#btw if you fetishize hypersexuality i hate you

[frankiehasfangs]

You are not a bad person for your trauma response. It is not your fault that people hurt you and mistreated you; and that your brain didn’t know how to properly cope with that.

[our-hyperace-experience]

hello, I've been looking for a blog dedicated to hypersexuality because it's really annoying being hypersexual because i jave really sexual thaughts, make sexual jokes, developed a fetish/kink (idk the difference) and sometimes even masturbate over 5 times A DAY and it's becoming more. I hate the thaught while touching myself that it's a response to trauma.

Do you may know how i can slow it down?

Thank you for reading 🦭

Hi! I would be glad to tell you :) (esp since i'm a huge health nerd)

My number one advice is to try distracting yourself and your brain, sexual urges often come from being bored, I've noticed this A LOT whenever I just lay down and scroll social media.

But this is not the case for everyone, infact, sometimes it can be a low arousal state! depending on whether or not you feel restless or sluggish.

I also tell people to avoid anything that triggers anything that triggers their hypersexuality, like any specific kink or fetish you have, deleting porn collections, you can also try blocking porn websites!

Another piece of advice kinda connects with the distracting yourself idea, but, trying to find other healthy (keyword: healthy) coping mechanisms is good since you said you had trauma.

Hope these help for you <3

BTW; heres the difference between kink and fetish.

and would like to recommend @our-hypersexual-experience if you would like to see a general hypersexual related blog, since I'm more of a hypersexual-asexual blog (even though I'm fine with general questions!) I don't know how active they are, hopefully more than me </3

[nate-nat]

haii I'm nat/natallia I prefer to be called Nate I'm 17 year old lazy person with a weird attraction to fictional characters raaaa!!! Also I'm a eurobeat lover lol

pronouns and sexuality:

she/her,they/them, bun/buns. omnisexual, fictosexaul, ambiamorous (single)

Adhd, depression, anxiety and hypersexuality.

Deviantart (most likely ded): https://www.deviantart.com/natlovesus

Twitter (only oc stuff): https://x.com/Nattheskeleton

Stuff I'm into:

Tmc (mostly scrimblo)

osomatsu (watching both san and kun currently), Tensai Bakabon (trying to watch currently) and Moretsu Ataro (can't watch no English subtitles)

Smiling critters (never played poppy playtime and probably never will but eh)

COMFORT CHARACTERS

Mandela: Cesar,mark,Jonah and Joel (he's apart of the lore soo-)

Osomastu/tensai bakabon: all the sextuplets (especially my boi Jyushimatsu) and the brothers (gengoro and chojuro)

I do a lot of crossover art and ships lol

Just a reminder you can ask me or rp idc also I'm an introvert so sometimes I will be too shy but it's ok I'll respond!!! I also love making friends!!

If you're a zoo,pedo, anti lgbt, proshipper, loli/shorta lover, radqueer, racist, sexist or anything like that get the fuck out I'm not letting you ruin this comfort space to spread your hate and or disgust interests go away

Example of my art

Rules for aus and ocs:

1: you can make fanart,use my ocs and aus as inspirations for yours, make difference aus ect.. just make sure credit me and don't copy it out write

2: I don't mind my characters being made into ai chatbots just credit me and DO NOT ON MY LIFE FEED MY ART TO AI GENERATORS!!! I only accept ai chatbots and that's it!

3: do not draw fetish art or R34 out of my underage characters!!! I don't really care for my 18+ characters...

4: you can ship and make headcanons of my ocs and aus with either others characters or ocs. (I mean I do it too) Just no illegal ships or anything I dni

5: just have fun with them :3

Anyway enjoy my page need anything I'll be right here :P

Me btw the blue eye is for where my hair is covered at XP I'm only 5'2 in a half it's sad being me!!

[sinistersinister]

The "consider that fetishes don't just spring up in a vacuum, they're contextually dependent and we live in a pretty messed up (sexist, racist, homophobic, etc) world!" crowd has no answer for what you're supposed to do after all that considering. Like, what? what's the end goal here? Feel a little bad and then simply not want to fuck? Make weird disclaimers on social media before posting horny content (as in, "I do BDSM because I'm traumatized and it's therapeutic for me"-- an excuse they use to assign you even less agency because omg how could someone so traumatized not be acting in a maladaptive way?)? Switch porn preferences? Not jerk off? I have almost no sex drive most of the time and even I know that's a ludicrous thing to ask. Especially when it's not causing DIRECT HARM TO ANOTHER SPECIFIC HUMAN BEING.

