#bein asexual dont even mean physical affection is totally off the table!

[ask-chef-teruteru]

This feels weird to ask, but sense your so... overly innuendus, would you be... okay(?) dating someone Asexual? Like comfortable with it?

“Overly... Innuendus? Well, overly is more a matter of opinion n’ I’m guessin’ by innuendus y’all mean I ain’t ashamed ‘bout no “dirty” thoughts n’ have quite the libido. I don’t think it’s weird to ask. Valid question considerin’ that’s a lot of what I tend t’ talk about.”

“In short, I’d have no qualms whatsoever datin’ anyone who’s asexual! Sex is only one aspect of a relationship and if a partner ain’t up for sleepin’ together, that’s perfectly fine and I’ll respect that! Whether they just don’t experience sexual attraction or whether they’re downright repulsed by the thought of havin’ sex, that’s fine! I ain’t gonna ask any partner of mine to do somethin’ they ain’t comfortable with, plain n’ simple. I love my partners n’ tryin’ to coerce them into doin’ somethin’ I know they don’t wanna do isn’t what love is.

Of course, likewise, they ain’t gonna coerce me into abstainin’ altogether. I’ve mentioned before that I’m polyamorous, and that would be one of those situations where different partners are suited to different needs is all. One partner could be exceptional at showin’ me the romance I crave n’ have no desire to satisfy my sexual cravin’s— same as another partner might satisfy all my sexual cravin’s but none of the romantic ones. If somethin’ ain’t on the table with one partner, I can seek it out from another is all. Different people are better at fulfilling different needs and that’s okay! I don’t expect any one partner to meet my each and every need— same as I ain’t suited to suit any one person’s full list of needs either. Not that I won’t try of course, but that’s just not how things work! Every relationship and every person is unique and what works for one may not work for another.

Asexuality isn’t a negative trait t’ have—same as any other sexuality— n’ therefore I got no reason to have reservations ‘bout datin’ someone who is! Much as I enjoy spendin’ time in bed with most of my partners, that ain’t really the most important trait t’ have. After all, someone could be the greatest there ever was to spend time with ‘tween the sheets n’ still be vile as a person n’ somebody I wouldn’t date, not in a billion years.

I hope that clears everything up beyond a shadow of a doubt, my dear!”