#but other than that they are just really codependent bestfriends

[ethan-acfan]

I was listening to Assassins Creed Lorecast podcast and one of the hosts said this about Rebecca and Shaun when she find out they are married. “Sir, that is a bisexual and a lesbian”.

That is so real oh my god

But while we are here, I do actually wanna talk about why I think Shaun and Rebecca got married

Oh, so I would assume that within the assassins brotherhood, marriage is a HUGE deal. Due to how often they put their lives at risk, nobody really wants to date or get married because often times thosr end with one of them dying, so if you do, you must REALLY love each other to risk that. But Shaun and Rebecca aren't exactly the type to love each other in that sense, so why would they get married.

The short answer, they trama bonded and became so codependent on each other that it was basically their only option. I would imagine that after losing both Lucy and Desmond, along with the shit show that happened in the temple, they ended up with an extreme codependency and would freak out if they couldn't find the other while worrying about if they had died.

So, while they don't love each other romantically, a combination of trauma and ptsd is the reason they even got married in the first place

[johnslittlespoon]

ok okokk i may be pushing it but i just cant stop picturing barry circa 2012 with leaving!bucky. i just feel like theyd have the cutest dynamic ever. he gives art student vibes like maybe hes studying film or literature. theyre childhood bestfriends and maybe they were eachother's homoerotic-codependent-friendship canon event. UGHH theyd be so cute stfuu. and maybe bucky and gale are already established and curt is just yearning for a whileee like over a year of slow burn until the three of them are a throuple... idk i just miss curtbuckbucky. you dont have to change your canon for the long fic i just needed to share this idea lmfao

au post | NO ur not pushing it this is such fun world building teehee <33 genuinely this is gonna help me later for drafting! (FUCK MY LIFE HOW IS THIS 2K WORDS. i thought i only had a few thoughts... i was so wrong. my bad chief. enjoy/suffer ig)

ok so this is so funny because i've actually been thinking ab how sweet those two would be together, cute little nerdy besties, and how they'd meet because of course curt has to be in this fic!!

and the first thing my mind went to was the cliche homoerotic codependent friendship trope too LMAO. i'm feeling like maybe they meet on the first day of highschool; neither of them share their english class with any friends, and they end up sat next to each other, and john keeps side–eyeing him because curt looks... interesting. (ie: deep into his emo phase. the fringe. the smudged eyeshadow. chipped black nail polish, band shirts– all things john does not let him live down as they grow up.)

but his eyes settle on some pin on curt's jacket that has some character from his favourite movie or something, and the yap jumps out, john can't control it. blurts out a "you like ___ too?!" and curt's head snaps over and he nods nervously and john takes one look at those big sad charcoal–ringed blue puppy eyes and is like yup. this is the one. will protect with my life.

(tiny headcanon that rly won't have a big effect on plot or anything, but i feel like it just fits very well with john/his character in leaving– dude's got madddd undiagnosed adhd. he's written off as a loud mouth/troublemaker in his childhood, but he wants to be a good kid, his mind is just always going too fast and sitting still is torture and his parents get frustrated and don't look into the root of the problem, trying to discipline it out of him instead. i will heal my inner child by healing him alright)

they're attached at the hip from that moment on and it makes sense to no one because they seem like complete opposites, curt more inclined towards the arts and bookish things and his friends are all the same, whereas john is more inclined towards athletics and science and hangs around that type of crowd as well. but they both love video games and movies and music and they bond over never really feeling like they fit in anywhere particular and both groups of friends get along just fine when they all get together. <3

but yk time goes on, they learn things about themselves as they grow up, and curt and john are so close and spend so much time together that they're already a lot closer than regular friends– they just don't realize it. they think nothing of cuddling up on the couch watching movies together, or sharing a bed when john stays over at curt's place after he gets into a fight with his parents, or being much more interested in spending time together than pursuing girls.

and curt's pretty– john nearly mistakes him for a girl that first day they meet. the summer before their senior year, john practically spends the whole summer at curt's house, and curt's mom doesn't mind; she works long hours and is glad her son isn't spending the summer moping around indoors alone, and she loves john and gets the feeling that her home is a sanctuary for him. one day they're in the backyard lazing around, and they get onto the topic of first kisses, and neither of them have had a proper relationship outside of those classic week–long middleschool flings that don't actually mean anything, so there's not much to talk about.

but being dumb teenage boys, they start worrying about "what if we're really bad at kissing and no girls wanna go with us to senior prom this year" etc. and one of them pops the suggestion of practicing together, and thus begins a summer of sweet stolen kisses and hand holding and experimenting and dancing around calling it something. it ends when the summer does because they realize that they both work better as friends, but they're as close as ever and both definitely learn they aren't straight (and they probably make a cute pact– "if we aren't in love by the time we're thirty, we'll just marry each other.")

i don't see them really doing much together because they're young and shy and inexperienced, but it's enough for john to decide that yeah, he definitely likes guys too, but that's all that really amounts to (until he meets gale) because he's growing up in a small town in wisconsin and it's not the easiest/most accepting place to find other queers. john probably ends up dating a real sweet girl during his last year of highschool, but she's going away for college and john's going to a local one so it ends amicably at the end of summer, both of them staying close friends. (if we wanna get sickeningly wholesome, maybe she ends up pining for a girl while john's pining for gale and they share their little stories and give each other advice and facetime every week to catch up <3)

(++ curt ends up falling head over heels for ken, who he meets through john when curt and john's friend groups get together for movie nights or summer parties. john pretends to be annoyed at how lovesick they are when they first start crushing, but he ends up matchmaking and being the one to push them to confess their feelings after graduation because he loves his friends.)

