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On Being Authentic

By Frank J Casella, CMCS Director

In today's culture, being authentic is undeniably important. Authenticity, which aligns with truth and thus garners trust, reliability, and belief, is critical. Therefore, I believe it is essential for us, as Catholic men, to have a genuine voice—one that stands out and is easily recognized by others.

Case in point, for the past month as you know, I've been sharing through our email list some blog posts from the archive. To my surprise the response from emails and texts was above that from the original posts, and more then I've seen in the past year. What do I attribute this to?  An authentic voice. 

You see, over the years I've had the great fortune to have been mentored by Bishop Joseph Perry on writing my blog posts. He would not so much tell me what to say, rather how to better say it. But then once he retired I tried out the AI tool provided by the mailing list service, which seem to 'flower up' my words and which I and the team thought was a better read.

I would pull things from the Internet that might take an extra hour or two for me to find and sift through. So then, when I switched back this past month to my authentic voice many of you saw the difference and said so. 

"We hear a lot these days about “intentional discipleship” from preachers, motivational speakers and writers about what it takes to be real Christians in these times.  These speakers highlight for us the increasing secularism of American life, namely, that the modern mind-set is intent on pushing away a religious tone to life as evident in state and federal legislation that advances freedoms beyond that which the scriptures would countenance, or the lifestyles of people we know and love, matched with decreasing numbers attending church or synagogue or mosque.  We Americans believe in God to large percentage even though our actions may not always clearly represent that belief.

... Indeed, nothing is worthwhile unless we do it intentionally and with fervor as upright Christians.  This is the manner in which Jesus lived and died for us.  It is the only way his disciples can live authentically his legacy."

Bishop Joseph N. Perry - Taking Life Seriously 

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Catholic Man Moment: The Wisdom of God vs. Human Wisdom

February 9 2025

Fifth Sunday in Ordinary Time

Topic: The Wisdom of God vs. Human Wisdom

YearC, Luke 5:1-11: They left everything and followed Jesus.

Gospel - Luke 5:1-11

While the crowd was pressing in on Jesus and listening to the word of God, he was standing by the Lake of Gennesaret. He saw two boats there alongside the lake; the fishermen had disembarked and were washing their nets. Getting into one of the boats, the one belonging to Simon, he asked him to put out a short distance from the shore. Then he sat down and taught the crowds from the boat. After he had finished speaking, he said to Simon, "Put out into deep water and lower your nets for a catch." Simon said in reply, "Master, we have worked hard all night and have caught nothing, but at your command I will lower the nets." When they had done this, they caught a great number of fish and their nets were tearing. They signaled to their partners in the other boat to come to help them. They came and filled both boats so that the boats were in danger of sinking. When Simon Peter saw this, he fell at the knees of Jesus and said, "Depart from me, Lord, for I am a sinful man." For astonishment at the catch of fish they had made seized him and all those with him, and likewise James and John, the sons of Zebedee, who were partners of Simon. Jesus said to Simon, "Do not be afraid; from now on you will be catching men." When they brought their boats to the shore, they left everything and followed him.

https://bible.usccb.org/bible/readings/020925.cfmIn

Summary --

Imagine the thrill of reeling in a bounty of fish, your nets straining with the weight of an incredible catch. That's exactly what happened when Jesus instructed Simon to put out into the deep water and lower his nets for a haul. Despite the long and fruitless night of fishing that had preceded it, Simon couldn't resist the Master's command. And it was a decision that would change his life forever - as the nets tore with the sheer number of fish on board, Simon knew that he had stumbled upon something much greater than a simple catch. He had discovered a new way of living, a new sense of purpose, and a new relationship with the divine.

The Wisdom of God vs. Human Wisdom --

The Gospel reading from St. Luke (Lk 5:1-11) highlights the profound difference between the wisdom of God and human wisdom. When establishing a global enterprise, a modern businessman would likely choose leaders from among the most qualified and experienced individuals. However, Christ chose humble, uneducated fishermen from Galilee to be his assistants and successors, defying conventional wisdom.

He had the freedom to select from a pool of highly educated priests, scribes, and Roman officers, or even renowned Greek philosophers who could have lent prestige to the Gospel message. Yet, Christ chose to entrust the mission of spreading the Good News to these simple fishermen, demonstrating his ability to discern the hearts and wills of men.

The society Christ was establishing was not a worldly organization, but a divine institution that would facilitate eternal salvation. The truths he entrusted to its care were not based on human wisdom, but on divine revelation that required no external validation. In selecting his Apostles, Christ revealed his divine wisdom and the divine origin of the Christian faith.

As we reflect on our Christian heritage, let us express our gratitude by living out our faith in our daily lives. We can do this without relying on eloquence or personal prestige. By living as true Christians, carrying our crosses patiently, and serving others, we demonstrate a profound understanding of Christ's teachings. This is the true essence of Christian eloquence and apostleship.

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Catholic Man Moment: Finding Our Way to a More Meaningful Life.

For February 16 2025 Sixth Sunday in Ordinary Time

Year C, Luke 6:17, 20-26: Blessed are the poor. Woe to you who are rich.

Topic: Finding Our Way to a More Meaningful Life.

Gospel - Luke 6:17, 20-26 Jesus came down with the Twelve and stood on a stretch of level ground with a great crowd of his disciples and a large number of the people from all Judea and Jerusalem and the coastal region of Tyre and Sidon. And raising his eyes toward his disciples he said: “Blessed are you who are poor, for the kingdom of God is yours. Blessed are you who are now hungry, for you will be satisfied. Blessed are you who are now weeping, for you will laugh. Blessed are you when people hate you, and when they exclude and insult you, and denounce your name as evil on account of the Son of Man. Rejoice and leap for joy on that day! Behold, your reward will be great in heaven. For their ancestors treated the prophets in the same way. But woe to you who are rich, for you have received your consolation. Woe to you who are filled now, for you will be hungry. Woe to you who laugh now, for you will grieve and weep. Woe to you when all speak well of you, for their ancestors treated the false prophets in this way.”