The most charitable outcome I might imagine proposing is "don't talk about your upsetting fetishes around other people and expect them to be okay with it," which, fair! Fine. Okay. That's why I have a separate blog to be horny. I don't want to make anybody uncomfortable. People who lead with their kinks and then get offended when you're alienated by their overfamiliarity are so annoying. Not because they're perverts but because they're too desperate to be validated. I hate that cloying obnoxiousness for the same reason I hate when people lead with their diagnoses or their specific political affiliations. We're all starved for affection (why we're on dating apps) but you need to be more honest with yourself. Your motivations. Why list your fetishes when you could just quote tatu's "How Soon is Now?" (yes I know their version is a cover but it's better than the original version.)

However-- granted I've been too online for too long and perhaps my definition of what constitutes 'upsetting sexual stuff' is different-- almost every person, almost every site, posts warnings. Maybe we're on different parts of the internet. I'm talking about dating sites but you can reasonably expect kink stuff on there. On those sites it's a matter of my personal annoyance, not general social propriety. Maybe I'm not hanging out in hypersexualized spaces. But usually, unless you're dating, online you get told what you're going to get. You can't buy a Playboy magazine and get upset when you see tits.

I'm not talking about your fandom shit btw. I'm talking about two kinds of tedious and exhausting choice feminists duking it out in the stupidest way imaginable.

[marlborogf]

>asks what biphobia is

>bi people respond with their accounts of biphobia

>gets mad and deletes replies/blocks users engaging in good faith

LOL got blocked by big brain OP over here after answering her bad-faith "what even is biphobia?" dummy ahh post but guess she couldnt handle the simple discussion surrounding some pretty well-known concepts ... but its ok its to be expected i know alot of you guys struggle with big kid convos like this so i will reiterate here for the adults who can make eye contact and their own phone calls and ask for extra ketchup:

bi people face alot of erasure in the same way that biracial people do. "not really gay" but "not straight." so you face pressure and ostracization from "both sides". pick a side, why dont you! but if and when you do then you were never REALLY bi, you were (straight/gay) the whole time! hypersexualization + fetishization of their sexuality ("3 some? 3 some? oh you MUST be into 3 somes! oh so youre poly! so you suck dick AND eat pussy thats soooo hot! so you'll just fuck anyone? so you're---). misogynistic ideas about who has or hasn't had a penis inside them prior -- and their worth directly relating to those ideas. minimizing and attempting to erase the issues and concerns bi people face isnt helping lesbians btw...., draw a damn simple ass venn diagram and you'll see how often the issues lesbians and bi people face overlap. you're being willfully ignorant and hateful because of what... bi teens and YAs saying faggot online and the phenomenon of bi people partnering with the opposite sex (something you deem a privilege in a het society, which can be a discussion in itself). express frustration when you need to due to the plights lesbians face and criticize and condemn homophobia without pretending the only issue bi people face is "someone not wanting to date you" - because go ahead & let someone try to say the same dummy shit about lesbians and you'd be up in arms real quick. and ontop of it all, wanna act shocked when bi people respond to your post about bi people...asking what biphobia is.

This weird obsession with bi people has got to stop lol its getting olddddddddd

I cant take seriously "biphobia" cuz bisexuals are always saying out of pocket offensive shit and claiming its okay because they fantasized about dating same sex before ending up with their hetero partner. Oh i can say this slur im bi. Oh i can be jokingly homophobic im bi. I can talk shit about this lesbian/gay man im bi. Then 4/5 times theyre otherwise indistinguishable from a straight person who learned lgbtqia+ terminology from queer tiktok

I feel like theres a lack of understanding that not being attracted to the opposite sex is the primary driver of exclusion of gay men and lesbians from so many parts of society and straight people being disgusted by (or fetishizing) our same sex attraction is the icing on the cake and not the cake itself

Like being gay is not a social club and if you got to participate in hetero society then you need to stay in your lane when gay people are talking about their ostricization

What is biphobia? People not wanting to date you? Bffr

[quillify-tries-to-talk]

I have a theory:

People often ask why the readership for YA is more women-centric and why boys don't read.

We talk about the objectification of women in movies and how men get huffy about the "feminist propaganda" and ask all sorts of stupid questions about why women need heroes like Captain Marvel (love her btw). They don't see a problem with Harley Quinn being fetishized in Suicide Squad.

Well, it's the opposite in YA.

Series with male characters, Percy Jackson, Six of Crows, and Harry Potter (as much as I hate Rowl*ng, I have to give her points for this) have one thing in common: the authors don't wax poetic about how hot and tall and muscular the male leads of their books are.

Sure, they're good-looking but there's no weird mentions about their hotness level and how every other side character considers them good-looking and beautiful and perfect on every other page.

I think it's time to change that. How do you expect boys to read books that tell them they have to be over 6 feet tall, have a six-pack, be great at physical intimacy, be broody or become cameras for their love interests (Thomas Cresswell, I'm looking at you)?

But Divvy, you say, women experience it in movies! Middle-aged men fetishize our breasts and curves for their own benefits.