BUT THEN, leaving this fic's 'canon' to elaborate on the throuple stuff you said! i miss curtbuckbucky too </3

in a separate universe, curt doesn't end up with ken, and as much as he loves his friendship with john and agrees that a relationship wouldn't have worked at that time in their lives, he spends that first year of college pining. when john starts talking about some guy named gale during their second year, he's a little sad, but mostly protective, because "what do you MEAN he's in his 30s??" and "he's a BIKER?"

but john eventually introduces him to gale after a few months of telling curt about him, probably once he and gale actually start seeing each other, and curt immediately gets it. and then he's in double–hell because not only is he a bit (a lot) in love with his best friend, but he's blushing every time said best friend's new bf talks to him, and they're gonna notice eventually if they haven't already and he feels so guilty.

more yearning ensues and john is dense and doesn't realize but gale picks up on it, maybe even notices john doing a bit of pining of his own that john's not fully aware of. and his heart twists because his mind goes to his own insecurities about how john should be seeing someone his own age, so he sits john down and opens up a conversation about it. john is adamant that he's very, very happy with gale, but he tells gale about his and curt's past and admits that he has always still had feelings for him, but insists that it's not something he'd ever pursue, that he values curt's friendship more.

gale throws him off by saying he wouldn't mind if john wanted to explore those feelings, and at first john gets anxious gale is calling things off with the two of them and this is his way of softening the blow, but gale reassures him that's not the case, that he's very happy with their relationship. he just encourages that if he wants to talk to curt and feel things out, he wouldn't be opposed to john and curt seeing each other as well– gale's often busy, after all, so it would be nice for john to have someone else, as long as curt's comfortable with that kind of arrangement and as long as john keeps gale in the loop.

they decide to kinda just feel it out as they go, but soon enough gale starts coming home from work every so often to find the two of them curled up on his couch together, sweet and innocent. curt's wary at first, always slightly detaching himself from john when gale's around, but gale is always friendly and doesn't change up his routine, settling on the couch at john's other side like it's not a big deal at all, wanting to show curt he's welcome there, not wanting john to feel guilty.

it's another scenario where lines just sorta start to blur over time, curt spending a lot of time over at gale's house, and gale sees the way curt looks at him, probably noticed it from the first time they met but chalked it up to nerves at the time. curt's an angel and he's grown quite fond of him, but he doesn't want to overstep, so he leaves it up to curt, thinking maybe the boy will mention it to john one day and john will in turn come to gale to talk about it.

and eventually that happens, just like gale thought it might. curt's just gone home and john's head is in his lap on the couch while they watch tv, and john asks "what do you think about curt?" and gale tells him that he's sweet and he loves how much john smiles when he's around him, the usual. "so you like him?" john pushes, and gale immediately has a feeling where this conversation is going, drags his eyes away from the tv to look down at john.

says "of course" easily, and lets john take his time forming his thoughts. john ends up telling him that he and curt were fooling around earlier while gale was at work (and god help gale for the images that puts in his head) and that he'd made some offhand comment about how curt better hurry up if he doesn't want gale to come home and catch him half naked on their couch. and john's all shy when he says "and curt, uh. y'know. that... did it for him" with a vague gesture LOL. gale never fails to find it amusing how certain things can fluster john to talk about after all they've done together.

"so, anyway. i asked him about it after, if it was a coincidence, and he was real shy about it, but he did admit after a whole lot of apologizing that he likes you." gale listens to him nervously get his words out, petting his hair encouragingly, waits for him to be done before he asks "how do you feel about that?" only to watch the flush return when john mumbles "it's hot."

this is getting sooo long i need to take away my own typing privileges, but basically that's how things would start between the three of them– john and gale agree that gale will let himself be a bit flirty with curt and see how curt takes it. obviously this goes a little too well when curt gets hot and bothered sat between john and gale during a movie night with john's hand on his knee and gale's arm resting on the couch behind him while he plays with curt's hair.

the movie is forgotten when gale's finger catches on a tangled curl and curt doesn't bite back the little whine that slips out in time and john's head snaps over and he mumbles a "fuck" when he realizes what's happened, and his lack of filter comes out to play when he turns to curt and asks "curt, can gale kiss you?" and curt turns to gale with big doll eyes and nods.

john ends up palming himself over his shorts as he watches gale coax curt into his lap, face hot and pupils blown as he gets to see both his guys make out in front of him, almost dizzy seeing curt get so shy and needy and pliant because when it's just the two of them, he and curt are both very balanced in their dynamic. they've been such close friends for so long that not much gets the other truly shy like that, and they're always quick to voice their wants and crack jokes while fooling around and all. so to see curt get so flustered in that way with gale has him lightheaded, and by the time they all collapse into gale's bed at the end of the night, john's convinced this is the best decision he's ever made.

there's a lot of pining on curt's end because for a while it's kinda just sex when it's the three of them, and he loves it but he also finds himself wanting more but feeling too scared to voice it because he feels like he's intruding. but eventually they all get their shit sorted out; curt fits into their relationship just right in a way gale and john never intended or expected, and gale falls for curt just as much as john has and curt does the same with gale.

gale's got two sweet things glued to his side now and man, do they ever give him a run for his money, and if he'd thought john had too much energy (and stamina) it's nothing compared to keeping up with both of them, but he wouldn't have it any other way. <3

throuple things won't be happening in the actual fic, but i do love the idea of exploring the dynamic the three of them might have in a spin–off of that au so this was rly fun thx :-) maybe i'll write a pwp oneshot set in that universe as an excuse to write more curtbuckbucky once the fic is done LOL we'll see!

[astrodoll2]

Random astrology observations part one. 🦋

I’ve noticed virgo in your big 6 people tend to be very drawn to cosmetology, they love making people beautiful, I absolutely love that the lady that does my hair has multiple placements in virgo because that also means she’s a perfectionist and only ever gives me the best results she WOULD NEVER let me walk out with my hair uneven if it meant staying longer and I really appreciate that quality💜 muah chefs kiss<3

Libra sun Taurus moon PEOPLE HOW DOES IT FEEL TO BE GODS FAVORITE I knew a girl with these and literally could’ve sworn it was as if her aura was made of gold she was so beautiful but it’s no surprise with her Venusian energy.

