#bc i don’t rly have triggers or squicks

[evexe-n]

30, 34, 37 & 38 please! :D

[40 questions - meme for fic writers]

30. Do you accept prompts?

Ehm, not at the moment? I still have some from a year ago that went unanswered………OTL

Though I always reply to random headcanons/plot ideas sent my way, and I sometimes end up doing a drabble of lil’ ficlet for it, in general I’m very bad at writing what I’m told/asked to write………

34. What are your thoughts on non-con and dub-con?

YOU HAVE OPENED THE FLOODGATES. IN SHORT, I HAVE ANGRY EMOTIONS™ ABOUT IT (but below the cut for brevity’s sake. Also this won’t be about the YGO fandom so much as a general rant for all of the fandoms I’m in).

Trigger warnings(?) for brief(?) discussion of the way non-con and all related themes were portrayed in some of the less avory fics I’ve read, for lack of a better term.

Ok so let me start this off by stating that I did, once upon a time, not have as strong an aversion to fics with the non-con/dub-con label as I do now. I never actively seeked them out, but I never flat out refused to read a fic for containing these themes either. It’s how I came across many of the things I’m about to sum up. I’m still of the opinion that if you like reading them or they help you in some way, that’s great!

However, over the years I, personally, have developed a strong dislike of 95% of all dub/non-con fics, because I continuously encountered a lot of things that squick me in those stories. Here’s some specifcs:

In case of the non-con occuring between the main pairing:- I prefer reading fics where I don’t absolutely hate one of the main characters. When I love a pairing enough to want to read/write fic of them, I tend to love both characters equally. Having straight up non-con between them is a surefire way to ick me out- Here’s a point that’s going to come up a lot: often it’s just really OOC. And if it’s not OOC then it usually uses tropes like sex pollen/abo/aliens made them do it, which have their own subset of problems. Some people don’t mind OOC portrayals, but I am not one of those people

In case of the non-con happening between one main character + someone else (usually an antagonist):- I get it, you need an evil ex. For plot reasons. But I guarantee you there’s about 99 more creative ways to make this person a douche without immediately going the full-out non-con route. Especially when it’s an established character for whom it would be completely OOC.- Not every villain has to lust after/prey on your protagonist, it’s ok. Sometimes they can just be murderous psychopaths or megalomaniacs without the added sexual predator vibes. I promise you they’ll still creep me out. You lose shock value when you make every villain have the same motivation (namely, subjugating your protagonist by fucking them) so maybe switch it up every so often?- Alternatively: just because ‘rapist’ is shorthand for ‘evil asshole’ doesn’t mean every evil asshole in your fic has to be a rapist.

Just general things about dub/non-con fics that squick me out:- Please, I’m begging you all, stop using rape as a plot device to create drama and prolong the resolution of your fic. This is aimed at those fics that are going along nice and steady, nearly all loose threads are resolved when suddenly, oh no, kidnapped by the abusive ex/someone got taken advantage of after they got drunk at a party/etc! Fics where rape is treated as nothing more than another bump in the road that the couple needs to overcome to be together is just, yikes.(This does NOT refer to the fics where the author has a story to tell specifically about dealing with (sexual) abuse and and trauma. When it’s the entire focus of the fic, it’s usually treated with due respect instead of ‘ok and then A got raped by C but B still loves A so they’re all ok again in 2k words bc true luv’)- I heavily dislike power imbalances/abuse of authority, and this can be played up beyond belief in non-con- So often I’ll see the ‘dub-con’ tag used for something that, by all means, should be labeled non-con. I’m willing to accept ‘these two idiots are pining for each other but think it’s unrequited, both get drunk and make out/sleep together while intoxicated oh no’ as a dub-con, maybe. If only one of them is drunk? If both are drunk but one is explicitly saying no? If they’re under the influence of outside forces (ye olde ‘sex pollen’ trope)? That moves from dub-con into non-con territory imo, because either only one party could give full consent, or none could. I don’t care how enthusiastic they were about it Deborah, your a/b/o heatfic still has a total lack of clear-minded consent- Here’s the big one that I wish I had never encountered, but I have: fics where non-con/rape is described in detail, as in, it’s treated as if it’s just a run-of-the-mill PWP fic and written as if I’m supposed to find this sexy????? UHM??? I’m pretty sure I’m supposed to find this traumatizing to read, and I am, but for all the wrong reasons.

There is the remaining 5% of fics tagged dub/non-con that I CAN read, and even love sometimes though, just to be clear.

