#but for actual dialogue i like to add the subject dropping mid sentence or repetition of words and pauses and rewording

[mejomonster]

Ok I know there's the whole thing about writing a novel like a script for television, in that you omit "ums" and "uhs" and have people clearly say what they mean to "justice is for those fortunate enough to consider what to do" (some character making a clear theme related statement) or if a character says a lie it's unclear Because it's a lie not because they talked unclearly "I don't know where he went, I think he mentioned going to see Seph" when character did see where he went, and wants Seph to be blamed even though "he" didn't go to Seph.

I get that it's this kind of dramatized way of speaking that isn't realistic. In reality, people often change words midway through a sentence, change topics or full on halt one statement and just drop it. Stuff like "I was going to the store and - hey Richard why didn't you come with me yesterday. I needed you. It. It really hurt you didn't show." The first part about some store would be unimportant in a tight script but it's realistic. The pausing on It is not necessarily a strong sounding line carried though. But a woman starting to cry, scared to say the next portion, might repeat it or you. You- trying to work up her courage to completely voice the sentence. It reads more choppy yes, but it also reads more like a real conversation. For me personally I like when dialogues in stories sometimes are written this way. I get the reason for the other way, but I think leaving in the natural messiness of regular everyday speech sometimes adds something of its own.