#but if i do get a quicker offer idk if the pay is good I'd definitely be swayed to take it yk?

[vampiricgf]

about to throw up every time I check my email like okay hello can I have the email with the drug test info now please then my brains like what if they changed their mind what if they found something fucked up about you that you didn't even know existed so now you're not getting that super nice job actually and your life will be over so im sitting here with my coffee in my shaking hands like oh this so cool I love job offer limbo actually

[zanderbobs]

Idk why but I wanted to make a little post of advice about uni (generally about emotional and social things) for people starting this year based almost purely on my own experiences as someone about to go into second year:

. The first few months (between September and Christmas) are probably going to be hard. Even as someone who enjoys autumn and winter, I found that the more miserable weather, darker days, and earlier nights made that first few months harder and feel slower. The only advice I can rly offer is to hold on until after Christmas, as the spring and summer term passed a lot quicker and happier for me.

. When you first arrive, I'd recommend just focusing on getting through the first few weeks, even if the way you do so is kinda silly. I generally just pretended I was on a silly school trip to get me few the freshers' week and the first week of lectures. After that you can step back and be proud and a lot more confident about making it on your own.

. Never feel bad for going home to visit your family and friends. University is a good time for some people to thrive away from their family, but that's not always the case for everyone! You're not weak for feeling homesick or wanting to see your family.

. Don't feel obligated to join any societies right off the bat. A lot of unis will recommend you try out as many things as possible, which is a great way to settle in for some, but for people like me personally, I didn't want to overwhelm myself. Take things at your own pace- societies will be willing to welcome you at any point of the year, at any point of your time at university.

. Also don't feel obligated to go out and be massively social. If first year taught me anything, it's that going on a night out is not for me. University offers plenty of opportunities and places to hang out with people aside from drinking and nights out.

. You'll find friends through all sorts of different paths: your course, your housemates, whatever societies you might wanna join etc. However I think it's also important to realise that making friends can take time, especially if you're out of your hometown for the first time. You don't have to force yourself to be friends with people just because you feel the need to do so.

. This is more of a random one, but if you do want to get a job while at uni, I'd recommend trying to get one on campus. Both student unions and university canteens, for example, often hire students. Because they're part of the university, they'll have to be considerate of the fact you're studying and be flexible, and also generally pay more than, say, a bar in the city/town centre. Student ambassadors are also paid roles but they're less reliable, as universities will only use them when they're needed (on open days etc).