#but <3 that's my opinionnnn

[daydadahlias]

popping round for a discussion abt consent ! whats ur thoughts on dubcon ? (idk if you’ve alr gotten this question before of if ur opinion changed since then)

hi pookie!! thank u for popping around <3 people hardly ever take me up on my invitation so i appreciate it <3

ok jessay time

per dub con, I honestly don't know if I've already gotten an ask about this before? I know I got one asking me what the definition of it was foreverrrr ago but I don't know if anyone's ever asked for my personal opinion on it. And!! I don't think my opinion has wavered much on it as a topic in my ~many years of being a porn writer~

Personally, for me, dub con is really triggering so I'm pretty strongly opposed to it. I would honestly rather read/write a CNC fic before engaging with dub con. Like, at least with CNC, you know it's roleplay and that the characters are both actively enjoying the non-consensual aspect of it and have consented to this beforehand. With dub con, though, people just... aren't enjoying themselves. and that's pretty sad :(

My issue, primarily, with dub con too is that people very rarely recognize it and do not tag for it which can then result in a very triggering/emotionally distressing scene for a reader. Anything that is not enthusiastic, engaged consent before + during + after the act of sex is dub con. Even if a character "gets into it later," that's still dub con!! And should be tagged as dub con!! And I've gotten into a few fights w/ fanfic authors in my day lol because they've written a very triggering fic and when I asked them to tag for dub con, they said no <3 and that's a whole other separate vent about how, as an author, you need to tag when people request you to but... i wont get into it for the sake of rant length lol.

When it comes to dub con, it makes me really uncomfortable bc, usually, one partner is either a) completely unaware their partner isn't fully into it or b) completely uncaring their partner isn't fully into it and the other partner is just expected to get into it later. that's kind of majorly yucky imo :( both partners should be engaged and having a good time !! or, if they're not, they should be actively working on having one. like, if Character A notices Character B is uncomfortable, they should say "hey what's up :(" they should NOT say "it'll get better soon, just deal with this" like that's !! not cool !! that's not consent !! and, a lot of the time, people tag dub con when it's just blatantly rape !!! if a character doesn't consent but comes, that's RAPE. that's not dub con!! people really don't know their definition of things :(

and, on the whole, i just personally - as a smut writer - struggle to fully understand the benefit that dub con even has in a scene. LIKE, okay, let's say a character is struggling to get into something sexual due to X trauma or X insecurity: that can be a really interesting and engaging plot point if the characters discuss it in detail and how to move through it together to make each other feel safer/happier ! That can be really tender and sweet :) but, when people write dub con that's just for the sake of what they think is sexy (esp when they don't recognize it as being dub con), it blatantly unnerves me. like, i genuinely don't understand why sex that isn't fully enthusiastic and happy would be more fun to read than sex that is. like, if I'm writing abt two characters going at it, i want them to have lots of fun <3 (or, if they don't, I want that to be addressed with some importance as a plot device and a moment for the characters to get to know each other better and how to make each other happy).

I don't want to read a story where a character has to be coerced or pressured or guilted into sex with someone who is supposed to love them :(

and, yknow, i do acknowledge that there's probably more nuance to this specific topic than I personally allow bc of my own comfort levels, but <3 that's my viewpoint on it !

[tuituipupu]

did the cool bf pokédex tier list by @ajitanparmesan and i didn't think it through much i went with my heart and vibes.

i'm not rly a jo fan i listen to some of their music but couldn't tell u much about the boys so it's no shade just i can't rly see them vibing as much with k but maybe that's because i just don't know ehhhhh 🤪 i'm not cultured like that.

i feel like pekka is an underrated boyfie all those shenanigans in january were WILD and their blushy lil piccy together is my pfp for a reason <33

[dolores-slay]

This is a pet peeve but it's kinda annoying when important character moments in videogames are locked behind romances no matter how close of a friendship your PC can have with them. I understand why they make it so but it's so deeply unrelatable to me as I would entrust my true name and soul stone to friends and am friendship's strongest soldier and I'll always think a bit less of such character arcs SUE ME.