My friend is Gemini dominant and she’s rearranged her room more than 20xs the past year and a half im not even exaggerating she HATES her room staying the same it’ll literally be 3am and she’ll be moving her entire room around.

^ I’m also a Gemini but i am dominant fixed energy so it’s funny to see how in that entire year & 1/2 she’s been changing her room multiple times mine has stayed entirely the same since.

Sun in the 11th house people do you guys tend to be the one forming the friend groups? I have this placement and it’s interesting because any friend group that I’ve been in it’s always been me who formed it by introducing everyone/ I also always had a new friend group every year/ ALSO I could never in my life ever have just that one bestfriend you do everything with, it was always a group of bestfriends.

Pisces men can come off so innocent which is why they can be such good manipulators it’s so easy to believe whatever they’re saying, you can get very disillusioned by these neptunium men so always see If their actions align with their words especially in moments where they can’t benefit from you.

Earth placements especially if this is your dominant element are so unintentionally funny because they say everything so monotone and neutral that they can be saying the most out of pocket things so casual.

9th house stellium synastry is so euphoric you will feel as if when you guys get together you go off into your own little world where nothing else matters, never ending conversations where you bounce off one another so effortlessly, I love the chemistry and knowledge but also just that optimistic fun energy is so nice to be around. Same as how the 8th house can bring obsession through trauma bonds here it brings a codependence simply because you feel happier around this person.

If your planets fall into someone’s 9th house they will find you very interesting and they have conversations with you they wouldn’t with other people, you expand their knowledge on things (typically spirituality) ALSO they will probably really want to travel with you

Mars in the 7th house people love when their partners are aggressive and dominant, they prefer partners with more masculine energy but since their approach themselves is aggressive they usually end up being the ones taking the lead which frustrates them

You know a leo venus man loves you when he keeps surprising you with gifts and showing up with flowers all the time, if he does not spoil or show you off that is an automatic red flag that he is probably not invested as much

[lovely-keii]

Hi Viv! Congrats on 1k you deserve it!! and I can I also make a request for the trope event?

My name is Ria and can mine be with Bokuto Kotaro?

I want it to be Fukurodani Manager x Bokuto, Childhood Friends to Bestfriends to Lovers please. I really love fluff but can you add a bit of angst in before they become lovers? Thank you so much and congrats again!!

One Week for Us

Bokuto Koutarou x Reader

Childhood Friends to Bestfriends to Lovers

Summary: In which, you are placed in a precarious position for a week with none other than your inhumanely attractive best friend, Bokuto Koutarou. Coming out of that week in a piece will be easy, but with any piece of rationality left? Not as much.

Loving Bokuto was simple in the most complicated way. Despite being erratic and irrational, Bokuto wasn’t too difficult to cheer up or even be around. With time, you start to understand people like him, and you were one of the lucky ones to know him since childhood. Bokuto was always moody and impatient but he was also sweet and caring. He was, in a way, perfectly imperfect.

To set the scene, the both of you had grown up together. From when you were toddlers up until third year. Barely a day went by without Bokuto next to you, and frankly, you wouldn’t have it any other way. The both of you had grown closer and closer by the years, he knew everything about you, and you knew everything about him. It was simple but it was home.

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Monday.

“Hey, Y/N!”

“Hey, Bokuto? What’s up with you today?”

“I know you said no before because you wanted to focus on your studies, but we really need a manager. Even for just a week because Kaori is on a family trip, and Yukie is sick and we don’t know when she’ll get better.”

You reluctantly sighed and agreed, knowing that once your bestfriend sets his mind to something, he’ll do nearly anything to get it done. And unfortunately for you, in this case, that thing was persuading you to be their temporary manager. Of course, less of the actual persuading and more nagging than societally acceptable.

“Everyone meet Y/N!”

“Bokuto-san, we know Y/N. You drag her here every week?”

“AKAASHIIII,” Bokuto drawls out, clearly upset by the lack of enthusiasm his team showed for his announcement. “BUT YOU DIDN’T KNOW SHE WAS GONNA BE OUT ONE-WEEK MANAGER!” Akaashi sighs, a deadpan look on his face, devoid of any irritation or annoyance with his captain, his remarkable patience coming through. 

“We know, actually. You told us yesterday?”

Bokuto groans, slumping over to the benches, where he promptly sulked, waiting for someone to assure him his efforts were very well appreciated. “Bokuto, I’m sure your team is more than happy to see you, you should go and practice with them.” A grin forms on his face at the statement, more than happy to hear those words. 

“Aww, I knew you guys loved me!”

“I never said that.”

“Konoha! How could you say that?!”

“Just get over here, big guy.”

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Tuesday.

Almost surprisingly, the team was more systematically composed than anyone would have thought. Well, as composed as a team can be with someone like Bokuto as the captain. It was cute actually, how the team worked so well together. The homely banter, mutual cheering, and their codependency, along with the ruckus, impulse, and complaining. Everything that would break a team made theirs, and it was special to even witness.

“Do you regret being manager, Y/N-san?”

“Akaashi? Hmm, no. I could be studying right now but being here is kind of...”

“Warm?”

“Yeah, let’s put it like that.”

“That’s nice.”

“Why?”

“I think Bokuto likes you here.”

“What?”

“I’ve said enough for a day, but the manager position is open not only for a week. It would be easier with 3 permanent managers around.”

Akaashi walks away with the faint ghost of a smile hovering over his features. His words lingered in your mind, occupying every crevice of rational thought. And if the butterflies in your stomach whenever you saw Bokuto was bad, now, it was downright unbearable. You like him, and if what Akaashi says is true, he enjoys your presence.

