#but they're like 'well we had a square so the marriage is good :)' and genuinely believe that

[irregularbillcipher]

i write gus and clem being mostly sweet and happy and functional to make up for the fact that every other marriage in the flatland fic is absolutely fucking miserable

[minisvle]

𝐀𝐒𝐓𝐑𝐎 𝐓𝐈𝐏𝐒 ༄⋆✧`° I .⋆♧︎︎︎

hello everyone! this post is just a lil about (some of) the asteroids <3

✧ 𝐊𝐈𝐒𝐒 𝐀𝐒𝐓𝐄𝐑𝐎𝐈𝐃

the kiss asteroid (8267) can show how you kiss! when in aspects with euros (positively) it's the greatest 💋

ect., my kiss is in taurus at 10° which means i have capricorn - so i think id be a very soft, sensual kisser then grow hungry (THIS IS SO WEIRD TALKING ABOUT IT).

✧ 𝐄𝐑𝐎𝐒

the eros asteroid (433) can determine what brings you the most pleasure and how to live the best s3x life. positive aspects with kiss is once again, exquisite

etc., my eros is at aries with 25° which is an aries degree. i can gather that im very passionate and i probably really enjoy some fucked up shit.

✧ 𝐆𝐑𝐎𝐎𝐌 / 𝐁𝐑𝐈𝐄𝐃𝐄

these asteroids (5129 & 19209) can actually determine what your future spouse may look like or personality traits!! i think that's so adorable

etc., my groom is in capricorn at 22° so he's very much a capricorn. his personality could be organised, hardworking and practical or he could have capricorn facial features maybe a broad/moon face and high cheekbones.

etc., my briede is in aries at 20° which means she has scorpio qualities as well. she'd be very passionate, private and genuine person or she'd have aries or scorpio facial features maybe a prominent forehead or small eyes.

✧ 𝐀𝐏𝐇𝐑𝐎𝐃𝐈𝐓𝐄

the aphrodite asteroid (1388) is an asteroid that can represent pleasure and your relations to your physical body.

etc., my aphrodite is an aquarius at 20° which has scorpio energy. so like I said before with euros, im probably really fucking freaky.

✧ 𝐀𝐃𝐎𝐍𝐈𝐒

it's really cute how i did adonis after aphrodite (guess whose next... persephone!) the adonis asteroid (2101) means a lot of things - it can be how people are attracted to you/jealous of you for, qualities you may have and your ideal male!

etc., my adonis is in libra at 2° and it couldn't be more accurate. men who have good sense of self expression but they're also warm and loving but still has ambition? 💋. CHEF KISS.

✧ 𝐏𝐄𝐑𝐒𝐄𝐏𝐇𝐎𝐍𝐄

the persephone asteroid (399) wherever she is place in your chart can mean a place we look at and discover for ourselves where we feel taken advantage of or captive.

my persephone is in sagittarius at 18° which means there's virgo energy - it makes sense. it's squared with my saturn (virgo) which could possibly mean i need to let go of the little things and have more fun with myself/people/environment.

✧ 𝐉𝐔𝐍𝐎

the juno asteroid (3) is the sign of marriage, commitment and soulmates i believe this is means more of what house its in. but here we gooo

my juno is in sagittarius at 28° so that means it has cancer aspects. im guessing my soulmate is going to be fucking hilarious but still sweet and genuine

i also heard that if your juno is in your 5th house it could very well likely mean your childhood crush is/was your soulmate..... tell me why my juno is in 5H. now tell me why my childhood crush had a lot of sagittarius energy but still had the softness of cancer. TELL ME WHY.

ahjaj i miss him

⋆.ೃ࿔*:･⋆.ೃ࿔*:･⋆.ೃ࿔*:･⋆.ೃ࿔*:･ 𝐎𝐓𝐇𝐄𝐑 !

also if a name appears a lot in your life go to astro.com and see if there's an asteroid named after them to see if that affects your life!

the letter j affects my life a lot (specifically this one name) and ive searched it up and this name falls into the 3H which means communicating, and it's true. i communicate with this person a lot and probably will for a long long time

hiii this is just a lil info, there's so many more out there and this is only a brief explanation!! btw this is just how i interpret it and if it doesn't resonate then it doesn't (sorry) im in no way a professional, this is just for a lil fun <333

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[morethanthatfic]

Just be honest, do you think Jim and Pam are a healthy couple? I know they're not the best and superior of the show, but I would like to know how good of a match are they after a heated fight with some online peers.

I am admittedly biased but yes I do.

The trend right now seems to be watching The Office and trying to find fault with every little thing Jim and Pam did (especially Pam) and problems in their relationship. But as far as a couple that started off as a will-they-won’t-they on a sitcom they are pretty healthy, even during their troubles in the final season.

