#dont be a dick (unless they warrant it) you dont have to tell someone were not friends anymore bc you chew w ur mouth open | Explore Tumblr posts and blogs

isa-ah · 6 months ago

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one of the best things about getting older is hitting the point where you look around and realize you arent legally bound to be nice to anyone. it doesnt matter if youve known someone all your life or if you met them last week, if you decide someone is too immature, unevolved, annoying or just plain uninteresting to you, you can simply tell them you dont want to talk anymore. you can just break it off and walk away. you dont have to stay in meaningless or frustrating friendships or relationships. you can decide you dont like someone and it doesnt have to be moral it can be any reason you could ever think of and you can simply say hey. i dont think were compatible and id like to go our own ways. and then you can clean your hands of it and never have to stress about it again. its fantastic.

#pruning becomes necessary as you get older bc some people stop maturing or refuse to learn and grow and its like oh okay #well then bye #and thats that on that #i think it also brings a lot of mindfulness to the relationships you DO keep and you DO foster and you DO grow #bc to make a relationship (even friendships) last #you have to find common ground. you have to find bridges in communication styles. you have to have empathy and forgiveness #its a lot of work and its not something you owe anyone. if there are people you dont want to do the work with then just be up front #dont be a dick (unless they warrant it) you dont have to tell someone were not friends anymore bc you chew w ur mouth open #but you can communicate clearly that you dont think youre compatible people and you want to go your own way #freedom

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