And at the moment, his enjoyment of your company is enough for you.

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Wednesday.

You woke up that day with a slight revelation. Something like an epiphany dressed in your worst nightmare. You like your best friend. You like Bokuto. Youy’ve known for a year or so, of course. That you’d had feelings for the guy, but not like this. Not in an irrational, moody way, it was never like this. Usually, you could just swallow down the urge to kiss him, but today was different.

“HEY, Y/N!”

“Oh, uh hi Bokuto, I just remembered that I forgot something, see you later!”

“I can help you-”

“No thanks!”

And that pretty much sums up your interactions with them for that day. He approaches you, completely unaware of how difficult it is for you to even form a coherent sentence with him around, and then you fumble up with a half-assed excuse and run away. If you were going to be honest, you felt bad for the guy. One day everything’s all good, and the next, his best friend was rushing away as soon as he was in eyesight. It aggravated him, to say the least.

In the gym, you were still up with your act. By act, I mean evading him every and any chance you got. Every conversation he tried to start up, you ended with a quick ‘Konoha probably wants his water bottle filled’ or a ‘i should get some towels now’. Whatever excuse you could come up with, you did. Needless to say, Bokuto was ready to fight Konoha if he sees you scramble to fill his already filled-to-the-brim water bottle.

“Stop staring at me like that, Bokuto. I can’t drink anymore water anyways. I’m going to burst if she makes me drink any more.”

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Thursday.

You were taken by surprise when, just before you entered you class, you felt a hand stop you. You has that millisecond moment of panic, as you hoped it wasn’t who you thought it was. Because if it was in fact Bokuto Koutarou in all his glory, you weren’t sure you’d be able to even breathe properly. Especially not after you’d ‘accidentally’ opened your phone gallery, and ‘accidentally’ swiped it to a selfie he took on your phone. And especially not after you almost ‘accidentally’ set the picture as your wallpaper.

You turned around, the anticipation rising in your chest. At that point, you were barely even functioning anymore. ‘Not Bokuto, not Bokuto, not Bokuto.’ And as if whatever gods had been enjoying every moment of your desperation that week had decided to finally take some pity on you, it was, to your relief, not Bokuto. Ignoring the part of you that kind of wanted it to be Bokuto because you kind of wanted to see his signature grin, you politely smiled at Akaashi. A gesture he tried, albeit failed, to return.

“Y/N-san, good morning. I’ll just cut to the chase. I apologize if this is disrespectful of me, but ever since yesterday, it’s clear you have been acting rather distant from Bokuto-san, and if it’s because of what I told you on Monday, then please forget about it. It was a complete slip of the mouth and definitely not my place to tell you.”

You stood there, in a lost of words. Not quite as shocked, just unable to respond. “Uh, Akasahi, don’t worry it’s not about that. You’re all good, I’ve just been feeling a bit iffy since Tuesday.” Akaashi nods at your statement, despite of the reluctance in his face, as clear as daylight. He walks off after saying his usual polite goodbye’s and you do the same.

And just like that, another heavy stream of thoughts come barricading any room for logic and reasonability. Was it obvious you were ignoring him? Of course it was, you’d been making up the most absurd of excuses after one point. Does Bokuto know? Did it matter if he did? Of course it did, he was still your best friend. God, you needed new friends, specifically, one’s that you won’t fall in love with.

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Friday.

As if the world hadn’t had enough of the struggle that this week was, it was raining. Not just any rain, though. It was pouring, and to top it off, the weather forecast had failed to foresee it, so now you had to run in rain. Unless you could think of something to keep you out of the rain, but with Bokuto determined to talk to you, that seemed impossible. So you ran into the rain, thinking that maybe you’d lost him, but as your luck would have it, a firm grip takes you by your shoulder. Bokuto.

“Why are you avoiding me?”

“I’m not avoiding you.”

“Yes, you are.”

“Koutarou, I can’t fight with you today. it’s literally pouring out here and I’m too tired.”

“Really? Because I’m starting to think that maybe you’re just tired of me.”

“God, no. I’m not tired of you.”

“We’ve known each other for years, Y/N, and you’ve barely been able to say my first name without getting upset over it this past week.”

“That’s what this is about? We’re getting drenched in rain, because you’re mad about me not saying your name?”

His eyes dim, and he walks up to you. And you would be intimidated, that was, if the way the rainwater pouring down his face, the way his shirt clung to every detail of his chest, the way his hair was soaked, wasn’t so utterly ravishing. You would have kissed him, if the look in his eye had gotten darker by just a fracture of light. But something in you musters the courage to step away, and honestly, you kind of regret it.

“No. It’s not what this is about, Y/N, and you know it too. So if you so kindly would, why don’t you tell me what this actually about.”

“It’s because I like you, asshole. I like you so much that I get stupid even just being close to you. It’s because I get dumb around you, Bokuto. I get butterflies, and my heart races, then I lose control over every inch of my body. That’s what this is about.”

“Then let’s be stupid around each other, together,” And then he encases you in his arms, as if the pounding in your ears and the incessant drumming of your heart wasn’t enough for him. “because I like you too, asshole.”

And like a bucket of ice water was dumped over you, which you probably wouldn’t have felt anyway, with the way the rain was already dousing the both of you, a revelation unfolds in your already confused mind, you realize in the most painstakingly drawled out way, that hey, Bokuto likes you back. He likes you back.

And he finally kisses you, after a week of complete and utter frustration from the both of you, he finally kisses you.

“Kou, I can’t believe our first kiss was in the rain.”

“I know right? It’s so romantic.”

