#dont worry i already bothered reddit with this too

[theloveinc]

night 1 of catsitting for a friend and her betta fish tank set up is so rank i had to google how to do a water change and i'm scared ill wake up with a dead fish but lord knows he'd be in a better place at least rip

[nutzo0001]

and i said:

you make me worry of you... i get you, but i mean, you make it extreme, and do you want me to do something, or? like, what can we do, this is the luxury question that bothers me, we (well...) in slovakia live by "it dont matter i am living horrible, the main thing is the others have it worse", and lying, stealing (see our current coalition), like, it is not honest life, and idk if i can compensate the fact by those who want slovakia to be next germany, yet you see, every country has its shit, nothing is black and white, what i hate is this grey of it, the uncertainty, "buffyism" as (you?) say...

Matthew North Project

They Can't Kill The Truth

but as they say, even broken clock shows the right time twice a day - no one is right or wrong, and that there are no more facts bothers me. pro-russians tend to say "nothing is real, all of them is lying", eurobros (they sometimes mean it good, but cant live without neoliberal fantasy that NAFO will inherit world or something - more they hate "american way", they more agree, admit the technocracy….) - there is third wing too, but those are silent minority (maybe it is us here), who dont listen to neither… (some things below may be what i believe in, and so do my "twitter circle")

[etc... (lot of half-baked side-thoughts)]

not all of reddit and twitter and maybe tumblr too is brainrotten, they are just not heard good among the ads and shills and porn there are still reasonable people, - but i thought you are one of them, and it made me scared how far you go with your ideas. there are bad, unpopular, popular, and good ideas. your posts make me think of village crazie…

you might be right, but those who have intuition know (that this is how it ends, "accepting unacceptable" - saw it so many times) and who dont know, those would stay uninterested, unphased until they already "accepted" it…

also, this "simplification of thought"… like… that tactic goes as far as post-9/11 fear, words that franklin said are scaring feds away. i mean, if yo cant speak in terms of 0s and 1s, you are dangerous. the china system thats why Mulan or Marveôl (disney) after End Game went so retarded - no way, no means to form complex thoughts, images - or if theyd be able, theyd connect two and two together, that it is all about money, power, influence, so that nothing than family/community really matters… we cant talk, unite for common goal… even "common sense" is unknown term by now (what has world come to) - you dont simply do the things from sex and city… not because they are amoral (that too), but because they are impossible, inflated, fictional, they are sex fantasy ffs! (more people need to know about "suspension of disbelief", i see that thing everywhere!)

june travelogue - TA(L)KING FOR GRANTED - 0/25, 30/5/24

got idea - maybe it was daydream - about this very topic... i(t) was thinking out of nowhere - maybe i am idiot, or just censoring myself... because now, - bolts on my head - but i mean, wasnt this (except for data grab and so...), the reason why internet on which [we are] here, but to discuss [taboo]s!? now when, let me start, - we can argue later (in comments)! here here! what got me prompted, was idea - "men feel weak/useless - and so does/seems Mankind contra ["Rotten apples"]!" "Rotten apples", in quotes; had no better comparison, naming, and it quite fits [the reasons]. it, to me, points to [this; problem]; where, - to say - we are more comfortable, it is easier - to [throw away] rotten apples - than to take care of main issue, - our luxury and comfort, - that it is to [eat it] on the right time; to not forget (to care about ourselves too...) - and to not "miss forest for the trees", to say... (**) to "Men feel weak" - it is an nod to all Rogan, Tate and Peterson broskis Manosphere, who [slurp from] use inceldom, - turning desperation, basic needs (compassion /***) and call for help, into weapon. (prime example of) Rotten apples. - it is easier to militarize vulnerable ones with propaganda cheap promises and "tricks", than to admit, "yes, 90s were Woman decade never to be left alone; we (men) are sorry that when you are man, then all you do, is to be taken for granted (on that basis alone; when women turn "men", manhood, on basis of purpose, starts to lack behind...), no matter how left alone and unheard; maybe even silenced, you might feel!" (tl;dr: "to be born = to owe <pardon>") and other things we take for granted (dont worry, this is not cry-to post) :

[whiskeyandwolfsbane]

8/26/22 - 12:51PM

There haven't been many updates, hence why I haven't been posting much; there still isn't really an update per se, but I figured I'd pop in anyway and go through it.

