#dehumanizng people

[generalluxun]

Some people angrily say to Chloe fans, “Stop liking her. She can choose, and she won’t stop being a villain.” While you can argue that, the lines separating what a person CAN’T do and what a person WON’T do are often blurry. People are still bound by nurture after all, which is why the lines are blurry. But people want easy answers.

Some people want the world to be in black and white. I wouldn't say bound by nature, because those same people will say 'She's evil, its in her nature' which is also a vile line of thought that is used to excuse atrocities against people.

The truth is, *nurture* is strong. What we are *taught* shapes us heavily, and changing our core beliefs is often extremely hard. Neuroplasticity is real, and it makes bug changes very hard without support.

The people who claim 'You have a choice' as if that is the beginning and the end want to ignore this. They're the same people that would tell someone starving 'You have a choice' about stealing food. They'd tell someone with depression 'You have a choice' about staying in bed. They want to erase all context leading up to the moment of 'choice' and pretend it is something sanitized and without weight.

Some of the people who do this are children, they speak from ignorance. If they've grown up in a happy sanitized little family household then they don't have the experiences to understand. Not only that they might lack even the knowledge about how to educate themselves. There is much in the world that we don't even know that we don't know. On top of that their developing minds are trying desperately to order the world, just to get a handle on it. Kids are bombarded by new things and new information at a frightening pac, and that doesn't even include all the chemical insanity of puberty. So they short hand, they organize and simplify. Kids say 'it's a choice' because it lets them shrink down a complex and uncomfortable issue into something small and easily managable.

Then there are adults. Adults who should know better, adults with the experiences at least to know they might he missing the big picture, adults who can and should educate themselves or admit their ignorance, and yet don't. You see, there is a form of power in dismissing someone else's life experiences. Taking an entire person's life and crushing it down into three little words 'It's a choice' is an intoxicating level of control. It's doubly so when you already don't like someone. Maybe you don't like the way they dress. Maybe you don't like their religion. Maybe you don't like who they kiss. Maybe you don't like the color of their skin. Or maybe they just remind you of a childhood bully you had.

Dehumanizing someone is a powerful tool for oppression, control, and revenge. That doesn't make it right.

This answer is a bit of a ramble already, it's before my morning coffee. It's all relevant though. I've also hit upon the role reversal in the show between Chloé and her father. The grown man is treated as the victim at the mercy of the child, while the child is treated as the adult -as if she had any control or real power in her life.

[lotuslol]

Me: I wish I could go back to my interests again instead of feeling so preoccupied by things that make me sad, that happened when I was in the awake mental coma called dpdr, which makes them hard to mentally absorb or process because it all feels sudden to a part of me like someone just dropped a lot of mental baggage for me to handle all at once while actually it took 8 months of immense pain and 10 of illness.

This makes me go through that awkward moment where I talk to my patron saint and I feel soo blessesd and glad yet in so much pain simultaneously.

Brain on dpdr: well say no more!!

*gets "blessed" with painful numbness that doesn't work anyway* WHYYY?!!

****

Me: sad and in pain where I can't reach mentally from dpdr

Brain, in desbelief: you have a patron saint who loves you, why are you sad?!

Me: *face palm*

*****

Me: *heals a little more suddenly and realise my life without dpdr is quite kind and nice actually*

Brain: well, that makes your life better than others, no need to complain about your illness since it's not as big as other people's issues! (eventhough I am still ill and going to hurt eventually after that moment of breathing air for once!)

Me: *visible confusion and immense frustration* why...do you hate me?

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Dpdr is the emobodiment of dehumanizng torture :')))

You are going to be flipped upside down, feel immense pain that is one step away from being fully physical, feel sexual sensations when you usually don't feel them and you don't know why!!, be broken in places you never realised could break at all in yout soul, lose a lot of yourself and be unsure if you will ever return back to normal, lose most of your brain's ability to reason and cognitively function, having a hard time recognizing your face and when you do you remember all that happened and feel awful, regain everything slowly and painfully in months.

AAAND ON TOP OF ALL OF THIS?! you get your personal abuser who suppresses your emotions for you, gaslights you into believing you are a boy or gay, ridicules you for being in pain and scared and existing and wanting to be yourself again, forces ypu into fixing life issues when you are not stable to handle them properly, guilt trips you so painfully you feel kicked out of God's mercy for messing up while trying to deal with your life issues and you do something wrong or sin accidentally.

And all in the comfort of your own home where no matter how much you try to explain your pain, no one not even your therapist will understand because your linguistic skills dropped so bad and you are panicking so much you can't talk about it without triggering yourself so bad, and unless you feel it you can't comprehend it, and you are sure you are glad they don't understand because it is something you don't wish upon anyone, but you need the rescue so bad it hurts that no one would have come to save you, not even God unless you ask for it? I don't know, it felt like I sniffed drugs from a dirty toilet :'( (I have never tried high drugs before, but I imagine it felt like that if you reacted negatively to them)

My cousin who is a college student thinks I am so comfy because of sleeping enough and I am like "I wish..."

