#but at the same time when they DO teach its littered with misinformation. they said pe/ta was a good nonprofit and i choked in class

[hampterguts]

everyone underestimates the power unbridled rage has over depression. you cant be aimlessly hollow anymore thats where the rage goes when someone you have to listen to/work under is an idiot

[thinkingisadangerouspastime]

dance

Written for Day 4 of @aangweek! Read here on AO3.

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4. dance - if you hit a wall, climb over it, crawl under it, or dance on top of it

What year did Fire Lord Sozin battle the Air Nation army?

The Air Nation army.

What army? The ashen remains of bones that littered the Air Temples? The memories of a past erased and rewritten by the conquerors? The whispers and cries of voices drowned out by roaring flames? That army?

Aang shuddered, pulling his knees to his chest. Was that how his people were remembered? As part of a history reformatted and reworked? As aggressors instead of defenders? As casualties, no, as soldiers instead of victims? Was that how the world had chosen to immortalize his people?

Aang sighed, releasing his legs before slowly pushing himself into a sitting position. He wouldn’t be falling asleep anytime soon. And besides - he could see the sun inching upwards over the horizon. Daybreak had almost arrived, which meant it was only a matter of time before everyone woke up and they continued travelling. There was no point in him trying to catch an extra hour of shut-eye.

Maybe he could meditate for a bit. While he waited for morning to come. It could help him clear his mind, he supposed, of… of those more painful memories. Of false knowledge force-fed down his throat.

But as Aang stood to find an open place for meditation, he was distracted by the presence of Sokka. His friend was already awake, hunched over and scribbling away at his lengthy schedule.

“We can shorten our stay here,” Sokka muttered, “and taking this route shaves two hours off our total travel time if we only take one break instead of two -” He stopped when Aang joined him, the airbender plopping down on a patch of grass. “Good morning?” He paused. “Uh… What are you doing up so early?”

Aang gave his friend an amused smile, folding his legs criss-cross. Considering he himself was usually the first one up, Aang couldn’t help but find Sokka’s question rather hilarious. “I was going to ask you the same thing.”

Sokka shrugged. “Just trying to rework our schedule. I have to take in account the extra days we stayed in that cave if we want to arrive at the meet-up point for the eclipse invasion on time.”

Aang flinched at the reminder. Of the upcoming eclipse or the additional days he’d encouraged his friends to stay in the city, he wasn’t sure. When Sokka glanced at him, Aang looked away. Down at his feet. “Right. Yeah. I guess we do need to make up for that… lost time.”

Sokka raised an eyebrow, at first not commenting. He rolled up his schedule and placed it aside. “So, why again did you say you were up so early?”

Aang hadn’t.

He sighed, leaning backwards to stare up at the arrival of dawn and bracing himself with his palms. Clouds of orange and red and yellow burned before Aang. Hues not dissimilar to fire. “Dreams.” Memories.

Sokka nodded. “Nightmares?”

“Kind of.”

“Want to talk about them?”

The Air Nomads didn’t have a formal military.

Aang shook his head. “Not really.”

Sokka nodded. “That’s okay. You don’t have to.” He tucked the group’s schedule into his bag. “Want to talk about something else?”

Aang didn’t answer immediately. Stuck on some twisted loop, his mind traced over and over and over the surprise, the shock, the disbelief of every kid’s face in the cave as he’d danced before them. They, too, had been robbed of their childhood. Not in the same way, no. Not at the same price. But it had been stolen from them all the same.

“Do you think I helped them?” Aang finally whispered. His fingers dug into the dirt beneath his palms, collecting behind his nails. “The Fire Nation kids, I mean.” He sat up straight again, this time making eye contact with his friend. “Toph told me I helped them to be free.” He swallowed a lump in his throat. “Do you… Do you think she was right?”

Sokka raised an eyebrow. “Uh, what are you talking about?” Aang opened his mouth to explain, but Sokka continued before he could get a word out. “Of course she was right.”

Aang’s voice disappeared into his chest for a full ten seconds before resurfacing. “She was? But it was just a dance par-”

“It wasn’t ‘just’ a dance party, Aang,” Sokka interrupted, giving him a wry smile after his use of dramatic finger quotes. “You gave those kids their first moment of independent thought. I know I called them ‘depraved little monsters’” - Aang snorted at the reminder - “and while I don’t think I was too far off with that assessment, I’ve come to the conclusion that…” Sokka pursed his lips. “Well. Deprived might be a better word.”

