#but she'd also send non-anon hate

[velvetvexations]

This Warless Weekend...I accidentally broke the one rule of Warless Weekend sending "Maya Henry is in fact a trans woman lol" to a TERF. Sigh. Forgive me, Velvet Nation.

The post was discovered because I was once again going through radblr looking for screenshots to prove beyond the shadow of the doubt that radfems hate even cis men, let alone trans men. It's going to be a multi-day affair because I want to include so many examples that when you click "read more" it'll be like unraveling an ancient scroll that drops to the floor and rolls down several flights of stairs in a cartoon.

I've also been debating a radfem who's not...the TERFiest? Hard to classify someone who thinks private spaces should be sex-segregated for now but corrects anons who misgender me and believes radfems shouldn't be so hostile to trans women* because they're "allies of the feminist revolution." My only concern is that my (mostly AFAB trans!) followers would see me interacting with someone who has those radfemmy beliefs in a way that isn't pure hostility and be made to feel unsafe as a result. I have no illusions that his radical feminist beliefs are harmful. But am I being too nice, regardless? I've been personally convinced he sincerely holds beliefs that makes other radfems hate him, thus the anon he got misgendering me and saying he should stop talking to me because I'm a homophobe.** Sometimes good people get praxis wrong.

And TRFs will say "ooh, look at Velvet, being courteous to people who self-identify as radfems, she'd never do that for transfems she slanders as TRFs." First of all, I think a lot of non-transfems are TRFs. Secondly, I do do that for TRFs, all the fucking time! As with anyone else when they're not just horribly cruel I do actually go to extreme lengths to be polite, approaching them as a submissive doormat of a person, offering the most politely worded but in-depth critique of their bullshit you could possibly imagine. I've started several posts of such a nature with "please take this in good faith" and at least once I've DM'd someone after reblogging them to go the extra mile assuring them I'm not trying to take a swing at them.

I think talking to people is good and healthy and should be encouraged, idk. That doesn't go for someone who thinks all trans women are monsters who want to abuse Trve Wymbyn, or that all trans men are deluded victims/fetishisers of cis gay men/escaping into privilege.*** Most radfems, like outright conservatives, are 100% bugfuck evil and do not deserve anything other than mockery and scorn. But if there's a chance you might be able to connect with an intellectually and morally honest person who seems to be going for what they truly believe is best for everyone...I think you should go for it.

I desperately want to believe people when it seems like they're really honestly trying out of sincere moral impulses and are truly capable of treating others with respect rather than it being an enemy psyop. I'm trying to not let my fear of being gullible deter me from offering my hand to people when our differences might be bridgeable.

*and other trans people, plus those who are dysphoric but do not consider themselves trans

**I believe they were referring to when I said homosexuality was also an atypical arousal pattern in response to someone pointing at a basic ass furry to say trans people were ridden with paraphilias

***I just realized how diverse the "explanations" for AFAB trans people are. With how much transphobia relies on being offensive to Trve Wymbyn you have to get creative to explain why it's also bad when one of their own contracts the mind virus and it's so obviously completely incoherent

[angelhummel]

1 Finn, Brittany, Will

1. Stab, shoot, drown

omg this is so fucking funny I got two for the same characters 😭 It's so sweet that you guys are so tuned into who I hate and want to give me a chance to talk about it

Also with these three things, only drowning has to be fatal. You could non fatally stab or shoot someone. But that won't be the case here lmao. Hiding this under a cut bc it could be an upsetting topic and I wanna add another layer of unreadability just to make sure anyone who reads it really did do it by their own choice. Also obviously this is about the characters, not the actors. It should go without saying but... y'know

Stab - Finn. It's very personal. I would meet him in the parking garage at the airport when he got home from NY in 4x16. I would tell him "this is for Brody xx" before stabbing him in the stomach and holding him as he bled out

Shoot - Will. Honestly first one could be a warning shot. Shoot him in the foot and say "pay equal attention to all your students or next time it'll be fatal" or whatever. And if he didn't heed my warning then I'd just shoot him in the head. Get it over with quickly, put him out of his misery

Drown - Brittany. Also very personal. I'd invite her to go swimming at the lake late one night. Let her live out her best dolphin fantasy. And then I'd drag her under and keep her there until she stopped moving. Wouldn't take long tho, she'd probably forget she couldn't breathe underwater 🤷🏼‍♀️

Hmm this was dark but fun. Ty anons!

send me three characters and a number!

[nocturnal-dreams]

I might take this down later tonight so if you want to screenshot it so you can use my words against me like in 2 months again go the fuck ahead but I've heard so many anons going on my account that I will not be responding to because well I really couldn't give less of a fuck. Anons are pissed off at me for multiple reasons. While its 1am and I'm kind of drunk, I feel like I can quickly explain myself.