CONTENT WARNING: not too many details, but there is mention of blood/scabbing/etc. in this following entry so continue with caution.

So I'm still healing okay... I think?

My nipple grafts have been pretty gnarly and like, I'm moooostly sure that it's just because they're out of the "scabbing over" stage and starting the fourth stage which is a lot more grim-looking than simple scabs but I still have been stressing out about it. One of them, the last bit of scab kinda got stuck to the gauze pad, and even though I tried to be super gentle in removing the gauze, it still came off and there was quite a bit of bleeding.

It freaked me the fuck out, but that was a few days ago and I haven't had a repeat occurrence, especially since I went back to cleaning and redressing them twice a day after that. The lady at my post-op had originally said I could switch to just once a day, but I figured that if the gauze was getting stuck like that, it was probably best to change it out more often and so far, I've had no problems.

I'm still worried about the placement and look of my nipples in general; I haven't emailed my care team about the bleeding, just because the last time I was super worried about something regarding the grafts, a quick post on Reddit told me that I wasn't the only one who had experienced it and that it was probably totally fine - also I messaged the care team about that issue and basically just got a message back from someone whose messages I don't usually appreciate because they're always so... blunt and unintentionally feel kind of patronising. I'd rather not get a message from her again if I email about the bleeding so I'm just gonna hope that all is well. I mean, the scab was gonna come off eventually, it was already mostly off, so there shouldn't be too much to worry about.

But yeah. I'm stressing about the grafts is basically the main update here. What if they aren't healing right, what if I'm doing something wrong, what if it's not swelling and they really are too far apart, what if they don't look 'normal' even months down the line, etc.

I don't really know who to vent to about these things so I've mostly just kept it quiet and made occasional posts in the Reddit about things - I joined a group for this on Facebook, but the first post I made took days to get approved and when it was finally approved, there wasn't a single reply to it, so I just don't really bother anymore.

Anyway. that's basically all I've got really. I started using scar strips on my incision scars for a couple days, but my chest got super itchy again so I decided I would stop and see if maybe it's because of the scar strips.

So far, it's been a day without them and it seems like it has nothing to do with them because I'm still itchy as all fuck. I think it just coincidentally started the same time I started with the scar strips but isn't because of them, but I'll give it another day just in case. worst case scenario I just have to try something else, like silicone scar care gel or something.

Oh, and the medical leave paperwork - you know, the one I've been struggling with for months now, lmao. In short terms: nothing has happened. In slightly more detailed terms: I FINALLY got the stupid form that my job wanted filled out and sent to me, thank god. I don't think HR is gonna be bothering me anymore, although I don't think they're going to help me at all either since they already told me I dont qualify for financial aid from them.

And I don't think the state is gonna budge either on their whole "you didn't work 820 hours in the last year so fuck you" stance, but either way, I sent them the new form just in case and requested a review, basically saying "hey, I wasn't sure if this was required paperwork so I'm sending it now, also is there literally any way I can get any sort of financial assistance at all like maybe having it reduced because of the 50 missing hours of work I don't have or whatever".

I know the chances of getting anything out of that is next to none but whatever, may as well try.

In the meantime I tried reapplying for my EBT cash assistance card. That was a pain too because I didn't have pay stubs, and had to contact my job's HR, and of course they were out of the office, and I had to wait for them to finally come back and send me my pay stubs. Which of course I can't just email to the state, so I had to go to a nearby library and use their fax machine a few days ago, and now I'm just. Waiting some more for the state to get back to me and probably just tell me to fuck off, I don't qualify, lol.

Anyway. Yeah. That's about all I got, I guess.