Deprived.

Yes, that was fitting.

“I still can’t believe they didn’t know how to dance,” Aang said after a pause. “A hundred years ago, the Fire Nation was - was the place to be for dancing!” He learned everything he knew from Kuzon, after all. “And now…” Aang sighed. “Sure, I gave them a taste of fun, but they’re all going to be punished for it.” If they hadn’t been already. “Was that - Was it even worth it for them?”

“I think it was,” Sokka answered, a thoughtful expression crossing his features. “Like I said - it wasn’t just a dance party.” A beat passed, and he winked at Aang as he held a finger over his lips. “It was a secret dance party.”

Aang laughed. “What are you talking ab-”

“You taught them to challenge authority!” Sokka continued, throwing his hands in the air. “You taught them that sometimes, to learn the real truth, you have to think outside the box and track down other sources.” He laughed, shaking his head. “Aang, you showed them that adults can be wrong. That people in power are not infallible.” Sokka grinned at him. “So you didn’t just teach them to be free. You taught them how to find their own freedom, too. And in a brainwashed, messed-up country like the Fire Nation?” He snorted. “Spirits know they need that.”

Brainwashed… Not an inaccurate term to describe the misinformation - the lies - Aang knew their country had built its new foundation on.

“Thanks, Sokka,” Aang said, giving his friend a soft smile as tension eased from his shoulders. Maybe it was a good thing, then, that he’d stayed those extra days in the cave. Those kids were the future of the Fire Nation. Change would have to start with them.

“You’re welcome, buddy.”

Aang bit his lip. A beat passed. “Can I ask you another question?”

“I mean, you technically just did - kidding, I’m kidding,” Sokka amended as Aang rolled his eyes. “None of you have a sense of humor.”

“Sokka, you know I think you’re the funniest guy in the four nations.”

“And you would be right!” They both laughed, and Sokka continued once their snickering had died down. “But sure, go ahead. What’s on your mind?”

Aang opened his mouth to speak, then hesitated, out of nowhere finding that it was thrice as difficult for air to enter and exit his lungs. How embarrassing for an - the last - airbender.

Deep breaths. In and out.

Well, I don’t know how you could possibly know more than our national history book.

“What… What were you taught about my people?” Aang found himself staring at the ground, at his feet, at anywhere but Sokka’s eyes. “The Air Nomads?”

“Uh… not much,” Sokka admitted, and Aang grimaced. “We knew Sozin massacred them in an attempt to kill the Avatar, which started the war. Gran Gran told us they were a peaceful people, too, and were all really gifted benders.” He hesitated, giving Aang an apologetic glance. “I’m… sorry I don’t know more.”

Aang’s chest ached with an emptiness he sometimes feared would never be filled. But at least Sokka hadn’t been told -

“You know my people didn’t attack first, though?” His voice faltered, and Aang cleared his throat. “That - That they never wanted to fight?”

Sozin defeated them by ambush.

“Yeah,” Sokka said quietly. “I know.”

He forced down the lump in his throat, and when Sokka moved to pull him into a tight embrace, Aang allowed himself to fall apart in his friend’s arms.

When the sun had risen and his tears had dried, Aang spoke.

“After I defeat Fire Lord Ozai… you’re going to dance with me.”

Sokka raised an eyebrow. “I’m gonna what now?”

“Dance with me.” Aang gave him a small smile. “Come on. Don’t tell me you’re too much of a picken to dance with your best friend.”

Sokka rolled his eyes. “You know what? Sure. Why not. When you defeat Fire Lord Ozai, I’ll dance with you.” He grinned at Aang. “I look forward to it, hotman.”

Aang laughed. “Flameo!”

~*~

i am prepared and willing to throw hands with anyone who says "the headband" ep was pointless filler (it really and truly was not). also, i read something and it said flameo was a curse word, and idk if that's true, but you're welcome to interpret the final line as aang being like "fuck yeah!" if you'd like. thank you for reading, and i hope to see you tomorrow for day 5 - air temples!

[allthethingswecoulddo]

The Guardian needs to pick a side, and so do the women that transphobes are trying to rally.

