#but Lesbians cant have that anymore and it was fucking TERFs who killed it

[chipped-chimera]

I have to say as someone who is now completely out and 120% concrete about being a Lesbian, coming into it all after being on 'the outside' as a Bisexual has put some things about the wlw community in a really, really frustrating light.

Like I absolutely understand the importance of having a shared wlw space, inclusive of our trans sisters and bisexuals and enbies. They are healthy spaces to have! But as someone who now IDs as just Lesbian, it's frustrating how hard it is to find any kind of community with my exclusively shared, cisfemale experience - and I solidly believe TERFs fucking RUINED that.

If you attempt to curate a cis-lesbian only (HOLD THE FLAMETHROWERS UNTIL I FUCKING FINISH) space, you're accused of being a bigot. Simply because you wanted to be able to network with those who have a shared experience easier. But you don't see this happening on other spaces. You don't see Lesbians complaining why they aren't allowed into the exclusively Bisexual's space. I can't speak for gay men, but I get the sense this isn't commonplace either. Also notably you don't have people coming for t4t or trans exclusive spaces for wanting to have a community where it's easy for them to connect with each other and those who deeply understand their experience. I have only seen this, exclusively, in the Lesbian space. I'm seeing this happening with the erosion of even the contemporary DEFINITION of the word Lesbian being fractured into micro-identities that demand admission, at the cost of Lesbian being our exclusive label. What do we have after that? Homosexual woman? Is that what I have to say now?

And I STILL blame TERFs. Why? Because now it is almost physically impossible to curate a ciswomen only, Lesbian exclusive space WITHOUT attracting that cesspit of humanity to your group. They go on and on about those they don't feel fit their restrictive definition of 'woman' invading our spaces - YOU DID THIS. YOU BROUGHT THIS ON US. YOU HAVE MADE IT, COMPLETELY IMPOSSIBLE NOW TO HAVE ANY KIND OF CIS-LESBIAN ONLY SPACE BECAUSE YOU POISONED THE WATER.

I love my bisexuals, my women-aligned enbies, my transwomen. I really, really fucking do. But it is so beyond frustrating to feel like your sexuality is the only one subject to this bullshit. That I can't go to a forum and try to read about shared experiences - to easily get help and perspectives about my experiences, about what I'm going through. They either have to be open to all or you become the bigot. You become the target. Because TERFs turned the idea of having boundaries, genital attraction preferences, gender attraction preferences, any KIND of exclusive preferences in your attraction, any reasonable boundaries into hallmarkers of bigotry.

You poisoned the fucking water, an I hate you for it. TERFs can go rot in hell.