#being ‘mocked’ for being girly is NOT the same as the punishment for non-conformity (being ‘masculine’)

[goodmiffy]

“reclaiming femininity” SHUT UP SHUT UP you can’t reclaim something that is expected of you and that you are actively punished for not engaging in shut up shut up shut up pink capitalism has won im going to chew glass a

[jackoshadows]

Here’s the thing Jonsas don’t seem to get. Jon and Sansa don’t even seem to like each other let alone love each other in the books. Jonsas keep writing about how they understand that Jon and Arya love each other as siblings but they ship Jon and Sansa because they don’t love each other like that – while completely ignoring the reason for why they don’t love each other like that!

Jon and Sansa are each other’s least favorite sibling. That is book canon fact.

This happened because Sansa bullied and mocked Jon’s beloved little sister for being ugly and non-conformist. So much so that Jon had to put aside his own pain and reassure Arya that she was not a bastard because of her looks.

The very idea that Jon is in love with Sansa because she’s beautiful and traditionally feminine is repulsive and paints Jon as shallow and inconsiderate of the real pain that Arya experienced. Given how much Jon loves Arya this is just not possible and if you think it is, then you don’t understand Jon Snow as a character.

Sansa is Jon’s least favorite sibling because of Sansa’s dehumanization of Jon Snow and making sure he knew his place as a bastard born to a common mother.

Jon’s sexist disregard for ladies conforming to patriarchal ideals did not arise in a vacuum. It’s not that Jon dislikes Cat and Sansa because he dislikes conformist ladies. It’s the other way around – he dislikes conformist ladies because of his dislike for Cat and Sansa.

There is an actual Jonsa meta about how Jon’s friends are Satin and Sam and therefore this shows he loves Sansa.

So, for a man who supposedly doesn’t like the “ladylike, princess/damsel in distress type” in a woman, Jon Snow has a very strong will to protect Samwell and Satin, two boys considered soft and weak with a lot of feminine inclinations whose descriptions match Sansa’s bit by bit

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Like I said missing the complete point of Jon Snow as a character. He befriends Sam and Satin because they were punished and looked down on by society based on their looks and abilities. Jon identifies with them as someone punished by society because of his birth. He thinks Sam and Satin should be judged based on their merit and actions rather than on their birth, looks or physicality.

On the other hand, he sees Sansa as the oppressor not the oppressed. He saw her as a privileged classist who bullied his little sister and treated him as less than. That’s why comparisons between Jon’s relationships with Sam, Satin and Sansa make no sense.

Also, I like how Jonsas are trying to find ways to excuse Jon’s sexism. Jon shows utter contempt for girls like Sansa here:

A warrior princess, he decided, not some willowy creature who sits up in a tower, brushing her hair and waiting for some knight to rescue her

And yet here they are shipping their fave with a sexist dude. These are the same people who cry all the time – like all the fucking time – about how everyone hates Sansa only because she’s a girly girl. But here’s an actual character in the books who does hate girls like Sansa because they are girly girls and Jonsa stans are shipping him with Sansa. This more than anything show what two faced hypocrites Jonsa stans are.

Jon and Arya were a team against the way Cat and Sansa treated them. Standing up for each other and defending each other. Arya stands up for Jon against Sansa and Jon is there for Arya when she goes to him for solace and comfort. That’s where their pure, unconditional love for each other comes from. That’s why Arya KNOWS that Jon will want her back even if no one else does. That’s why Jon thinks that Arya’s home is with him.

So, the reason people don’t ship Jon and Sansa that way is because they don’t even like each other in the books, Sansa was a bully who treated Jon and Arya badly and Jon dislikes her for it, they never got along, they are not going to get along, Jon looks down on girls like Sansa with contempt,  Jon thinks of Sansa like 5 times in his 42 POV chapters and does not give a damn about her or her situation, Sansa thinks of Jon like 3 times over 5 books and forgot about him, GRRM has invested everything in Jon and Arya’s relationship in the books and nothing, zero, zilch in Jon and Sansa’s.

You want to ship it as a crackship? Fine. But stop with the mind-numbingly idiotic metas to prove how much Jon loves Sansa because he loves Samwell Tarly and Satin and Sansa = Satin this means that Jon loves Sansa. The only thing this proves is that people on this hellsite have worms for brains.