#bandh karwaing things

[wojosubahjaldinahiuthti]

bandh karo feat. indian parents (a thread)

darwaza bandh karo

[all-about-life-till8]

Let me share a recent personal experience on a cab. I was out with few of my friends for a meet up. We took a cab to reach a restaurant because that would have been the easiest way. One of my friend was a little disturbed because she is planning for her social marriage in the next year. So, we all were discussing about that. She was mentioning how difficult it is for her to handle everything and make arrangements. FYI- she is legally married, her registry marriage took place this year.

My friend complained that she is having frequent panic attacks at night thinking about how she is going to handle the situation. The rest of us started asking her different questions like whether she will be getting support from her parents for the preparation or why is planning for such a huge social arrangement since she is legally married. Because we belong to the middle class society and spending lacs and lacs of money for others entertainment during the wedding is not fashionable.

People who want to do lavish wedding and have the best experience of their life, shoutout to you all and heartiest congratulations. But that is not just my thing and neither for my friends.

While we were discussing every aspect- financial, mental, physical all the stress during the huge occasion, we were suddenly interrupted by our Cab Bhaiya. He interrupted us and did apologize for his behavior. But he was not able to control the words that came out of him. He said "Mam ek baat batau, maine bhi kuch din pehle shaadi kia lockdown mei. Sab taiyariyan ho gayi thi ki dhoom dhaam se shaddi karenge. humlog bihari hai to 8-9 lacs to lagta hi hai humari shaadi mei. But fir achanak lockdown ho gaya aur sab bandh ho gaya. Maine apni wife ko call lagaya aur bola tumko akele mei shaddi karna hai. Pehle toh wo raji nhi hui yeh soch ke ki log kya kahenge, but phir maan gayi. Ma'am sacchi batatu hu log baat to kiya ki shaddi mei khilaya bhi nhi but abhi bhool bhi gaye hai aur baat bhi nhi hota. Jo paisa maine jama kiya tha us paise se maine apna cab khareda aur business start kiya hai aur baki paise se mai wife ko UPSC exam prepare karwa raha hu."

We were all just in awe with him. Yes, I know the last statement was very very unexpected coming from him right!

Two things- we as humans tend to assume everything according to what little knowledge we have and set a perception about people. Secondly, this is life where we can find motivation from such great examples, we do not need to only look up to the celebrities or very accomplished people. We can look around us and we will find numerous such examples and real life relatable stories.

Hope we all learnt something from this and let us normalize wedding! It is a very important aspect of life but it is not life.