[allisonlol]

Ah, a Jouno simp...I've always been more of a Chuuya and Fyodor simp. Having said that Jouno is fast becoming a new contender. On that note..if you get time (uni is a real time eater) could we maybe get headcanons on ideal types of woman for Chuuya, Jouno & Fyodor please

a/n: chuuya and fyodor are on TOP too! jouno was love at first sight tho <33 but i would love to do this for u!! keep in mind y'all this is my OPINIONNNN so be nice or else. felt like i was writing kunikida's list of ideals LOL

warning: fem reader

(Chuuya, Jouno, Fyodor) And Their Ideal Woman

Chuuya

i feel like he's...not really picky??

like as long as ur decently nice and somewhat confident he'd be down to get to know u

i feel like chuuya would definitely be drawn to someone who puts a lot of effort into their appearance tho. he does the same so it's not a double standard!!

^such as well-put together outfits and styling ur hair or makeup to match

this is random but i think he likes girls who wear glasses...it's fine if u don't but bonus points if u do!! especially the round frames

doesn't care about height much. but if ur taller than him don't tease him too much or he'll be insecure :(

personality wise, i think chuuya would like someone who is sweet and a little shy, but knows when to stick up for themselves? like not a pushover

someone who is soft-spoken would be a nice contrast to his hotheadedness and bring out his softer side <3

Jouno

his type is me. next

all jokes but i think jouno would like someone who is very similar to him

^you would have to have a substantial amount of things in common to get close to him in the first place, since he doesn't waste his time on anyone

i'm thinking someone who is quick to aggravate, reserved, and sarcastic

there's a lot of playful banter instead of flirting

appearance doesn’t matter much since he can't exactly see you lol. but he would like to lightly trace over ur face and such to picture what you look like

due to his enhanced sense of smell he would love someone who smells good all the time...like regularly uses lotions and perfume but doesn't over-do it (too much would give him a headache)

^has an inclination towards sweet and warm scents, like vanilla. claims the florals are "too overpowering" (although he likes cherry blossom)

i also feel like jouno would like someone with longer hair. he likes running his hands through it or playing with it :)

Fyodor

he likes anyone who will shut up and sit down to obey his order <3

i'm only partially joking here. he would need someone who will typically submit to him

^doesn't mind pushback once in awhile tho. likes the debates that come up if you question or disagree with him

fyodor would like someone who is very quiet, softspoken, and intelligent. the less friends you have, the better too!

^wants you all the himself lol. if you're very introverted, he won't have to worry about you getting close to anyone else as much (did someone say...possessive...)

does want someone who is close to his intellect but doesn't match it. he wants to be able to teach you things and feel superior

don’t bash me here BUT i think fyodor would like a woman who fits that “trad wife” stereotype. like just chills at home and does housework for him. he tends to neglect taking care of himself and his surroundings so he appreciates if you care for him in that way

i also believe fyodor would be drawn to someone who's style resembles his own. i have a very distinct image of a woman with dark hair, elegant clothing, dark makeup

another one who appreciates if you put a lot of time into your appearance

immense bonus points if you're also russian or can speak the language

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[alanisinstone]

MY CREWWWW

i wanted to post a little poll to get yall's opinionnnn. im working on a bunch of things that are all pretty much unrelated to each other, but i had some ideas and i want to know what YALL want fr.

im gonna set this for a day but i might put it for a week we gon see

xoxo <3

alanis

[everybodyloveshippos]

Hi! i want to start reading the Drizzt series - what book would you recommend to someone as their first Drizzt book?? Legacy of the Crystal Shard? Homeland? The Thousand Orcs because the cover looks cool?

hiiiiii i am flattered u came to me bcus i feel like i have yet to earn my phd in forgotten realms lore BUT IN MY OPINIONNNN~

it depends!

I started with the dark elf trilogy (first book: homeland) bcus it's chronologically first and I'm a stickler for reading things in order. This one is good if you wanna know about Drizzt specifically and like origin story stuff and evil elf politics.

However publication order The Crystal shard is first (book 1 of ice wind dale trilogy) and you could totally start w that! it's a more group focused adventure with the companions with a lot of fun pulp fantasy stuff.