“I was going to say cliche, but it’s romantic all the same.”

ps. i hope u enjoy this bubss <3

☾ 1K EVENT

[cruelsister-moved2]

about this post I" seriously can't stand to be around codependent couples especially if they're straight" LITERALLY!!!!! glad someone else feels the same cause I was thinking I was way too heartless thinking this. I don't have a partner so idk how I would be in a relationship tho but anyways I live with my bestfriend and her boyfriend, we are sharing an apartment and it's weird living with a couple when I am only friends with one of them. I interact with her boyfriend as in "good morning" etc but I having a look at how their life is as partners is something I feel I shouldn't witness lmao so it doesn't feel like I'm living with friends at all. They are such a unit that the only time my bestfriend wants to hang out with me is when her boyfriend has to go to paris for work since he is not there she has free time. I see them and I'm like yeah I don't want to have a relationship at all lmao. Like her life revolves around him and him only. I plan to move out tho, maybe that way we will hang out more since we are not under the same roof we will actually have to make time to see each other again. It is kinda confusing this ordeal cause if I get a girlfriend ofc I would want to spend most of my time with her so I don't even know anymore, I thnk because they are straight it gives me the ick lol

this kind of thing makes me insane im so sorry you have to be around it ssdfghv... I keep realising how many of straight people's problems come from not also seeing your partner as a friend (in more than a token way). like if I made a new friend that none of my other friends knew, of course we could hang out together and I could try to introduce them. but if I brought that friend every time i was invited to hang out when they weren't even invited that would be really weird. like most of the annoying relationship behaviours are things everyone recognises would be rude and strange with a friend but its as though ppl think boyfriends get a VIP pass..... but like it makes no difference to how awkward and uncomfortable it is for ur friends if ur banging the guy or not 😭 not to mention the bf is usually less compatible and more awkward than a friend would be bc lots of ppl in relationships like this also have literally nothing in common. I just feel sad for these people honestly like must be lonely spending 99% of ur time attached at the hip with a straight guy

[wonderful-prompts]

Hey! I'm writing a bestfriends to lovers but I have no idea how to layout the plot? Like how they go from being friends to lover while still being an interesting plot including side characters and side plots ect :)

Thanks!!

Disclaimer: I am not a romance writer/reader, so please don’t treat this answer as the beginning and end of your search. This also felt really vague and I didn’t know how to answer it.

This got kind of long and loose so I’m putting part of it under a cut.

Depending on your setting (and the character dynamics of your couple), you can arrange for a variety of different plots.

Why are they best friends?

Are these reasons that they eventually fall in love?

What sets them apart from their other friends in terms of romantic compatibility?

What could lead them to fall in love besides just being around each other?

How would this change their relationship?

Are the characters ready for that change?

The “he was a boy, she was a girl/can I make it any more obvious?” approach does not work in the modern day. People are complex, and characters need to reflect that so readers can sympathize with those characters.

Plots also require conflict. If your main plot is just these two characters falling in love, then you require little things along the way to prevent them from getting together (in an organic way) to result in a satisfying conclusion. Depending on whether you’re writing for yourself or an audience, you may need to watch out for conflicts that readers don’t particularly like (such as gratuitous miscommunication).

The also need to exist outside of each other.

If their reliance on each other borders on codependent, it goes from being a romance to being a tale of an unhealthy mutual fixation. It’s perfectly fine to write about relationships like that (it’s partially why fiction exists!), but if you are specifically trying to write romance, that means you spent too much time on keeping them together than making sure anything else existed.

As for outlining the plot, you can try a variety of methods. If you have sticky notes (or a word processor), you can make a list of different conflicts (+ their resolutions) and arrange them in whatever order makes the most sense. There’s also outline organizers you can find online.

Personally, I brainstorm right before I go to bed and if something hits me like a bolt of inspiration lightning, I grab my phone and write it down. I rewrite stories to make more sense as I go through drafts and the story itself evolves.

The best thing to do is to try things and see what works for you.

So basically:

Figure out what makes these best friends compatible as lovers (the difference between them and their other friends)

Make sure they exist outside of each other/give them a world to exist in

Use the setting to your advantage to work out character archetypes to refine and complicate into what would be considered more “human”

Try lots of ways to put your plot together

Good luck on your story!

[nightswithkookmin]

WHEN JIKOOK ARE SHADING EACHOTHER:2020 Japan Comback Interview Analysis

WARNING: Full on angst ahead.

If you believe Jikook are holding hands chanting Kumbaya all the time while they walk into a purple sunset this is not for you. Jikook is real. At least to me and as a real relationship they have their fair share of ups and downs.

DISCLAIMER: Everything expressed in here is my thoughts, observations and opinion. It is not meant to offend any of the members involved or anyone else.

A Little Background:

Its my and a few other Jikookers observation that Jikook fight. A lot. They separate or breakup from time to time too. You may or may not have caught these moments as they happen but doesn't mean they don't happen all.

For me, 2018 and 2020 have been the pinnacle of such moments. Jikook are having issues- have been having issues. They are still going through a rough patch unfortunately. But not to be alarmed, they are working through it.

Now I can't say with certainty when such said issues began. I can only speculate. I started noticing some sort of tension between them right before their vacation somewhere between March/August 2019 to date.

I'm talking about their Bon Voyage 4 moments, the tattoo girl scandal, Jimins Paris scandal, Jingle, MMA, Jin's Birthday Vlive moments and all those moments that had us raising our brows.

And when I say started noticing I mean from across the various means they've been communicating with us- across their Weverse posts, Twitter, Vlives, interviews etc

I like to look at all these moments combined to see the bigger picture and not just dwell on individual moments as and when they are presented to us because BigHit do not feed us their moments in real time.

I know what you're thinking and no, Jimin flying all over to South Korea to celebrate Jks birthday wasn't him making a grand gesture for the sake of it. It is my opinion that that was just him extending an olive branch to fix things between them because... More on that later.