⚠️ Stop reading now if you really couldn't give a damn ⚠️

➖Okay so I've seen a lot of people pissed off at me for writing for c!Schlatt. Now I completely agree that you can be mad at Schlatt, he's said some fucked up things but to be attacking his fans and the people who are a fan of his character, no that's fucked up and if you're a follower of mine and hate on Schlatt fans, you can kindly fuck off, you're no follower of mine. Look I'm sorry but I'm not gonna stop writing for a character that I enjoy because the internet isnt a fucking perfect picket white fence.

Another thing related to Schlatt is JustAMinx or the chuckle sandwich crew in general but I'll just talk about Minx. I'm still gonna write for her since I genuinely enjoy her content. Do I like that she's friends with Kacey? Absolutely not but Minx is an adult and it's up to her to make her own choices. Do I wish she'd not support Kacey, absolutely but once again she's an adult and its up to her to be responsible when looking at who she's to be friends with

➖Okay number 2, my dress pictures or just the pictures I post of my irl life in general. I've been getting a lot of hate anons lately that are mad at me for wearing a dress because people think I'm faking being non-binary for clout, shut the fuck up. I can wear my packer and binder and I'm still gonna be non-binary, what's so different about me wearing a fucking dress that shows a little cleavage? Grow the fuck up

Another few anons I've been getting are about my weight in the photos, people claiming they're worried about my health, no bro you're just being a dick. Look I am afab and I have a little thing called a uterus, now something that this uterus causes me to do is bloating, but I also have a thing called tits. Now I dont know if you knew this but porn stars may have huge fucking tits and no fat but you know what that is? That's surgeries and dieting to one piece of food every week. Now do I feel like doing any of that? Fuck no, I'm confident in my body and I'll wear whatever the fuck I want no matter my size.

So here's for you fucks:

➖Number 3, some people are mad at me for keeping myself private? I made a post like 2 months ago I think now telling people that they dont know me, they only know what I wish to tell them and that I like to live a private life. The reason for this post? Because I had an anon send me a ask of my exact location and birth name, I am safe dont worry but the second that happened, I felt like I needed to set some kind of boundary because that was fucking creepy especially because at that time, I was living with my friend and her two year old daughter.

In that post I said "I care about all of you guys but I dont know you and you dont know me, what I say is what I choose to tell you guys." People took that is me referring to everyone as a number, once again my words being taken out of context

➖Number 4, look I'm not a licensed therapist so stop treating me like I am one. I'm human to and need my breaks. You can message me and send me as ask if you need somewhere to vent but how about we dont get pissed off at me if I dont answer immediately or if my advice isn't good enough. I dont have all the answers, I try to help with the knowledge that I have.

Also please put a trigger warning at the start of your ask, it just helps me be able to filter everything better and also stops people if they skim read and might be put into a bad place, it's just so helpful to do and it takes two seconds

➖Number five, calling me a groomer for interacting with minors...

*inhale* WHAT?! So you're telling me that me supporting talented writers who happen to be minors and being someone they can talk to and be like a parental figure to is me being a groomer? Huh?!

I'm sorry but that is completely bullshit, want to see a groomer? Look at someone like James Charles or Onison, get your head out of your ass

➖Number 6, the one that pisses me off the most. "You dont write enough", do you really think in any kind of small pea brain mind that people being rude to me about not writing enough is gonna make me want to write more? I took a break from writing in the first place because people were being dicks to me about it, saying oh you spelt this wrong, or this is so cringy, or stop making the person ooc.

I write for myself and I'm gonna be honest, I have many finished drafts and fic ideas but I dont want to post them because well I'm tired of being shitted on for every minor mistake.

➖look I'm not a perfect person and have never tried to come across as one. I fuck up and I'm sure you do too. At this rate with all the hate anons recently, I'm very close to turning off anon asks or just asks in general. But I don't want to do that because my anon asks are for people who want to vent but want to stay anonymous and I feel like that would take away that security of I turned it off.

Just let people exist and get your head out of your ass

[greenorangevioletgrass]

So far at work today:

- I had to go dumpster diving because someone put garbage into the cardboard recycling container and cardboard recycling into the garbage container. Did I mention it rained the night before and the lids were left open even though they were supposed to be closed?

- Our power was out for the first two hours we were open. People blamed it on us and got angry at us for, "ruining their day" because they couldn't go shopping.

- I was told to do price changes in a certain department. Another associate was doing price changes in a different department. Based off of my previous retail experience working for a different company, I find it easier to just scan everything in the department instead of following a list to see if it's clearance or not. I started marking down clearance the way I do it, then got yelled at by a manager because, "that's not the way it's done around here." The other associate in the other department had been doing clearance markdowns the way it's "supposed to be done", but then as soon as the other manager was done yelling at me, the other associate said that she'd been having a difficult time with her department and wanted to know if she could just scan everything instead of following the list (you know, they way I was doing it.) The manager praised the other associate and told me I should do it her way. (You know, the way I was doing it.)

