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So...lets kill another obstacle to Barbi's goals...

"Im awful manly..."

Well that is a problem. How do we fix it??

Theres lots to cover here (pun intended). But there are a lot of subtle things that you can do over time that will create the gurl you wish to be. Subtlety is key if you're a secret gurl. If not, then speed up the process...

The feminine illusion has many parts. Body shape, body appearance facial look, mannerisms, etc.

For reshaping the body...first get fit. Exercise for a slim physique. There are many available bras, breastforms, silicone pads/enhancers etc available to give you the chest that announces you as a woman. Your hips can be treated much the same, with many pads and inserts available to feminize your backside. Waist training with cinchers will help develop your hourglass shape, and wearing corsets is a fantastic way to display your feminine curves.

Your bodys appearance, besides its shape, is a matter of skin care. And shaving. Everyone has their own fav methods, but being hair free is a must for the illusion. From ears to ankles is optimum. Trim/thin out your arm hair too, finding a balance thats manly by day but wont diminish your femme illusion at night. Exfoliating and moisturizing your whole body is important too, as healthy glowing skin is a femme attribute to shoot for.

Your facial "look" is a huge part of the overall!! Makeup and related beauty is a million pages of info, so do research, watch videos, and PRACTICE!! Ive found that taking a selfie, and then running it through a makeup photo app will let you experiment on different looks and can help you find what works best for you. Then replicate it. Women make it look easy, but theyve been doing it everyday their whole life. Its NOT easy!!! Trust me, I still struggle mightily with it!! But dont get discouraged!! Practice...and remember that less is usually more here. Finding other gurls, local makeover services, etc are a great help as well!!

Mannerisms and how you carry yourself is another realm where practice is key. Walking like a woman, and doing it in heels is another time consuming effort thats mandatory. Nothing bursts the femme bubble faster than a gurl that walks like a macho man!!! Small, short delicate steps keep you looking girly and accentuate that "sway"... Again, videos and tutorials are a great resource. Other small nuances include the weak wrist, the coy smile, flinging your hair (wig?), keeping your knees together, the wink, crossing your legs, and a ton of other delicate motions... Watch cis women and observe these things and how theyre done. While we see these things done every day, we have to really disect them in order to copy them.

💕❤💕-Sis💋

If you dont believe me, check out this feminine and beautiful gif from @michellenightingale at the end of this post...shes got it, and you can too!!!

So the problem of "Im awful manly" is just a speedbump on the way to pretty, sexy gurlhood. Break it down into managle pieces, and in no time, Barbi will blend right in with the cis girls!!!

Next up: Im always busy..

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Being a Charlie means avoiding the negativity and subservience to Alphas. You deserve better. And together gurls, you'll have it!!!

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Just do it. Dont think. Live out your dreams as a Charliegurl!!

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Face it... Alphas can be unpleasant to you gurls. But dont tolerate it. YOU actually have the power and control. So dont give it away!!! Take charge, demand respect!! And you might even find a future gurl in there!!!

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Charlies will always step up and support the other gurls...

REBLOG If youd back another gurl!!

REBLOG If youve needed those gurls help!

REBLOG If you like the idea of flipping the script on Alphas!!

COMMENT Any experiences related to this!!

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(#37)

That moment when… When… When… When you realize youre a Charlie… And there are many like you… Wanting just what you want!!! Become a Charlie and find others today! #CharlieCD

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Heres somthing fun n new I found!! Lets all get on this new map I created!! You can get on here anonymously, if needed, but please just add yourself!! This will be a huge help to yourself and other gurls nearby!!!💕❤💕

Oh, and...

REBLOG

REBLOG

REBLOG

PLEASE!!

💋💋-Sammi

PS- yall pick different color pointers, but I called Fuscia!!!😂👍

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Gurls new and old, unify and support each other!!! It's a new world, lets enjoy it!!!

Its your new (old?) best friend, Samantha Isabella Spikes. (Although her Mistress persona is well known, here you can just call me Sis, or Sammi for you Tumblr ol timers😁)

Im hoping to spread the good that Charlie did, and take it down different paths, for different gurls...

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As a gurl, what do you want....????

