#but also maybe it is just plain ol sexism and the reason hes been mistreating everyone is cuz of sexism.

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i guess i feel conflicted about it because i don't think it's truly outright sexism? i really don't know how to describe what's so truly offputting to me about all this in the gendered way and trying to describe it makes me sound weird for being upset over men being hired but like. idkkk

i just feel like. everyone here dislikes him, because he fucking sucks, and everyone here is a young 20s or younger woman, contrasted greatly with him being a middle aged man and we are all his daughter's age on average, and so he is obviously alienated just by being a totally different demographic than us as well as the fact that we are all peers AND friends with each other, then add on the fact that we all dislike him as well bc he sucks as a manager, i can understand him feeling that its cliquey and he dislikes the dynamic of him being the odd one out in the bad way

and so i feel like this whole round of hiring only men is his attempt to bring in his own “boy’s club” so that he has his own peers etc. But what rubs me wrong is that this store has ALWAYS been run by women - i have been here 2 years and some months and i can count the number of male employees we’ve had on one hand. so it rubs me wrong that he already flipped our dynamic of camaraderie on its head by making this such a toxic environment by being a shitty manager, but now to cause such a huge shift by changing the demographics as well, it just feels like, i dont know. it feels like hes upending what we built here. it's like, you're already a new person here, changing store managers is already a huge change in the tone of the store, to then change something so fundamental like the actual makeup, the actual composition of who works here, it's like, my coworkers make or break this job, to replace the ones you dislike and replace them willy nilly with "your" people is just so offputting to me and it's like, who do you think you are?

and like if the issue truly is the potential cliqueyness, you could easily reestablish camaraderie by like, NOT being a shitty manager? i feel like if he was a good manager then the fact we are totally different demographics wouldnt matter so much, but the reason we have such a huge divide between us and him in the first place is because he sucks and he talks shit about everyone behind their backs and the store is falling apart and he offloads all his duties on everyone else and our ASM, who is also our friend, ALMOST FUCKING DIED, etc. Theres a building resentment because of who he is as a manager - the solution is to become a better manager, not to replace the coworkers who you mistreated with new ones who better match your demographic in an attempt to create your own clique against our own. The problem is not that we’re young women, the problem is that you suck!!!!!

Re; work situation, u absolutely aren't being weird or anything, that's sussy af

thank you all for the input and i also have found another update since i made that post!

so let me summarize why i dislike this man beyond this potential sexism or however else you'd label these bad vibes:

- he fired our replenishment manager. for reasons i cannot fully disclose bc A. im not supposed to know about it (im friends w the other managers so they told me anyway) B. i dont know much about it (as only the SM has the full picture and even my friend managers barely know anything) and C. trying to maintain some semblance of privacy. but she is indeed getting an attorney over it so its like serious

- (RM was the 30s year old woman who helped serve as a middleman between us early 20s women and the 50 yo male SM. additionally she literally ran the store, super responsible for keeping us neat and timely and organized. when she was fired we all said the store would fall apart without her - and guess what! it did. the store has been a fucking mess since only one month after she left)

- he never hired a new RM. instead he made the new full time assistant manager (22 year old woman) take on replenishment duties on top of her actual role-specific duties and refused to share the burden by taking on additional duties as well, taking serious advantage of her

- full time ASM almost dies from a stress related health emergency due to being overworked. SM shows no sympathy or concern for her. when ASM puts in her two weeks he declines it and is only worried about who will cover him for his vacation. because he declined her 2 weeks she just resigned immediately and good for her because she almost fucking died. so now we are down an RM and an ASM and only have two part time closing managers and the full time FM (who really only should be doing framing duties and nothing else) (and prior to this SM coming to our store we used to have a full time RM, ASM, FM, as well as 3-4 part time managers, 2-3 of which closed at night exclusively and 1-2 of which worked mostly mornings or were flexible between mornings and nights. so we’ve already been short on managers for like, all of 2023 - hence why the idea of me becoming a manager was brought up around christmas/new years, to become another part time manager. but i was never given an offer and that role was never filled!)

- being down all these managers finally pushes him to hire new ones

- he hires a new guy, and already has ambitious goals of making him the new RM... within five days of working here. that guy in the break room is now in the running for this position. after only being here for five days.

- and now today ive learned. SM is also going to hire… another man….. to replace the ASM. which is what i just found out after making that other post. like come on. this is weird right

so like hes already been a shitty person what with everything going on these past 2 months and even his condescending attitude overall for this entire duration here, but now the extra layer of bringing in all these men in general, but specifically to replace the hard working, responsible, overworked, and overall well liked female managers, with random ass men who none of us ever met before, especially after pushing out said female managers one way or the other (direct firing, and almost indirectly killing), its just like. Again the pushing out of those managers was already bad enough but now the fact theyre being replaced with these random ass men, like, its already bad enough that the dynamic in this store is changing due to these well liked managers leaving, but then to go as far as to change the dynamic by bringing in all these men into a long, looooong time female-dominated store, its just. Like. aegh