n I'd rather just not go bcus well! I don't have any friends#either so it's like. it's just the 2 of us#I like hanging out w her but man walking around n seeing everything doesn't take as long as you'd think#man this is so sad. and pathetic. I should just straight up die#that's another thing today we went to costco n I went to see if this math book I saw like a week or 2 ago was still there n it's not#I wasn't able to find it online either n it sent me into such a pit of despair that like. wow this sucks#I want so many things!!! and I don't ask for any of them bcus; going to my first point!!!; what'd be the fucking point!!!#the hilarious accidental trauma was that I was 2 and wanted a horse book n threw a tantrum about it#n then my mom took me home n sternly yet calmly explained how she couldn't get it for me n would be able to get it at another time#the thing is is that no one around me wants to acknowledge that I'm autistic so this event resulted in me taking it dead serious literally#and my 2 yr old brain understood it to mean 'never ask for anything ever anymore'#I've never thrown a tantrum since but I HAVE swallowed up and repressed every single desire I've had for material things#hmmm is that why I tend to choose experiences sometimes. like trips n stuff. bcus it's not an actual physical thing#was just thinking earlier how my future therapist might find me annoying in that half the work is done in that I keep learning things about#myself a little Too Well#the only therapist I've had up until now was a lady at my uni campus who could only see me for 2 months until she moved to another uni#n she told me. 'your problem is that you're too logical. you're too aware of yourself. you need to allow yourself to feel something'#like!!! don't I know that all too well!!!#hmm is that ALSO perhaps why I'm having more visible meltdowns?#then again I hate crying in front of my parents. it feels like I'm just. man we always joke about me being a spoiled brat bcus I'm an only#child but maaaaaaaaan. it always feels like I never appreciate things n that they Know this n I'm constantly never living up to my#high potential. bcus I'm so spoilt n everything n beneath me somehow#idk man. one day I'll just tell my therapist to follow me on tumblr n analyze me via my tags
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*sigh*
another year of being stuck at home instead of having a normal life :(
#not by choice#unfortunately#i would much rather be around other people than be alone and stressed 24/7#still haven't ever gone to a Halloween party#or even just gone out to a club or something#its fucking miserable dude#another year of my 20s that I'll never get back#i really just want at least one person in my life that actually wants me in theirs too#but at this point I'm doubting that will ever happen#idk why anyone would willingly choose this shit#but thats a conversation for another day#everyday i wish i could go back in time and make friends while i was in school#not that i didn't try#but i missed pretty much all of highschool#was too mentally ill to handle going#had to be “homeschooled” instead#also got mislabeled as autistic by my mom so she could get a social security check every month#which is what started my chronic social isolation in the first place#no one wanted anything to do with me#i was forced into downsized sped classes that i never actually needed to be in#all of my options for friends were kids who were 4-5 years younger than me developmentally#who i had nothing in common with and who did not understand half of whatever i said#now here i am almost 20 years later#completely fucking alone#all for a whopping $650 a month#and free sympathy from whoever she complained about me to
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I get baffled every time I remember that poll that went around a few months ago, that was like, "do you think you're funnier online or in person?" And it was a pretty even spread of answers, but "I'm funnier online" was definitely winning!!
That's crazy to me! I don't really think I know how to be funny online, but it doesn't seem nearly as rewarding as being funny in person??? Like, it's about shared experiences and human connection?
idk... being funny IS a skill, but I think a lot of being funny in a casual social setting is less about being good at being funny and more about social/communication skills? Not saying I'm some kind of expert at that, either, but, like... it's about meeting people where they're at, knowing what you have in common, pointing out observations, knowing where people's boundaries are, not taking yourself too seriously...stuff like that! (Most of these are definitely skills I've purposefully developed. I didn't have these abilities inherently.)
I'm not trying to judge anyone! Honestly I feel like it's likely that a lot of people who answered that poll are funnier irl than they think! You don't have to be exceptionally clever or original to be funny. If you make your friends, family, or even random strangers laugh, you're funny!
Again, I honestly don't really get what it means to "be funny online", so maybe there's nuance I'm missing. But, even before, like, 75% of my friends were people who did improv comedy, (back when most of my friends were people who also had debilitating social anxiety) joking around and goofing off has always been such an integral part of my friendships! It makes me sad to think so many people might not also have that? I'm hoping people just haven't realized they're funny, rather than that their lives are so devoid of humor that online is where they feel like they have the most to offer.
(Also if people around you are specifically TELLING you you're not funny... they're assholes. And almost certainly have no authority to speak on the topic. jsyk.)
#sorry i feel like this might have come off condescending and i DON'T mean it that way#it's probably just that i am autistic but also kind of love socializing idk. so I'm autistic about socializing.#also i guess i probably take humor too seriously. as i do most things 😶#my feelings#by elise#currently procrastinating getting out of bed and being a person 🥲#but yeah my mom used to tell me stuff like 'you're not cute' or 'you're not funny' when i was behaving in ways she didn't like#and eventually i learned to be like... that's just objectively untrue!!#like. i have references!!!#do you want the phone numbers and emails of six people who will tell you I'm funny right now?#admittedly a lot of being funny is confidence...#but in my experience confidence mostly just increases the frequency of being funny?#cause you're more often willing to put yourself out there or take risks#but even people with really low confidence are CAPABLE of being funny...#idk. maybe i just don't agree with viewing 'funniness' as like. a measurable characteristic#me every time anyone asks a casual question: wellllll if we get into the SEMANTICS....
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@teapunks did your mum ever threaten to put mustard on your fingernails to stop you biting them? because by my count 6 different adults directly threatened me with that or mentioned it in a "in my day, they would do this so youre lucky i havent done that to you".
the direct threats came from my dad, my paternal nan and my maternal great aunt while the guilt-trip-that-always-felt-like-a-threat-to-me came from my paternal aunt, the other classes' year 4 teacher and an english teacher who wasnt even my english teacher, for anyone curious.
you could reblog for a bigger sample size or not who do i look like the freakin queen of england
#the threats never worked and i doubt doing it would work either#because like 1) im autistic so making me consume anything i dont like the taste ot texture of is soon going to be a nightmare for you two#i will throw up and probably all over you and i will go into sensory overload especially as a fucking child#and 2) me biting and picking my nails is related to my mental health. currently my mental health is pretty good all things considered#yes its a habit formed by being undiagnosed adhd autism in school and having no way to stim without getting into trouble#but i do it a lot more when my mental health is bad#and uh that 'trick' is a great way to give someone trust issues and an unhealthy relationship with food and their own body#also just fuck mr mark stirley#like i remember when he made the weird ''in my day teachers would be able to do this to you'' speech#BECAUSE#it came right after him telling me that ''no kai you dont get migraines. what you get is tension headaches'' after i struggled in DoE#because i got a migraine because both the sun and overexertion can trigger my migraines and wow they did#and that made me very uncomfortable because a c t u a l l y it was being investigated by gp at that time but i was a wildly depressed#undiagnosed autistic abused 14 year old who didnt think they could tell the teacher that because 1) that would be talking back 2) that would#be telling a teacher they were wrong and 3) i really didnt think hed believe me so why even bother trying to convince him otherwise#and like i went on to see a migraine specialist. i have taken propranolol every day for nearly ten years because i have migraines#but nope this random english teacher straight up decided he knew better and violated the fucking equality act#and i was that uncomfortable and on the verge of tears so i started biting my nails and oh now hes got a problem with that too?#...im venting in the tags about a teacher i havent seen for like seven years lmao#i just think the man is a bellend and that 14-year-old me deserved to give him a right lamping#when i got home from that practicr expedition i did cry it out while hugging my mom
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