I decided this would be the next topic, as its soooo important, especially for new(er) gurls. In hundreds of convos, Ive had guys, say they want to become gurls. Terrific. But when I ask for more specifics, its tough or impossible to get good answers. Heres the problem. Just like in life, many of us never set goals. Much of my life I didnt. But, I learned they are very important. Its hard to attain somthing if you havent defined "it". Any endeavour worth undertaking takes time, effort, and planning. So as an aspiring gurl, you have to first define what your hoped for "end result" is... I often suggest that you can find that in your FAVORITE DAYDREAMS N FANTASIES. Yes. Seriously!!! Ignore all realities and challenges for the moment. What is your ultimate gurl dream?? Full transition? A passable fulltime CD? Maybe its dressing and meeting other gurls and going out. Maybe meeting men or other gurls en femme for adult activities, maybe exploring a bicuriosity. Maybe just sharing your secret a bit to "un-closet" a bit... Whatever it is, write it down!!! It might seem silly, but do it, even if it seems unattainable right now. This is where you want to be someday!!! Take those dreams seriously!! And dont be vague, or lie to yourself. Its not a one sentence answer either, more like a big paragraph... Now we just have to formulate a plan to make it happen, but thats another post for another day!!

This is the first step for you, regardless of what your goal is, or where you stand now. From the 20yr old who discovered excitement wearing his sisters panties and wants to take it much further, to the 49yr old whos always secretly felt more feminine on the inside and finally is at a place in life to change the outside. Whether spiritual or sensual, a hoped for permanent change, or just when youre "in the mood", it doesnt matter. Write down your dream outcome and keep it handy. Youre going to need to look at it often.

Now heres the thing... As you work towards your gurly goal, it may change. Yup. Thats ok. Be aware that gurldom and femininity will change how you see things, and as such, your wants and needs may change as well. Mine did!! But thats ok. Go with it!! (Now, this isnt somthing that happens daily or weekly, but over months n years. So dont write your goals in pencil so they can be changed tuesday LOL... ) Personal evolution is a good thing unless you let outside influences affect it. This is all about you gurl, and what you want!!!

So aspiring ladies, new and old... Define your wants and needs. DO NOT let any preconception about the odds of getting what you want alter your goals. We can all have what we want. But its much easier to get there when we know EXACTLY what that is!!!

Next time, we're going to take that goal, and start breaking it up into manageable pieces, and get you headed down the path!!!

So... Id love to hear your ultimate dreams n gurly goals!!! Post reply, or IM if you wanna discuss privately...

Love ya!!❤-Sis

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Gurl Community Infighting...

A point that came to mind during some discussions in the "Labels" post that needs a separate mention... I think there are two major groups in the gurl world. Those that crossdress with a sexual/fetish basis and those that are on a potentially more spiritual "inner woman" journey. Ive heard a lot of clashing between them, with the "reality" of each groups wants and needs being questioned. That needs to STOP!!! Im going to go out on a limb again with a potentially unpopular statement...(I think this is gonna happen a lot LOL...) We are all part of a larger group..."mtf" or "gurls" or whatever. We ALL go thru so many challenges to do what makes us happy...from emotional issues: self-doubt, insecurity, regret, etc, to secrecy or "closeting", to larger social issues of fitting in, and of course the labeling debacle... What we need to remember is that at some level...we are ALL chasing femininity and whatever rewards it holds for each of us as individuals. And at that level, we are all equals, and we are all the same. We all have experiences that can be shared and benefit each other across group lines. Even if we can share and help each other with small tips and support, its a good thing. Making friends across those boundaries can only help us all... So rather than picking at each other, lets ALL circle the wagons and become a team!

❤-Sis

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So, thought Id hit this first... I dont like most labels (Charlie being an exception😁). So many have grown negative connotations, or are entirely corrupted. The only reason I EVER use them is as a common reference most understand. The basic sub/dom top/bttm being the common ones. For instance, the blurring of sub and bttm together is a huge source of confusion for new gurls!!! Generally, one is a role/state of mind and the other is a preferred sexual position. So why so much stress over forcing yourself to fit into these words?? Its a societal thing and sadly much is brought about by the very groups we are a part of!! Stop worrying about it!!

