#but as long as you shit on cis ppl's surgeries you're also shitting on trans ppl's surgeries

[dragontatoes]

actually I'm all good on hearing cis people (ESPECIALLY white ones) bitch about cosmetic surgeries. I don't care if you don't want them. I don't care if you do. Do nosejobs say something about society? Yeah probably, but I don't think you have the insight or resources to do anything helpful about that. And the way some cis people call a surgery "mutilation"... sounds... familiar for some reason

[dazzling-dollyz]

List of reasons why I hate TERFS as a cis woman, and vile shit I've seen them say and do:

And mind you, this is a LONG list.

Claiming they "protect real women and feminism" while actively harrassing and attacking both trans women (when feminism has ALWAYS been trans inclusive) AS WELL AS attacking any cis woman who doesn't fit into their imagined perception of a woman (taking photos of random women and accusing them of being trans just cuz they have body hair, a stronger jawline, broader shoulders, etc...as if plenty of cis women didn't have those things)

Being ableist as shit, constantly calling trans ppl mentally ill and disturbed, calling them narcissists when they talk about their experiences and using things like autism statistics to imply they're 'unsound' somehow - which a.) hurts autistic people everywhere, including the autistic cis women y'all claim you protect, b.) Goes to show how worthless you see disabled people as (again, including the cis disabled women you claim to protect), and C.) Goes to show how far you're willing to go to dehumanize someone

Speaking of disability, there was an article about how a woman with POTS was harrassed out of a public bathroom cuz transphobes accused her of being trans 🙃🙃 a cis woman. Just because she didn't look like a Barbie to them, I guess.

Once someone brought up how some women can't have kids because they don't have eggs or uteruses and terfs reblogged that shit saying 'are you sure they're a woman then' - as if there weren't PLENTY of women who a.) don't want kids and have no desire to bear children, B.) Are infertile so they can't have kids even if they want to, C.) Had to remove their uteruses for health related (or personal) reasons, or D.) Can't have kids because of health risks - once again hurting the cis women y'all claim to protect

On that note - I have seen SO many terfs and radfems undoing all the progress feminism has done by reducing us women to our biology - saying shit like "REAL women have UTERUSES and BOOBS and OVARIES and CAN BIRTH and they don't have ANY facial hair or strong jawlines and if you do have those it's obvious that you're a disgusting man".

I've also seen them UNIRONICALLY say shit like "women are twice as small as men!!" And "women are weaker and less intelligent than men" and "men have biological advantages in everything" - while still somehow acting like they're being feminist

Screenshotting posts of trans people literally doing their own thing like making jokes amongst themselves and bullying them, implying that they're "sick and disturbed" (i saw some saying this about trans ppl who were making jokes about Puss in Boots. Seriously. Literally cuz they were just making the "i'm glad your top surgery went well!" "I'm a communist" memes. One even pulled up autism statistics to further '''prove''' they were disturbed somehow. For fucking MEMES.)

In general they constantly talk bad about people for no fucking reason and even hijack posts just to shit on trans people unprompted (even though they LOVE to claim 'trans people FORCE us to talk about them!!")

I was reading a comic about the fetishization of Asian culture and Asian women and a terf decided to use it as an excuse to talk shit about trans people - even when trans people were NOT MENTIONED AT ALL. The creator rightfully responded saying 'hey, stop this, don't hijack my post to spread hate" which I commend them for

I also saw a Tiktok stitch where a girl was saying you're 'not doing good in life if you wear a backpack as an adult' and another girl stitched it saying 'hi, complain about something that matters' and terfs, unprompted, were reblogging saying shit like "does anyone notice??? 👀👀 so no one's gonna say it??? 👀👀 that's a MAN" at...idk which of the girls honestly. But it was so fucking ridiculous to see

ACCUSING TRANS PEOPLE FOR ROE V WADE GETTING OVERTURNED. AS IF THERE WERE ANY TRANS PPL IN THE FUCKING SUPREME COURT.

Constantly tearing down SWs for no fucking reason because women aren't allowed to make decisions about their own sexuality I guess

Calling YOUNG BOYS EVIL for fucking doing shit ALL CHILDREN DO. saying shit like they're "irredeemable and disgusting". Literal CHILDREN. ARE YOU KIDDING ME.

