#but damn lmao i did NOT enjoy hearing the same rhetoric used on me throughout my childhood | Explore Tumblr posts and blogs

tauruswiftie · 2 years ago

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hm late night whiny thought bear w me but i think the reason people keep talking about how “everyone’s” so “unempathetic” these days is bc a lot of them have no idea what it’s like to make a lot of sacrifices in ur personal life and get taken advantage of bc of idk being young and less good at standing up for yourself. like as someone who has been manipulated and exploited and guilted into doing so many things ostensibly for other people (often older adults who really had no business depending on a teenager to Sacrifice for them!) …. being more “selfish” and “individualistic” has been incredibly empowering for me. like idk people who have never struggled to assert their own boundaries should realize that using language meant to guilt people into having more of some abstract notion of empathy TM can end up sounding unintentionally very manipulative

#like im very happy for people who grew up in environments where u weren’t immediately taken advantage of for being quote unquote empathetic #but not all of us had that lol #and like. maybe this makes me a bad person but i spent most of my LIFE being hurt and used Because of being easily convinced that #my own comfort and preferences etc didn’t matter #so like… i will be spending my 20s being selfish and self centered and prioritizing myself and people i care about wven if it sounds petty #and no amount of internet strangers talking down to me is gonna chsnge that lol #like idk. i understand why people used this rhetoric in the past few years #but damn lmao i did NOT enjoy hearing the same rhetoric used on me throughout my childhood #weaponized against me on every socual media platform.#like. idk man #i realize it’s not malicious in intent but #you’re not being CONSIDERATE if you don’t consider how your words will be received by a large chunk of people who happened to experience #fairly common patterns of abuse/manipulation/etc #this is also by wnd large my gripe w/ ppl who complain that american culture is too individualistic #like yeah i too believe that community ties matter but that’s not an inherent consequence of individualism #and i think most ppl w this complaint would find that in collectivist cultures #you have to have a very stronf assertive personality going in if you want to come out w your own fuckin personality intact lol #but like! feel free to move to any bumber of countries where u can enjoy ur collectivist culture fantasy lmfao

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