I wouldn't start w/ the thousand orcs just because there's so much more that comes before that you'll miss out on! I will also say, if you read ice wind dale first, I would go back and read the dark elf trilogy before moving onto legacy of the drow. it just gives some additional context (not necessary but still nice imo)

ALSOOOO here if a super helpful guide that lays out other places you can start/why (and i havent read as far as some of these ones so I cant give my opinion on each one haha)

BUT NO MATTER WHERE U START I HOPE U HAVE FUN AND ALWAYS REMEMBER TO FOLLOW UR HEART <3

[thehare1234]

TV ROUNDUP

Alright time to talk TV from the past couple weeks

QL SHows

🥘What did you eat yesterday? (S2, Ep 11-12)(end): im lowkey sad to say this is the end of this show for me/franchise….this show could go on forever and I’d watch. The journey that both these characters have taken is amazing and just so much about it was so good!!! I don’t know what I can say that I haven’t already said but I’m ready for season 3😭

🦜Takara no vidro (Ep 4-6):Nice episode and a look at idol/stan culture and really how you can’t date someone you Stan…which I enjoyed! And Takara is lowkey into Taishin (in my opinionnnn) and it seems next week we’ll get more of his backstory which will be good…him taking Taishin to the gym was also great like a lot of funny moments in this show as well. I also like Taishin trying to realize his feelings but not quite having the words....not him going to the sparklers because Taishin will be thereeee. Im very intrigued who was calling Takara (his mom?) and learning more about him in the next few episodes…yeah it was his mom and you know what what a slay episode again like Takara being so into Taishin but wanting to give him space and not be like his mom ahhh

🍜Perfect Propose (Ep 1-6)(end): Okkkk I’m trying to make my way through JBL that came out this year and started with this one randomly lol…so far really good like they have set up Hirokunis workplace and just general burnour really well and also explored Kais character well like the fact that hes been hurt so many times that he doesn't have any expectations from anyone…and wowoww it's over now, but what an amazing ending, it really used its short run time effectively and honestly just a great story not only about romance but getting out of a toxic situation and the effects that your work can have on you! A short but enjoyable watch (9.25/10)

🩲Old Man Underpants (Ep 5): ooof I knew some shit was gonna go down at the BBQ, they were hyping Matoko wayyyyy too much during this episode. In the end he messes up but it is a genuine mistake, but that doesnt mean he didnt hurt people ugh this show is great. I also love seeing more of Daichi getting sad or frustrated because I feel like in Matokos POV hes sort of like this peefect patient person but obviously hes a full person…the scene where he comes out to his classmates was really good too because its just all so real! i hope Kakeru finds his passion becoming everyones skincare/makeup advice person lol

🪨Century Of Love (Ep 5-8): alright alright nowwww we are in it…the romance between these two is genuinely so cute and I just feel like the show is keeping up enough of the mystery/suspense with the romance and is really fun to watch. I also just love the family dynamics like Juuu my bestie ❤️ I also just think Sans feelings realization, him choosing to be with Vee was really well done…I was wrong about the grandma so now I’m not sure…I’m leaning more towards Vee actually IS Vad but San still needs to choose him....ok so the Vee is Vad theory still remains to be seen, but wow what an emotional episode you can really see all the strong emotions running through Vee, but the Vad lookalike is giving schemer....she issss giving schemer of course and San choosing Vee was great! We will see what the last two episodes are because I’m not sure where the story will go

☀️I Hear The Sunspot (Ep 5-6): my boysssss please…I like that the miscommunication was resolved. Also I like that we got the kiss/confession but even though Taichi is unsure, he didn’t run away or we have to have many angst episodes about it. And Kohei crying like I felt for him…anyways still so good…ok soooo Taichi is so sweet I can't handle it the way he was so excited about Kohei going camping and his slow feelings realization is just really nice. This is just a great story of two people getting to know each other and developing a strong bond

🏡Knock Knock Boys (Ep 10-11): Wowwww slay…Almonds mom is an icon legend and like she’s just a little overbearing but hears what he’s saying! Latte and almond continue to be cute and peak and Thanwa can’t get their shit together…Jane is back my love! It’s all continuing really wellll i think. I’m ready for the crashing the wedding shenanigans…welp ep 11 was so emotional and Peak my guy I feel for you, and I love the supportive community he has now…I really love this show

🤫The Secret of Us (Ep 5-6): I have to admit…this show is lowkey annoying me like Earn is pissing me off because like I get it! But also….i don’t understand her actions…at the same time…the chemistry they have is really good and I’m having fun watching this like the dramatic ass scene where Lada destroys the puzzle I was honestly glued to the screen…interested to see where this goes lol…this show is truly giving soap opera but I’m here for it, like did they really deal with their problems enough to get back together? No but that’s ok lol