[booksfromblackwood]

Is anyone still around in this fandom? If so, I thought I’d post the first chapter of an old fic that I re-wrote last year! Let me know if anyone’s still around, and if you’d be interested in reading more! Hope everyone reading this has a great day! :)

Han has left the chat.

Three Days Before The Disappearance

.Sam.Giddings. added josh_wash, ashleeeeey, xXGamerChrisXx, TheOriginalMatt, HanButterfly, BethWash, Mike_Munroe, EmilyD_, and _Jess.Riley_ to the chat.

.Sam.Giddings. named the chat Info For Tomorrow.

.Sam.Giddings.: Hey guys! Just to keep everyone updated on our travel plans for tomorrow! I know it's going to be a long day for everyone so it's vital we stick to the plan and stay in our groups where possible!

ashleeeeey: Okie-doodle!!

TheOriginalMatt: How are you so organised, Sam? You're a lifesaver!

HanButterfly: Hi!!

BethWash: trust sam to be more prepared than those of us organising the trip lol

xXGamerChrisXx: Since when was 'okie-doodle' a thing?

EmilyD_: Thanks Sam x

xXGamerChrisXx: And thanks so much, sam!

.Sam.Giddings.: So quick reminder of everyone's groups:

_Jess.Riley_: I'm stoked!!

ashleeeeey: That's rich coming from someone whose username is xXGamerChrisXx! :P

.Sam.Giddings.: Ash, Chris, Matt, and myself will start the journey first tomorrow morning.

xXGamerChrisXx: You wound me!

Mike_Munroe: Thanks for the plan, Sam!

TheOriginalMatt: Excited to see everyone tomorrow! This is going to be a killer weekend for sure!!

.Sam.Giddings.: Em, Mike, and Jess, you guys are next.

ashleeeeey: You're so dramatic!! XD

Mike_Munroe: Team Two here we go!!

xXGamerChrisXx: Made you smile, though! ;-)

josh_wash: what about us

.Sam.Giddings.: I'm just getting to that!

ashleeeeey: True :)

xXGamerChrisXx: You guys are already there and are therefore irrelevant! :P

.Sam.Giddings.: Han, Beth, and Josh, you guys are there already!

josh_wash: thanks cochise i feel so appreciated

BethWash: lol thanks chris

Mike_Munroe: So, what are we all up to?

BethWash: i found cake

xXGamerChrisXx: Browsing reddit like a nerd XD

ashleeeeey: Listening to Sam's rundown of tomorrow unlike sOmE pEoPlE *coughcoughChris*

EmilyD_: Honestly just packing my final things with Jess. Mike's mostly watching the TV.

xXGamerChrisXx: :-(

.Sam.Giddings.: So, tonight we should all make sure our bags are packed and that we have our passports and tickets ready!! Set your alarms for the right times (depending on your group) and make sure to sleep early too (especially if you're in my group since tomorrow will be an early start for us)!

ashleeeeey: :)

TheOriginalMatt: 5am gang where we AT?

HanButterfly: Beth where are you rn? Because I want some of that cake!!

.Sam.Giddings.: So Team One (myself, Chris, Ash, and Matt), we need to be up by 5:00am and be ready by 5:30am for the taxi to the airport!! Matt and Chris, yours is going to be at Chris' place at 5:24 for some reason so make sure to be ready!!

BethWash: the lodge kitchen bcos where else would there be cake han lol

.Sam.Giddings.: We'll meet up at the airport when we arrive! Once we re-group, we'll check in, probably eat some breakfast whilst we wait, and then catch the 8:30 plane!!

TheOriginalMatt: Sweet!

ashleeeeey: Can't wait! :)

josh_wash: yo matt you surviving the puns

.Sam.Giddings.: Team Two - you guys don't have to be up until around 9:00am since your taxi is at 9:20 and then your plane is at 11:30!