Yeah, I say, of course that happens. But the thing about feminism is also holding women accountable when they're going wrong somewhere. The thing about feminism is also about supporting young boys and girls and help them believe in themselves. It is the equality of all genders. If we can praise our girls for being strong and lovely and brave, then we can do the same for boys.

And if that's the opposite of your feminism, then you're not a feminist.

Tell me honestly, why will young boys read books that hold them to an unrealistic standard of beauty and fitness? Why will they read books that show them as hypersexual, hypermasculine? What about asexual boys? Trans boys? Short boys? Boys with worsening mental health? Fat boys? Boys of color, especially those who are dark-skinned? Imagine the hit their self-esteem will take.

Same way, why will women watch movies that objectify them? And I've seen that happen since I was very young (blame Bollywood movies -_-)

So this is for those female authors who think it's okay to write your own fantasies and market it to children: PLEASE STOP. I'm tired of reading about the "alpha male." It is not okay. And we, as their audience, should hold them accountable for it.

Would love to hear other's opinions on this!

[kinkymagnus]

On your post about the double standards in fics: Also so many of these have the ‘older exotic bi man ‘educates’ the younger uwu white gay boy (note distinction btw man and boy) on sex and is dominant and aggressive in bed’ trope with a side of ‘ooh exotic brown man is gonna seduce the white boy with his sexy ways’ also use food to describe the characters of colour which is shitty and racist too. And yes most of these authors are white obvs bc you can smell the caucasity all over their fics

this got long so dlgkfgh

yeah i always hate the weird like, gap a lot of malec authors like to make? between age, experience, and stuff like that (yes, they often refer to alec as a “boy” and magnus as a “man” which is beyond creepy and drenched in racial stereotypes and shit). it’s usually rooted in book canon and book fans, i find, although not always.

although the fic that had me making that post was one of those that’s like, generally really good and actually their characterization isn’t bad, but then they’ll randomly have a few really preachy scenes and unironically talk about heterophobia (that’s one of those things where i’m like. i’m okay with it as a joke, i get it, but some people get really weirdly genuine about it and really vicious and nasty and i don’t like it. i kind of get where it’s coming from, but it makes me uncomfortable. and fics like this often have that kind of edge to it, you know?) and then like, talk about this whole “oh, no one is a top or bottom, stop stereotyping, wow i’m so great and supportive of mlm” but then literally all the sex scenes are bottom alec. and it’s not like they even do that weird book-like characterization, they just always have magnus top and never talk about it in any other way. sometimes they even just straight-up say he usually tops--and they’ll make a whole show of going “oh sure, sometimes he bottoms (coughcough, not with alec) but he likes topping so much more.” and it’s really annoying. fucking hypocrites, much?

but yeah even outside of that the fandom has a lot of problems with like. stereotyping and fetishizing them both in different ways. infatilizing alec as this pretty white boy UwU and then making magnus this predatory dominant hypersexual guy, and it’s like. really ooc for both of them. 

alec is the more aggressive of the two (not like in a Bad way, just in general, calm down) and the one who tends to take point, especially in sexual terms. he’s mature and grounded in reality, he’s inexperienced but not naive, childish, or stupid, and he’s a fast learner. he may be a virgin, but he’s hardly clueless or “adorable/cute” or like, childish. he doesn’t blush all the time and stutter out every other word. he doesn’t act like a small teenager just learning what sex is. he’s a fully grown adult who just hasn’t had sex before. he knows what it is, he doesn’t think it’s this crazy forbidden mystery. and he wants it. and he isn’t really submissive, he definitely isn’t childish--in fact, he’s arguably one of the more mature members of the cast. he’s the one to initiate a lot of the time, especially in sex.  

magnus is the “softer” of the two--he’s still powerful and a total badass, but he’s more emotionally vulnerable and open with alec (not that alec isn’t with him as well), and he’s hardly aggressive or predatory in any way. even in season one, he never touches alec without permission, he doesn’t pursue him when he’s told to stop other than to tell alec he won’t be happy (not “without me” but “in a loveless marriage to someone you can’t ever like the way you’re supposed to”) and that alec needs to consider his own needs and stop putting everyone else above himself. magnus isn’t really dominant, either--he’s hardly a submissive personality (socially, publicly, i mean--he doesn't let people step on him, he doesn’t back down under pressure, he demands respect) but he isn’t really dominant or like, more in control of alec or their relationship than alec is. and he’s definitely not hypersexual--at the beginning of season one we’re told by an extremely negatively biased source or two that he’s a lothario, but we don’t see much evidence of this other than knowing he has a lot of exes over his long life, and that he owns a club that he is shown lounging in. (not dancing, not hooking up with someone, literally just sitting with hot people. and even if he was, would it matter? no. but still, he’s not even doing that.) alec is the one to initiate their first time while magnus is the one to hesitate and ask if he’s sure, and say that he wants more than just sex. he explicitly states he cares more about the connection, the person he’s with, the “soul”, before the sex. the only other reason one might call him a slut in a derogatory manner is because he’s bisexual, which is just biphobia and not based in facts.