You can silently allow these purported ‘feminists’ to speak for you, as they vilify trans people, or stand with your trans siblings to do the real work of bringing down the patriarchy and all the gendered violence that comes with it.

Content warning: transphobia, sexual and domestic violence, TERFs, homophobia & biphobia, racism, far right & mention of Nazis

On 2nd March the Guardian published an article called ‘Women must have the right to organise. We will not be silenced’, by self-identifying Trans Exclusionary Radical Feminist (TERF), Suzanne Moore. The article, however badly written and absurd, has a platform. And with a distinct lack of meaningful trans representation or awareness in the media at large, it’s likely that some people will be lured into believing that Moore has credible points to make. The Guardian has rubber stamped this hateful rhetoric and rallying cry for transphobia, and it’s not the first time.

So it’s time for the Guardian, as well as the cisgender, white middle class women amongst it’s readership, who are clearly being summoned to fight in an imaginary war, to pick a side. And those ‘sides’ are not trans rights vs. cisgender women’s rights. Because trans rights do not infringe cisgender women’s rights. You have to pick two sides of history: you can silently allow these purported ‘feminists’ to speak for you, as they vilify trans people and claim that misogyny and sexism is only experienced by those with the ‘ability to reproduce’ (which, by the way, doesn’t cover all cisgender women) or stand with your trans siblings to do the real work of bringing down the patriarchy and all the gendered violence that comes with it.

What follows is an attempt to unpick the slew of shit arguments that Moore strung together in her Guardian article for the purposes of exposing her thinly veiled hate speech, and equipping allies with the arguments to shut down transphobia in their day to day lives.

1. Moore uses the tactics of the far right, by suggesting that trans people and those fighting for trans rights are a threat to free speech.

Far right poster boys in the UK, like Tommy Robinson AKA Stephen Christopher Yaxley-Lennon (LOL), have been rallying supporters by claiming that free speech is under threat. He likes to weaponise this argument against Muslim communities and people of colour for the most part, but won’t say no to a touch of sexism, misogyny and transphobia. It’s become a familiar trope, the idea of a snowflake generation, so sensitive to harm that they won’t even expose themselves to a touch of hate speech.

TERFs are not above allying with the likes of the far right to stoke fear and anger in those who’ve felt the burn of sexism, misogyny, homophobia biphobia and who feel a bit baffled by University discourse around safe spaces and no platforming. They conveniently point the finger at trans people, mostly trans women, and say ‘they are the problem, you can’t say anything anymore, they are silencing us!’

In fact, in the States, TERFs have been proven to have organised links with far right Christian groups, and many of the UK groups who (according to Moore, are definitely not hate groups) are funded by the same organisations. So when Moore says ‘Now, I feel a huge sadness when I look at the fragmentation of the landscape, where endless fighting, cancellations and no platformings have obscured our understanding of who the real enemies are,’ I can’t stifle my maniacal laughter.

How brainwashed do you have to be to think that trans people and their allies are the enemy, when you will cooperate with far right racists? Sure, there might be a debate to be had about the effectiveness of tactics like no platforming, but when trans rights are conflated with the concept of free speech denial, the TERFs are knowingly playing into the hands of the far right.

2. She harks back to Section 28 protests as the good ol’ days, when LGBT people knew what to fight for and our collective oppression trumped our differences. The irony is lost on her.

In 2019 we saw a momentous win in the 30 year battle for LGBT inclusion in schools, with the introduction of inclusive relationships and sex education. That wouldn’t have been possible without solidarity across the LGBT movement.

But TERFs have taken this victory as an opportunity to make the exact same arguments about teaching on gender identity as were made by Section 28. The idea that any mention of LGBT people was ‘the promotion of homosexuality’ (a line taken directly from the clause) is echoed in their claims that children and young people are being brainwashed and tricked into being trans. They even organised to try and prevent funds reaching Mermaids, a charity for trans children and young people last year, by mobilising misinformed and hateful women on Mumsnet via the lightning rod of Graham Linehan - who, by the way, compares people fighting for trans rights to those active in Nazi Germany.

We know that almost half of young trans people have attempted suicide. And scumbags like Moore have the audacity to claim they are being silenced? All whilst being published in the likes of the Guardian.