HanButterfly: Josh would you like me to save you some cake before we eat it all? :)

EmilyD_: We'll need a little longer than 20 minutes to all get ready but sure x

TheOriginalMatt: Just about! Myself and Chris have mostly been playing on his PS4 so I've been distracting myself with that! XD

josh_wash: yes please!

josh_wash: i feel for ya bro, a whole evening with chris' puns can prove fatal

josh_wash: you die of cringe

Mike_Munroe: Poor ol' Chris XD

.Sam.Giddings.: Once we arrive and get our bags, we need to catch the 2:30pm train and then the 4:20 bus! After that we have to take the 5:40 bus (I sent you guys screenshots of the route yesterday) and get off at Blackwood Pines ready for our hike up the mountain (with a little help from the cable car, of course)!

xXGamerChrisXx: I'm being BULLIED guys :(

ashleeeeey: Aw, poor Chris! :P

josh_wash: jk XD

TheOriginalMatt: I like how Sam's still here typing all we need to know whilst we're talking about cake and puns XD

.Sam.Giddings.: Team Two, you guys need to catch either the 5:30pm or the 6:00pm train depending on when your stuff arrives. After that you'll need to get the 7:50 bus and then the 8:40 bus to Blackwood Pines (you have to specify you want it to stop there or the driver won't stop) before you head up. Remember to lock the cable car station once you get in, Mike!

josh_wash: oh gosh tHE CAKE

Mike_Munroe: Gotcha' Sam!

HanButterfly: No worries, Josh! I managed to save most of it from Beth!

BethWash: rip my chance at a third slice of cake

_Jess.Riley_: Really, thanks Sam! We're all packed and ready to go! Xx

HanButterfly: It's really going to be such an awesome weekend! I can't wait :D

ashleeeeey: Thank you so much for inviting me! I've never been on something like this before!! :D

TheOriginalMatt: Yeah, thank you so much guys! I can't wait either, Han!!

.Sam.Giddings.: Have we got rooms sorted out for the lodge, guys?

BethWash: ash take the plans away from sam so she can have time to relax lol

EmilyD_: I'm with Mike in the room away from everyone like agreed right x

ashleeeeey: I'm trying but she won't let me! XD

HanButterfly: I mean if needs be we can sort out rooms once we're here! If not maybe we just sort out the first night rooms since it'll be fairly late when everyone arrives and then we can adjust them as needed as the trip goes on!

BethWash: lol poor sam will be up all night organising at this rate

.Sam.Giddings.: Sounds good, Han!

Mike_Munroe: Great idea, Hannah!

BethWash: em, yours and mike's room (upstairs guest) may not be ready first night so is it possible for you to share a room with jess til we get a chance to sort it out tomorrow?

EmilyD_: That's fine, hon. Thank you again for the trip and for letting us use the upstairs guest room x

josh_wash: how about for the first night emily and jess share beth's room and then beth sam and han go in hannah's room

josh_wash: mike can go to the small room downstairs if he's alright w/ that and matt can room w/ me

xXGamerChrisXx: Yo dude you forgot ash

ashleeeeey: It's alright, Chris! I can find somewhere!

EmilyD_: Ash you're honestly lovely but I'd kinda' like to be with either Jess or Mike if that's alright xx

ashleeeeey: No problem, Emily! I wouldn't want to intrude! :)

EmilyD_: Knew you'd understand xx

josh_wash: why dont you and ash share a room cochise

xXGamerChrisXx: I thought I was rooming with you and matt?

josh_wash: bro please just think for a minute here

ashleeeeey: I'm not sure.

xXGamerChrisXx: Beth, han, and sam, is there any room with you guys?

ashleeeeey: I'm really sorry to be a bother!!

.Sam.Giddings.: Of course you can room with us, Ash! We'd love to have you with us! :)

BethWash: im with sam

HanButterfly: Of course!!

xXGamerChrisXx: Thank you to the only valid washington kids right now!

josh_wash: -_-

xXGamerChrisXx: I see what you're doing, josh. ha ha, we've had our laugh, now please stop before this weekend.

