#circles to reject an arranged marriage at the age of 17. and she's bisexual. but THAT is what compulsory heterosexuality alludes to) | Explore Tumblr posts and blogs

envolvenuances · 3 months ago

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lesbian masterdoc and the unforgivable damage of making people hear compulsory heterosexuality and think of "can lesbians have crushes on men?" (no) instead of "are heterosexual women settling in unhappy marriages with men bellow their worth because of economic and social pressure?" (yes)

#not claiming the theory was without flaws but it sure didn't describe some virus mental affliction that exclusively plagues lesbians #for starters the theory was primarily about marriage. so it did recognise the historical fact of lesbians forced into marriage to avoid #honor killings and the still present possibility and threats especially when it comes to cults and strong religions #(once again mentioning as a Jeová's witness in a brazilian periphery my girlfriend accepted the tool of losing her entire family and social #circles to reject an arranged marriage at the age of 17. and she's bisexual. but THAT is what compulsory heterosexuality alludes to)#but more often than not when it addressed lesbians it was as the inherent threat they pose to heteropatriarchy #that they mere existence proved women were not all born to serve men. and that their lives often proved women are much happier and #accomplished when away from the burden of men.#and this acknowledging just how much loneliness was a reality through lesbian's experiences #at the same time I can understand the frustration of that feminist theory being reduced to 'comphet is when lesbians in high school were #pressured into picking one of the Backstreet Boys to lie about finding attractive'. and even more so when that non universal and much less #serious example somehow morphed into 'comphet is when bisexual women either lying or confused about being lesbians have sex with men and #find it unfulfilling' because accepting that narrative erases and harms lesbians #so I understand the 'comphet isn't real' posts especially because written like that it tends to refer to lesbian masterdoc and following #fiasco. but at the same time that wasn't the original intent of compulsory heterosexuality the actual feminist term #this is just me complaining about how social media butchers theory tho unless they are specifically naming Rich and the many other feminist #who wrote about heterosexual marriage as an institution I won't bother lesbians for venting frustration about neoliberal erasure of lesbian #the original theory sure didn't claim lesbians were immune to all this misogynistic violence but the term was never exclusively about them #and tended to ask more of 'where do we stand as women and feminists as a group much more interested in destroying heterosexual marriage than #simply making it more bearable?'#this got a little messy and senseless I'm tired #.txt

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