- I had to help clean up after a family who used our bathroom (which is closed to the public btw and requires a pin to let you in). I should note that the bathroom has three stalls inside of it. Somehow, a family of four got into the bathroom and left, uh how shall I put this, number #1, number #2, and blood all over the floor and wall after being told to put masks on. I fucking hate people.

- Since about 11:00 a.m, we've had a non-stop line at the registers (but I'm the only associate in the store not trained on registers so I had to remain on the floor). When people asked me to order stuff online for them, I had to tell them to go to the registers unless they ordered it from their phone, which I was glad to help them with. Three people have flipped me off and two out of those three people knocked over large displays because they were told answers they didn't want to hear.

- An older larger woman asked me to push her around on our carts. Not a wheel chair, but a cart that we use to push merchandise around on, so it's large. Both my manager and myself told her and her daughter (?) no, but the daughter went into the stockroom, got one of the carts, and was pushing her mother(?) around on it until our general manager had to come in on her day off and tell them to leave (she also helped clean up all the messes from the previous customers).

So yeah, I'm having a rough day, I still have an hour left and I just want to go home and cuddle into someone AFTER getting a shower (or having me join them in the shower) but I'm a single pringle.

Also, I'm the work anon from a few days ago. I promise I didn't disappear.

Awwww nonnie that's so rough im so sorry to hear that 🙁 people are so fucking stupid and rude and honestly shame on them and their family and their cows

but anyway imma send you THIS from where i am

do give yourself a breather when you can, and i hope the rest of your day (night?) treats you well 💖

[dogsliampaynedoesntinstagram]

Hi, I hope you're well. I have a question completely unrelated to the fandom, but I'm hope if you're able to, you won't mind giving me some advice.

My child told me this weekend that he thinks he may be trans. He's 11, and him coming out as trans isn't a big surprise. He's not sure about anything yet but knows his assigned gender doesn't fit him. I thanked him for trusting me, told him we love him amd asked him a few questions to try and get an understanding of where he is.

But I'm not sure where to go from here? Can you perhaps recommend the best resources for an 11year old to learn and explore more? And for me as a parent to help me understand better and help him?

I've known for about 5years this may be coming. But I'm still so much more emotional about it than I thought I'd be. Mostly I'm worried about what he'll have to deal with in the future amd how much harder things may be for him.

Thanks for listening xx.

Sending you heaps of love anon. It's great that you're supporting your kid and reaching out.

The best resource for your kid is a life where they know other trans kids and trans adults. Knowing kids like him will make him feel less alone. Knowing adults like him will show him that he has a future. If you don't already have those networks then start building them. Obviously I don't know where you are and how easy that will be, but start thinking

I have another piece of advice that I think is quite important. You mention your worries for him - and that's very understandable. There are so many places where it's absolutely terrifying to be a trans person or to love a trans person right now.

It's really important that you're very careful with your worries about what he'll have to to deal with in the future and how much harder things will be are for you to process. When children face oppression that their parents don't share (which is true for a lot of queer people and also a lot of disabled people) well meaning parents can do real damage from a place of fear. From someone in a position of authority 'I want you to hide yourself from a society that hates you, because I don't want you to get hurt' is pretty indistinguishable from 'I want you to hide yourself because I agree with that hatred'.

One of the most important things you can do is acknolwedge your worries and find an outlet for them (one that won't amplify them) so that you can make sure you're not making your anxiety your kids problem. Your kid is the best decision maker in his own life - including how to navigate a world where there are people that hate him.

I'm going to end by telling you a story. On Thursday last week, a friend of mine messaged me that her eight year old had told her that they were non-binary. My friend messaged her kid's teacher letting her know. The teacher replied that she understood and she'd noticed that kid had said that their toy doll (that they take everywhere). As far as I know, the only response the kid has got to saying that they're non-binary is support and affirmation. The kid knows other non-binary kids and non-binary adults. New Zealand isn't some kind of utopia - it's not going to always be easy (and things could always get worse). But close family and community that accept them and the knowledge that people like them are part of their world will make an incredible difference.

I don't know where you are - I hope that doesn't feel like rubbing your nose in how difficult things are for your family. I shared it, because it's a vivid reminder that another world is possible - and in this case I watched trans people I know bring it about.

[angelhummel]

9. Kurt, Blaine, Rachel 📺

9. Watch a soap opera with, go to a play with, watch your favorite movie with

lol thank you for a non-dark one anon <3 much appreciated

Soap Opera - Kurt. I feel like mine and Kurt's favorite movies might match up more, but this would be a more fun viewing experience. Especially if we were just hate watching it and making dumb comments about it the whole time

Play - Blaine. Definitely feel like I'd be able to enjoy it most with him. And at least he wouldn't be singing along from the audience, or talking about how he would've done a better job in the show. It would just be a nice time, and we could have a friendly discussion about it later

Movie - Rachel. Yes she'd probably be singing along, but it would be at home so I would be too. Plus I also feel like I'd have similar tastes as Rachel as far as movies go, so we wouldn't argue about what to watch or anything

send me three characters and a number!