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Why My Tagline?

Why Dear Beautiful Girl as my tagline? Why Hello Beautiful? I believe that everyone is beautiful in their own way - you just have to be willing to look for it. In every single person you meet there is going to be one thing, at least one, one quality or characteristic - something - that makes them special and unique and beautiful. So why are we all so stuck on first impressions? Why do we get so stuck on the few qualities we dislike, while ignoring the redeeming qualities about a person? It's easy for someone to annoy or bother you and have that cloud your judgement. One simple incident can color how you view a person for a long time. No matter what they do or say afterwards may help. What would happen if, when someone gave us a negative impression, we looked for something good and positive in them? What if we did this for everyone we met, but especially those whom all we saw was bad? What would the world be like then?

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Compliments.

Compliments. Why is it so important that when we give compliments they are about someone's physical beauty? Why do we always compliment the clothes people wear or how their makeup or hair looks? Why is it more important to let someone know that their eyes or smile is beautiful rather than their heart? There are so many things that I find beautiful about the people I know, but the things I find the most beautiful go beyond their physical appearance to the beauty that is inside them. From a young age we teach children that appearance is important. At school teachers chide children about their appearance - berating them for getting extremely dirty or having unkempt hair. We bombard youth with this need for physical appearance to be perfect. Between our words and the images they are constantly exposed to it is no wonder that they grow up to put an emphasis on compliments that deal with physical beauty. However, once we begin to educate ourselves and the upcoming generations on loving every part of themselves it will be easier to see past the physical when giving out compliments. I find that the most heartfelt compliments are those that mean something. It means more to me when someone compliments my personality and character than when someone says something nice about my physical appearance. So remind those around you that they are amazing friends, that they are honest, trustworthy, kind, and generous. That you appreciate how much they listen and their big hearts. These are the little things that make us all beautiful. Beauty is not defined by the size of your jeans or a number on a scale. Beauty disregards age and race and gender. Beauty is something that comes from within. It is the light that shines in each of us. Let your light shine. Help someone's light to grow. Compliment them in such a way that you help someone's light to shine brighter. Make compliments mean something again. You have such a beautiful heart. Share it with the world.

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Dear Beautiful Girl...

"For love is the beauty of the soul." - St. Augustine With self image issues come a plethora of other issues. I am dealing with my own self image issues, but because of these issues I have low self esteem, low self confidence, low self worth, self loathing... and many more. Almost all of my issues and feelings of inadequacy stem from the dislike I have held for my physical appearance. I constantly compared myself to others whom I believed were somehow "better" than me. But is beauty simply skin deep? How do we measure how beautiful someone is? Is it only based on how our physical appearance? I have never believed that to be true. I knew there was more to a person than simply their good looks that made them beautiful. I know that how people are - their qualities, characteristics, quirks - how they treat others, how they think and act... All these things are just as important as physical beauty, if not more so. Having a kind or generous or patient spirit is a beautiful thing. Being a trustworthy or loyal or loving individual is beautiful thing. Making others smile or laugh or simply happy is beautiful. How many of us have heard that even the most beautiful woman in the world can be made ugly by a horrid personality? I certainly have. I have met people before - both male and female - that no matter how physically attractive they are, I find myself turned off by the awful qualities that they exhibited. Cruelty, greed, jealousy, maliciousness... all of these qualities can make a person ugly. Maybe not physically ugly, but certainly their spirit would be ugly. So instead of picking apart yourself piece by piece, try something that I am also doing. Write something BEAUTIFUL about yourself on a post it note and put it up on your mirror, wall, or door. Everything about us is beautiful, especially those things that make us different from others around us. Here's mine for today: I have a beautiful heart. It cares for others immensely.

What's yours?