To understand the shade I'm referring to you'd have to understand why they are shading eachother to begin with:

Jeon Jungkook. To put it simply, Jeon Jungkook hates not being with Jimin 24/7. HE HATES IT. He hates when Jimin is not with him. When Jimin is not around him. When Jimin is with anybody that is not him. Bless him. He has proven this time and time again with all the times he's cheated to be in the same group as Jimin during Runs. His 'Jimin hyung and I will sleep here' his 'thats the friendship' statements he throws at people when Jimin has a moment with any of the members that remotely resembles anything other than friendship, SateliteJeon, and my personal favorite TeleporterJeon etc

Now I suspect this is just due to his personality as an INTP. He has the tendency to latch on to things that feels falimiliar to him and would fall back to it so he feels safe and anchored. He has latched on to Jimin and uses him as his emotional anchor and safe zone and we thank him for that. Thanks to him we've had all those amazing moments as well as the Jeonlous and now TeleporterJeon moments that only proves to us crazy Jikookers that we aren't that crazy and that Jikook is real. Bless him.

Now Jimin is like that too, don't get it twisted. This man is so deep into Jk he won't even hear anything we say. Call him by his JK. Bless him. Jimin is also very possessive of JK if not more possessive. Its just his slytherin ass does a better Job at hiding it.

The problem is, this differences in their personalities may have likely created a lot of tension and problems in their relationship with each other as well as in the relationship they have with their friends and bandmates.

The difference here being while JK latches onto Jimin because he is an introvert and have anxiety issues and isn't exactly the social type; JM is the very opposite of that.

Jimin is a highly extroverted person and loves to maintain other relationships besides his romantic one and there is nothing wrong with that.

See that face on Tae here? Now that's the face of an angry man right there. Tae literally held his breath when JK came to stand next to him because he was afraid JK was gonna ask him to move so he could stand with Jimin instead like he does with the other members like Hobi and Suga most times. To me, this was him feeling like his little bromance moment with his soulmate was being threatened and intruded on.

EXHIBIT A:

Jimin of course noticed what JK was up to. JK was being territorial. Jimin glanced at Tae through the corner of his eyes and moved to stand behind Tae. Later he tried to cheer Tae up by dancing with him.

We've seen moments time and again where JK has moved to physically block Tae from interacting with Jimin on stage and during fansigning events etc and mind you Tae is Jimin's best friend and soulmate.

This face right here! Thanks for attending my Tedtalk. Have a nice day!

Tae said it not me. It seems JK has the tendency to isolate JM and keep Jimin from his friends most times both on and off camera.

In this video, Tae's expression after he said JK was keeping JM from coming to do the live with him said it all.

Why would Jimin do that? Because I believe Tae had complained to him several times how he feels about JK keeping him all to himself and interfering with their moments most times. Frankly, I'd do same if my friends' partners kept interfering with our girls night.

And also because Jimin likes to reassure people of his love and loyalty when they feel their bond with him is being threatened by someone else. We've seen him do this with JK too a couple of times like when JK saw RM wrap his hand around Jimin during that live and he ducked and later did a heart for him. You know which VLive I'm talking about. Moving on.

Do I need to say anything here? Hobi is JMs roommate and even he complained in this VLive how he was missing JM. So the question is, where the bloody hell had JM been?! Why is everyone he is supposed to be close to missing him? His Bestfriend/soulmate and now his roommate? Fo you see the pattern?

This is not much of a stretch if you think about it because Tae has literally said this to Jimin before when he told him on the live he was missing him and JM had to apologize for that.

Truth is, Jeon Jungkook can be a bit of a bully sometimes when it comes to his position next to Jimin. That's his spot and he won't hesitate to claim it no matter who is in the way.

And for JK, we all know he doesn't interact much with the members off camera. Tae has said once that JK ignores him when they aren't filming which is why when JK was given a secret mission to Ignore Tae, Tae didn't even notice.

Now we all know KBS Gayo is Vmin land and so having JK try to stamp his Jikook stamp on it must have been tough for Tae.

RM has also said how JK doesn't even call him and Jin has said JK barely answers his calls and texts. This is not to say JK is a bad person or hates his other bandmates. He loves them all. He is just an introvert.

Now this is getting longer than intended so I'm going to break this post into two parts.

EXHIBIT B:

But to sum up everything I have been saying and to get to the point of this post, JKs possessiveness over JM for sometime has been taking a toll on JM and the group in general as it has been putting a lot of stress on JMs relationship with others.

To the point, some of the members have even been seen to side eye JK sometimes when he comes around JM and some do try to separate them or put JK in his place, acting like they don't approve of their relationship etc.

Now, I won't name names or point out such moments because it can be a bit controversial and I don't want anyone twisting my words around and calling me names. That would hurt my feelings because I love them all and my intentions are not to be malicious in any way. I'm just pointing out an observation and of course I could be wrong about everything.

I don't know for sure, but it's my belief that Jikook have been advised to spend sometime apart because perhaps people had noticed their codependent tendencies have been reaching exponential heights. It could have been their therapist or their friends or loved ones but since March/August 2019 through late 2019 to date is when I noticed they have been trying to spend time apart.

By this I mean, their vacation apart last year, JM staying with Tae for sometime this year, JM visiting his family in Busan this year, spending time with his friends and JK on the other hand taking much time to himself, picking up new hobbies such as reading, posting on Weverse about how he misses JM which I analyzed in my previous post, JM responding with how he was drinking alone watching the rain;

JK not knowing JM had taken up pop dancing, not knowing JM had taken up boxing- PS: Jikook live together, ride together, do everything together, JM calls Jks Mum Mum etc. They are super close and have proven they know every intimate detail about each other like the food they like, the briefs they wear, how long they shower, when they go to bed, what time they wake up, what song they have on their alarm etc. So when suddenly they don't know certain less intimate detail about eachother it is usually a sign that that information/detail came to exist at a time they were separated and weren't filling eachother in on what they've been up to when they are temporarily apart. Like during the recent Jikook Vlive when Jimin was surprised JK had eaten Gimbap. He seemed really shocked by that information and I wonder why. *smirk

TO BE CONTINUED.....