I sleep a lot but it isn't enough because it isn't actual healing :'( it' s trying to compensate for the exhaustion I am going through and so numb to realise

On top of all! I go to job training in a private retail pharmacy where my employer thinks I can't handle shit on my own at work, and so I am demoted from employee to trainee (I go full hours but don't get paid to get enough experience before I can actually get paid), that demotion made my superior decrease the work demand off me (work that I am capable of doing well and she could ask me but she decided not to because I am a trainee eventhough when I was a possible employee she askes these things from me) and she puts all the load on the other employee and the other employee looks visibly exhausted and irritated and I am like waaaat????

Besides in retail pharmacy I do more as a pharmacy acountant than an actual pharmacist and it is so stressful because a monetary loss or gain demands attention to detail that doesn't involve my academic skills or research skills or creative skills and a mistake done is so demanding and stressful when your employer asks you "why do you think we have a monetary loss there?" and I am like idk?? I was busy trying to keep up with the customers demands and the unorganized work that feels like chaos if I am a little weaker than usual that day and my weak math skills and you ask me to try to remember the day's details?

This all makes me think maybe the medical rep field wasn't that bad until I remember that I am required to commute around for insane amount of hours to convince people with a product as a job and if I don't do that I will face the possibility of getting fired from my job, and I am the kind of person who respects people's opinions on these things so I am like wut? Not my thing at all!!

Augh this feels messes up :'/

I don't want to go to "work" if we can call it that

And ALL of this are beside that one or 2 childhood traumas about my body that I will not address here so yikes, talk about the ride of my life in a year!

I was looking forward to be 23 like my patron saint but no I spent it being in pain :'(

I am suddenly 24, which makes me glad because it means I survived a year to see myself be 24!!!

But I missed out on adding 23 to my years (something kind tells me that I didn't miss out, and once I heal I will remember all the cool things I did despite my illness and I will feel glad about it despite everything)

I miss feeling like a part of my life...I miss the ease of living as myself.

Now as I return as myself, I remember all the mucky things I did without proper will and out of pain to relief myself from the pain, it makes my face not as bright as it uses to be in the mirror when I was in college.

"Take courage, you will meet brighter days like before" I feel, and it's kind enough to save me from falling to some form of despair. Not as dark as dpdr but I deserve some kindness from any form of despair now.

[jackienorth]

How you talk about intersex people and their bodies is dehumanizng and disgusting. Sorry you don't believe an intersex female deserves to be female. Sorry you think you can appropriate the implication of assigned sex for those who had their genitals mutilated at birth bc you are perisex and this is all a fun thought exercise about gender identity. Fuck you.

I don’t believe anyone doesn’t ‘deserve’ to be anything? I think trans women ‘deserve’ to be female too, I don’t know why you think I’d advocate telling anyone what they can/cannot be based on biology.

Right now I make every attempt not to talk about intersex people, in order to not speak for them (as I know there are intracommunity conversations I shouldn’t get involved in). I may have in the past (?), but where I talk about sex characteristics now (with regards to the limitations of ‘sex’ as a category) I am specifically and only talking about trans people and the impacts of medical transition. If you can point to something specific I’ve said that’s hurtful, I am always capable and willing to learn, go back, apologise and change.

If your concern is simply regarding ASAB language, I don’t love it either. But my understanding is that CASAB is used by intersex people, and ASAB has it’s origins with perisex trans people. I have seen people (mostly anti-trans feminists) trying to prevent trans people from using any terminology other than ‘biological sex’, which fits in perfectly with what anti-trans feminists would like to see. If you have sources to back up the etymology of ASAB language, I’ll take that into account. I’m happy enough to just create my own if you’d rather (have done in the past, using ‘interpreted sex at birth’), I just tend to use what people know to save the explaination.

[88-fingers-edward-blog]

Mauschwitz [3/9]

I finished Maus I today, and well the story is heartbreaking and infuriating at the same time. I’m also deathly afraid the same is happening in here. We’re slowly turning into Nazi Germany, and I’m not sure who Hitler might be. For Nazi Germany to have happened, there was a clear and decisive leader leading the fight. Hitler himself pushed his ideologies down the throats of the Germans and consequently Europe. But Trump isn’t as smart or ambitious to get that done. As far as who the bad guys are I would have to say its the Republicans or the uneducated masses allowing this all to happen. In a closely related timeline I guess were in the 20′s and were using the Muslim people as the scapegoats to all this problems. Immigrants are the homosexuals this time around, and thinking it over, it’s ironic how the LGBT community isn’t included in this list.

The comic is well done, in my opinion. I find it hard to find any flaws in it. Anyone who criticizes it is criticizing the actions of the characters. Like why is the father portrayed as the stereotypical cheap Jew man. Well maybe he was an actual cheapskate. Those people exist and old people are stubbornly hard-headed. The son is well non-caring and indifferent as to what his father does or behaves. From how his father behaves I can see why he’d be annoyed easily at his father’s behavior. Also he was young, I mean I behave like that sometimes, even though I love my folks.

Last I like the animal metaphors. Sometimes you need to show that to prove a point. How the hate and hunt for some people turns them into different people- dehumanizng them. All the shit the Jews  went to makes them into literal mice, hunting and scraping whatever they can find to  survive. The Germans turning them into the typical a-holes that cats are, just hunting and killing for no good reason.

And now I have to buy volume to to finsih the story...