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[thedatingvigilante]

Free Coaching Services #14

I have been fortunate to have a great career.  Much of my experience leant itself to learning how to coach people and to help them uncover their blocks and help them overcome fear or remove triggers from their life to move forward.  

So naturally when I see a wounded bird or in this case a sorry ass man who could use a little help, I flex my coaching as payment for the dinner or date.  ‘Cause that is all he is gettin’ from me🤣

My previous entry was about men who use vulnerability to take advantage of women.  This post is about men who genuinely need help to make them better men and to release them back into the dating wild for better results. 

Again, this has happened more than you can imagine.....  

I had the 4 hour car and park date which ended up in him realizing his intimacy and commitment issues stemmed from his strained relationship with his father.  I received a lovely text 2 weeks later that he finally reached out to his dad and he is making an effort to mend the relationship and he thanked me for listening and helping him uncover all his pent up hurt.  

There was the date where he felt stuck in his life because everytime he breaks up with a woman he starts over and feels like he is getting no where.  What does a break up have to do with your own self worth??  I was a lot more compassionate in the coaching session 😂

So many stories, but this one is my FAV...

Younger gentleman, and I stress gentleman as he was nothing but the perfect gentleman the entire time.  Made dinner reservations at a lovely steak house and from our conversations I knew we were not at the same stage in life, but he seemed confident and I thought let’s try something new. Conversations were witty and he was quick and cute with his comebacks.  Mucho importante for a woman like me to be able to keep up with my banter. Very easy to talk to and I was feeling flirty and excited to be on a date with a younger man😉

We meet in the parking lot and I am wearing an all black outfit and red heels.  Feeling sexy and sultry only to be met by....Geppetto😂.  A 36 year old man who looked like his grandpa!  Wearing a black woolen peacoat COVERED in cat fur, pleated black pants that were never hemmed and too long for his legs.  A white button down shirt 3 sizes too big, black industrial orthopedic shoes and hair that clearly needed some up keep. 

Needless to stay, If I had a penis I went from having a full on hard on before getting out of the car to full on SHRINKAGE in under 2 seconds.🤣🤣🤣 

The meal was amazing!  Male Brazilian servers were flirty and hot and made the date worth while for me.  I was gregarious and having fun with the staff and the manager and this poor guy just could NOT keep up.  He had personality shrinkage the entire date lol.  His confidence plummeted, his conversation was mediocre at best and toward the end of the date, I asked him why is he so nervous.  He turned beet red!  I smiled and told him he is not alone in experiencing this instant shyness with me.  So then I gave him 2 choices 

1.  Go our separate ways and feel the defeat of trying to bat in a league you are clearly unqualified for. 2. I will spend an hour with him after the date to coach him how to date better and within his league.  

He opted for option #2! End result, he went shopping for some fitted clothes, got a stylish haircut AND he got a new job with better pay and better position as a result of some boosted confidence!  I also gave him a carrot and told him when he gets himself all done up and can keep up with me on a date I will take him out for drinks to celebrate his evolution😉

This is also part of my dating service...help men evolve into something actually datable and civilized.  George would be very proud😎

[alisarauner]

My last date I sat across from a man who I wished I never met and cursed the fact I wasn't raging #alcoholic #datewithinyourleague #homeless