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gauravp01 · 3 years ago

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Sun/Mon, 17/18 Apr 2022, 12:04 am

It was a nice day, but little disturbing to know about some incident during the evening walk. Don't know what is the thinking of boys these days. "All men are same"; this slang is used many times by the girls or by others. This is, I think true upto some extent. There are some exceptions, but I am saying this because everyone is grown up in the same society and the same level of mentality is infused in each of us. To be specific, the patriarchal society. We, the men, are made feel since the childhood that we are very special and we should do whatever we want, be it ethical, moral or not.

The boys are treated in a way that they subconsciously start feeling themselves stronger than the women. Which is, I know, true only upto some extent because of the muscular power or the harmonal differences. But that that doesn't make up superior to the women. I literally don't know what to say but the mind is not so quiet rn. Sometimes not having the authorities makes us feel helpless. Hm chahte hue bhi kuch nhi kr pate h.

When we are stuck between two situations, both have negative outcomes, then I think we should always go for the one with less worse outcome.

One more thing is there that girls should be taught to fight agains some unwanted situation. I already have mixed up everything but I don't know where to start and where to end. If I tell you the actual incident, it's about taking pictures of sister of a female friend of mine by some strangers (boys) in a library. Aur jb se is bare m suna h, thoda dimag ashant sa h aur ye soch rha hu k kese in chizo se deal kia jana chahie. Kyuki sch btau to hm ladke h na, jyada in chizo ko face nhi krna padta, to km hi ye sb sochne ka mauka mil pata h.

BTW, She is so young that this has scared her like hell. She could not even see their faces due to fear, and hence could not recognise them in the cctv footage as well. In such a situation a legal help may be considered. But if talked to them directly, this may solve the matter or may even worsen it. This is what the boys need to be taught about. I seriously have no clear idea what should be done in such a situation. If I put myself on the girl's place, then I think I could confront them directly and could have asked them to not to do so again. I might have warned them about police, but this could hurt their ego and they might have taken some other step against me. But at the same time, this could have crushed their confidence and maybe they won't repeat it again. It has both the possibilities.

The other scenario is to not to do anything. This will boost up their morale and will keep looking for more girls or maybe more chances to tease the same girl.

Obviously, the girls need to be aware that this is the reality and they should know how to deal with it. But when something happens with you very first time, you are not in a situation to understand the thing and hence acting accordingly.

But why don't we tell the boys to respect the girls and to respect their feelings and emotions. In the beginning I said that all the men are same, that means everyone has same character, but in different ratios. This ratio should be well maintained for a peaceful society.

And there are multiple ways these days to calm down your harmonal imbalances. If you want some pictures or anything, then go for them online. See the pictures or videos of the girls who share them intentionally, you know what I mean. Jo tumhare andr jyada hi hormones imbalance ho rhe h, wo online shant kr lo na yr apne phone pe.

These are the things which make you feel ashamed of being in such a society or maybe being a boy too. Arey ldko sudhar jao, saare ldko ki izzat khrab ho rkhi h wese hi phle se. Kya kr rhe ho bhai. Thoda pdo likho, desh ka naam roshan kro, kyu dusro ki photos leke khush ho rhe ho.

Yr in chizo m na, laws may help but change mentality se hi aega. Aur sch ye h k wo ek raat m nhi, blki gradually aega bahut time lgega. But we should understand that everyone has their own life and we should let them live the way they want. Is trh se kisi ko preshan krke kya milega bhai. Now see, you approached that girl for this nonsense. Who was affected by this. I am writing about it, arem to us ldki ko janta bhi nhi hu, but still I am feeling bad nah. So think about the family of that girl. When you disturb someone mentally, it's not about a day or week. It disturbs for years. Bhai saalo lg jaate h in chizo se bahr aane m. Hmara kya h, hm to kisi ko preshan krke aage nikl lenge dusra "Shikaar" dhudhne. But what about them?? Men should think about it. Who thinks these acts as a 'Mardaana Harqat', you must think again about you to be a 'Mard'.

Is sab m to m bhul hi gya k aaj Maa-papa ki anniversary thi. They have entered into the 28th year today. Many congratulations 💞

No party or celebration... Just ordered some dinner and it was enough.

Aur haa, I had ordered a burger and a chocolate shake in the evening. Got he burger and the Straw only. Was I supposed to eat the burger with the straw???? There was no shake😂

Then asked for the refund the got after some argument with the executive.

Now I will have to sleep, bcz I have an appointment with the dentist, and maybe ye phle bhi bta chuka hu m.

Aur pta nhi upr bht kuch likh dia h jo jo mn m tha, jyada socha bhi nhi k acha Bura kya likha h ..baad m khud padhunga to lgega k mene ye kb likh dia...

Good Night ✨

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