Summary

This Man Moment emphasizes the importance of prioritizing one's relationship with God above material possessions and worldly pleasures. It reminds Catholic men and Christians that they are pilgrims on earth, and that their ultimate goal is to reach heaven. The excerpt encourages true followers of Christ to accept life's challenges and responsibilities with honesty and cheerfulness, as these are opportunities to gain eternal reward.

Message

Are you ready to unlock the true meaning of being a Catholic man and Christian? It starts with letting go of the world's distractions and focusing on what truly matters - our relationship with God. We can enjoy the good things in life, but only if we use them responsibly and with kindness.

It's time to break free from the chains of wealth and materialism. As Catholic men, we're called to live simply and authentically, not to make accumulating wealth our sole purpose. We're not meant to indulge in pleasures that go against God's will, but to find joy in the simple things and be prepared to face life's challenges with courage and faith.

We're pilgrims on a journey to heaven, and the lighter our load, the easier it is to travel. But we can't avoid our responsibilities, whether they're big or small. By facing them with honesty and cheerfulness, we'll find that they become a means to achieve our eternal reward.

The Beatitudes are a personal challenge to each of us. If we're true followers of Christ, we'll take the rough with the smooth, the poverty with the plenty, and the sorrows with the joys. These are the stepping stones that God has laid out for us to reach the eternal shore. So, let's take the first step towards a life of purpose and meaning - "Ours is the Kingdom of Heaven." ```

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Five Simple Tips to Grow Your Marriage

On my wedding day a few decades ago, I fondly recall my uncle, Fr. Joseph Stobba, OSA, an Augustinian Priest, sharing a meaningful message during his homily. He referenced an interview by ABC's Barbara Walters with Ronald and Nancy Reagan, discussing what contributes to a lasting marriage. Nancy remarked that the common belief of relationships needing to be 50/50 isn't always accurate; sometimes, it's more about one partner giving 90%. She emphasized the importance of being willing to make that 90% contribution—something that should come from the heart.

Through years of conversations with CMCS men, a recurring theme emerges about the key to a lasting marriage: prioritizing forgiveness over seeking apologies. Additionally, when we, as men, do  guy things and our wives express their frustration, we should listen quietly and accept it, as we likely deserve their critique.

“A good man is not a perfect man; a good man is an honest man, faithful and unhesitatingly responsive to the voice of God in his life.”

― John Fisher

The Bible does not instruct us to love ourselves; instead, it emphasizes the importance of loving God. Understanding that we are created in God's image is a natural outcome of this love. Ephesians Chapter 5 outlines your responsibilities as a man and leader. Here are five essential tips that I believe will help foster love in your relationships and enhance your spiritual leadership at home:

Tip #1: HUSBANDS – Your wife longs for love and connection. It's critical for her to feel cherished, appreciated, and significant. To meet this need, make sure your love and affection genuinely resonate with her heart. If you don’t fulfill this, someone or something else will.

Tip #2: WIVES – Your husband craves respect. He relies on YOU to honor him as a leader and acknowledge his role as a man. As the saying goes ' Anything with two heads is a monster.'

Tip #3: PROVISION – As a man, taking charge of your financial stability is not just a duty when possible; it reflects the love you have for your wife, as highlighted in 1 Timothy 5:8. Embracing the value of work is indeed a gift. Unfortunately, societal pressures surrounding retirement and reliance on government support have adversely affected our culture. This influence has led many to view work merely as a means to an end, focusing on retirement instead of using those later years to serve God more effectively, or to seek effortless ways to make a living until retirement comes.

Tip #4: PARTNERSHIP – Marriage is a commitment to being gifts to one another; it's not about ownership but about what belongs to both of you. This extends to your finances as well. Remember Matthew 12:25: “But he knew what they were thinking and said to them, ‘Every kingdom divided against itself will be laid waste, and no town or house divided against itself will stand.’  

Tip #5: TRUTH – Build your relationships on the foundation of God’s Word, the Catechism, the Ten Commandments, and Sunday Mass, rather than on fleeting feelings. God's transformative power can reshape your life and home when you remain steadfast in prayer. True love and effective leadership are forged in the daily challenges and struggles we face. The romantic ideals and candlelit dinners that our culture promotes as love are merely the fruits of dedication, open communication, conflict resolution, sacrifice, and a heartfelt reliance on Jesus Christ.

To sum it up, in living out our wedding vows of rich or poor, in sickness and in health, until death, consider 5 ways to Be a sincere gift to your spouse. 

CCC 1660 The marriage covenant, by which a man and a woman form with each other an intimate communion of life and love, has been founded and endowed with its own special laws by the Creator. By its very nature it is ordered to the good of the couple, as well as to the generation and education of children. Christ the Lord raised marriage between the baptized to the dignity of a sacrament (cf. CIC, can. 1055 § 1; cf. GS 48 § 1). 

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February 2, 2025

Feast of the Presentation of the Lord

Topic: Prayer and Contemplation in the Lives of Catholic Men

Gospel - Luke 2:22-32

When the days were completed for their purification

according to the law of Moses,

Mary and Joseph took Jesus up to Jerusalem

to present him to the Lord,

just as it is written in the law of the Lord,

Every male that opens the womb shall be consecrated to the Lord,

and to offer the sacrifice of

a pair of turtledoves or two young pigeons,

in accordance with the dictate in the law of the Lord.

Now there was a man in Jerusalem whose name was Simeon.

This man was righteous and devout,

awaiting the consolation of Israel,

and the Holy Spirit was upon him.

It had been revealed to him by the Holy Spirit

that he should not see death

before he had seen the Christ of the Lord.

He came in the Spirit into the temple;

and when the parents brought in the child Jesus

to perform the custom of the law in regard to him,

he took him into his arms and blessed God, saying:

“Now, Master, you may let your servant go in peace,

according to your word, for my eyes have seen your salvation,

which you prepared in the sight of all the peoples:

a light for revelation to the Gentiles,

and glory for your people Israel.”

https://bible.usccb.org/bible/readings/020225.cfm

Today's Gospel reading from Luke 2:22-32 presents a rich tapestry of characters and events, each offering valuable lessons and themes for deeper reflection.

The Importance of Prayer and Contemplation: In this passage, Simeon and Anna's deep devotion to prayer and contemplation allow them to recognize Jesus as the Messiah. Their lives are marked by a deep sense of faith and trust in God. This highlights the importance of prayer and contemplation in a person's life, as it allows them to deepen their relationship with God and become more open to the Spirit.