Fics where the dub/non-con happened in the past, off-screen. The further removed from the act itself, the more likely I am to be able to read it. I don’t have a problem with reading about trauma aftermath, I have trouble reading romantizations of non-con.

I can read PWP fics involving bdsm scenes of rape fantasies, but even then it has to be established that the two people about to engage in this scene are all on board or I’ll close the tab in 0.001 seconds flat

Fics dealing with the aftermath of canonical abuse/rape/trauma/etc. If only because these fics are often written by salty fans, so they rarely glorify the acts that were depicted in canon and include a fair amount of knowledge (or research at the least) on both the characters and their traumas. These fics I do seek out sometimes to get closure for something canon glossed over. If you think this point is about comics, it is. Specifically about Dick Grayson (Robin I/Nightwing). I’m willing to throw hands about both the Mirage and the Tarantula incidents they put him through and then handwaved away. Don’t get me started on that Deathstroke and Terra thing back in the day either.

Tl;dr - I prefer my fics consensual, that’s the baseline here.

37. Talk about your current wips.

...................suffering. That’s it that’s all my WIPs thanks for coming to my TED talk.

On a more serious note, I think most people that follow me know that the big WIPs are the 5SOD one and WDMC. WDMC is next in line to be updated as of now, but fuck if I know when I’ll get around to writing the end of that chapter. For a fic where I already know the entire plot, writing it sure isn’t going smooth =-=

38. Talk about a review that made your day.

I don’t think I could name a singular review that made my day, so much as all reviews do that for me? And this does include tags on reblogs for fic updates on tumblr, those are amazing to read.

Basically I just crave validation and feedback, so I thrive on every single comment I get. The YGO fandom especially spoiled me with this, because y’all just seem to love leaving comments??? I’m so happy with it, but it was one hell of a culture shock when I wrote stuff for other fandoms afterwards & comments came in less often.

here’s a fun little comparison, because I love analyzing my fic stats!

YGO, sorted by kudos:

vs my other stuff sorted by kudos

(I’m not shaming the other fandom btw, they are rly generous with their kudos and I love them for it, it just took some getting used to because of the different levels of feedback that I got. Unless it’s chaptered fics, that one did really well for some reason :’) )

That being said, I get really giddy when people comment on fics that I consider personal favorites. For YGO, Hypnagogia is one of them, as is The Flower Speaks (for the sheer amount of effort I put into it haha).

[narutosss]

sfw and nsfw Gaara headcanons of him w/ a female-aligned s/o who grew up poor so he likes spending a lot and spoiling her? she pays him back with sexual favors? (bc she wants to not bc she thinks she's obligated to). maybe some princess play stuff and she wears a lot of pink and pastels and is girly? kiiiinda dd/lg vibes but not rly bc I dont think Gaara would be down to be called "daddy" imo lmao (sorry if this ask squicks out or triggers the mods. sincere apologies)

A/N: I feel like this is kinda like him being a sugar daddy lol. I hope I did that justice, I don’t really see Gaara being a dd/lg kind of guy. But who knows :)

SFW

▪️Gaara would buy her anything she wants. I feel like even without the sexual favors he’d still want to buy her things. He’d always make sure that she’s fed. Since she was poor and all he wouldn’t want her to go hungry.

▪️If he wasn’t doing Kazekage work he’d probably sit with her on the balcony and watch the clouds go by. They’d talk about each other’s day. She’d be wearing one of the outfits he brought for her all pink and frilly.

▪️He’d smile when she’d go on and on about her day and her adventures, it’d be that warm Gaara smile he does too. She’d melt and kick her feet back and forth since they’re sitting up high, he’d have his arm around her, holding her close.

▪️I feel like she has a couple of bears he purchased for her. She snuggles with them whenever he’s busy working until he’d make it home. Which is usually late in the night.

NSFW

▪️So, when he does come home he’ll crawl into bed with her and she’d be wearing a very revealing nightgown, that’s pink. He’d pull her close to his chest while his hands wandered all over her body squeezing and maybe some fingering. All the while whispering about the things he was going to do to her.

▪️It’d be one day he’d be at his desk in the Kage mansion and she’d walk in with one of the outfits he had surprised her with, all pastel colored. She’d strip for him, dance for him and then go over to his desk and sit on it and wait.

▪️He’d be like “Princess, you know I’m busy.” Then she’d say “Yeah I know but I wanted to play.” He wouldn’t oppose of it and if it’s in his office he’d make it a quickie, she’d give him head under the desk. Both very well satisfied actually.