basically, these characterizations are based entirely on false stereotypes that neither of them conform to. alec is a young, gay virgin, but he isn’t childish or a “uwu soft boy” or naive or innocent. magnus is an older bisexual asian man, but he isn’t predatory or hypersexual or dominant or aggressive. neither of them fit these negative stereotypes and people forcing them into those boxes is gross and wrong (not to mention racist, homophobic, and biphobic--and once you consider the overall implications of the relationship... the soft “girly” baby boy and the older sexually aggressive predator... it’s also heteronormative and kind of sexist.) 

[frankiehasfangs]

reminder that hypersexual aces are real and valid and ily

[strangeshortcakeparliament]

Overwatch and the Fearsome Gay Agenda

At this point it’s almost a year-old issue, but hey, it’s still one that people love to bring up so why not.

Soldier: 76, a character in the Blizzard (no, we’re not going to be talking about that other issue today) FPS game Overwatch, was revealed to be a Gay man in January 2019 in a short story. (https://www.buzzfeednews.com/article/laurenstrapagiel/soldier-76-from-overwatch-has-been-confirmed-as-gay-and) 

All well and good, yes? Well, as the article above shows, the reactions to the news were... well, mixed.  On one hand there was great approval from the LGBT+ community and their allies, who praised Blizzard for promoting diversity in their games, and on the other, great opposition and outrage from many who felt that the change was “unnecessary” and simply “pandering” to a minority.

But what is it that makes just saying “Oh, this character is gay” so “necessary” or “unnecessary”?  

Let’s look at the character first. Soldier: 76 (or Jack Morrison) is a former super-soldier commander turned vigilante who has become jaded and pessimistic about the organization he used to lead and its goals and ideals. Nothing about that really says “THIS IS A GAY MAN”, but, we have to think, why does there NEED to be something that says so? By the same logic, those same traits I just listed are not necessarily indicative of a Straight Man either. There is no way to identify a gay man besides their attraction to other men... and even then you’d have to consider that they might just be bisexual or pansexual. So where does this “but it doesn’t make sense” or “it feels forced” or “I just don’t see it” or “it’s bad writing” come from”? 

(posts like this: 

https://us.forums.blizzard.com/en/overwatch/t/soldier-76-how-not-to-write-in-a-gay-character/283992/3

https://us.forums.blizzard.com/en/overwatch/t/why-is-soldier-gay/285303/7

and this article: https://www.polygon.com/2019/3/8/18246516/overwatch-queer-characters-soldier-76-vincent-toxic-community 

are a good place to see the “negative” reactions to the reveal)

It’s hard to really conclusively say anything since gender studies on video games aren’t super common and are pretty hard to access besides, but it shouldn’t be too hard to see that there exists a trend of gender stereotyping and hypersexualization in most forms of media now - video games being no exception. The images that these trends impart to the audience create a bias against things that do not really fit those images, and those who actually enjoy such images will actually react violently to other images that contrast with them. Recall Anita Sarkeesian, who dared to comment on the portrayal of women in video games and received a massive amount of hate from (generally male) gamers regarding her statements about the issue of the representation of women in video games (it’s here btw, it’s cool to watch. really interesting. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eYqYLfm1rWA). 

This particular “issue” of characters being “turned” gay is similar, in that it involves the introduction of the presence of something that a particular group sees as a “threat” to it, thereby drawing backlash from said group. Because Soldier:76 was not a flaming gay queen since the start of the game, it is suddenly too “forced” to reveal that he is gay now. He is not even the only queer character in the game - Tracer, (Lena Oxton) was revealed to be Lesbian almost three years before him. The reveal of her sexuality was also met with mixed reactions, though one could say that with the fetishization of lesbians as a whole (which is a different discussion altogether) even some of the positive reactions could actually be harmful. 

So SHOULD Soldier: 76 have been written as a gay man? Being honest, it doesn’t matter much to me. Yeah, I’m gay, and I’m happy that there are gay characters in the games that I play, but since it doesn’t affect gameplay I don’t see why people should care about it. Since Overwatch is one of those games where the lore is pretty much completely separate from the actual gameplay, the easiest solution (but also the one that won’t make anyone have to think about their stance on these kinds of issues) is just... ignore the lore. The sexuality of a video game character is only as important/offensive/whatever as you make it. 

Let people be happy that they’re being represented, and maybe you won’t need to worry so much about the “necessity” of “making” a character gay.