#been hurt through rape or abuse��commonly at the hands of fathers/brothers/uncles or otherwise trusted adults—and have decided that men must | Explore Tumblr posts and blogs

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"not all men" but not in a men's rights way, in a "it's important to remember that men aren't the only perpetrators of cruelty, abuse, and evil and that subconsciously or consciously training yourself to view men as inherently evil and everyone else as inherently safe inadvertently puts you in a position where you're both vulnerable to attack or harm from people you otherwise wouldn't suspect, AND causes you to limit the number of allies you might have in a time of need" kind of way.

#This is why I worry a lot about young women (teens and twenties) who seek comfort and validation in r//adf//em circles. Many of them have #been hurt through rape or abuse—commonly at the hands of fathers/brothers/uncles or otherwise trusted adults—and have decided that men must #be cruel because both they and their female/female + queer friends have similar stories of abuse. So they seek out others who share this #belief but in doing so they make themselves vulnerable to further abuse and manipulation. I haven't really observed r//adf//em circles long #enough to be able to say what I'm about to say with certainty but I would put money on the idea that being a RF on social media shares the #same hallmarks as being in a cult because the behavior of the adherents is far too similar than that of tradwives or any other modern cult.#Other RF's use the hurt and abuse these young women have experienced and twist and manipulate their truth to foster a sense of #us-against-them cruelty against a population that could in actuality be their fiercest allies. It's such a vicious and relentless cycle.#That's why when I see RF's on here all I feel is pity — both for the cruelty and abuse they've witnessed and suffered but ALSO for the way #they've allowed that abuse to be weaponized against them... many before they were too young to realize it was even happening. We as a #society have got to get better at protecting our young girls and women from r//adf//em ideology. I don't even mean that in a #“destroy the patriarchy” kind of way because that's such a lofty and disorganized goal. I mean it in a “we have to go into uncomfortable #spaces and show these girls love and empathy because right now the only people validating them are people who use their hate and mistrust #against them and if we want to save our young girls and Queer sisters from this pipeline we have to do the dirty work“ kind of way.#But anyway.#jack.txt

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