🫛This Love Doesn’t Have Long Beans (Ep 4-5): we’re in it now! They finally hooked up so who knows what will happen next! Also I’m laughing that half the people in this competition are just not people who could actually buy the restaurant 😭 it’s silly it’s fun I’m having fun! Also Methas and JJ have the chemistry! That was very much a charged physio session lollll and I’m interested to see where that goes…this show is giving no thoughts head empty romcom and that’s fine with me, Wan lying is a lot like sir pls! JJ and methas are my faves what can I say I love their dynamic

🕓4 Minutes (Ep 1): I’m obsessed with the visuals I’m so intrigued by the story! I can’t wait to see where this goes!! It’s definitely not afraid to do a lot of things and this one has got me intrigued for sure

✂️Ayaka Is In Love With Hiroko (Ep 4-5): eeeeeeeeee i love it so muchhhh…Risa having a crush on Ayaka like damn I hope she gets a romance and once again Hirokos actress is so funny like her facial expressions and movements kill me! I love it so much I’m having so much fun…omg why is Hiroko getting her buisness told by everyone!!! And I get Ayaka is naive but could she really not see why Hiroko wouldn’t want to be out at work? Or she’s just more upset she’s lying to her? Idk

🌊Love Sea (Ep 8-9): yall, not the evil dad, when will there be a good a parent in QL??? But all that to say I love how Mut is becoming Rak's safe space but it's heartbreaking at the same time....honestly the romance between Vi and Mook is still a little frustrating but it's moving at least?? I kinda love Mook lol she's grown on me, but seeing her cry was not the vibe like I get who she must be feeling :(…okkk okkk the dad got beat up which was nice…I lowkey feel like the dad plot line has taken up so much time and I haven’t even really? Understood his motivations like so many of the other storylines have taken a backseat so idkkk

🎬The Trainee (Ep 5-6): this was a bit of a slower episode more dedicated to developing the romances I think which I didn’t mind honestly especially since this show doesn’t have that many episodes! I’m still having a good time and I’m really intrigued to see how both Jane and Judy deal with feelings for interns since they’re both seen as very capable and professional…the tension, the crushes, I loveeee, I love the intern bond, everything is iconic

🍲Cooking Crush (Ep 8-9): this show just leaves me feeling warm and cuddly like I just like how much these two communicate or like how the angst and miscommunication they had was not dragged on…and just how much it feels like they like each other is just really cute…also poor Ten like dang…he deserves everything! Also I love Dynamite like he has really grown on me and him and Fire are also cute like I’m having fun!!!! Side note but the little “yesss” that Ten let out when Prem told him they passed his audition was so cute and felt so much like him/his character I don’t know how to explain…episode 9 relationship era was cute and I get why Samsee would be mad tho like, I’m excited for the competition to start!!

Other Shows

✍️I May Destroy You (Ep 5-8): another great one…the juxtaposition of Arabella sort of getting her call put moment against Zain and the support that she is getting (while obviously still dealing with trauma and compared to Gio who blamed her for her assault) vs. Jeane who had such a negative experience at the police station because he’s a gay man…just really well done and even the next episode highlighting Theas story and it’s just all so good as much as it is devastating….also fuck Biagio for real he only gets worse, also Terri’s guilt at the situation learning what she did thag night is another interesting layer

🏫Degrassi (Ep 98-100): we finished season 5!!! And what a ride it was! I can’t believe people are graduating now 😭😭😭 also yes Darcy please break up with Spinner that man needs to sort himself out 😭 also I love when a character comes back to the show with just the most ridiculous hat (Ashley I'm looking at you)...

💋I Kissed A Girl (Ep 1): yes I finally started watching the sapphic love island and it looks like it will be a mess but I’m having fun

[mazojo]

TODAY IS MY QUEEN’S @lady-kato BDAYYY

its a national holiday so everybody yall stop whatever you are doing and stan katOOo

Lmaoo but in all seriousness because school’s left me with no time at all to even breathe //rip but I still wanted you to have a special day soo here are a list of 25 reasons (because its the 25th ayeeee) why we stan you queennn ^^:

1- Positivity™, girl seriously I love seeing your posts because they never fail to bring a smile to my face when you look out for peeps in the fandom feeling them with positive thoughts!! ^^

2- meme lord 101, I can possibly send my trashiest of memes and Kato would still laugh and I love that for our humor lmaooo

3- TALENTED MANNN, Her HC’s? *inserts that Lady Gaga beautiful, poetic, never seen before.... gif*

4- And dont even get me s t a r t e d on her cute drawingsss! I swear I still go check out that Noah one you send me back then and I smile like a fool xDD

5- nEXT Doctor who will win a doctor Nobel price (?) lmaoo, but in all seriousness I admire a lottt how passionate you are about what you are doing girl, you can see how much you care about your vocation and thats amazingggg.

