#cis is as much of a label as trans is

[thekidsfromyestergay]

"Gerard doesn't use labels! He's a cis man!" Do you realise how stupid you sound

[definedvines]

i've kind of changed my mind when it comes to naoto's gender in that it doesn't matter what exactly you headcanon them as, but an arc that essentially says "being forced to be a gender you're not to conform to society can cause you a lot of problems" is an extremely trans-coded narrative and one that can hardly ever be applied to cis people in the real world. they just had to make naoto's a technically cis one because, dare i say, atlus may not exactly have been writing their games' narratives as the biggest trans ally in the early 2000s

[larrythefloridaman]

WOAH, HE'S BIGENDER? I DIDN'T KNOW THAT!

[fuckdamn]

everytime i’m faced with wild overt misogyny that’s just platformed like it’s nothing i remind myself that people don’t actually have to feel this way about women. men are fully capable of treating women like human beings and viewing them as such. “but socialization but male fantasies but patriatchy speaks through us even when we don’t recognize it” sure but actually regardless there exist men who are fundamentally not raging misogynists and they generally seem happier and better adjusted. misogyny to me isn’t disappointing because “oh i can’t believe Men, as an essentialized category of person, are like this” it’s disappointing because people make the choice to be like this. “it’s my biological imperative as a man to dominate you” okay well it’s my biological imperative as a freaky bitch to dominate you so what now. what biological imperative is making you comment “onlyfans detected opinion rejected” on every picture of any attractive woman. i think i will always be understood by most people as a woman and i’m learning to accept that and trying to like it but misogyny makes me feel very trapped of course. but misogyny is a choice. which means some people make the choice to be misogynistic which is profoundly frustrating. but many other people choose not to be actively misogynistic and i believe anyone could choose not to be actively misogynistic if they wanted. so it’s a whole thing

[toasted-valentine]

Apparently saying “It doesn’t actually matter” is a hot take and will get you yelled at on tiktok.

[mime-rodeo]

i think people still fail to realize that there is no "masculine" or "feminine" facial feature or body type. none whatsoever.

because yeah, trans, non-binary and intersex people exist but even otherwise. sometimes cis women have typically "masculine" features, like facial hair, a flat chest or broad shoulders. sometimes cis men have typically "feminine" features like a small waist, big chest or soft skin. sometimes cis women are taller and cis men are shorter. it all depends on your genetics and sometimes your lifestyle.

and this is where transphobes trip up when they say shit like "we can always tell". no you can't. you'll go and call a cis woman slurs because she happens to have a body that you consider masculine. you bully a cis man because he doesn't fit your criteria of masculinity. you're literally a parasite to your own community, just because of your hatred of the trans community.

so yeah. the sooner we dismantle these stereotypes and just accept that people have different features, regardless of whether they are cis or trans, the easier it would be to just exist in your own body without worrying that you're not masculine enough or feminine enough.

[tea-and-secrets]

i've lived as a transmasc person for about three years, and lately i've had monthly meetings with a gender affirming care team at a hospital in my city. but also lately i've been questioning my gender identity. i don't really know if i experience gender dysphoria anymore or if i actually want testosterone and top surgery and stuff. i think i have changed a lot since i started my (only social) transition. i know it's ok to change labels but i feel so guilty for taking up the time and resources of this care team when i know there are so many people who need it more. i just feel so lost and don't know what to do :/ i hope every other trans person has a good june though!!

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[irlbkgs]

i love she/her lestat but not as in mtf. lestat is just a girl sometimes. not genderfluid either. not even necessarily trans. literally just likes fem terms and pronouns. i don't wanna trans his gender, i just know he would like being called feminine words. and not in a kink way either. like just in casual conversation, "this is my girlfriend lestat" "isn't she a doll?" "cmere babygirl". i am she, she is me but real.

[angelmelon]

thinking about how idiots who think every trans person becomes dysphoric at 3 goddamn years old is playing into stereotypes as much as they don’t want to admit it

A persons gender identity is much more complex than their suffering

a persons gender identity is much more complex than being given a pink toy as a toddler

[landfilloftrash]

started thinkin'. I should know better than that.