When it comes to the role of Catholic men, this passage emphasizes the importance of devotion, prayer, and contemplation in their lives. By following the example of Simeon and Anna, Catholic men can cultivate a deeper relationship with God and become more open to the Spirit. This, in turn, can help them to live a life of faith, hope, and love.

Problem and Solution - In today’s fast-paced world, many men find themselves overwhelmed with responsibilities, often neglecting their spiritual lives. However, Luke 2:22-40 reminds us of the critical role that prayer and contemplation play in deepening our relationship with God. This isn’t just idle time; it’s a meaningful investment in our spiritual well-being. By prioritizing prayer and making personal sacrifices, Catholic men can become more attuned to the presence of God in their lives. This practice opens their hearts to the Holy Spirit, allowing them to navigate life's challenges with greater clarity and purpose. Embracing this discipline can transform not only their spiritual journey but also their everyday experiences, leading to a more fulfilling and connected life.

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The Power of Praise in Living Our Faith

Photo: Change Our Hearts to be Full of Life - A snowy tree is silhouetted by the dusk light of sunset on a suburban street in Midwest America. Copyright 2018 Frank J Casella.

As Catholic men, we can live out the fundamentals of our faith by lavishing goodness on others. One simple yet powerful way to do this is by **praising others** for their good deeds and actions. In a culture that often focuses on pointing out mistakes, we have the opportunity to be a positive influence by acknowledging and appreciating the good in those around us.

"Catch someone doing something right."

~ Robert Kiyosaki

Why Praising Others Matters

* It encourages kindness and good behavior * It builds up and supports others in their efforts * It creates a positive and uplifting community

By making a conscious effort to praise others, we can create a ripple effect of kindness and goodness that spreads throughout our lives and the lives of those around us.

In Summary

As Catholic men, embracing the fundamentals of our faith means striving to uplift others around us. Let's make it a practice to catch someone doing something right! In a world where negativity often dominates the conversation, it's refreshing to shine a light on the goodness we see in others. When we take the time to praise someone for their kindness or recognize their strengths, we contribute to a culture of positivity and encouragement. So, let's commit to lavishing goodness on those around us—because together, we can make a difference!

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Catholic Man Moment: What gifts has the Spirit given me?

Gospel - Luke 1:1-4; 4:14-21 Since many have undertaken to compile a narrative of the events that have been fulfilled among us, just as those who were eyewitnesses from the beginning and ministers of the word have handed them down to us, I too have decided, after investigating everything accurately anew, to write it down in an orderly sequence for you, most excellent Theophilus, so that you may realize the certainty of the teachings you have received.

Jesus returned to Galilee in the power of the Spirit, and news of him spread throughout the whole region. He taught in their synagogues and was praised by all.

He came to Nazareth, where he had grown up, and went according to his custom into the synagogue on the sabbath day. He stood up to read and was handed a scroll of the prophet Isaiah. He unrolled the scroll and found the passage where it was written: The Spirit of the Lord is upon me, because he has anointed me to bring glad tidings to the poor. He has sent me to proclaim liberty to captives and recovery of sight to the blind, to let the oppressed go free, and to proclaim a year acceptable to the Lord. Rolling up the scroll, he handed it back to the attendant and sat down, and the eyes of all in the synagogue looked intently at him. He said to them, "Today this Scripture passage is fulfilled in your hearing."

https://bible.usccb.org/bible/readings/012625.cfm

Links to Daily Mass/Readings and / or Refelctions:

US Bishops: https://bible.usccb.org

Amen App: https://www.augustineinstitute.org/program-and-resources/amen

Holy Name Cathedral: https://www.youtube.com/@holynamecathedral9491/streams

January 26, 2025 Third Sunday in Ordinary Time

== Sunday of the Word of God. Stressing how essential it is for Catholics to familiarize themselves with Christ’s written word.

Topic: What gifts has the Spirit given me?

This excerpt is from the Bible, specifically from the book of Luke, chapter 1 and 4. It describes the events of Jesus Christ's life and teachings.

The excerpt describes how Jesus returned to his hometown of Nazareth and went to the synagogue (a place of worship) on the Sabbath (a day of rest). He was given a scroll with a passage from the prophet Isaiah, which he read and interpreted as a fulfillment of a prophecy in his own life and teachings.

Key Points

Jesus was empowered by the Spirit to bring good news and freedom to people.

He was sent to help those in need, especially the poor, blind, and oppressed.

Jesus saw himself as the fulfillment of a prophecy from the prophet Isaiah.

The Spirit: A divine power or presence that guides and empowers people.

Anointed: To be chosen or set apart for a special task or role, often with a spiritual significance.

Magisterium: The teaching authority of the Christian Church, which interprets and preserves the true meaning of the Bible.

For example: The foundation of the CMCS mission is about Catholic men living the fundamentals of our faith.

The passage is saying that we should be grateful for the Bible and the Christian faith, which has been passed down to us through the generations.

The passage is saying that the Bible is a precious gift from God, and we should be thankful for it. It's a source of strength and guidance that can help us understand and live out our Christian faith. Just like a fountain of water that quenches our thirst, the Bible can nourish our souls and give us the wisdom and love we need to live a good life.

That little voice of the Holy Spirit - do you listen to it?

Listen to your Guarding Angel - Understand their voice speaking and protecting you.

Go to daily Mass or encounter the daily readings. Subscribe by email to the US Bishops Readings.

As Catholic men the Bible should be our owners manual. Know it like a sports play book.

Questions from scripture verses:

He taught in their synagogues and was praised by all. == Who has helped me to grow in my faith? == How can I help others learn more about Jesus and his Church?

He came to Nazareth, where he had grown up, and went according to his custom into the synagogue on the sabbath day. == How do I customarily observe the sabbath day? == How has the practice of my faith developed since my childhood?

The Spirit of the Lord is upon me,/ because he has anointed me / to bring glad tidings to the poor.

== What gifts has the Spirit given me? == How can I use those gifts to serve God’s people?

