#but to completely erase canon evidence of his nurturing moments just rubs me the wrong way

[threestripeslider]

hi i know this was a few days ago but i just saw your post about the rottmnt fandom parentifying raph and i reckon you hit the nail on the head. esp since raph is literally 1-2 years older than his brothers????? this isn’t a case of “eldest sibling left to take care of far younger ones in lieu of responsible parent”, this is “eldest sibling looks out for slightly younger siblings because that’s just what siblings Do”, even if he’s leaning a bit on the overprotective side.

see that wouldnt bother me as much if it didnt come at the cost of erasing all of Raph‘s personality.

bc it probably is true that he picked up some slack, that he gained an overprotective streak in a clumsy attempt to help Splinter so he wouldnt have to worry as much. Splinter is no saint; depression and trauma changes people, you get lost in your head more often than not, some days you dont even wanna move, but you have to bc there are four little lives depending on you. but to take this part of Splinter and make it his whole personality completely erases the fact that he loves his sons fiercely and it is that love that keeps him from committing to their training fully since a lot of grievances are tied to his upbringing under the Hamato name.

obviously ppl are free to project and cope with media how they like, that ain’t any of my business and thats what fanworks are for, but it‘s gotten to the point that it‘s become such a widely accepted fanon that ppl perceive as canon and THAT is what grates on me. Raph looking out for his brothers and being worried about his father‘s increasing distance from them has somehow turned into „the bros call Raph Dad and Splinter doesnt care about them“ which is literally one of the WORST cases of media illiteracy i had to witness. it‘s like ppl cant accept that Splinter wasnt 100% perfect or 100% evil and literally just is an okay-ish parent who‘s trying his best and made a lot of mistakes but there is no question that he genuinely loves his kids very much.

[thatlovelydove]

#turtle files: ask#like ppl are literally not required to like him#i totally understand when you dont#but to completely erase canon evidence of his nurturing moments just rubs me the wrong way#doesnt help that he is a parent of color and they already get judged harshly enough as is

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EXACTLY!!!!

hi i know this was a few days ago but i just saw your post about the rottmnt fandom parentifying raph and i reckon you hit the nail on the head. esp since raph is literally 1-2 years older than his brothers????? this isn’t a case of “eldest sibling left to take care of far younger ones in lieu of responsible parent”, this is “eldest sibling looks out for slightly younger siblings because that’s just what siblings Do”, even if he’s leaning a bit on the overprotective side.

see that wouldnt bother me as much if it didnt come at the cost of erasing all of Raph‘s personality.

bc it probably is true that he picked up some slack, that he gained an overprotective streak in a clumsy attempt to help Splinter so he wouldnt have to worry as much. Splinter is no saint; depression and trauma changes people, you get lost in your head more often than not, some days you dont even wanna move, but you have to bc there are four little lives depending on you. but to take this part of Splinter and make it his whole personality completely erases the fact that he loves his sons fiercely and it is that love that keeps him from committing to their training fully since a lot of grievances are tied to his upbringing under the Hamato name.

obviously ppl are free to project and cope with media how they like, that ain’t any of my business and thats what fanworks are for, but it‘s gotten to the point that it‘s become such a widely accepted fanon that ppl perceive as canon and THAT is what grates on me. Raph looking out for his brothers and being worried about his father‘s increasing distance from them has somehow turned into „the bros call Raph Dad and Splinter doesnt care about them“ which is literally one of the WORST cases of media illiteracy i had to witness. it‘s like ppl cant accept that Splinter wasnt 100% perfect or 100% evil and literally just is an okay-ish parent who‘s trying his best and made a lot of mistakes but there is no question that he genuinely loves his kids very much.