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cruelsister-moved2 · 11 months

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not telling anyone what to do but I kinda miss when the understanding abt multiple pronouns used to be that any are fine or different ones apply in different contexts whereas now the default assumption is you need to be constantly switching between them per sentence like that is really inaccessible for a lot of people + difficult in a second language + just genuinely defeats the linguistic object of a pronoun 😭

but I think it came from being a tme she/they who no one ever uses they for which I understand the frustration but i wish we could approach the root causes of that rather than the way I've seen ppl claim not alternating pronouns for someone midsentence is literally misgendering & honestly at the end of the day if you don't want someone to use she pronouns for you, tell them not to use she pronouns! we were all pronouns=/=gender until its "they to show I don't identify with the institution of womanhood, she to show my connection with femininity" but honestly how do you actually like being referred to, worry abt that. if u actually don't like ppl using she to refer to u then tell them that & if the discomfort is bc it shows their perception of u doesn't align w ur gender then like performative language doesnt actually change that anyway so mb if we stopped worrying about this we could actually have way more worthwhile conversations about gender.

#I also think it came from celebrities sorry #bc pronouns kind of have a different relevance in that context also im sure reading articles about yourself #is kind of a weird dehumanising experience regardless #which is easy to project as a gender thing #especially with how they'll talk about u if ur a woman or perceived as one #but yeah I think the approach some ppl take of like 'exclusively they in the context of press/talking about my career whatever' is just way #more helpful #whereas in ur personal life I think there are better ways to approach someone who doesn't see you as nb enough or whatever #also online behaviour SORRY you can always edit a comment to alternate pronouns bur speaking that way irl is really hard #bc that is not how our brains think about pronouns 😭#I specify tme bc if ur transfeminine itll be the other way around #my sisters gf finally dropped the they pronoun that she basically used to give ppl an easy out to like soft misgender her #so it's a bit like. can we have some perspective lol #and bc their uni is drowning in wealthy white theyfabs obsessed w trying to shake off their upper middle class white guilt #ppl acted like thats like less Queer.... like agsheiwojsbdnwjd I hope these ppl die. theyre all polycule ppl too

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