Again, this is Sunday of the Word of God. Stressing how essential it is for Catholics to familiarize themselves with Christ’s written word.

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Discover How to Show Appreciation as a Catholic Man

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By Frank J Casella - CMCS Executive Director

In today's fast-paced world, it's easy for the contributions of the individuals around us to go unnoticed. For Catholic men, expressing appreciation is not just a kind gesture; it’s a vital part of fostering strong relationships within the community and family. When you take the time to tell someone how much you appreciate them, you are making a conscious effort to acknowledge their efforts and character, which in turn promotes a sense of belonging and respect. This simple act can be the solution to building deeper connections and reinforcing the bonds that bring us together as a faith community. Let’s make it a priority to express gratitude more frequently and let those around us know that their presence and contributions matter.

Expressing Gratitude and Appreciation

Telling someone how much you appreciate them is a powerful way to show you value their presence in your life. It conveys that you've taken notice of their efforts, kindness, and support.

Why Expressing Appreciation Matters

It strengthens relationships by creating a sense of mutual respect and understanding.

It encourages others to continue being supportive and helpful.

It fosters a positive and uplifting atmosphere in personal and professional settings.

Tips for Expressing Appreciation

Be specific: Mention specific actions or qualities you appreciate.

Be sincere: Express your gratitude from the heart, without expecting anything in return.

Be timely: Show appreciation when it's most relevant, such as during a difficult time or when someone goes above and beyond.

Example Phrases

"Thank you for being such a supportive friend. I really appreciate your help during this challenging time."

"I'm grateful for your hard work on this project. Your dedication is truly appreciated."

"You're an amazing colleague, and I appreciate your willingness to lend a hand whenever I need it."

Show Your Appreciation

Don't underestimate the impact of expressing gratitude. It can brighten someone's day, build stronger relationships, and create a positive atmosphere. Take the time to let others know how much you appreciate them – they'll likely appreciate it just as much!

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Weekly Catholic Man Moment: Unlock the Power of Faith and Trust in God's Goodness

Gospel John 2:1-11 There was a wedding at Cana in Galilee, and the mother of Jesus was there. Jesus and his disciples were also invited to the wedding. When the wine ran short, the mother of Jesus said to him, “They have no wine.” And Jesus said to her, “Woman, how does your concern affect me? My hour has not yet come.” His mother said to the servers, “Do whatever he tells you.” Now there were six stone water jars there for Jewish ceremonial washings, each holding twenty to thirty gallons. Jesus told them, “Fill the jars with water.” So they filled them to the brim. Then he told them, “Draw some out now and take it to the headwaiter.” So they took it. And when the headwaiter tasted the water that had become wine, without knowing where it came from — although the servers who had drawn the water knew —, the headwaiter called the bridegroom and said to him, “Everyone serves good wine first, and then when people have drunk freely, an inferior one; but you have kept the good wine until now.” Jesus did this as the beginning of his signs at Cana in Galilee and so revealed his glory, and his disciples began to believe in him.

January 19 2024 Second Sunday in Ordinary Time

John 2:1-11: Jesus did this as the beginning of his signs at Cana in Galilee.

Topic - Unlock the Power of Faith and Trust in God's Goodness

The key to this is to look to see where God is at work, and not only what you need or think how God should respond. The definition of sin is 'I want what I want' and the acronym for EGO is Edging God Out.

The Gospel passage from John 2:1-12 is a powerful reminder of God's kindness and goodness. It's a story that not only demonstrates Christ's approval of marriage, but also showcases the intercessory power of our Blessed Mother. But beyond these lessons, this passage offers a profound truth that can transform our lives: God is deeply interested in our earthly affairs and is eager to grant our prayers.

When Christ worked his first miracle at Cana, he didn't just prove his divine power; he showed us that he cares about our daily struggles and needs. He wants us to know that we can come to him with our requests, confident that he will provide what we need. "Ask and you shall receive" is not just a promise; it's a guarantee.

But what about those times when our prayers seem to go unanswered? Don't be discouraged! Perhaps you didn't receive exactly what you asked for, but God saw your need and provided something even better. He's not just a distant Father; he's a loving and caring parent who wants the best for you.

So, I urge you to make your temporal and spiritual needs known to God in confident prayer. Don't be afraid to ask for what you need, knowing that he will provide if it's for your real good. Trust in his goodness and kindness, and experience the transformative power of faith in your life. Your requests will not go unanswered; God will provide, and you will be blessed.

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Catholic Man Moment Message: Are You Seeking Clarity on Your Role Today?

January 12, 2025

The Baptism of the Lord

Gospel - Luke 3:15-16, 21-22 The people were filled with expectation, and all were asking in their hearts whether John might be the Christ. John answered them all, saying, “I am baptizing you with water, but one mightier than I is coming. I am not worthy to loosen the thongs of his sandals. He will baptize you with the Holy Spirit and fire.”

After all the people had been baptized and Jesus also had been baptized and was praying, heaven was opened and the Holy Spirit descended upon him in bodily form like a dove. And a voice came from heaven, “You are my beloved Son; with you I am well pleased.”

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Topic -- Are You Seeking Clarity on Your Role Today?

Luke 3:15-16, 21-22: When Jesus had been baptized and was praying, heaven was opened.

Who are we that God has placed us here in this particular time in history?

What happens when you walk into a room?

When you walk through a room do people know you've been there?

If not everyone, but some of them, or a very few … does your presence make a difference?

Is my way of life, my daily conduct, such that it would cause a non-Christian to say: "That man has something noble and sensible about him, that man is concerned with the things that really matter; that man has an inward peace and sense of security which I have not got, a sense of peace and security which comes not from the things of this world. I must find out what it is and get it for myself?"

This Gospel for the Feast of the Baptism of the Lord is from Luke 3:15-16; 21-22. When Jesus was baptized, only two people, Andrew and probably John the Evangelist, left John the Baptist to follow him. The others were interested in the Messiah, but when Jesus was right in front of them, they did nothing.

It seems they were more concerned with earthly things and a powerful kingdom than with a spiritual life. They wanted their happiness and prosperity here on earth, not in a future heaven. As Christians, we know that getting to heaven is more important than earthly treasures. But do we truly live like it every day? Do we follow Christ's teachings in our daily lives?

