#but also! i don't need be going “i have a tiiiiiiiiny crush on-” or like brushing it past it while i um. i'm losing my mind | Explore Tumblr posts and blogs

ale-arro · 4 months ago

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thinking about a post i saw that was like "it's hard to use the word 'crush' as an alloaro bc people will automatically assume it's romantic" and i feel like i've recently been made to acknowledge another aspect of this which is that in distancing myself from the idea that my crushes are romantic i end up like, minimizing them? treating them like they're insignificant to me or weak in quantity because if i act too serious about it then it will be Assigned Romantic. but isn't that just more amatonormativity? the idea that if the feelings i have for someone are substantial then they must be romantic

#i do think that part of it is bc i am only really talking to other people about my attractions for the first time recently #i used to keep that shit to myself #and there Is an element of. um. trying to socialize myself as an adult to do something thst most people are socialized to do as teenagers #and. needing the fact that i am an adult to be respected here bc being mature about liking people is important to me #but also! i don't need be going “i have a tiiiiiiiiny crush on-” or like brushing it past it while i um. i'm losing my mind #aromantic #aro #alloaro #dlc tag #ig

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