▪️I don’t see Gaara being overly rough with his partner. He’d always make sure she’s okay and even ask once more before entering her. “Princess can I take you now?” He’d tear through the nightgown though, probably blind fold her with the remains of it before fucking her from behind.

[sharcncarter]

"u need to put a trigger warning when you post buckynat bc it rly triggers ppl that have had toxic/abusive relationships" like........ far from me to make light of ppl's triggers but how can you be triggered by smth that's literally not there? where has there been a buckynat comic posted around tumblr that shows them as a toxic/abusive relationship? and how much of a relationship does buckynat even have in the mcu for them to be categorized as toxic/abusive? there is literally nothing there to be triggered by at all. unless you're triggered by random violence, in which case what are you doing consuming superhero media when that's 70% of what happens in all comics and movies but if you decided in your head that they're abusive with no proof (bc proof of that literally doesn't exist) and that triggers you i am sorry but that's delegitimizing actual triggers bc you have a "squick" against smth and you're a dick like can antis stop throwing around random sjw buzzwords to try and legitimize their dislike. what's so hard abt saying you don't like the ship and leaving at that, why do you have bully ppl that don't agree with you and make them look like bad ppl for "liking a bad ship" or whatever. i get having those discussions if it's a "hey lets ship this one character with that other nazi one and say it's all good" but literally what part of buckynat is problematic? whenever we ask that antis go conveniently silent. give us the actual receipts of how terrible and abusive and toxic they are, man. but if you can't find anything (which you CANT bc they are not abusive) then shut the hell up gdi

[queercastsadasdsa]

literally just saw someone say that bc minors visit ao3 that there shouldn’t be mature content there like

bud

buddy

friendo

my dude

you do know that is why ao3 was created, right? because lj started purging anything that wasn’t fluff basically? plus ao3 has rly good tools for filtering out content, such as tagging, archive warnings, and there’s even blacklisting tools available from third parties

like i’m sorry but if ur a minor you are wholly responsible for what you view. if you click on an nc-17 mature non-con/dub-con whump torture fic and ACCEPT THAT THERE IS MATURE CONTENT IN IT as you have to on ao3 if you’re logged out at least

then you are responsible for that

people should not have to stop creating things just bc you don’t personally like them like... i find non and dub con to be hugely squicky but its peoples right to create that kind of thing should they wish to. also arguments against that kind of thing disregard that a lot of people use whump and kink as coping mechanisms for various reasons, none of which you have to be privy to at all unless the writer invites you to know that info about them

basically what im saying is shut up and sit the fuck down, use blacklisting tools, read the tags on a fic, and don’t click on things which offend you. i mean, shit, i follow some amazing writers who write dub and non con and it squicks the fuck outta me so guess what?? i blacklist relevant terms on here and avoid their non/dub con fics on ao3. simple. i don’t go to them and say ‘uuuuuuh do you think you could stop writing that because it makes me feel uncomfortable?’ because that’s just a hugely dickish move

also on a similar topic, fandom is NOT JUST FOR MINORS. fandom has been going since long before many of us were even born, there’s been whump for decades, written and consumed by consenting adults who happen to enjoy it for whatever reason. fic is not a new invention and you’re not gonna rewrite fandom history by trying to be some paragon of virtue and by trying to stop others writing something bc ‘minors go to that site’

like if ao3 didn’t want or accept mature, violent, sexual, whumpy themes then they wouldn’t allow it and would actively police things and take them down. as it stands, ao3 is a safe space for ALL KINDS of writers: from the fluffiest of the fluff to the most torturous, violent, murderous fiction

and guess what? it is exactly that. fiction.

when content creators have explicitly allowed fiction of them and/or their characters, and even reacted enthusiastically to fiction written about them or their characters, even the kinky stuff, i don’t think you have a right to speak for them or say that anything oversteps a boundary. until the content creator(s) come out and say ‘actually could you please not thank u’ then anything is free game imo.

tl;dr: fandom is not a safe space just for you. it is a safe space for a multitude of people with different tastes, coping mechanisms and from diverse backgrounds and age ranges. like shit, my 50 YEAR OLD MUM READS FIC ABOUT STAR TREK AND HAS DONE SINCE SHE WAS A TEENAGER. fandom is not just for minors. fandom is for everyone. no matter how ‘gross’ you find something, it has its place in fandom and nowadays there are many many many ways for you to avoid content that you don’t like or are triggered or upset by. there is no excuse to rag on other people for what they choose to read or write. by doing so, you’re just policing or attempting to police content and that’s no bueno my dude.