Talking about a trans man in a very disgusting sexualizing way when he spoke of getting top surgery - talking about how 'pretty his lovely breasts were' - and that if they were invited to the party celebrating the top surgery they would purposefully give everyone those gummy bear candies that give you diarrhea.

Basically, I hate TERFS because they act like total jerks not just to trans people, but to anyone they THINK is trans, and as they claim to "protect real women", they actively hurt both trans and cis women - and EVERYONE, for that matter - with their rhetoric.

They're genuinely some of the most vile and toxic people I have ever seen, aside from maga chuds.

They act like they're feminists when they're really just closet conservatives. People who do the shit terfs do will NEVER be real feminists.

And as a cis woman, I fucking hate TERFs.

[absul]

Regarding your tags in that last trans dysphoria post, I totally understand what you're saying and I say Amen to that, I used to follow this blog that would like go on these whiny tirades of how they wouldn't pass and stuff and I know it's a private blog and you're allowed to post whatever you want but constantly posting all this self-hate about why wasn't I born cis and I'm such an ugly trans person and stuff really was like this horrible transphobia directed towards themselves that it was really hard to like keep following them even though they were a nice person so I had to end up unfollowing them

It's not other trans people's prerogative or job to make someone with such deep-seated transphobia feel better

cheers mate i'll drink to that 👍 you’re absolutely right on that last note, especially if said person with those issues does nothing to ensure the comfort of their fellow trans siblings, and instead brushes them off like their feelings don’t matter/only prioritizes theirself even when they’re no longer the only person involved. i’m sorry you had to see that shit though, it’s rough watching people sabotage themselves like that. i’m glad you didn’t internalize any of it <3 /gen

and honestly, i don't think it would be as bad if they sanctioned that sort of stuff off to some secret venting sideblog, or to just keep it worded as vaguely as possible if they had to post it to main for whatever reason; because i get being so bottled up with anger and sadness that you just wanna say SOMETHING, SOMEWHERE, so that the feelings don't just fester inside of you and snowball.

BUT, what these kinds of ppl don't seem to understand is that when they say detailed shit like 'ugh my body is soo repulsive 😫 i hate being trans, who would ever WANT to live like this 😖😖 i hate seeing trans stuff i don't want to be reminded of my FlawsTM 😣😣😣😣' on a main blog that a LOT of ppl follow, because they make a point to get involved in things and make informative posts, THAT AFFECTS EVERY TRANS PERSON THAT FOLLOWS THEM. fucking! especially!!! questioning trans ppl!!!!!! that are only just now exploring themselves and their supposed cisness!!!! for fucks sake could you even IMAGINE seeing someone you looked up to posting abt how much they hated such a big facet of their identity like that??? something that you were starting to think that the two of you shared?? literally there's SO many ways for that to go wrong; 

'oh this trans person i've been following for so long says all these mean things abt theirself...should i feel like that, too?'

'but i don't feel like that...does that mean i'm not trans? i guess i should just forget it, i don't want to invade any safe spaces'

'hey, i feel like that too...i think i'll look for more people that also feel this way and follow them. i'm tired of all this flowery positivity, there IS something wrong/flawed about me, just look at all of these other trans people that say the same!!!'

like...fuck, man. i can only hope that any newly-discovering trans ppl don't fall for that endless self deprecating shit. there's absolutely nothing wrong with feeling down, but you can't let yourself make that your entire identity. not only will you eventually end up making yourself so miserable that it will seem impossible to get out of that mindset, but very few well-meaning people will want to stay around you when all you do is talk about how you hate yourself and implying that they should hate themselves, too.

trans people aren't miserable because of our transness; we’re miserable because of how our cis-dominated society treats us. if we all had the access to whatever medicine and/or surgeries that we wanted/needed to alleviate dysphoria, and were actually treated like fucking living and breathing PEOPLE just like everyone else, i'd like to think that we wouldn't be seeing nearly as much of this bullshit as we do now.

being trans is not solely suffering and it ESPECIALLY isn’t '’’wrong.’’’ being trans is fucking beautiful and sacred and empowering. and if anyone ever tries to say otherwise, you tell them to fuck off immediately, because they aren't worth the time nor the effort.