#besharam has raha hai dekho

[his-heart-hymns]

Maut aa jaye magar ammi ki danth sunkar hasi na aaye.

[manjuphilip-blog]

Who gave you the right to judge?

“Aare un ladkiyon ko dekho. Besharam!! Kaccha aur baniyan pehanke kaise ja rahi hai…!! Ab ladko ki kya galti hai?? Mujhse bhi unhe dekhe bina reh nahi pa raha…!!”

Which in English means, “Look at those girls. Shameless!! How are they going about in such short clothes (slang for undergarments to be precise)!! How can boys resist looking at them?? When even I can’t stop looking at them…!!”

We heard an old lady gossip to her gang about my batch-mates passing by, while we were at the bus-stop waiting for a bus. She continued talking about how girl’s today were increasingly losing out on their modesty, morality and what not was giving vivid descriptions of how ‘these girls’ displaying themselves on a platter for men to ogle at. She went on to say that the girls themselves are the reasons why rape & molestation cases are on a steady rise in the country. The rattle didn’t stop at that, she then set about letting the world know how she had ‘according to her’ successfully caged her daughter - by making her do a correspondence degree and by buying her only salwar-kameez to wear.

I turned my head to look at this dismal lady who proclaimed all this, as if it was an accomplishment and that people should learn such vile tricks from her. I didn’t know which emotion to feel first - disgust at her shameless proclamation or pity for her poor daughter who was living in a virtual jail in the National Capital Region. 

What I clearly fail to understand till date is: Why must women be caged and robed of their freedom? Why? Are Indian men simply more virile and can’t stand the mere sight of a girl or a woman and hence they are free to act as animals who have been kept hungry for month and must feast on these women if ‘they feel they have feel provoked or kept hungry for long’?  The MEN are not required to control their actions or words. But the women might as well lock themselves inside a cellar, never to come out.

Why is it always a woman’s fault?? 

Why does anything we do Or not do become a crime? 

If I talk, I’m fast. 

If I don’t, I’m a bitch with an attitude. 

If I wear suits and saree’s, I’m a Benhanji. 

If I don’t, I’m asking to be raped. 

If I work, I’m neglecting my family. 

If I don’t, I’m a burden. 

If I cry, its crocodile tears. 

If I don’t, I’m simply heartless. 

If I have a boyfriend, I’m a slut. 

If I don’t, I’m a lesbian.

                     Dude, WHAT IS YOUR PROBLEM? 

                                  What do you want???

Asking you to change your mindset and your way of thinking is beyond me and pretty much useless, but at least tell me… What is it that you want from us? What do you want us to do? Anything that a woman does is a crime. 

Is breathing permissible? Or is that a sin too? 

Sorry wait.... I suppose, I’m breathing too loudly for a girl, or maybe taking in more than the oxygen that is permissible to us. 

No wait..... Oh so my way of breathing is obscene - I see it might turn on a passerby. 

Okay. So I suppose I might just have to stop breathing. That is a safer option for humanity. 

Humanity is after all Hu-Man-ity. No woman in it. Finally I know what to do. Thank you.

                                             Hallelujah!

Sorry! That gesture was again indecent! It has a girl in in it! With her arms wide open! 

What worse crime could be done!!??

Lord Please Forgive them, for they know not what they do.

I can’t do much to change what the woman thought about the young girls of today, but I wish I had said this to the old nagging woman:

“Do grow up dear Aunty-ji,

Please change the way you think. ‘Boys need not always be boys’. They need to grow up to be men. And men aren’t aren’t made by beating up women. They are supposed to be made men by taking care of women and loving them, and providing for them. So before you start imprisoning your daughter from the big bad world outside, do realise that someday she will be realised from your jail and will step in the world outside.

That day you will be left wondering if your lovely, modestly-clad daughter, had removed her duppata or simply removed all of her clothes to attract the attention of men, should she ever find herself in such a situation and then I’d like to see what you have to say...!!” 

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