[pine-niidles]

every time a trans person likes or reblogs my art I grow in power... yes you ARE my target audience

[agenderakali]

It's not just cis people, I'm fem-attracted and dating a non-binary masculine person, and having that personal experience it just doesn't feel like transmascs who want to associate with lesbian culture based on both personal and historic association has some kinna transmisogynistic thing going on. Like, I don't feel affected by that.

I can see the reasons they would do so, considering I am a transmasc lesbian myself. And I'm glad you personally do not feel negatively affected. I am speaking off of what I've seen and heard, which has unfortunately involved countless stories of transfems being excluded in favor of trans men, because tme people tend to view afabs as "safer" and havent confronted their transmisogyny. Many LGBT/sapphic/women's events will be inclusive of transmascs, but not transfems (overtly, or subtlely). I've read and been told over and over by transfems that something being "trans inclusive" often doesn't mean trans inclusive to them. I'm not saying that the only reason a trans man would want to hang on to the lesbian label/lesbian spaces is because of transmisogyny. But transmisogny is undeniably factoring into these discussions, and it worries me to see people parroting transphobic talking points casually without critical thought

[lovebloods]

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[scared-robot]

I wish my lungs were good enough to occasionally bind, but also it’s probably good because I feel like the Trans Realization I’ve kept partially stomped down will pop fully out and I don’t have the bandwidth, money, or anything else to deal with that realization.

[heloflor]

Have a doc filled with Mario headcanons and wanted to share the sexualities part because fuck it, it’s still pride month.

Disclaimer since it’s relevant to this post : I headcanon that Peach, Daisy, Wario and Waluigi are all creatures from the world of the Mushroom Kingdom who look the way they do due to magic gems (those blue and green gems that Peach and Daisy have respectively). Peach is a Toad, Daisy is a Dino-Rhino (unless those flower people from Mario Bros acid trip Wonder are from her Kingdom, then again I like Daisy being a giant cool Dino, plus the trailer for Wonder showed several other big animals), not sure for Wario and Waluigi but they’re not humans. The Super Crown works the way it does because there’s one of those gems in it.

Also, since it’s briefly mentioned, what I call the “main” continent is made out of the Mushroom, Koopa, Bomb-omb, Thwomp, and Goomba kingdoms. Sarasaland (retconned into Flower Kingdom now ?) and other kingdoms are on other continents (yes I know in Superstar Saga the Beanbean kingdom is neighbors with the Mushroom. But since they never appear in other games, I’ve chosen to ignore that detail).

Anyways, onto the headcanons :

- Mario : Transmasc Aromantic Heterosexual ; he realized he’s aro after finding out Peach is a Toad and losing sexual interest in her (felt bad about it at first because he thought he fell out of love upon discovering Peach at her most vulnerable, Bowser made it worse for him by accusing him of liking her only due to her human form) ; him being transmasc is why he’s named Mario Mario (he thought it would be funny)

- Luigi : Cis Bisexual ; had a fling with Peasley + loves Daisy ; he’s gender non-conforming and sometimes shares clothes with Peach, he also trains his voice to be higher-pitched for the heck of it (+ it can help in case he has to take Peach’s place for a kidnapping)

- Peach : Demiromantic Pansexual ; is cis-passing in human form but is technically transfem due to being a Toad

- Bowser : Omnisexual ; Cis tho I like the idea of him being transmasc and birthing Junior’s egg

- Yoshi and Birdetta are T4T + poly (hence Birdetta flirting with others) ; Birdetta’s eggs aren’t actually eggs (insert joke about her “eggs” being white) ; not sure if “all Yoshis that lay eggs are female” but at least all those that lay eggs that can be fertilized are female (and on that note YOSHI MIGHT BE CANONICALLY TRANSMASC ???!!!) ; Yoshi is straight while Birdetta is plurisexual (bi/pan/omni etc)

- Daisy : Straight + intersex + transfem (imagine if Prince Haru from the 1986 movie was her appearance pre-transition, but remove the whole “Peach’s fiancé” part of the plot, or the plot as a whole since the events of this movie didn’t happen here, just keep Haru’s design as “Daisy before transitioning”)

- Big fan of the headcanon that Kamek is gay ; he doesn’t date because 1. He’s busy 2. He’s getting too old for this 3. He’s devoted to his son and grandchildren which takes all his free time

