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Hey Teddy! A little while ago I sent you an ask about dealing with homesickness in college, and your response was really helpful thank you! Can I take you up on your offer of giving advice for introverts in college? I could REALLY use it now :(

yes of course !!!!!! im so sorry that i’ve left this ask sitting in my inbox for like. six yrs but i had to gather my thots lmao adjakldja anyways my shit advice is under the cut

ok, so, im incredibly introverted, but when im around the right ppl, im like ??? an extrovert ???? w those ppl ????? idk. but yeah, im an introvert, which has made my college experience thus far kinda um inchresting but i have learnt some things so. here i hope it helps ajdkadljk

im typing this up in the library rn. i didnt actually go to my school’s library for like, a month,,,,, but eventually i realized that i could just not focus at all in my room or my dorm’s “silent” study lounge. so one day i went to the library, and this sounds wicked dramatic but as soon as i stepped out of the elevator and onto the third floor, into the total silence, i felt like i had entered another fuckign universe. we have like cubicle things that are desks that u can sit at so ur not distracted idk so i sat at one of those and. idk man i like fell in love w the library ??? but i realized that i didnt have to use it solely for schoolwork like,,,,, this sounds super lame but. i go to library to like…. hang out…. w….. myself ??? sometimes, the whole dorm setting and people coming in and out of my room is so fuckign draining- even when im alone, im not really alone, ya kno ? but the library is the one place where i nkow that nobody will even attempt conversation w me. i can be in my own little world for a bit and recharge. and do work i guess. but also, like, self care ???? idk. i literally could not wait to go to the library 2 chill today bc ive been feelign super off socially for the past few days akjdkajd like…. what. if ur feeling drained, go to ur library and try out just doing what u would do in ur room- going on tumblr, watchign netflix, idk- and hopefully, it’ll make u feel as refreshed as it does for me. y did i just write a sonnet abt the fuckign library.

also, this is wicked basic but: it’s ok 2 say no, but remember to say yes more than u say no. i ahve extreme fomo so for the first couple of weeks, i immediately agreed to do whatever whenever someone asked me to do something or go somewhere. but for anyone- especially introverts- this gets tiring. sometimes u just wanna spend the day/nite chilling in ur room, and that’s great ! going out all the time is not necessary, and ppl wont look down on u for not participating (if they do, drop them). but, don’t stay completely holed up in ur room every day. if i really dont wanna do anything one day but i also feel like i have to be somewhat present, ill just go down to my dorm’s lounge and chill/do work there.

also goes wout saying but: it’s ok to do shit by urself. i felt, and still feel, like, social guilt a lot ???? like i feel bad for shutting my dorm room door, i feel guilty for not doing social things, even when im doing homework i feel guilty and like im being a bitch when i can hear ppl out in the hallway. idk if that makes sense but like. there’s nothing wrong w not being/wanting to be w ppl 24/7. it’s kind of scary, but go to the dining hall alone sometimes. it’s not high school anymore. when i realized the amount of people that would just go to the dining hall by themselves, get their shitty food, and whip out their laptop and netflix, i realized that it’s perfectly acceptable to do shit by urself. it’s kind of empowering. going off campus by urself can also help ur get more knowledgeable about ur surroundings, ive found, since ur not relying on someone else to get around. 

nnnn this is kinda bad but i hope it helps ????? i mighta dd more to it idk but. come thru anytime