#cishet privilege

[shelfperson]

gabriel is horrible stinky etc but i do support gay wrongs. i do support gay wrongs.

[ventbloglite]

Calling or implying that a trans man is an oppressor for his gender isn't any better than calling or implying that a trans woman is an oppressor for her birth sex, by the way.

[punkisntdeadandneitherami]

Omfg just noticed

i just noticed the lgbt tags are corourful wtf i love that sm

[newtscamandersbf]

im gonna be honest i hate when people use 'which could mean nothing' for a straight couple … like no !!! dont yall already have enough !!! this is for the queers and the queers only the only exception i will make is percabeth !!!

[redheadbigshoes]

Oh yes of course, definitely more privileged than white cis gay MEN

[tristinian]

Tbh I think people should just become complete jokes in discourse if they use “afab privilege”. Like you haven’t even learnt basic ass cis-centric white nonintersectional feminism 101: afab people don’t have privilege for being afab. In fact they get oppressed for it

[sonsband]

why's it so acceptable for fellow gay people to call me queer and then I have to soothe their feelings that I don't want to be called a slur by a stranger.

[gay-otlc]

You can't copy and paste the same framework for sexuality that applies to cis people and try to apply it for trans people, it doesn't work like that

[pocket-size-cthulhu]

If people are determined to make it uncomfortable to be LGBTQ+ in public, I will make it uncomfortable for them that I'm LGBTQ+ in public. I will uncomfortably remind people who i am when I'm around. I'll wear too much pride gear for them ever to forget. I'll stand up in the middle of church and walk out when things get too queerphobic. I'll call out my coworkers. I'll correct my family members. I'll post on Facebook for my conservative family and friends and remind them who they're talking about when they talk about The Queers.

I've got the privilege of being relatively safe while I do this, so especially for that, I'll not forfeit our right to exist in public by putting a lid on my queerness just because there's a little more risk involved than there was before.

[ghilan-maim]

hey just a reminder that some of us transmascs are out here rawdogging it and being perceived by everyone as butch lesbians every day.

[hyruviandoctor]

I think it’s times like these that really make me appreciate art and turn to the characters that have always spoken to me. Spider-Man. Batman. All Might. Sonic and Shadow the Hedgehogs. Optimus Prime. Those who will give their all for a chance at a better world for everyone. Those who don’t back down despite the odds.

[sweet-milky-tea705]

Being gay might not be a choice but i wouldnt try to conform for a million dollars. Being "cis" sucked ass and the thought of living like im straight makes me want to gag. I have actually zero desire to be "normal" and its strange feeling like i should feel that way because its part of The Experience

[pavlikbuonarroti]

@ anon, im not answering any other asks and idk if blocking you also blocks you from seeing this, but homophobic trans people exist and transphobic gay people exist. they are not less queer just because they suck. the existence of trans/homophobic cishet aces doesn't make them less queer. you being bitter about bad experiences with cishet aros/aces doesn't excuse furthering community division; you don't have to be friends with or even interact with cishet aces if you don't want to, but coming onto some random persons blog over a fucking offhand comment on a vent post to start arguing about this is unhinged.

[lesbianloveisreal]

It's really easy to tell queer people who are active, involved, or otherwise in the community culture (to the best of their ability) compared to one's that use "queer" as a fun little label.

Is their label still valid? Sure. I don't care. I honestly am over having to say "you're valid you're valid you're valid" to people because they are, and that's that. I'm not spending my entire night at the only place I can hug my gf in public to explain why someone more privileged than I am is valid. We can discuss other things about it.

But just because you are valid doesn't mean you aren't harmful to the community with your behavior and lack of understanding of our community and culture.

Etc. (As a nonbinary lesbian that is "straight passing" when im alone (I hate this term but whatever) )

If I'm saying or doing something that harms people in the community that are MORE OPPRESSED THAN I AM then I am actively harming our community.

If I go in and start harassing butches or trans people I am using my privileges to hurt our community.

If I start getting mad that butch women aren't talking and flirting with me when (at least in my local community) it is more often expected for femmes to make the first move, I am actively not using our queer cultural "rules" in that moment in my local community.

So, maybe if you notice your local queer community (especially people more oppressed than you) getting upset with you being there MAYBE it's not about your identity at all.

MAYBE if they kick you out, you are doing a disservice to your local community *after all nonqueers are usually allowed in those spaces too*

And please don't give me that "straight passing isn't a privilege" yes it is.

Can it still be annoying? Yes. But I know butch women that can't get jobs, get attacked while walking down the street, have had to leave places because someone threatened them, have gotten things thrown at them, had people scream at them at work, etc.

[himejoshibutch]

god forbid masculine women try to look masculine without being told "you should try being a man then" 🙄

[dhaaruni]

I don't really believe in the concept of noblesse oblige but whenever I get really mad at people online who are objectively way worse off than me in terms of every offline metric, I instinctively remind myself it doesn't behoove me to punch down so I send their tweets/posts to my friends with snide comments rather than fighting them publicly.

CC: @tributary's punching up/down post