- Depending on which creature he is Wario would be cishet though I could also see him be plurisexual (bi/pan/omni/other label that has to do with dating more than one gender ; I like putting diversity in queer headcanons but I’m not the most knowledgeable on labels past the most common ones)

- Not sure for Rosalina, either aroace or she’s allo but just stays single due to her life situation ; probably non-binary (she/it, could also be a play on the fact that some see her as some kind of goddess)

- Pauline is Cis Lesbian and her and Mario parted on good terms after he came out as trans on top of other reasons (basically they still care a lot about each other but realized they were better off as friends, the whole “unknown aro + transmasc with lesbian” simply gave them an easier excuse to break up)

- Really not sure for Bowser's kids, the only ideas that are "set in stone" are that Ludwig is gay, Wendy is attracted to boys (doesn't meant she can't like girls), Lemmy is demi-boy (they/him) and Morton is attracted to girls (like Wendy it doesn't close the door for liking men).

Not sure for the rest, though I could see Iggy using he/neopronouns (likely xe/xem) and at least one of them being interesex. Btw the older kids say they don’t date because they’re busy with royal duties but the truth is they are just incredibly awkward + they can’t ask their dad for advice since he’s a romantic disaster

- I could see Toadsworth be aroace, since even in his younger years he cared more about raising his surrogate daughter than dating + he never pressures Peach into marrying ? In general he doesn’t seem to care about romance ? ; he’s also transmasc because Toad

- After seeing Bowser’s Inside Story and the beginning of Dream Team, Starlow is a lesbian crushing on Peach (is very buddy-buddy with Peach despite barely knowing her, makes a big deal out of Peach being kept safe, calls her “Peach” instead of “Princess” from the get go, at times seems to see Peach as the best person in the room)

- Toads and Goombas are naturally agender because mushrooms ; some choose to express a specific gender (ex Toadsworth, Toadette, Peach, the Toads and Goombas from the first two Paper Mario) ; some may use gendered pronouns even if their presentation doesn’t display any specific gender (ex Captain Toad using he/him despite looking like any other Toad) ; basically every Toad/Goomba that use gendered pronouns (or neopronouns) is technically trans and/or non-binary ; cisgender Toads/Goombas go by they/it ; the Super Crown gem gives the shape the Toad see themselves as but it doesn’t have to be cis-passing or even gender conforming, can be androgyne (Daisy took a while to figure herself out, hence her gem giving her Haru’s look at first ; she's not from an agender species but the way the gems work still applies to hers, hence mentioning how her being trans worked on that front)

- That previous point implies either all Toads have the same metabolism and thus all grow facial hair (Peach having to shave tho) or they have mushrooms that serves as HRT for those who want more “masculine” or “feminine” traits (hair/facial hair and tone of voice) ; the color of their hats has nothing to do with gender for Toads (ignore Nintendo’s weird obsession with making every female character in the Mario franchise pink)

- Sexual dimorphism in general is very rare/limited in this world (only the Beanbean kingdom has it ?), in “main” continent, Koopas are the ones where it’s the most present and even then it’s very minimal (genitals, who can lay eggs, possibly size but even then not really since Pom Pom is the only one smaller than her male counterpart, Wendy and other female Koopas aren’t particularly small)

- Toads (and other species) experimenting with gender could be due to seeing Koopas make the distinction between “male” and “female” and finding the idea of changing your appearance based on how you feel to be fun (even though you have the concept of male and female Koopas, there’s no transphobia in Bowser’s kingdom) ; by that point it’s common for Toads to change however they feel and go by any pronouns they want, just because they’re aware of the concepts of masculinity and femininity doesn’t mean they have to follow it to the letter with their pronouns unless they want to

- On that note, I could see Toadette as genderfluid, though she most often goes by she/her ; I could also see one or several of the other main Toads (Ala Gold, Bucken Berry, Captain Toad, "The" Red ToadTM) be bi-gender

- Not sure what’s going on with Waluigi but he’s definitely queer

[wazzuppy]

genuine question as i'm attempting to learn:

for everyone who identifies as exclusively lesbian or exclusively gay, what do you think about about mspec lesbians and gays? ive seen different views from people all over the queer community, but never together, and i'd like to attempt to gather a few here for a bigger picture of everything

terfs dni