#dont worry I will be funny in the podcast and make tons of jokes

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I’m aware you have issues with the entire show, i’ve read your blog. Just thought it was nice to see another having an issue with the laenor situation in particular after reading one of your answers. Not sure if it was intentional, but i don’t think you had to go off at me about your entire issues with the show.

I didn't go off on you. I am sorry you felt that way.

As you might now if you went through my blog this is a subject that deeply displeases me, and when people still want to bring it up honestly I don't know what reaction they expect.

I might be funny in my rant if I'm "in the mood" but most times the most unpleasant part of me will come out because: Everything about this show is trash and I want to make that clear.

I like to make a point that my view is not that X or Y didn't work, it's that nothing did and that I found everything absolutely atrocious. I don't even consider the Lenny lives thing the within the top maybe 10 things that are absolutely ridiculous with this show. And I absolutely will struggle to understand if that is someone's main issue and that is what ruined the show, or the chocking thing, is like excuse me? Have you not been paying attention to... everything?

Because in a show where Lana committed Dracaryscide, Droopy had f_cking LEPROSY, Matt has erectile disfunction, Renada and Alicia are bffs, Loserys murder was accidental, Anemia was cut open like a f_cking pig, and the usurpation was a joke, the Lenny thing is just keeping with the theme I guess.

But yes lets just ignore this steaming pile of cr@p and keep on watching for the... hype and validation from the rest of people without standards I guess.

Good god, anyone who complained about season 8 but is defending/justifying this lost all credibility. This makes season 8 look less atrocious! And just came to prove what I told months ago that D&D were the scapegoats. Were they to blame? Of course. Were they the only ones to blame? Nope!

There are plenty of spaces to go to to either gush about the show or say "oh wasn't it a shame that X happened? the rest was great!" But in my spaces, no sorry. I ask more of entertainment than this and I certainly ask more of "professional" writers than the crap that was put on display and makes 50 shades read like f_cking War and Peace. Hell, they make ANY fanfiction writer look like a pro! Not even in fanfiction have I ever encountered this amount of ludicrous events!

Again sorry if I was impolite but Draco dormiens nunquam titillandus

PS: This is not to you Anon, this is to everyone who feels the need to STILL comment on redacted on my comment section. I don't care if your favourite trope is murder victim to lover (credit to @alinahamsmsnahams for this one) but I do care if you come to pollute my comment section with that cr@p. Keep your favourite redacted content away from my spaces. Thank you!

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I recently found your blog and im in love with your writings. I guess I just needed to went about this. Anyway theres this female youtuber that I watched for a long time now. She makes good animal content and is an ornithologist. Her style of content is also right up my alley. (1)

But the thing is shes homophobic. I knew this for a while now but on one of her recent streams she explicitly stated how disgusted she found gay people using very popular homophobic slurs in our language (not English). And like I dont hate her or whatever. I like her content and even her personality vice. she herself is gnc in her style and is not married. she gets a ton of comments from men telling her how weird it is and she addressed it in multiple videos saying how stupid she finds it (2)

but like this whole thing makes it difficult to just enjoy bird and lizard videos lol. recently we also got a new professor at my Uni. and while she considers herself tolerant she said quite a few. homophobic things as well. like she said she'd kill her son if he was gay, jokingly. but whats funny in that? anyway I talked about this with my groupmate whos lesbian and she told me she hated this but tries to not pay attention to it. she thinks its best to just ignore it.(3)

and like I think shes right. we cant change anything about this, our country is very homophobic. so why pay attention to it? Im secure in myself anyway. but its still so difficult to just not thing about it and enjoy everything else.have you ever dealt with similar feelings? how did you cope with them? sorry for long message. im also a lesbian if it matters. (4)

No need to apologise for the length of your message, sister! I’m sorry you’ve had to face this; but which lesbian, sadly, doesn’t? It’s all too common for us to be faced with this kind of non-physically-harmful homophobia. And at first glance, we tend to discount it, yes. After all, we are “secure in [our]selves”, we know there’s nothing wrong with being lesbians, that we’re not ill or cursed or whatever nonsense. In the long run, and although it doesn’t do the same kind of damage as homophobic physical harm, I think it’s more worrying. Especially because it appears so harmless at first, such a matter of personal opinion — we can’t really change the way these people think, they’re always going to harbour those kinds of thoughts.

But even if you’re a proud lesbian and fine with yourself, it still makes you internalise the fact that homosexuality is somehow wrong. Of course being regularly exposed to that kind of ideas, of content, is going to affect your wellbeing. Even if it’s “just” a passing remark from a youtuber, or a “joke” from a university teacher, or an aunt sharing a bigoted stereotype about homosexuality, or a random individual being interviewed on TV during a conservative march, or a priest mentioning once in a while how you’re going to end up burning in hell just for existing. These comments can lead us to feel terrible about ourselves, straight into self-hatred. They also, whether we like it or not, create a hostile climate for us. It’s not healthy to exist in an environment where you know that people despise or outright hate you, even if they don’t know that you specifically are a lesbian. You’re always going to be wondering how your teacher would treat you if she somehow found out. Would she lower your grades? Would there be any kind of retaliation? For every homophobe who makes homophobic jokes or share any other type of homophobic position, there’s always the worry of escalation to physical harm. As a result, you’re always, even if not completely consciously, on the lookout.

I think the best thing to do with these people is to cut them out whenever possible. I know that you like that youtuber’s content, but you’re always going to be wondering in a corner of your mind “when is she going to be homophobic again”. I’m sure you can find other women talking about that kind of subject, and if not on youtube maybe in podcasts, in documentaries, or on blogs. It’s eminently frustrating to loose a source of information and entertainment, but you also have to take care of yourself, and sometimes that means removing homophobes from your life. Here, a reminder that it’s not your job to cure them of their homophobia. You don’t have to put up with them. Much in the same way that women don’t have to waste their time explaining to men how we are human beings deserving of rights and dignity and a life free of oppression too.

In the case of your uni teacher, you can’t do a lot but bear through it. It’s good that you’re not alone; support your fellow lesbian, and make sure that you don’t let the hate, however how casual, get you down. I don’t think it’s about “ignoring” it as much as not letting either despair or rage take up too much space. It’s normal to feel depressed that homophobia is so widespread, but you can try to balance it out with the knowledge, shared by many of your fellow lesbians, that being a lesbian is perfectly normal and even wonderful. Same for anger at the homophobia, it’s perfectly normal in the face of bigotry and hatred, but please make sure that you use your anger as fuel for positive action and don’t just let it simmer and fester into giving up and depression and helplessness.

We don’t have to be resigned to the homophobia. You can sensibilise your friends to the problem, and hopefully find people who’ll embrace you for who you are. You can move to less homophobic places; you can create lesbians clubs, gatherings or communities; if you are determined and want to play the game and work within the rules of the system, you can lobby and agitate for reforms to law to make your country less homophobic. We don’t have to tolerate homophobic people. There are some things on which we can refuse to compromise.

(same anon who wrote about female youtuber)also Goddammit these straight anons are so ridiculous. sorry for my language. how can they not see their privilege? literally the entire fucking world is telling you that relationships with men are good and pure and "correct" and you DARE to come to a LESBIANS blog and whine about a tiny group of lesbian women who tell you that maybe men aren't the end all be all im just so sorry for their stupidity sis.. crazy you still have to deal with this shit :/

I’m used to it, not that it’s pleasant, but yes, sometimes it’s baffling how little reading comprehension and self-awareness some people exhibit on here (and out there in the world). I hope you have a very pleasant week, anonymous sister, and that your lesbian friend does as well ;)