3. TERFs want you to believe that they are voiceless and marginalized. But the fact is, they get a seat at the table, to make decisions about other people’s lives. How feminist of them.

TERFs want you to believe that they are at the vanguard of feminism, being punished for speaking out like the great feminists before us. But as we’ve established, they are supported by well-resourced dark forces, given public platforms, and unfortunately our government is bending to their will in the name of ‘balance.’

During a consultation on gender recognition in the UK last year, Government Equalities Office officials had meetings with activists from Transgender Trend, Fair Play for Women and A Woman’s Place UK. All these groups are transphobic hate groups; one has wished cancer on trans people on their public social media accounts, and that’s not the worst of it. Now the Guardian has shown its true colors, platforming the voices of established TERFS. Does that seem like silencing to you?

In the meantime, trans people get next to no meaningful representation, we see vitriolic trash in the media every day and transphobic hate crime has rocketed.

4. Concepts of sex and gender as binary are weaponised to invalidate trans people. And it harms cisgender women too.

Moore believes that the most radical insight of feminism is that gender is binary but you are allowed to play with femininity and masculinity. Wow, she has missed the point. You don’t have to be a feminist scholar to know that feminism has helped us understand, unpick and fight back against, a patriarchal system of oppression, of which ideas around femininity and masculinity are symptoms. If the goal of your feminism stops at the destruction of stereotypes, you’re probably pretty privileged - because whilst it’s no doubt, essential to women’s liberation, it will not end gendered violence and oppression. 

Gender and sex are both a spectrum - trans, non-binary and gender non-conforming people have always existed. This is not, as TERFs would have you believe, a recent fad or phase. The conflation of gender and sex, and the aggressive enforcement of the binary from the very moment of conception is a fundamental pillar of patriarchy. And you are punished, socially and politically if you are considered to deviate from these norms. Moore tokenistically mentions intersex people but fails to acknowledge that right now in the UK, intersex babies are having non-consensual operations at birth so that they will conform more neatly to binary concepts of sex.  

It’s in TERF’s interest to protect the binary because they want, more than anything, for cisgender women to believe their rights are threatened by trans people and that trans rights and cis women’s rights are incompatible. TERFs will have you believe that you should be more concerned with someone’s genitals than their humanity. They seem less concerned by internal sex organs, hormones and all the other facets that make up the narrow binaries of sex; but that would complicate their nice, neat excuse for transmisogyny.

5. TERF’s priority is not the prevention of rape or domestic abuse. It is the vilification of trans people, who are disproportionately affected by sexual and domestic violence.

TERFs seem to get endless inspiration from the oppressors of LGBT people; Moore’s article is littered with a transphobic trope, that paints trans people as predatory. It’s nothing new, that’s exactly what they said about lesbians, gay and bi people during the Section 28 era that Moore seems so nostalgic for. And if there’s one stand out reason you should visibly and proudly reject the rhetoric of TERFs and stand side by side with your trans siblings, it’s this: TERFs promote violence against trans people when they paint trans people as predatory. They are a hate group, they promote violence against trans people.

Tarana Burke, the founder of the #MeToo movement (pictured above) said ‘I founded the 'me too' movement in 2006 because I wanted to find a way to connect with the black and brown girls in the program I ran.’ Burke is still fighting to center the voices of marginalised survivors as the movement has blown up and focused on cis, white celebrities. In a 2017 article she said, ‘there’s no conversation in this whole thing [#MeToo] about transgender folks and sexual violence. There’s no conversation in this about people with disabilities and sexual violence. We need to talk about Native Americans, who have the highest rate of sexual violence in this country. So no, I can’t take my focus on marginalized people.’

It shouldn’t need spelling out, but we know that:

Two in five trans people (41 per cent) and three in ten non-binary people (31 per cent) have experienced a hate crime or incident because of their gender identity in the last 12 months. (Stonewall, LGBT in Britain -Trans Report)

The 2015 U.S. Transgender Survey found that 47% of transgender people are sexually assaulted at some point in their lifetime.