We should look into our own hearts and ask if our way of life would make a non-Christian want to know what we have. With God's help, it could be true someday that people would see the peace and security that comes from following Christ. Let's hope so. ```

“We all die. The goal isn’t to live forever, the goal is to create something that will.” – Chuck Palahniuk

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The Power of Gratitude

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By Frank J Casella, CMCS Co-founder and Executive Director.

Embracing the power of gratitude can be a transformative journey, helping us navigate life's challenges and lighting the way to a brighter, more positive perspective.

Focusing on the positive aspects of any situation while fostering a sense of hope enables individuals to overcome challenges.

Gratitude can enhance our resilience, provide us with a stronger sense of purpose and direction, and strengthen our relationships with others.

Nurturing gratitude and emphasizing the positive aspects of life is crucial; it's a perspective that can quickly impact those around you.

Choose Gratitude

When faced with a choice, opt for the path of appreciation. Focus on the positive aspects around you, and turn your challenges into important lessons that promote your growth.

“The secret of happiness is to live moment by moment and to thank God for what He is sending us every day in His goodness.”

– St. Gianna Beretta Molla 

The Generosity Habit, a wonderful book by Matthew Kelly, is a concise read available on Hoopla Digital through your local library. I particularly enjoy Chapter 2, which features quotes on innovative ways to practice generosity

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New Year. New Things.

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As we step into 2024 and reflect on the past year, many Catholic men will establish new resolutions or set fresh goals for the year ahead. However, amid these intentions, it's crucial to seek God's guidance. Attempting to navigate our aspirations solely with our own understanding prioritizes self over divine will. Instead, we should aim to deepen our spirituality and strive to become the holy individuals that God calls us to be. This commitment not only enhances our personal faith but also nurtures our families and parishes, transforming them into a more sacred community or holy church.

In this new year, men are particularly called to take on a greater role in Christian leadership. Our culture often sidelines men, hindering their ability to stand up for what is essential: the presence of God and the integrity of strong families. A powerful New Year’s resolution for men could be, “This year, I will rise to the challenge and advocate for the well-being of my family and the Church!” Achieving this resolution will necessitate spiritual fitness and the internal discipline needed to prepare for a unique battle—one against an invisible foe that exploits distractions to divide, confuse, and weaken us. Rekindling the determination to engage in this struggle will be crucial. I firmly believe that empowering men in their faith is the most pressing responsibility we have to strengthen our families, society, and the Church.

I would like to share a few strategies I'm implementing to nurture my own spiritual growth, which you might find inspiring. Additionally, I'll outline some new initiatives that the CMCS Apostolate will be launching for your involvement in this mission.

At the forefront of my prayer life are both Bishop Perry's ' Virtues of a Catholic Man' and ' A Man's Prayer.' I invite you to incorporate these into your daily or weekly quiet time with the Lord as well. This practice will help you reflect on your mindset as a Catholic man, addressing any spiritual challenges you may face.

For the fourth consecutive year, I find myself actively engaged with the Amen app, utilizing both mobile (Apple or Android) and email platforms. The reason I prefer this app is that, while it’s free (I choose to donate), it offers a daily experience akin to a mini retreat. With a focus on podcasts and reflections, there’s minimal video or text, enabling me to better absorb the reflections, often with my eyes prayerfully closed.

I will also experience the daily Rosary Meditations found at SchoolOfFaith.com - also found on the Amen App - as the meditations shared 'between the Rosary beads' is very enlightening and often things I've not heard of before. 

Please save the date for the Annual Bishop's Men's Forum, taking place on Saturday, April 26, 2025, the weekend following Easter Sunday. This is our main event and the purpose that CMCS was formed. As always, we will provide reminders for you to register once the specifics are finalized. At this time of year, I reflect on how to reduce email frequency while effectively promoting the Forum. Therefore, instead of issuing weekly blog posts, we will shift to sending them out approximately every twelve days. However, the weekly Catholic Man Moment Messages will remain aligned with the Sunday Readings. I trust that this quality-over-quantity strategy will resonate with you and respect your time.

Based on a recent survey, many of you primarily interact with CMCS through this email list, rather than our blog, video channel, or social media. However, we've seen an increase in new subscribers from those other platforms. Therefore, we will focus our engagement efforts mainly on this email list. Still, below you'll find quick links for these platforms to bookmark or visit as needed. I'm excited to adjust our approach into the vision of our Vicar once the new bishops are appointed and integrated into the Vicariates of the archdiocese. Please keep them and their transition in your prayers.

CMCS Website - cmcsmen.net

CMCS Blog - blog.cmcsmen.net

CMCS Videos/Podcasts - video.cmcsmen.net

Manhood News and More - news.cmcsmen.net

Donate to CMCS - give.cmcsmen.net 

CMCS on Mastodon - social.cmcsmen.net 

CMCS Conference Calls - meet.cmcsmen.net

CMCS Newsletter Archives - archive.cmcsmen.net

The Story of CMCS - story.cmcsmen.net

I trust this information will provide support and encouragement in your journey of Catholic manhood, helping you to place Christ at the center of your life. On behalf of Bishop-elect Larry Sullivan - Interim Vicar, Founding Bishop Emeritus Joseph Perry, and the CMCS Team ...

We Send You Our Best Wishes For Peace

And Good Health In The New Year!

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The (Fourth Sunday of Advent) Weekly CMCSMen Blog and Man Moment Message.

Dear CMCS Men, we hope you're doing well! At Catholic Men Chicago Southland (CMCS), we're committed to fostering personal holiness and supporting men, husbands and fathers to live the mission of Catholic manhood - To make Jesus Christ the center of our daily lives. As part of our dedication to the community, we wanted to share some exciting and engaging topics with you for each week of Advent 2024.  Enjoy!  -- The CMCS Team.

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Amidst the Holiday noise and chaos from the commercial industries, the Advent season is a time of expectant waiting and preparation for the celebration of the Nativity of Jesus at Christmas.

If you are a husband and father, your family looks toward you especially at times like this for spiritual leadership and direction.

This Advent, GIVE yourself deliberate time of silence and resolute to bring yourself  – and your family – closer to Christ! 

