#be wary of “feminist” men. its hard to trust anyone now

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People were calling Neil Gaiman a "feminist" before... God y'all are so stupid

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Work/Life Imbalance

There are not a lot of things a woman can do for work, if you choose to be a mom. You can have someone else raise your kids, like an au-pair or a nanny, like my grandma was, but then your kids know that person more than you and know nurturing from that woman more than you and that’s fine if you don’t care, but I do.

I’m just telling you, these are the choices. It’s not the same as it is for men, and that is what I’m trying to change, but I know that I can’t change the world, I can only choose differently for myself and write about it. There’s school, of course, day care, which is also fine if you don’t mind society raising your kid. I myself

am aware of its problems perhaps too well, and they disgust me, so I am wary of how my kid is sculpted. Not everyone cares. I get it. Or, they can’t, what with the mortgage and all, not everyone is a sacrificing martyr like me. But some of us women are. Let me speak for them, not my dumb bitch ex friend who judged

me for not letting my kid scream while I slept. Again, we’re all different. I wrote her way better in my scripts, but motherhood wasn’t in the way in those scripts, debilitating my choices so much she could not understand, “that’s what child care is for!” What about the ones who don’t trust people with their kids,

because they know how much harm people can do? No one talks about us. Women are meant to be as hard as men, which means we have to turn off our intuition that screams as loud as our kids do - but what is the cost? This is what every woman has to question. And I am sure plenty of kids end up just

fine being raised by someone else, I know in my case I’d be a hooker without my grandma, but when it came to my own choices, I didn’t have a grandma to help me. Those of us who are orphaned or estranged for whatever reason should seriously consider whether or not to even have a kid, it’s hell,

kids aren’t supposed to be raised alone, you’ll go mad. And this is what keeps happening to women, because many don’t have great families or role models, and even the ones who do find it tough, and I only resent them a little bit for that. I mean, if you can have someone you trust look after your most precious blood for a day

or two while you work, then you are made. The rest of us? We have to leave our men! Especially if they refuse to do it. I know the work force isn’t very kind to anyone, but mothers cannot work the 80 hour weeks required to start up again in any industry, so we are not equal to the men who claim they don’t have the same responsibility we do.

Hence, we need time to figure out our shit. And that means more than one day. So if a woman doesn’t have a support network and doesn’t trust society and isn’t made, then the poor girl now mom is absolutely fucked. This is the kind  of woman who needs to run her own business, but she needs to  have been doing it for years so she is not working in the business, since now is worst time to start. Finally, it is  essential, no matter what, that a woman only have children  with feminists, because otherwise the asshole you had a kid with won’t think your role is worthy, or that you should want to  do anything other than be a mother, or that he should have to  step up with half the load, because of course you need to work.