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cross-armageddon · 3 months ago
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Ranmaru Tokuse's Special Birthday Lines 2024
Kaii: You really can't dampen Ranmaru-kun's mood on his birthday, huh? He appears like normal when I look at him, but the air around him feels really cheery.
Hayato: Haha... He is very in the right to be mad at me... I guess I'll leave a gift in front of his door, so he doesn't have to see me today...
Ikuo: Ranmaru has been smiling really wide whenever he thinks nobody sees him... Too bad that I know how to sneak glances unnoticed.
Hatsune Miku (Prima Vista): Hmm... Our birthday concerts are getting bigger with each new member that joins our orchestra~
Ichika: It's that time again, where both me and Kaii go pick out a gift for a friend of his... At some point he'll stop asking me for help and I wonder if I won't feel lonely when that happens.
Saki: I didn't know what to do after you gave me your present, I'm still flattered..! So for you, I handmade you a bracelet! Let me put it on your wrist real quick...
Honami: A cheesecake isn't really a cake you'd get for a birthday, but I've baked you one anyway..! I hope you enjoy it, Tokuse-san..!
Shiho: Saki had me as the hand model for Tokuse's gift... As well as the judge of cuteness... It's really adorable...
Minori: Oh, Tokuse-kun..!! We haven't seen each other in a while! We could go to the Spojoy Park together if you have the time!
Akito: Even after all of that happened, you're still going with this..? Suit yourself. ... I guess you can wish happy birthday from all of Vivid Bad Squad.
Toya: Tokuse-san's online status says it's his birthday today. I should send him a message, no?
Tsukasa: Throwing a show outside of Toku would be a horrible idea... And yet when I barely mentioned that school, Rui looked like he hadn't been that excited for years... Needless to say, it disencouraged me even more, I'll just send a message to Tokuse.
Mizuki: It was so tight on schedule, but I managed to produce the photos we took together yesterday! I could have just sent them over online, but I really wanted to give him the physical copies!
Ranmaru: Hey, I understand I'm a birthday boy today, but is there something on my face? People seem to giggle around me a little... Well, I'm still having fun, but I wonder what it could be...
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IT'S ALREADY 28TH HERE I CAN POST THIS
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sadiramaeart · 2 months ago
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Watching BoJack horseman while doing a unit in my psych class about narcissists is insane. It is such an amazing and accurate portrayal. You can never win with narcissists, no matter how hard you try. What a lot of people do not understand about narcissists is they are all ego and no self-esteem. Either they grew up around parents that destroyed their self-esteem so thoroughly that they had to develop an inflated ego to emotionally survive (Bojack) or they were never raised to have an honest and healthy understanding of their own abilities, talents and limitations (which is what self-esteem is) and were instead raised entirely on ego (Mr.Peanutbutter). Using the first example I gave, in a narcissist's head, especially in relationships, their self-esteem will tell them they're not lovable, and their ego will overcompensate saying "Yes I am! In fact, I deserve completely unconditional love!"
And God help the person they fall in love with. They will DESTROY that person to prove to themselves that they deserve unconditional love. It will start out slow and subtle, the narcissistic person creating situations where their partner gives up little pieces of themselves. If you're outside looking in, logically, most of these situations don't make sense. They could easily be corrected without the partner giving up parts of themselves, but it isn't about logic; it's about the narcissistic person making the partner give up parts of themselves to prove their love. When the partner gives up things, their ego will say "look what they gave up for me when I didn't give anything back! I deserve unconditional love and I'm getting it!" and their self-esteem will go "that's not unconditional, it could be worse! you're not as lovable as you think you are". So they move the bar and make their partner give up more, and more, and more.
The show has a lot of really great examples, such as Bojack stringing PC along until she's almost too old to have children because he doesn't want them and she does, calling Hollyhock in the middle of the night to tell her he liked her IG post, constantly tearing down Todd, and literally drowning himself because Diane didn't answer the phone in the middle of the night. These were all tests of unconditional love in his head.
A lot of real world examples of the way narcissists do this (especifically narcissistic men do to their wives/partners) is making them give up their jobs because if they loved them unconditionally, they would trust them with all the financial control, they alienate them from their social circles and friends because if they truly love them unconditionally they don't need other friends and hobbies, they'll usually manipulate them into having their children because if they loved them unconditionally they would risk their health and their lives to give him a legacy. Since all of this is a twisted test of unconditional love in the narcissist's head, they literally can't give even modicum of what they're taking because that would mean the love isn't unconditional. This is also a rigged game, no matter how much unconditional love their partner shows, they are proving the narcissist wrong in some way. They are either proving their self-esteem wrong by loving them unconditionally, or proving their ego wrong by not living up to their twisted standards. So, they destroy their partners, leaving them a husk of the person they were, sacrificed on the altar of their ego. And after all of that, when they have been destroyed mind, body, and soul, the narcissist will abandon them, the person who loved them so much, because they became living proof of how destructive the narcissist's love is. And if there is one thing narcissists cannot handle, it is the truth about themselves. Which is exactly what happened to Sarah Lynn. No he didn't marry Sarah Lynn, but he destroyed her, completely. And his constant guilt over the little moments where he messed up her life is proof of that, he was aware of what he was doing on some level. He was trying to lead her down the same path he was on, and there was no way for her to win. Either she told him his ego is wrong by taking her own path, or she went the same way he did telling him his self-esteem is wrong and destroying herself in the process.
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