Mike_Munroe: Rough subject, huh?

josh_wash: bro chill you know i was just joking

ashleeeeey: I'm really sorry!! Please don't get upset with each other!

xXGamerChrisXx: No ash it's alright! i promise i'm not actually mad! :-)

josh_wash: he acts mad over text to get his point across but he literally just sits there with a blank expression irl XD

TheOriginalMatt: Is Sam still there, Ash? Haven't heard from her in a while!

TheOriginalMatt: Gotta check up on my plane buddy for tomorrow!!

_Jess.Riley_: Did you guys get window seats or middle isle seats? I got a middle isle and the others got a window!

BethWash: she hasn't drowned in her notes has she lol

TheOriginalMatt: We got two sets of window seats! Though I don't know which of us is actually going to be at the window and which one will be window isle!

ashleeeeey: She's just brushing her teeth! Her mom came in and brought us a load of vegan snacks for the trip tomorrow and now I'm even more excited!!

ashleeeeey: Speaking of which, I'm probably going to head to sleep in a minute! Though I'm not sure how much I'll actually get since I'm so excited!!! :)

xXGamerChrisXx: Sleep well, ash. see you in the morning :-)

ashleeeeey: Night, Chris :)

ashleeeeey has left the chat.

_Jess.Riley_: Well that was cute!

xXGamerChrisXx: People say goodnight to eachother! that's a normal human interaction!

_Jess.Riley_: You know full well it's cute when it's you two

.Sam.Giddings.: Ash told me she logged out so I came to say goodnight!

josh_wash: w/ jess on this one bro

HanButterfly: Goodnight, Sam!

BethWash: night sam!

josh_wash: dont let the bedbugs bite!

TheOriginalMatt: See you bright and early tomorrow!!

.Sam.Giddings.: See you at the airport/lodge, guys!

xXGamerChrisXx: Night!

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BethWash: its cute because you like eachother chris

xXGamerChrisXx has left the chat.

HanButterfly: Aww, don't tease the poor guy!

TheOriginalMatt: Chris says goodnight, as do I! Can't wait to see you all tomorrow!

BethWash: night guys!

TheOriginalMatt has left the chat.

josh_wash: night!

Mike_Munroe: Make sure to save me a slice of that cake, Han! I gtg!

Mike_Munroe has left the chat.

HanButterfly: Goodnight Mike :)

EmilyD_: We'd best be off too. See you all in the morning.

_Jess.Riley_: Night x

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BethWash: night

HanButterfly: Goodnight x

josh_wash: night xxxxxxyzqvp

_Jess.Riley_: Ha ha, very funny. Get that one from Chris?

josh_wash: lol night

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BethWash: PLEASE can i have some more cake, han?

josh_wash: you guys can literally just talk if you wanted

HanButterfly: Nope! Gotta' save some for Mike~

BethWash: you wont shut up about that for the rest of the evening now, will you?

BethWash: lol

HanButterfly: :P

josh_wash: you guys gossip in the kitchen

josh_wash: imma head to bed

BethWash: night bro

HanButterfly: Sleep well!

josh_wash has left the chat.

BethWash: please?

HanButterfly: No :P

BethWash: ugh night sis

HanButterfly: Night, Beth! XD

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[warlocksmyth]

hi i keep seeing reddit posts going around here about brides being embarrassed by their supposed best friends physical impairments bcuz of their physical impairment and the fact that theyre single and let me just say it makes mesuper depressed bcuz im already self conscious being seen by people and when i think of a wedding((which at the rate my love life is going will not happen anyways so idky i bother thinking about that shit)) i get super embarrassed thinking about limping down the aisle and i admitted it to my mom and she said not to worry about smth like that but then i see all this shit and like. i have fears of my friends thinking the same that these literal ppl are posting about!! that theyre embarrassed by me!! i hate it so much i want to curl up and cry sorry my limp such an embarrassment dont worry i hate it too 

[jackbarber89]

Get My Ex Boyfriend Back Fast Marvelous Diy Ideas

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How I Manifested My Ex Back Reddit

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Can A Letter Get My Ex Back

[viralhottopics]

Hey, parents: You don’t owe strangers candy for sitting next to your babies on an airplane

Caucasian mature Woman traveling with her baby sitting in an airplane cabin

Image: Getty Images/iStockphoto

Taking candy from a baby is easy, but there’s zero reason that parents should be handing it out to strangers on a plane to buy cooperation in case their kid screams. No matter what the internet says.

