#but it is very common in country

[lastoneout]

Everyone always critiques country for all the songs being misogynistic and about trucks and beer but lemme fucking tell you, that's not nearly as prevalent as you would think. No the real plague in country music is songs about relationship trouble. And I don't mean "I hate my wife" stuff I mean a solid 50% of this genre, no matter the gender, sexuality, or race of the person writing/singing the songs, is about heartbreak or messy relationships or getting back together after shit's gone south and one night stands and yes also abusive relationships ending in fire and explosions and murder and like. Yes, this is good, I am a messy bitch who loves drama, but please can some of y'all write about literally anything else??

Like I keep finding artists I really like because they can sing super well and I like the general vibe of their music but then it turns out 99.9% of their entire discography is about their shitty exes and I'm just sdlkfjlkdsjf PLEASE sing about ANYTHING else ffs.

[DNI Banner: THIS POST WAS MADE BY SOMEONE WHO LOVES COUNTRY MUSIC. COUNTRY HATERS WHO CLOWN ON THIS POST WILL BE SENT TO THE FUCKING SHADOW REALM!!]

[lylahammar]

yknow something that I just realized adds a lot to the winged lion as an allegory for abusive relationships

the fact that the people of the golden country worship the lion, and assign all the blame for their situation to thistle without realizing that thistle is the victim in the situation. like the lion is charming and beautiful (and cough cough very european in design) and puts on the performance of a benevolent deity! and the little neurodivergent brown slave kid's entire support system happens to be the very people who trafficked and enslaved them, and placed the pressure of the entire kingdom onto their shoulders, so of course it was easy for the lion to turn all of their support system against them

[yo-yo-yoshiko]

Jeramie character song, am i right?

He and Nöel would be such good friends though…

[dolls-self-ships]

had the idea of a human au for my chicken run self insert (and all the characters really, more to come on that) for a while now and I’m so glad I finally was able to fully get their designs out on paper (or I guess screen)

[coffinsister]

Lowkey I really like that Andrew can just threaten to backhand Ashley it's hot it's a nice little character trait to add to the weird toxic incest

[crabussy]

MULTIPLE people thought I was australian on that poll.... head in hands

[wheucto]

object show characters being named as their own objects might strike you as odd, but is it really that strange? with humans, differentiating each other using names is necessary. we're all "humans," so there's not much to name off of. physical features, maybe, but people can often share those...

however, with objects, there's a clear distinction to name someone after. and, why do names exist? to distinguish people from one another. why would you make a name, when there's already a perfectly good one right there? and sure, there's people who are the same object, but there's people with the same name too. they'd probably get nicknames/slightly different names... besides, that's why surnames exist.

[the-feminist-philosopher]

Damn. TERFs really do see themselves as white nights fighting on behalf of black & brown women against an aggressive hoard of black and brown men. I cannot go into the #feminism tag without seeing some of the wildest takes…

Because a TERF will really get on the Internet and say some shit like,

“Trans-exclusionary ideas are globally popular ideologies” and fail to see how public discrimination against a group is maybe a symptom of the current power structures, structures like the patriarchy, white supremacy, and colonialism.

and then follow that up with,

“Because the global majority isn’t white, my activism for those women isn’t white. Also because the women fighting against the patriarchy globally aren’t majority white, my brand of feminism can’t be white,” and fail to see how this is white-night activism and an attempt to co-opt other feminist movements globally, many of which actively resist their country’s neo-colonial resource exploitation and imperialist extraction of their country. But positioned in argument alongside the take that trans-hate is globally popular, it’s also an attempt to make non-white people look uniquely or predominantly hateful compared to those within their lofty country.

Which is exemplified by the fact that when a trans person—regardless of location—shows support for any cause in the global south, the popular response is to tell that trans person the people of that country would behead them or throw them from a roof. Because in addition to believing the brown other is uniquely “backwards” and “brutish,” they also believe that any oppressed group’s “salvation” is contingent upon good behavior. Whose salvation? Theirs, of course. These people will freely repeat talking points about things that don’t happen in whatever foreign country of their picking to support their argument because the intention is to show they have credible reason to believe “those people” are not the perfect model of “(western) civility,” and as such, are in need of the TERF’s ideas, resources, and “activists.” It’s a reframing of “The White Man’s Burden” to center women.