 More than a quarter of trans people (28 per cent) in a relationship in the last year have faced domestic abuse from a partner. (Stonewall, LGBT in Britain -Trans Report)

Seven per cent of trans people said they have been refused care because they are LGBT, while trying to access healthcare services in the last year. (Stonewall, LGBT in Britain -Trans Report)

Cisgender women must be visible and active trans allies and stand side by side with their trans siblings if we’re going to win. So that instead of wasting our energy having to defend ourselves and fight for the very fact of trans people’s existence, we can get on with protecting and winning rights.

So, cisgender women of Guardian readership and beyond, pick a side. These vile transphobes will exploit their exposure to feed hatred and violence against trans women the whole trans community. Your voice is important, and necessary, to reject their rhetoric, and build a feminist movement of meaningful solidarity. We have so much more to fight for.

[averydecker1995]

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Dear Men of #MeToo: Abuse Is Behaviour, Not a Symptom of Mental Illness

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Dear Men of #MeToo: Abuse Is Behaviour, Not a Symptom of Mental Illness

Trigger warning: Sexual harassment/abuse

The #MeToo movement has served quite a few gals arrive out with their stories of sexual harassment and abuse at the fingers of potent guys. It has also highlighted the difficulties affiliated with mental wellbeing. Lots of ladies have spoken up about the effect of these incidents on survivors and comprehending why women of all ages just take time to come out in the open up with their narratives. At the same time, the much more catchy mentions of ‘mental health’ have been furthered by the adult males accused of sexual harassment and assault them selves, via their very carefully-worded apologies.

Mayank Jain, a journalist at the Company Common, comic Utsav Chakraborty and Abhishek Upadhya, an editor at India Television, tried to use their psychological health troubles as a defence just after currently being accused of predatory conduct by several women of all ages. Phrases like “struggle”, “disease”, “seeking help” and “therapy” were being littered on their Twitter timelines. These terms say things that these adult men want us to know – but do they seriously issue? And why communicate about it now?

Placing lousy mental well being on the table when you are accused of misconduct is a common gambit. Just after the poet Mary Karr wrote about how her previous associate David Foster Wallace had abused her physically and emotionally, a good deal of backlash centered on Wallace’s mental health and fitness troubles. In a personalized essay for the New Yorker, celebrated creator Junot Diaz talked about the repression of his childhood abuse and linked it to the accusations of assaulting and harassing several women of all ages. The courtroom trials of Roman Polanski talked about his ‘mental illness’ quite a few periods, adhering to his arrest for sexually abusing small children.

The similarities are obvious. All these males, and several other individuals, affected generations with their perform in literature and the media, experienced from mental wellness problems and abused these who seemed fewer impressive. Even so, it would be amiss to connect abuse and mental well being.

Initial off, there are similar styles of violence perpetrated by persons with as perfectly as without  a mental health issues. “The intersection of abusers with mental health difficulties is incredibly thin,” Sadaf Vidha, a Mumbai-primarily based psychologist whose clientele includes survivors of gender-based mostly violence, suggests. “Think about it while reversing the roles – when women of all ages or minorities experience from mental wellness difficulties, do we see them routinely abusing or assaulting other persons?”

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The affiliation of psychological illness with abusive conduct isn’t new the ‘insanity defence’ is likely its most popular byproduct. Researches have been discovering this relationship for a long time and have observed prevalence of mental sickness in convicted intercourse offenders, but no indicators of a crystal clear lead to-outcome has been located.

A 1999 review by Jenny Muzos of the Australian Institute Of Criminology dispels the fantasy that violent behaviour is involved with mental ailment. It identified that properties of crimes this sort of as homicides fully commited by offenders diagnosed with a mental condition were being no distinct from those of crimes committed by other offenders.

Right after a enterprise collection of scientific studies, Nancy Erickson, an attorney and expert on domestic violence and lawful troubles, concluded that though mental sickness could or may perhaps not exist in abusers, the abuse they inflict is a conduct and not a symptom.

A meta-analysis of many experiments by Andrew Klein, a professor of regulation at the Indiana College, Bloomington, and funded by the US Section of Justice, for the Battered Ladies Justice Task states that men who abuse are no more probable to undergo from mental ailments than the everyday populace. Their paper reads, “Although batterers may perhaps endure from depression or very low self-esteem immediately after getting arrested or restrained, these conditions have not been identified to have caused the abuse.”