I’m sure some people point to their messy beginnings as a sign that they aren’t a healthy relationship, but during the messiness of Pam feeling stuck in her actually very unhealthy relationship with Roy as Jim can only watch and pine is something very important: Pam and Jim are friends, they genuinely like each other. Jim is physically attracted to Pam of course, but he also likes her sense of humor, her warmth, her talents, and Pam feels the same for Jim. So when they do finally get the timing right (timing is arguably the biggest, most important theme in the Jim and Pam story) they have that solid foundation of friendship. The other important thing in their messy getting-together is that 3rd angsty season. Pam for a lot of reasons was not in the right place to start a relationship with Jim after Casino Night, she needed that year to learn who she was outside of a relationship and learn how to look to herself for validation rather than to others. Jim notably says he’d save the receptionist but ultimately the receptionist has to save herself (and Pam does).

Now to them actually being a couple. So many shows throw wrenches in the works with their couples to keep the drama up and the plot interesting (we don’t even need to look further than the Office for examples as Dwight & Angela and Erin & Andy are always making up and breaking up for contrived reasons) but once Pam and Jim got together, the show (wisely, I think) largely left them alone and let their relationship progress at a natural pace without manufactured drama. With their strong friendship foundation we see Jim and Pam become a loving and healthy couple in S4. They support each other, they love each other’s company but they still give each other enough space to be their own person, they tease each other a bit and give each other a hard time but it’s always playful and loving and never to cut the other one down (unlike Roy’s teasing of Pam and even on occasion Karen’s teasing of Jim). Pam and Jim’s great strength as a couple is how well they know each other and are in tune with each other. They know what the other is feeling and thinking just from a look. They’re so in tune that when things are even the tiniest bit off they immediately and deeply feel it, like the episode when Pams in New York and their phone calls keep getting interrupted, resulting in them calling each other and leaving virtually the same voicemails.

As many issues as the show had by its 8th season, Jim and Pam’s relationship is still very healthy and loving. It’s a little worrisome when Pam gets hung up on Jim just admitting already he finds Cathy attractive, but the episode finished with them learning Jim has high blood pressure and Pam realizing how dumb her hang up is and instead wanting to get Jim to a doctor. People want find fault in Pam for this storyline but this is how sitcoms often work, a character makes a mistake, antics ensue, character learns their lesson by the end.

There’s a great deleted scene from later in the season that I think beautifully illustrates the strength and health of their relationship which is this scene of Pam calling Jim in Florida when Cathy is in his room.

Pam’s thrown off when Cathy answers the phone, but she calmly asks Jim what’s up and Jim answers using a little coded language to communicate Cathy invited herself and won’t leave. Pam doesn’t respond with any accusations or insist on having words with Cathy, she actually kind of amused at the situation Jim’s found himself in and trusts him completely to handle it.

Now remember when I said Pam and Jim’s great strength is their non-verbal communication, how in sync they are and well they know what the other is thinking and feeling from a look? They depend on this almost too much, to the point that when they actually need to verbalize their feelings and communication they struggle. This weakness rears it ugly head in Season 9. The opportunity to join Athlead comes up and together they decide no, but then Jim decides unilaterally to join anyway. It’s not a stretch to imagine Jim didn’t communicate at the start how interested he was in Athlead, we’ve seen before Jim will talk himself right out of things if he overthinks them resulting in his impulsive streak. And maybe Jim could have salvaged it by telling Pam then and communicating how important it is to him but instead he convinces himself not to tell Pam “until it’s real”. This sets off a whole string of Jim makings decisions without Pam and Pam feeling she had no choice but to just try to keep up and feeling inadequate when she starts falling behind. Jim is normally so in tune with Pam he knows right away when she’s upset or having a hard time but he gets so wrapped up in Athlead he fails to see Pam is struggling.

As many problem as the Athlead storyline had writing-wise, it was pretty bold to take Jim and Pam, the sweet dependable heart of the show, and put their marriage to a real test. We are not used to a sitcom couple having a real sustained conflict like this where there’s no bad guy (much as people want to put the blame squarely on one of them, typically Pam, they both handle it poorly) and where the conflict isn’t exaggerated to a comedic effect. I assume this is the point that your peers want to call Jim and Pam an unhealthy couple, and they do have trouble and start getting into some unhealthy habits (namely avoidance), but what would be unhealthy is to just let the issues go unaddressed until it’s too late. Another thing about sitcoms and love stories is they so often end when the couple gets together, giving the false impression the work is over. But relationships and marriage take work, they need all parties to be actively participating and learning and growing to last. Jim and Pam reach a crossroads where they can just keep going as they are and drift apart or they can “stay and fight” and that’s the choice they make, which is the healthy choice.