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How We Can Welcome Jesus Into Our Hearts and Homes?

December 22, 2024 - Fourth Sunday of Advent

Luke 1:39-45, And how does this happen to me, that the mother of my Lord should come to me?

Title: How We Can Welcome Jesus Into Our Hearts and Homes

Gospel Lk 1:39-45 Mary set out and traveled to the hill country in haste to a town of Judah, where she entered the house of Zechariah and greeted Elizabeth. When Elizabeth heard Mary’s greeting, the infant leaped in her womb, and Elizabeth, filled with the Holy Spirit, cried out in a loud voice and said, “Blessed are you among women, and blessed is the fruit of your womb. And how does this happen to me, that the mother of my Lord should come to me? For at the moment the sound of your greeting reached my ears, the infant in my womb leaped for joy. Blessed are you who believed that what was spoken to you by the Lord would be fulfilled.”

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The words from today's Gospel that speak to me are: 'When Elizabeth heard Mary’s greeting, the infant leaped in her womb, and Elizabeth, filled with the Holy Spirit, cried out in a loud voice and said, “Blessed are you among women, and blessed is the fruit of your womb…'

As Catholics, we are called to leap with joy when we sense the presence of Jesus through the Holy Spirit, just like Elizabeth did. This can happen in moments of prayer, worship, or even in the midst of everyday life. When we feel the Spirit stirring within us, we are reminded of the incredible blessing that Jesus is to us, and we are filled with gratitude and praise.

This is the last Sunday before Christmas, and it's a time to reflect on how we can welcome Jesus into our hearts and homes. We're all a little unworthy, not because we don't have much stuff, but because we don't always show the humility, kindness, and faith that we should. Let's try to be like Joseph and Mary, who were humble and kind, and had a lot of faith in God's goodness. We can't be perfect like them, but we can follow their example and try to be a little better every day.

The Christmas season is all about God's love for us, and how he came to earth as a helpless baby to show us how much he cares. It's a pretty amazing thing, and it's something that we can all learn from. Even though we're not perfect, God still loves us and wants to be with us. So let's try to accept the love that he's offering us, and trust that he'll help us become a little more worthy of it every day. ```

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Catholic Men and Divorce

By Frank J Casella, CMCS Co-founder & Executive Director.

Photo: Husbands and Wives - Holga Effect: There is a religious element to moments in time like this: The commitment of marriage as instituted by God - how Mom and Dad together support their children, and marriage, while juggling their independence as individuals (Visit image page for extended description).  Copyright 2012 Frank J Casella. Purchase here or shop my favorite photos.

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As I reflect on the profound wisdom of Malachi 2:15, I am reminded of the struggles that many couples face, including my own journey through nearly 35 years of marriage. There was a time when my wife and I found ourselves on the brink of divorce, caught in the whirlwind of anger, hurt, and uncertainty. It was a devastating period that tested our faith and commitment to one another. Yet, through perseverance and, more importantly, by the grace and mercy of God, we were able to navigate those turbulent waters and emerge stronger together. Our relationship has become since a constant work in progress, requiring dedication and understanding, a reminder that love is not merely a feeling but a lifelong commitment. The journey is ongoing, filled with its ups and downs, but it is one we continue to embrace, cherishing the bond we share and honoring our vows to each other.

As I engage in conversations with fellow Catholic men about the trials of marriage and the painful realities of divorce in today’s world, a troubling pattern emerges. It seems that marriage, a sacred covenant between a man and a woman, faces unprecedented challenges amid our culture’s shifting values. The decline in weddings, alongside the rising trend of cohabitation, reflects a deeper struggle against the very foundations of our faith. During the festive seasons, from Thanksgiving to New Year’s, the impact of divorce looms large, affecting our lives and relationships in profound ways, whether directly or indirectly. It’s a time when Satan appears to intensify his efforts, sowing confusion and distraction, pulling us away from the truths we hold dear. It’s crucial that we remain steadfast in our commitment to the sanctity of marriage and support one another in these challenging times, keeping our faith alive and nurturing the bonds that unite us. 

Avoiding Divorce

In the journey of love, the prospect of divorce often looms like a storm cloud, tempting couples with the promise of relief from their troubles. Yet, as Dr. Gary Chapman reveals in his insightful book, ' The One Year Love Language Minute Devotional,’ the reality is far more complex. Many who choose to part ways discover that their second or third marriages do not necessarily yield the happiness they seek. “The grass being greener on the other side of the fence is a myth,” Chapman wisely notes. This serves as a poignant reminder that divorce should be a last resort, not a quick exit. It’s essential for couples to first dig deep, confronting their differences and seeking resolution—because many have found that, with the right guidance and perseverance, reconciliation is not just possible, but transformative. As we navigate the intricate weave of relationships, let’s hold on to the hope that love can be rekindled, even when times are tough. 

Guys have Hope!

Imagine navigating the rocky waters of a relationship, only to discover that the key to sailing smoothly lies within you. With the right information and proper support, you can become a positive change agent in your relationship. Take a moment to reflect on God's wisdom: guard your heart, remain faithful to your spouse, and seek help when needed. The path toward divorce is often filled with pain and difficulty. Healing isn't a race; it's a journey that unfolds in God's time. In my own experience with divorce, I realized the transformative power of perspective. Dr. Ray Guarendi, in his insightful book ‘ Marriage: Small Steps, Big Rewards’, reminds us, “You can’t change your spouse’s behavior and attitude. But you can change yours.” This wisdom inspired me to approach my interactions differently. For instance, by taking a few moments of steering clear of heated discussions, I began to foster a healthier environment. Embrace the journey of change, and you just might find a way to heal together.

When I went through my divorce experience I found there was very little online about men and divorce, as much as there was for women. So I decided then to do something about it by writing more articles – and this is one of them. 

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The (Third Sunday of Advent) Weekly CMCSMen Blog and Man Moment Message.

Photo: ' Sunrise on the Winter Pine ' - A beautiful backyard pine tree, covered with fresh snow, absorbs the winter sunlight. Copyright Frank J. Casella All Rights Reserved.