Also Ive met many gurls who struggle with "what am I?" or "how do I classify myself?" Im going to get potentially unpopular right away with my simple answers!!

The answer to those questions, and similar ones is: "You're you. You are a unique individual!!!" Stupid answer right?? I dont think so. What I find silly is the need for people to generate labels that everyone then feels they have to fit into. Does it really matter? Nope. If youre reading this, you probably dont fit into the standard male/female vanilla lifestyle. So what!! Do what you enjoy!! It makes NO difference if you crossdress, are gay, sub, bttm, bi, or whatever!! If you want to transition, great!! At some point in that journey you can stop calling yourself male and use female, or vice versa. But you need not even do that!! You could do a full transition and still call yourself the previous gender. It doesnt matter what you do, as long as youre doing you and it MAKES YOU HAPPY!!! The CRAZY thing these days, is that there is actually a term (cis) that denotes that youre the gender you were actually born with!!! Smh.... Maybe we can just shy away from labels. Id suggest that maybe we start stating WHAT WE DO instead!! Like maybe: "Hi, Im Fred, but after dark I crossdress and become Francine, and I like sex with other crossdressers..." Or: "Hi Im Sandy. I was a man but transitioned to a woman. I enjoy being in charge during sex with other women..." I bet itd only take you a second to think of multiple personas that wouldnt "fit" the common terms!!!

So I imagine that lots of lgbt/sjw types and transitiong folks will hate on me now, and thats certainly not my goal, but I expect it. (I enjoy discussion btw, so dont just sling hate and leave....!!) I have had this discussion waaaay too many times(literally 100+) with gurls neck-deep in angst and confusion over nothing!! My major point here is that NOBODY should give a second thought to whether they fit into a group defined by someone else. Its ok to fall into one, or a few different categories. But you shouldnt care!!! You have better things to think about, like a date or a new pair of heels!!

So... one more time: IT DOESNT MATTER!!!

Be your beautiful self and have fun. Enjoy life, and focus on that, not other people's terms and opinions!!!!!❤

💋-Sis

(And then I hashtag a bunch of labels!!)

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So now reality enters, and there seem to be challenges to Barbi's goals... Now what?? Lets hear some options and solutions!!!

Ill be throwing out my own shortly...

❤-Sis💋

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So...Barbi, our fictional aspiring gurl, made a goal. Now lets turn it into mini goals, or tasks...

First, she wants to be a passable CD. How?

A) Buy lingerie, outfits, shoes etc.*

1)Online shopping

2) In store purchases

B) Buy makeup, wigs, etc...*

C) Get makeup assistance.. From:

1) other gurls

2) women, gf, family if possible

3) online videos

4) makeover services*

D) Practice!! It takes time to feminize to a passable degree, from makeup to walking in heels, etc, so this will require an investment of lots of time!!

* none of this is cheap. Having a gurl wardrobe costs money. So the shopping can/should be broken down into even smaller chunks depending on your budget. The key here is to follow through. Even if its $20 a week, always buy somthing you need!!!

Next, she wants to go out. But its not that simple, so....

A) Find local gurl-friendly places.

B) Find other local gurls to go with.

1) Online sites like FetLife

2) Network!! One gurlfriend can lead to many more...

She also wants to be sexually explorative...

A) This requires a bit of relationship development. Again online sites are a great place to start. (Insert typical safety warnings here...)

B) Again, network!!

C) Self exploration- By learning more about your desires and exploring them before doing so with others will give you a better understanding of what you want, what you dont want, and when that first moment comes, it wont be full of suprises...

So far weve just taken a seemingly simple goal and briken it down into over a dozen separate actions, which could/should be broken down even further. And then, we need to apply a timeline to each, so that there's always progress happening. Set them realistically, but dont give too much time. Keep pushing yourself to get things accomplished!! And reward yourself for "on-time, underbudget"!!!

So while this is just a quickie post to show how goals and steps towards them can be broken down, theres much more to it of course. We will revisit this, adding the challenges, and remedys in the future...

❤-Sis💋

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