Signed,

GOLDY

[serendipitybutterfly]

Is there a possibility that Jungkook has a twin flame and is currently on the process of ascension? I was just curious because I stumbled into a reading before and somehow it said that he is strongly connected to the divine world. Thank you in advance. :)

Interesting question...

Firstly, I'll start with 'strongly connected to the divine'... Well this is interesting when it comes to BTS...

From what I've picked up doing readings on them all... They actually all have strong spiritual potential. By that I mean, they all seem to have some kind of latent psychic / intuitive / heightened empathetic abilities... It's actually very interesting to me. They seem to be aware of this on different levels and sit all along the spectrum of whether or not they're interested or keen to explore it at this point lol...

So on one side you've got Kim 'I commune with my angels' Taehyung, with his powerful ancestral guardians walking with him, and Jeon 'maybe I should be a shaman' Jungkook, spilling the tea on the fact that he has precognitive dreams.... And on the other side of the spectrum you've got the likes of Namjoon who, while I'm almost certain has gotten to the point of being open minded enough to accept there are more things in heaven and earth than can be dreamt of in his philosophy *to casually quote Shakespeare like a nerd*, is more on the side of things he can logically reason out than what he can sense or intuit (even though he does also have that gift!). You've also got Yoongi, who is actually so sensitive I think he's even a little scared of it and deliberately has put that side of himself on the back burner to focus purely on the material world and what he wants to accomplish for now. Then there's Jimin, who can sense other people's emotions like a fine tuned device... But, I believe, doesn't like to think too deeply about such matters because they overcomplicate things in his mind and he feels it'd be detrimental to his mental health to dwell on such things (not unwise if you don't have the right guidance and teachers to help you).

Then you've got Hobi somewhere in the middle... I think he's, again, aware he has some kind of intuitive senses, that there's 'something more', but he doesn't have the foundation to guide in him in what it all means and how to tap into it... I think he's openminded to it though and would be willing to hear someone out... Say if someone offered him a tarot reading or astrology reading, I think he'd probably be fairly interested and want to learn more. But... May not actively seek out that information on his own at this point.

And then... Seokjin... Haha... Seokjin... Of all the members, I feel like Seokjin may have the closest thing to an actual defined religion or spiritual belief /philosophy that guides him. I have no idea what that is... But it's something he grew up with and also has continued to develop on his own. What that means is that he quietly does know he's connected to 'something' spiritual / divine and he intuitively allows that faith to guide him in his philosophy on life. But it's all in a very quiet understated way and I highly doubt he'll ever talk about this except in the vaguest terms at those random moments where he gets deep and shows his more serious side.

But you asked specifically about Jungkook... Well! What I've been seeing with Jungkook for a while (if you've read the readings I've done on him you'll see it) is that he has indeed been going through some kind of period of spiritual growth. He is aware of his spiritual gifts, actually believes in them, and did indeed begin to consciously work on developing them. This has been opening him up to the guidance of the Universe, his guides, his higher self... So yes, you could say he's going through a process of ascension. His gifts will become more powerful when he's older as his faith in them continues to grow from receiving more and more confirmation...

As for twin flames... I mean... Maybe? To be honest, while I do believe in the divine counterpart aspect of the twin flame... I think there's been a thing going on online where I see a lot of priviledging the twin flame connection over other kinds of soul mate connections and I don't think that's right. This also seems to involve romanticising some toxicity in these relationships like obsession, codependency, abandonment... Just... No.

That's not what you should be glorifying. I don't care if you feel like that person is your Twin Flame, if all the relationship does is make you feel bad about yourself then... Is that really what you want? Do you really want to see your divine counterpart as a person that treats you terribly? Or do you not think that by loving and respecting yourself to the highest degree first, you will attract the truest and highest love into your life who will also love you on that level and allow you to love them the same because they too are an evolved soul full of love...

Yes... As boring as it may sound, everyone, please... FOCUS ON LOVING YOURSELF FIRST!!! It really is the most important thing. When you have an incredible relationship with yourself, you are actually better able to enjoy incredible relationships with others. Sounds like something a boring great aunt might say, because it's absolutely true.

Anyway, this post has somehow become me ranting at you all to love yourselves... Besides the point. So Jungkook... In my future spouses reading on the members, you'll notice that for Jungkook I saw that he is already spiritually connected to his future spouse and that they dream about each other... That they will 'get' each other and have a fulfilling, healthy relationship... As far as I'm concerned... He will indeed meet a romantic soulmate in the future and that's who he'll marry. Could this also be a twin flame connection? Indeed it could.

Another aside... The reason I say 'romantic soulmate' is because actually, in life, we meet a lot of soulmates and not all are romantic... Some can be your bestfriends, some your family members, some teachers or mentors you meet along the way... The people who have huge impact on your personal growth and development, who help shape who you are, are very likely to be your soulmates. That is, members of the same soul group / family who help each other ascend spiritually.

So, for example, as far as I'm concerned, the members of BTS are all each other's soulmates (not just Jimin and Tae, although how great that they actually acknowledge their bond as such)... But that doesn't mean they don't have others and won't meet others in the future. There's lots of kinds of love in world and romantic love shouldn't be put on a pedestal above all others when there's so much we gain and learn from other connections.

Anyway... Sorry for this long meandering answer to your question... Hopefully it makes enough sense to follow... 😅💜

[dmallpersonalblog-blog]

March 15 2019

Today was my first day of therapy. it was a nice change of events in my current headspace and a step in the right direction. For the longest time I was afraid to admit that I needed help. That maybe I really couldn't do everything alone or in private. 