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-- Keep Doing Good Things -- Something I like about fresh snow is how it illuminates the sunlight. The sunlight, especially in the morning, illustrates for me the warmth and blessing of God on his creation. And in order to see the beauty of the sunlight, we have to see the shadows behind it. The interplay of both is what I think makes this beauty interesting ... different from day to day .. such as with our own lives. Life is messy and full of struggles and shortcomings. Our lives and culture are full of fault-finding. But there is hope, if we accept it: Mercy. " Mercy is the first attribute of God. God does not want anyone to be lost. His mercy is infinitely greater than our sins " -- Pope Francis Saint Thomas Aquinas defines God's Mercy as the eternal perfection of the Creator, Redeemer and Sanctifier in His relation to people. Through Mercy, God brings creatures out of poverty and replenishes their shortcomings. Jesus tells us the next step, “ wisdom is vindicated by her works. ” In other words, let the good things you’re doing do the talking. Keep your eyes on God. And keep doing the good that God is calling you to do. We are now in the season of Advent ... waiting for Christmas. This waiting period is a time to prepare, by removing the clutter in our lives, known as sin, and to better practice what we believe. And not to disbelieve because our expectations have not been met. Like a pine tree is changed by the beauty of the fresh snow, so too can we be changed by Mercy. A blessed Advent, and a Merry Christmas to you!

Frank J Casella, CMCS Executive Director

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Learn more about:  Living a Just and Charitable Life.  St. John The Baptist's words remind us that we are all to a greater or lesser degree tax collectors and sinners, and that we should strive to be just and charitable to our fellow-men.

Gospel - Lk 3:10-18

The crowds asked John the Baptist, “What should we do?” He said to them in reply, “Whoever has two cloaks should share with the person who has none.  And whoever has food should do likewise.” Even tax collectors came to be baptized and they said to him, “Teacher, what should we do?” He answered them,  “Stop collecting more than what is prescribed.” Soldiers also asked him, “And what is it that we should do?” He told them, “Do not practice extortion,  do not falsely accuse anyone,  and be satisfied with your wages.”

Now the people were filled with expectation,  and all were asking in their hearts  whether John might be the Christ. John answered them all, saying,  “I am baptizing you with water, but one mightier than I is coming. I am not worthy to loosen the thongs of his sandals. He will baptize you with the Holy Spirit and fire. His winnowing fan is in his hand to clear his threshing floor and to gather the wheat into his barn,  but the chaff he will burn with unquenchable fire.” Exhorting them in many other ways,  he preached good news to the people.

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The (Second Sunday of Advent) Weekly CMCSMen Blog and Man Moment Message.

What is the Meaning of the Jesse Tree Mentioned on Day 8?

* The Second Sunday of Advent is December 8th, 2024, and the Church is preparing for the coming of Christ at Christmas. * The theme of the day is "Prepare the way of the Lord" and to make straight His paths, as quoted by St. John the Baptist. * The Church is praying for the hearts of believers to be awakened to prepare the way for Christ's coming. * The readings for the day include Baruch 5:1-9, Philippians 1:4-6; 8-11, and Luke 3:1-6, which emphasize the importance of preparing for Christ's coming and being ready to meet Him. * The Church is also celebrating the Solemnity of the Immaculate Conception, which is transferred to December 9th. * The day's reflection emphasizes the need to humble ourselves, admit our sins, and turn to God with gratitude and repentance in order to receive mercy and live a new year as grateful children of God.

The Jesse Tree is a Christian tradition that originated in the Middle Ages. It is a way of retelling the story of salvation history, from the promise of God to David to the birth of Jesus Christ.

The Jesse Tree is named after Jesse, the father of King David, who is mentioned in the Bible as the ancestor of Jesus (Isaiah 11:1). The tree is often depicted as a large tree with branches that represent the different generations of Jesus' family.

On each day of Advent, a new symbol or ornament is added to the tree, representing a different aspect of the story of salvation. These symbols can be objects, animals, or people from the Bible, and they are often linked to a specific scripture reading or theme.

On Day 8 of the Jesse Tree, the symbol is Jacob, which represents the continuation of God's promise to David and the eventual birth of Jesus. The Jesse Tree is a way of retelling the story of salvation in a visual and engaging way, and it can be a meaningful way to prepare for Christmas and reflect on the significance of Jesus' birth.

Here are some of the symbols that are typically used on the Jesse Tree:

* Day 1: Jesse, the father of King David * Day 2: David, the king who was promised a descendant who would rule forever * Day 3: Solomon, David's son who built the Temple in Jerusalem * Day 4: Isaiah, the prophet who foretold the coming of a messiah * Day 5: Jeremiah, the prophet who warned of the coming judgment and the need for repentance * Day 6: Ezekiel, the prophet who saw visions of the future and the restoration of Israel * Day 7: The prophet Micah, who foretold the birth of Jesus in Bethlehem * Day 8: Jacob, the ancestor of Jesus and the father of the 12 tribes of Israel * Day 9: The angel Gabriel, who announced the birth of Jesus to the Virgin Mary * Day 10: The Virgin Mary, who said "yes" to God's plan and became the mother of Jesus * Day 11: The shepherds, who were the first to hear the news of Jesus' birth * Day 12: The Magi, who followed the star to find Jesus and worship him as king

Each day's symbol is meant to be a reminder of the story of salvation and the promise of God to send a savior to the world.

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Catholic Man Moment Message:

This Weeks Message: The Power of Gratitude.  Being thankful can be a powerful tool in overcoming life's obstacles.

In the journey of life, we often encounter winding roads filled with challenges that may seem insurmountable. Yet, it is in these very moments that embracing gratitude becomes our guiding light. Those who find success amidst adversity are not only resilient but also adept at transforming their struggles into stepping stones toward growth. They choose to surround themselves with a supportive community, seeing the silver lining in each setback. When we shift our focus from the weight of our problems to the grace of a higher power, we begin to witness small victories each day, illuminating our path as though a reassuring glow beckons us forward. So, when faced with choices, let us consciously choose the path of being, grateful for the lessons learned and the opportunities that arise from every twist and turn.

"The secret of happiness is to live moment by moment and to thank God for what He is sending us every day in His goodness."

