#cause it's also clear people come out with their own interpretation and other people jsut reaffirm to not deviate from being involved in

[dirhwangdaseul-archived]

@iitsay god the fandom is as stupid as the writers because i guarantee you this writing came out of the usual superficial understanding of "mature romance" where apparently cheating is just the goddamn rule of the land and like apparently we should discuss this shit without discussing the 180 of teh basically being an entirely different person too from the person who loved ohaew but somehow his arc involves not dealing well with change and he's not noticing how much he's also changing????? like that's just the most obvious clue that the boy is being written by goddamn clowns and like maybe teh's big introspective moments with be cathartic or some shit but what does it matter with such a huge oversight and with the usage of devices that just speak of the writers themselves just leaning on the most toxic tropes of the genre, like it all depends on how they deal with it but this is the romance genre and cheating in the romance genre is still seen as a bump in the road and not the fucking trauma it is for someone to have a loved one destroy their trust like that

like since im already ranting i have to say this also demonstrates shit that i always have thought when it comes to seeing this particular kind of story happen but i just don't think some writers have experienced love not even familial or friendship love, cause whenever there's someone who changes and suddenly the other person find them hard to love and so they simply let go of that person or the conflict arises from someone not wanting to change it just tells me that these people have never actually loved a person consciously in the first place and so if they have loved they have loved just a ghost, an image, a perception, is what they hold on to and it's clear that's the issue to deal with in that kind of storytelling, at least to me that's where the conflict should find its solution and development, "why is change so hard? why do people change? why can't i deal with it? have i changed? if i change so much i am me or can i be anybody else?" idfk but like that rarely happens

a breakup is always expected, obviously, and with a good writer, the nuance of finding each other again is also mixed with the promise of doing better to deal with change , but with bad writers, it's like they never talk about it and they just pretend they're the people they always were and so they get together and it ends??? and as audience are we supposed to accept these people actually see each other as people???? and lately if that isn't the case to me i just don't think there's love not a real one, and we all love images of each other like that's not really it, personally i don't believe reality is sth that exists till we find each other and talk cause we just exist within interpretations of the world around us, but how conscious we're of it and how much we actually let people be comfortable with us it's important and this particular narrative line, talking about change its very hard to get because it involves a question of identity, love is tied to that idk why these writers pretend it isn't just to get the views i know but like i am so tired of people that don't give a fuck about this writing it like better don't touch on it cause i just don't think romance in general has a good precdent of explorations of identity, specially from a thai bl which are usually drowning in sponsorships so....