After my session my first immediate response was to eat a cheeseburger, and damn do i regret that. Greasy food and all that doesn't settle with me and I had to put in double the time at the gym to burn off the calories. But, i guess thats why they call it stress eating. The gym has been a good outlet lately for my stress and anxiety and all the sadness i’ve been sitting on for so long. A thing that I do want to change in regard to that is I find myself repeating either “Dancing in the Dark” by Joji, “Crying Over You” by Honne, or “Almost (Sweet Music)” by Honne. All good songs on their own, but just have a deeper personal feeling in regards to my mental health and this overwhelming feeling of sadness or missing my ex. Something I want to try and do is just refer to her as my ex versus her name. In essence ridding myself of her name so theres no hope of getting back together. But fuck. I do miss her. 

Back onto topic for today, my first instinct after my appointment (and cheeseburger)  was to put my chair back in the car and call my closest friends. I wanted to call my friend Monica, but with everything going on lately its just so hard to dial those numbers or to see the responses she sends me. It feels like she doesn’t even care anymore. I always though that our friendship was something that transcended time or the long periods of maybe not saying anything. I felt like i’ve been there for her when she needed it, but the one mental breakdown since HS, and she’s nowhere to be found. Its ok though, I’ll always have love for her and I want her to be happy especially if she found someone she can love also. It just hurts not being able to talk to someone that you need to.  

I really wanted to call Ashley today also but I know she has work. I sent her my previous post yesterday and I felt like she didn't really read it or acknowledge it. It’s okay though. Im sure she has life and work and her own shit going on. Something I need to realize is that everyone cant be your crutch or your lifeline and people have things they need too. I wish her the best.

The talk I had with Derek today was a bit hit and miss for me. I appreciate that he listens and lets me open up to him about stuff, but when he said that he doesn’t know or think depression medication is something he believes in or wants to do kinda upsets me. It was hard for me to open up about it, for as long as I can remember its always been a sign of weakness and its very hard to open up about stuff like that. It is what it is though, because I am getting help to benefit others and not everyone. Something thats new to me. Doing stuff for myself mentally. 

The best medicine lately has been talking to my friend Jessica. Originally I just thought it would be nice to talk to someone whose been over a recent breakup lately too and we could be sad and emo together and shit. But honestly its been a lot more than that. It is nice to talk to someone that gives a shit to be frank. Someone who acknowledges what I’ve been going though, someone who just thinks i’ll instantly get better with time and recognizes the work I’ve been trying to put in to better myself. When I called her she just seemed so proud of me that I took the step to see someone and better myself. She didn't make snide comments about needing possible anti depressants. She just made me feel safe and acknowledged. The only thing I can really hope for tbh. Definitely someone I can open up to and share my journey with and when it hopefully ends one day, we can both look back and smile because we got through it together. 

In regards to my therapy. I want to be more open and honest with my therapist. It felt like she knew what I was going through and had sympathy. She made me feel like I wanted a reason to live. A reason to keep on going. She told me to go easier on myself, something that I really want to do. I want to live for myself and not for others. I don’t want to burden people. I don’t want to let people know that i’m struggling so bad that sometimes I lay in bed and think that if I jumped off a cliff everything would be ok. I hate that it takes me forever to get out of bed because this paralyzing sense of fear and embarrassment creeps in and makes you hide under the covers and make you think about all the good memories you had in the past 4 year and replaces them with the love you thought you had sucking another dudes dick or laughing at you while she gets fingered by your ex bestfriend. Depression feels like getting a dick constantly jammed into your ear. It sucks and it hurts and why the fuck would you even want a dick in your ear. I hate that we broke up and I also hate the feeling that maybe I needed it to discover more about myself and my happiness. TBH I wasn't happy the past 8 months. I was only happy when I was with her, and thats something I need to change. To be happy on my own. But, i wish i didnt see that youtube search awhile back. Or to see her moving on with someone else, that would hurt way too fucking much.

Other than talking about myself and my issues, we talked about the term co-dependent and what that means. I feel like I was so codependent on her that it was hard to do things on my own. That i wanted to spend all the moments i could and when she wasn't able to, what was I supposed to do? I loved her so much and even after 4 years I loved her as much as our first time together, or our 1 year anniversary. Or just laying in bed kissing and promising our futures together. I love deeply and passionately and I don’t want to be ashamed of that. What is so wrong about loving your partner to the fullest? Caring about their future, and their well being and how they are doing. But recently, I feel like if i were to even go back into the dating scene I couldn’t. Hook up culture scares me. Sex without love scares me. Finding your “soul mate” scares me, because I dont even know what I want yet.

My therapist said that we did spend our first 4 years of our adult lives with each other and not knowing anything else really hurts you, especially with a clean break from each other. I just hope it gets easier with time. I’m hurting and it really shows.

I need a break from social media for awhile. I need a break from my feelings for awhile also. 

In regards to my mental health though... there are still a lot of days where I don’t want to do much and I do think about just ending it all. But I know i cant do that. I dont want my parents or relatives or friends deal with that and emotionally fuck them up. But, I also want a reason for me not to end my life and want to live versus wanting others to want me to live. I just need that reason. 

Im stressed out about finding a job. I feel like if it was hard to find one in CA, it might be even harder here. Im stressed out about my living situation. I just wish they wanted me here more, or that I didn’t feel like an nuisance or a bother. 

I wish I had more friends out here to hangout with or get a drink or just do something fun. Its been lonely if im being 100% honesty. I’m so grateful for my sister though, shes been helping me out so much. I love her so much and I just hope my mental health isnt fucking with hers. She deserves the world and more. 

Im glad i’ve been writing these blog posts to empty out my emotions and all those feelings. For the first time in a long time i’m hopeful for the future. 

ALSO; i’m nervous about anti depressants. Theres such a stigma towards them and I hope i don’t become reliant on them just like I was reliant on my ex. But, deep down I know i need them to be better and feel better. 

If you’ve gotten this far thank you for reading and letting me vent out my feelings and my hopes and sadness. I hope I can be a more contributing member to society one day.