Jaydip Sarkar, of the Institute of Mental Overall health, Singapore, asserted in a 2013 assessment of the assessments of psychological wellness of sex offenders in India that rape, sexual harassment and other predatory behaviours are not automatically the result of having a psychological wellbeing challenge.

The difficulty of perpetrators utilizing worry as a final result of work and/or substance abuse as an excuse was reviewed in a 1999 evaluation by Sarah Buel, a law firm and professor at Arizona Point out University. Buel spent 3 decades functioning with survivors of domestic violence and concluded that however violence are not able to be induced by pressure, stress could exacerbate violence.

When abusers use psychological health troubles as a shield, it provides to a horrifying, misinformed and ableist narrative. “Men immediately or indirectly stating that abusive tendencies are because of to mental health troubles, is just a further version of ‘I could not manage my need/anger’,” Vidha additional. “This is a really effectively-known sample. Abusers will blame wellness, exterior environments or the victims, just about anything that will allow them not to take accountability for their misuse of electrical power.”

The get the job done of Lundy Bancroft

Jain’s tweet about him in search of treatment to “reform himself” was very similar to Mark Halperin’s lengthy apology for reportedly assaulting about 50 percent a dozen females through his time at ABC Information, in the early 2000s. In his assertion, Halperin said he sought mental health and fitness counselling immediately after he left ABC.

Be sure to go through my statement under. pic.twitter.com/8ld8k8DC6O

— Mark Halperin (@MarkHalperin) Oct 27, 2017

Lundy Bancroft expended decades researching and counselling abusive gentlemen. In his 2002 e-book, Why Does He Do That? Within the Minds of Indignant and Controlling Gentlemen, Bancroft discusses the myth at the rear of utilizing psychological well being as a reason to abuse as very well as to feed misguided beliefs that potentially treatment method that can ‘fix’ these gentlemen.For case in point, on Diaz’s reference to his childhood abuse, Bancroft writes, “… abusive males may possibly obtain that accounts of childhood abuse is one of the very best ways to pull heartstrings.”

Bancroft states that people have the likely to get over psychological injuries from childhood and the impact of these accidents want not thrust the human being to inflict exact behaviour on other individuals.

When Chakraborty described his mental well being, he was making an attempt to sneak it into his apology and lay the ground for sympathy. Bancroft pointedly dismisses this, composing “… abuse is a challenge of values and not of psychology. Psychological disease does not result in abusiveness any longer than alcohol does. Perceptions of daily life circumstances in these males are exact, their minds perform logically and they comprehend induce-effect.”

The very same goes for Jain’s excuse and Upadhya proclaiming to search for professional assistance to deal with “these issues”. Bancroft proceeds, “I have still to fulfill an abuser who has produced any meaningful and lasting alterations in his behaviour by means of therapy no matter of how significantly insight he might have gained.” He also writes that qualified assistance will only help make them “happy, perfectly-adjusted” abusers mainly because interventions like psychotherapy can only tackle problems they are devised to tackle, and abusive conduct is not one of them.

It is also important to differentiate among two types of damaging conduct. One is wherever critical mental disorders like mania could cause a human being to become harmful, as a final result of which they may end up hurting the folks about them. The other is where the destruction is intentional and isn’t motivated by the sickness.

Of program, none of these usually means that any psychological wellness troubles these males might have are invalid or non-existent. They are probable to be as distressing for these males as they are for everyone else. Having said that, the distress does not have something to do with their incapability to understand consent or the company of the females.

“We are a patriarchal culture and allowing for psychological wellness issues to turn out to be an excuse for abuse or assault will lead to huge misuse of insurance policies and legal guidelines like the Mental Health Act,” Vidha claimed about the repercussions of individuals obtaining into these connections. “We want to differentiate amongst what socialisation teaches males that is ‘okay to do’ and what their psychological health and fitness conditions guide them to do.”

Psychological health and fitness problems and predatory behaviour can coexist in a one mind but with some length among each other. There are individuals who do go through from a mental disease and are abusive towards females – and there are also persons with a psychological health issues who do not engage in these types of conduct. This is the place human psychology takes a stage back and phone calls price programs to the phase.

Prateek Sharma is a college student pursuing a master’s diploma in clinical psychology, a researcher and a mental wellbeing activist operating to advertise inclusive psychological health and fitness treatment in India. He tweets @prateekshawarma.

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