#don't demand or be rude or guilt trippy.

[simplepotatofarmer]

like, one of my boundaries is, i don't like seeing people to be told to kill themselves. i don't care if tumblr is the kill yourself website, i personally don't like it. i've been dogpiled in that way before and it was rough.

so, i just unfollow or block anyone who does that! i can't stop people from doing it. i can express discomfort with it. i can say that i don't like it but what i can't do is berate people for it or whatever.

that's enforcing my boundary, by having a clear line: i don't like this thing, if you do it, i'll remove myself and your ability to interact with me.

it would just be harassment if i started yelling at people or calling them out for doing something that i don't like.

[enigmaincrimson-personal]

When it comes to a certain RP server...

There were too many people trying to write at the same time, so all responses were either buried and forgotten or so thrown out of context that I could see someone could find it coming off as being rude and godmoddy.

The venting room is for venting and considering nobody else was using it at the time while I was having a complete and utter meltdown... While flooding it wasn't intentional and neither as coming off as vague and guilt trippy. Effectively screaming bloody murder in text for hours on end tends to come out that way.

People seem to like pulling the same shit as "Let's not check my messages for five months and then get upset because only one person had sent me anything when I get back." many times and I don't like naming names as well as terrible at remembering them that there's not really a point in doing so at that point.

I was trying to talk to the moderators and the server owner about the rootbound rooms issue and was trying to offer some solutions, but they didn't seem interested in resolving it.

Someone had leaked what was in the venting room onto Tumblr and my blog and Discord was being bombarded with nasty messages and got me banned from the server before I could recover enough to figure out what was going on.

I did in fact try to apologize to the people that I did inadvertently offend, but neither that or the fact I did try to offer to quietly leave isn't being shown in the "Evidence" being passed about.

Also, I did in fact try to make text starters multiple times, but they totally ignored them and refused to discuss anything... while discarding all the work in writing any form of notes or attempts to plot out a proper starter.

In fact, it's really hard to do much of anything when the other party is constantly complaining how you aren't trimming things to your liking (literally down to one paragraph without any context at all) and somehow the stock (and unaltered) mobile Tumblr theme is crashing their phone.

What I will say is that those people tend to come at me like rabid dogs frothing at the mouth over something as petty as a color they didn't like on a blog theme I used seven years ago and making it sound like I do horrible things like eat babies with barbecue sauce to everyone they meet.

I mean... I could see some people on here doing that, but that's just gross... and you can't exactly reason with crazy angry people, and I'd keep going on about everything else, but it's not like anything I say matters... all the "evidence" says that I'm an unredeemable pile of crap and there's nothing I can do to prove otherwise.

Seriously though... in all this time, has any one of these people actually tried talking things over like a calm, sane person?

This isn't just about me by the way... I'm not the only person people get yelled at by crazy people demanding that you serve them moon sparkles and stardust jelly while insisting that your entire existence is ruining their life and you should just throw yourself off the nearest tall building and how much better their life would be if you were dead and gone.

My entire life is full of toxic crap like this... to the point that if I could list the things I do remember, you'd probably think of me as more insane than I already am.

What I will say that the phrase of "Blame the rock for breaking the church window" is pretty much a summary of my life and not an experience I'd wish on anyone... and it tends to lead to major trust issues.

I'm sorry for coming off as overeager and clingy at times, but there's not many people around that are willing to treat me like a real person.