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idk if this is too harsh, but could you rank NCT members' emotional intelligences and your reasonings?

+ Keep in mind that this is only my opinion, and I’m only taking snippets of my own opinion. Try not to take anything as the actual truth.  The closer I got to the bottom, the harder it was for me to decide. I think everyone has emotional intelligence to some degree.

1. Jisung: He questions a lot of things. I think the older he gets, the more he’s becoming aware of other people, how the world works, and his own emotions. To me, I’ve always seen him as very thoughtful. Even though his way of thinking is quite youthful, I think Jisung challenges himself in a very adult way every day. There is a lot that he understands that I think even people older than him don’t understand. 2.Mark: He’s emotionally intelligent, but he’s terrible under pressure. I get the feeling that he’s scared of not only admitting how he feels, but he’s also scared of his own opinions. It’s almost like he understands things, but he’s scared of digging too deep because of what he’ll find. I think he’s more comfortable when he’s working, but it starts to get hard for him when he’s just being himself.

3. Chenle: Through his kindness, it’s easy to see his emotional intelligence. I think he cares about people a lot, and I think it mostly comes from being privileged and having an appreciation for life. This boy knows how the world works. He’s observant, he sees the struggle, and he tries to make everything much better in the ways he knows how. His way of seeing things is very soft, and in a way, very innocent. He what I like to call shiny optimism. 

4. Renjun: I sense a lot of hardness in him, sometimes bitterness. His emotions build up and then explode.  I think this happens because he’s so aware that he creates a lot of issues for himself that don’t exist. When he realizes that everything is okay and that people support and love him, I think he can reset himself and start to see how to solve things. Despite this, his heart is very big, and he’s more in tune with that than most people.

5. Doyoung: Part of me thinks he deserves to be a little higher. There is something beautiful about someone who can take care of others without missing a beat. The way Doyoung can sense how his members feel, can comfort them in the simplest ways, makes him really special. The only reason I put him a little lower is because I think he’s bad at taking care of himself. I also think he needs a break from being the one people depend on.

6. Jungwoo: His curiosity about other people is what made me put him high on the list.  He likes learning, likes to mimic reactions that are different from his own. I think he does it in a way to help himself understand, but also to show people that he comes in peace. He’s very aware of how he feels, and how he will ride out those feelings in the moment. Also, he’s extremely observant. Next to Mark, he has to be one of the most observant members. Those two see everything you’re not saying, and they’ll give you enough respect to keep it to themselves. 

7. Ten: He believes in himself, and there is so much intelligence in working on your faults to make yourself the best person you can be. He has to be the hardest working person in the group, the one that had so much more to overcome that even we probably don’t understand. He knows himself really well, is comfortable with himself, and I also think that is the reason why he likes to mess with people so much. He knows his strengths and knows that people will always be on his side rooting for him. 

8. Taeyong: I think he’s always been self-aware. I think his passion is a main reason for that. He sees his mistakes and he beats himself up about them for a long time. I kind of think he’s always wondering how he can change the outcome of things that he’s done or said, just because he wants everything to be okay. It’s his instinct to make the lives of other people better. You can see it in how he talks about his fans, hear it in the music he puts out. 

9. Taeil: He has a quiet emotional intelligence. I genuinely think he hates being in other people’s business unless he has to. He’s very easygoing, the kind of person who has almost too much chill. It would be wrong to assume that Taeil isn’t aware of how he feels, or that he doesn’t have many emotions. I think he just has different ways of assessing things and dealing with those things.

10. Lucas: Whether or not it’s faked, he has solid self-esteem. I think he feels really secure in himself, in his wants and needs. I do think a lot of Xuxi’s strength is in his kindness, like Chenle. He’s a little aloof sometimes, which is why he isn’t higher, but I do think that works to his advantage. To me, he’s someone who is the most aware of other people, of those he cares about. There is a gentleness to him that is very forgiving.

11. Jaemin: He feels empathy for others so easily. I think he plays off his feelings because he’s young, but I genuinely don’t think there is a time where Jaemin doesn’t have compassion for other people. I always get the feeling that Jaemin is one of those people who choose to be happy. I say that because I think he’s really empathetic and it can weigh too heavily on his heart.

12. Yuta: His display of his own emotions makes me think he’s emotionally intelligent. Like Jungwoo, I think he’s always aware of how he’s feeling. I do think he’s a lot better at dealing with it than others, though. He’s a little lower on the list because I think he’s a little oblivious to other things. I think his own emotions are so loud that he misunderstands things sometimes.13. Xiaojun: Similar to Taeyong, I think he has a lot of passion. I don’t find him greedy in the slightest, even though he’s kind of a born hustler. Xiaojun will always get what he wants because I think he’s super resilient, but he’s not just  doing it only for himself. His drive for success is admirable, but it’s even more admirable because he’s always going to be the person who thinks about the team as a whole. 

14. Johnny: There is a reason why some members go to Johnny for wise advice. He offers a different perspective that is more like tough love than anything, and I think he bases it a lot on his own experiences. It takes a lot of intelligence to learn from your mistakes in a healthy way, and to pass on that advice to others.

15. Kun: I think he has amazing self-preservation. It might not seem like it, but I think Kun knows exactly what he’s doing when it comes to his career, his friends, his life. The members like to tease him, but I think he’s good at setting limits and boundaries. He’s a respectable person, and he’s also an adaptable person. I don’t need to tell you that he’s a great leader, because it goes without saying.

16. YangYang: I think he’s really thoughtful. He comes off as immature when he’s around others, but I actually think he reverts back to his true self when he’s alone. He’s always seemed wiser than his years, to me. I think he’s very driven, very passionate, and he’s the type to do what it takes to get somewhere in life. I think he very much knows himself and his truth.

17. Haechan: He’s so intelligent, but I think he lacks a little emotional intelligence. I know he’s passionate and creative, and there is major intelligence in that, but I think he’s also very impatient. I think he misses things a lot because his brain is always trying to come up with new ways to overwrite things. He’s definitely a survivor, though. In my opinion, he has a lot of learning and growing to do, but it’s going to end up happening in a way that breaks him.

18. Jaehyun: I put him so low because I don’t think he realizes how people really perceive him. I kind of think he sees himself as having this image, and that we’ve all just fallen for what he wants us to see. I think he’s blissfully unaware of a lot of things that include himself, honestly. I don’t think that’s a bad thing, either. I just think, in terms of emotional intelligence, he doesn’t have as much as the others.

19. WinWin: I think he’s self-aware, if a little self-absorbed. Perhaps I’m wrong, but he seems like someone quite stubborn. I do think he knows his strengths and weaknesses, and is emotionally intelligent enough to figure out where to go from there. I put him towards the bottom because I think he strives too hard for perfection without understanding that he’s already perfect.

20. Hendery: I’ll be honest in saying that, when I think about him, all I see is this wall of humor that is hard to get past. I think he hides a lot behind that, which doesn’t necessarily make someone not emotionally intelligent. I don’t think he deserves to be at the bottom, but I can’t get that good of a read of him for this.  If anything, he has a lot of self-control, which can translate into that kind of intelligence. There is a lot more to that goofball than he lets on.

21. Jeno: I think he hates change. I think that’s the only reason why I put him at the bottom. He seems really resistant to a lot of things, maybe stuck in his own routines. If he’s not comfortable, he might have a harder time agreeing to do something. I do think he has emotional intelligence somewhere, but he keeps a lot to himself.