6- Duolingo partner, I think if we ever stop responding its because Duolingo birb came for us lmaoo.

7- Your asks mannn, how can one be so creative and with just one ask bring a smile to ma faceee, poetic cinema at its finest.

8- ANIMAL LOVERRRR, xDD i star those animal posts we send were the peak of my day girlll.

9- She literally played a horse otome game just because she is that awesome. Maria is still out there thriving with her horse husband Kato 🤧

10- Piccrewssssssss! tbh out pic crew tags are up to date, the best posts of my blog

11- The detail on everything you do!! Like the reviews you leave on the fics you read?? the comments you leave on my drawings?? the fact you take the time to think them through to target the person? again, poetic cinema at its finestttt

12- My writing-in-the-tags-is-valid stannn!

13- Also like, your animal crossing blog............... the softest posts eveerrr

14- Dont think I emphasized it enough, how much I loveeee your writing girl! the detail to everything you write, the descriptions, how you are able to grasp a character, amazinggg

15- And can I just mention your whole Ethan AU with Red......... I adoreeee the detailing and everything about it

16- You take so much care of those around you girl!! ex: Drabble nonny’s masterlisttt, going through all the tags and updating everything!! all the positivityyyy

17- long combos queennn! love our detailed analysis conversations of small things and characters in choices, always a blast hearing your opinionnnn!

18- Also like, everytime we speak and you mention any sort of Turkish food you are eating, Kato is the best at making me hungry™ ;w; loll

19- inclusive 👏🏻 queen 👏🏻 who 👏🏻 makes 👏🏻 others 👏🏻 feel 👏🏻 welcomedddd 👏🏻

20- Seriouslyyyy! all the blogs you recommend and your ability to click with others and make them feel all the love!! Even introduce me to Red and Ellie some of the two most awesome peeps in this hellsiteeee xDD

21- Reddit trash like me //f for them dank times lmaoo

22- OMG AND CAN WE TALK ABOUT YOUR OC’s aND CONCEPTSS???? cos like, I know them for like two drabbles and what you've told me and everything about the world and build up has me hYPEDDD

23- #MakeKatoafamousauthor+bestdoctoe2k19challenge

24- Even though we both are busy™ I know she is around and she knows I am around if ever needing something, we stan friendship in this household ayeee!

25- aaaaaand finally I admire your kindness and how you feel for others, being attentive and thoughtful, a trait most people now days lack offf ^^

lmaooo andddd now that we reached the end I just wanted to really wish you a happy bday girl and I hope you are doing amazing <33 everyone go send Kato cute puppy pics because its what she d e s e r v e s

[travellvogue]

top 5 attractive footballers in the world?

dear anon,

my opinionnnn, deffo not biased

1. Trent

2. Ruben

3. Gazzaniga

4. Reiss?

5. Dele?

[liu-yu-xin]

I like kiki well enough but i will go to my GRAVE believing Yuxin should've been center for the eve performance in fact if she was gonna be center for Any of the songs she did on qcyn2 it shouldve been the eve its untenable that she wasnt!! shes so much more suited to the song and type of dance and her trademark smirk is perfect for this song And she wouldve utilized the 2 dance breaks SO much better (AND she shows that she can because she Did in her one dance break)!! Kiki's movements lack power and theyre not crisp it looks like shes moving thru molasses and punching pillows the whole time And she's not good at hitting a series of fast moves right on beat her dance breaks ended up looking messy and flail-y. shes better at smoother, slower, sexier dances and i think they knew that because they gave yuxin 2 or 3 of the most eye catching parts that were probably meant for the center AND i think the audience knew it too because yuxin got the first place in that group despite not being the center AND i fully believe that if they had picked yuxin for center for the eve they wouldve won the position assessment instead of finishing behind a billy eyelash song and thats just MY OPINIONNNN