(I’ve always found the “defenestration threat” a particularly disingenuous take. There’s the apparent racism on one hand, but clear pink washing, too. I—a gay—cannot care about the suffering of others in another country if gay rights in that country is not on par with that of its imperial oppressor? Are these trans-exclusionary radicals disagreeing with the existence of transphobia in another country? Or are they disagreeing with the purported tactics? “My enlightened policies that mass incarcerate, push children to suicide, and strip strangers of bodily autonomy; their barbaric policies that do much the same, oh, and defenestration.” They do realize that they, the trans-exclusionary radical, are more of an existential threat to me in *my own country* than a stranger half a globe away, no?)

And this worldview becomes ever so apparent when, after pointing out their attempt to co-opt feminist movements led by black and brown women, the usual comeback is to ask the person who disagrees with their take if they think that black and brown men are “too stupid” to “know” to or how to oppress women. “Do you think it’s not worse in other countries?”

Not only is this an attempt at purple washing; an attempt to benefit from purported support for women’s rights as a way to distract from the issue at hand: Western paternalism and chauvinism, this is also an attempt to turn it back around on the other. The TERF could not avoid being critiqued for supporting imperialistic ideas that downplay the significance of white supremacy and the struggles of black and brown women by arguing that because the majority of women aren’t white, any advocacy for women couldn’t possibly be racist. And they couldn’t avoid being critiqued for supporting imperialistic ideas that downplay the significance of white supremacy by deflecting with a “what-about’ism” about the state of affairs in a foreign country. And now they’re faced with the fact others may think that they think black and brown people are uniquely brutish. So, their last hope is to argue that no, actually you 🫵 are downplaying the oppression that other women in other countries face at the hands of “their men” and engaging in the “noble savage” trope.

(Of course, this ignores how such a trope refers to positioning Indigenous people as people uniquely removed from societies—when in reality they had complex societies, social structures, and politics—who live in harmony with nature. Suggesting that someone’s ideas and characterization of other peoples is influenced by Western Imperialism and white supremacy is in no way the same as suggesting there is “innate goodness, pureness, and moral superiority” among an “uncorrupted” “primitive” other, but a TERF’s ideology often depends on equivocation, usually as a means of distraction.)

But, when someone points out that this is in no way what they said; the TERF is attempting to create a strawman to argue against, the final play in the book is to literally @/ the one brown TERF they know of on this site or conclude by saying “well, my brand of feminism has had Black and Jewish thinkers, so…,” fully blind to how this is quite literally tokenism.

All this because “I can’t be racist; I’m a feminist” really isn’t the argument they think it is.

[idisstuff]

More people need to start seeing England as a cool punk guy who listens to Oasis and would scrap someone because they support Southampton (he's a Bournemouth fan) and tried every drug under the sun from the 70s to the 90s because that's way more interesting than whatever this fandom portays him as.

[mendesandsushi]

im in the clinic waiting for my turn when suddenly

[wonder-worker]

"[Alice Perrers] requested that she be buried in the parish church of Upminster, St Laurence, before the altar of the Virgin Mary. Alice seems to have had an affinity with Mary through her life; a seal of hers from c. 1374 shows an image of the Virgin Mary and child, her tabernacle seized in 1377 had an image of the Virgin Mary on it, and now she wished to be buried before Mary’s altar."

-Gemma Hollman, "The Queen and the Mistress: The Women of Edward III"

[afterthelambs]

the way USAmericans talk about uniforms is so funny. "It's too expensive!" not more expensive than having to buy brand new outfits considering the social pressures of trends. "It's too uncomfortable!" that depends on the design and millions of people worldwide get by regardless. “It kills your individuality!” no it doesn’t. This is the funniest complaint by far. It has to be some remnant of red scare right. There's no way you think millions of non-Americans across the world dont have an identity because they wear something assigned for like 1/3 of the day

[doctorwhoisadhd]

so wait, since i was just reminded of the recorder thing donna talked about in the giggle, i now have a question for uk ppl: do yall learn the recorder in school? like in a music class? and like how much do yall have music class over there?

[bizarrelittlemew]

the funniest thing about having a cool car is that middle-aged men will just come up and talk to you in parking lots but in a way where you feel completely safe. the most i have ever felt perceived as an equal human by strange men interacting with me unprompted. they are blinded by the car and i am no longer "woman" i am just "owner of this cool shiny car which i must compliment"

[perilegs]

being homesick and changing as a person so much the place you grew up in isn't your home anymore is such a core part of ati and upon further inspection i think i was projecting a little