On Friday, reddit user “Fe_Mike” posted a photo of gift baggy and a little note written by a three-month old with the comment, Lady on the airplane just handed this to all of the rows around us. She now has an entire team of passengers ready to help.

If this sounds familiar, its because these little handouts usually filled with some candy and a set of ear plugs have become a full-on viral trend.

Babies should not need to apologize for being babies.

Image: fe_mike/Reddit

On the surface it’s a nice gesture, but as the mother of twin toddlers, every time I see one of these baggies go viral I am filled with rage. Other moms and dads I’ve talked to say the same thing. That’s not to say the individual parents who give these out are doing anything wrong. They’re just trying to be nice a good instinct in these tense times.

Goody bags send the message we should feel bad for having babies who act like babies. We shouldnt.

The cumulative effect, though, of these goody bags sweeping the feel-good internet is to build in the unrealistic expectation that the next time you board a plane and see someone holding a baby that person owes you a preemptive apology in the form of Tootsie Rolls. The thing about these goody bags that has rubbed many parents the wrong way from the start is that they send the message we should feel bad for having babies who act like babies. We shouldnt.

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If my child screams, it may annoy you. But there are a million ways adults can be equally annoying and they should know better. I once spent a flight trapped next to a man who packed and consumed not one but three intensely smelly tuna sandwiches during the course of the trip. I did not receive a single goody bag for my suffering.

Surviving air travel with our sanity intact is hard enough for all of us, not just parents. But most people who fly with their kid have also dragged a car seat, a stroller, extra food and diapers, and approximate 9,000 tons of other miscellaneous supplies. The next time I wrestle my wriggling toddlers and all their crap onboard, I shouldn’t have to also stress that I failed to bring a dozen charming packages full of snacks for everyone around me.

We may not be handing you Instagram-worthy gifts, but the vast majority of parents are already going above and beyond to make sure our children dont bother you during the flight.

We may not be handing you Instagram-worthy gifts, but the vast majority of parents are already going above and beyond to make sure our children dont bother you during the flight. Trust me when I say, the most stressful part of traveling with a baby is not trying to clean up the inevitable poopsplosion in the minuscule aircraft lavatory during turbulence. Its worrying non-stop for the entire journey that our child will become inconsolable and disrupt the trip of every passenger within shouting distance.

Truthfully, Ive never been on a flight with my kids where I even needed to bribe my fellow passengers. Theyve all been very understanding and even helpful. (Though Im willing to admit that maybe the insane circus of trying to travel with twins has inspired people to take pity on me and my husband.) As long as everyone does their best to behave as well as they can, usually things work out perfectly well.

Still, even if you do encounter haters, who cares? You find them on the ground too, and you dont bend over backwards to please them there. So why should you worry about it at 30,000 feet?

At this late date, we all know the pains of travels tiny seats, no frills, selfish idiots and, yes, screaming babies. If you choose to fly without noise cancelling headphones, you’ve earned whatever aural suffering comes your way.

If my child spills on you or grabs for your phone or tries to lick you (it happens!), I will apologize and do whatever I can to make things right. But I will not be hitting Pinterest for goody bag #inspo before I fly with my kids. And no one should feel like they have to. We have bigger problems to worry about in 2017.

Let’s all just be as kind as we can and remember that no matter how annoying an excited toddler is to you, he or she is almost certainly 150% more irritating to his or her parents. If you want to become a real viral hero, buy that parent a drink and offer to hold their baby while they drink it.

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