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tj-crochets · 3 months ago

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Hey y'all, weird question time again! Is there anyway to word "I appreciate how unintimidating and unthreatening you are being" as a compliment that does not sound at all like an insult? One of my doctors is the absolute best at it, and I genuinely think it must be a skill he's deliberately cultivated, but I cannot figure out how to word it in a way that doesn't sound slightly insulting. Like, it's a good thing! A very good thing, especially in a doctor! But I cannot figure out how to word it in a way that conveys that

#the person behind the yarn #tj asks weird questions #I have PTSD. It's mostly under control for me and not usually an issue anymore #but I do have a few PTSD triggers I have been unable to get rid of that do occasionally cause problems at doctors visits #primarily that people touching my throat makes me very very tense #I have gotten better! I no longer automatically forcefully remove the hand from touching me #and I can make myself sit still and let doctors check my neck when needed #but I haaaate it and am very very tense the whole time #except with this doc. he is so unthreatening that the very first time I saw him he was able to check my neck without me tensing at all #and I didn't even register it as weird until I'd left his office #(most of the time they are checking for thyroid issues I think? or lymph nodes)#anyway I too have put effort into being able to be nonthreatening and unintimidating #because I used to work with toddlers and I didn't want them to ever hesitate to come to me for help #but all that seems very weird to say to a dude that I have thus far been unable to even ask where he buys his flannel shirts #because dang he has cool flannel shirts. the color combos are unlikely and I would like to buy them as well #but every time I try to word that question I am also like...yeah no that's a weird way to say it I will just not ask #it does not help that the stress of doctor visits tends to mean my word issues flare up lol

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