--€“ St. Gianna Beretta Molla

Gospel - Lk 3:1-6

In the fifteenth year of the reign of Tiberius Caesar,  when Pontius Pilate was governor of Judea,  and Herod was tetrarch of Galilee, and his brother Philip tetrarch of the region of Ituraea and Trachonitis,  and Lysanias was tetrarch of Abilene,  during the high priesthood of Annas and Caiaphas,  the word of God came to John the son of Zechariah in the desert. John went throughout the whole region of the Jordan,  proclaiming a baptism of repentance for the forgiveness of sins,  as it is written in the book of the words of the prophet Isaiah:     A voice of one crying out in the desert:     “Prepare the way of the Lord,         make straight his paths.     Every valley shall be filled         and every mountain and hill shall be made low.     The winding roads shall be made straight,         and the rough ways made smooth,     and all flesh shall see the salvation of God.”

“As the journey of Advent continues, as we prepare to celebrate the nativity of Christ, John the Baptist's call to conversion sounds out in our communities. It is a pressing invitation to open our hearts and to welcome the Son of God Who comes among us to make divine judgement manifest. The Father, writes St. John the Evangelist, does not judge anyone, but has entrusted the power of judgement to the Son, because He is the Son of man.

“And it is today, in the present, that we decide our future destiny. It is with our concrete everyday behavior in this life that we determine our eternal fate. At the end of our days on earth, at the moment of death, we will be evaluated on the basis of our likeness or otherwise to the Baby Who is about to be born in the poor grotto of Bethlehem, because He is the measure God has given humanity.

“Through the Gospel John the Baptist continues to speak down the centuries to each generation. His hard clear words bring health to us, the men and women of this day in which even the experience and perception of Christmas often, unfortunately, reflects materialist attitudes. The 'voice' of the great prophet asks us to prepare the way for the coming Lord in the deserts of today, internal and external deserts, thirsting for the water of life which is Christ.”

—Pope Benedict XVI

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What is the Significance of the Solemnity of Immaculate Conception?

The Solemnity of the Immaculate Conception is a Catholic feast day that commemorates the belief that the Blessed Virgin Mary, the mother of Jesus, was conceived without sin. The Solemnity of the Immaculate Conception, which is ordinarily celebrated on Sunday, December 8, is transferred to December 9, and is a Holy Day of Obligation.

The Immaculate Conception is a dogma of the Catholic Church, which means that it is a doctrine that is considered to be a fundamental truth of the faith. The dogma states that Mary was preserved from the stain of original sin from the moment of her conception, and that she was born without sin.

The significance of the Immaculate Conception can be understood in several ways:

1. Mary's role as the mother of God: The Immaculate Conception emphasizes Mary's role as the mother of Jesus, who is the Son of God. It highlights her importance as the one who carried and gave birth to the Savior of the world.

2. Mary's sinlessness: The Immaculate Conception teaches that Mary was sinless from the moment of her conception. This means that she was free from the stain of original sin, which is the sin that all humans inherit from Adam and Eve.

3. Mary's role as a model for Christians: The Immaculate Conception presents Mary as a model for Christians, who are called to live a life of holiness and sinlessness. It encourages Catholics to strive for spiritual perfection and to imitate Mary's virtues.

4. The significance of the feast day: The Solemnity of the Immaculate Conception is a celebration of Mary's sinlessness and her role as the mother of God. It is a time for Catholics to reflect on their own sinfulness and to seek forgiveness and spiritual growth.

In the context of the Catholic Church, the Immaculate Conception is also seen as a way of understanding the mystery of Mary's role in salvation history. It highlights her importance as the one who gave birth to Jesus, who is the Savior of the world.

Here are some key points about the Immaculate Conception:

* The Immaculate Conception is a dogma of the Catholic Church, which means that it is a fundamental truth of the faith. * The Immaculate Conception teaches that Mary was conceived without sin from the moment of her conception. * The Immaculate Conception emphasizes Mary's role as the mother of Jesus and her importance in salvation history. * The Solemnity of the Immaculate Conception is celebrated on December 8th, nine months before Christmas Day. * The Immaculate Conception is a time for Catholics to reflect on their own sinfulness and to seek forgiveness and spiritual growth.

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The (First Sunday of Advent) Weekly CMCSMen Blog and Man Moment Message

Catholic Man Moment Message: Our Attitude Towards Life

Every Catholic Man Wants to Learn how to Pray to Prepare for Advent Better

Advent is a season observed in many Western Christian churches as a time of expectant waiting and preparation for the celebration of the Nativity of Jesus at Christmas.

How do you wait in a culture that is instant information? Every Man I talk with it seems tells me they don’t pray as often as they aught to.  If you are married, when it comes to our Faith we usually depend on our wives to set the tone.

Amidst the holiday noise and chaos from the commercial industries, the Advent season is a time to prepare our hearts and minds for the coming of Christ.  If you are a husband and father, your family looks toward you especially at times like this for spiritual leadership and direction.

We hear about providing for our families financially and in other ways but, rarely do we hear about, or focus, provision and protection as prayer.

“Silence is so lacking in this world which is often too noisy, which is not favorable to recollection and listening to the voice of God,” Pope Benedict XVI said. “In this time of preparation for Christmas, let us cultivate interior recollection so as to receive and keep Jesus in our lives.”

It’s not so much then about learning to pray to prepare for advent, but leading an example of silence that makes a positive and lasting impression on you and your family. Like the Nun’s used to tell me in 1st Grade ”God gave you two ears and one mouth, so that you listen more than talk”

Prepare your heart and minds for Christmas with daily resources, prayer and activities at usccb.org/advent.

What would it take for you to have the best Christmas of your life?

Learn about BEST ADVENT EVER from Dynamic Catholic.

Spend your time with Advent Gospel Reflections from Bishop Barron.

Advent prayers in the Amen app.

The Advent Workshop from the Catholic Culture website.

Advent provides a reason to try new habits. One we strongly suggest is the  “Family Prayer Before Meals” (PDF) by Bishop Joseph Perry.  Statistics tells us that when a family breaks bread and prays together at least 3 times per week, it makes a noticeable difference in your children’s stability and security as a family unit.

This Advent, GIVE yourself deliberate time of silence and resolute to bring yourself  – and your family – closer to Christ!