#at least i'm gaining experience

[kkeomchiz]

I GOT PAID

[adhdtsukasa]

(tl by tsukasa's #3 fan on yt)

tsukasa actually not being that flexible and struggling with ballet moves had only made me more grounded with my headcanon: he used to take ballet classes as a child, but he was way too hyperactive and bored with doing only the basic exercises that after a month or so it finally made his instructor break down in tears and call his parents to tell them to never bring tsukasa here ever again because he's way too much for him to handle

[seventh-district]

again and again i find myself lamenting that audio roleplay isn't taken more seriously by some people. like yeah, they often have a romantic element, and by nature they usually directly involve/address the listener- and i totally get that those things aren't to everyone's taste. no art or entertainment is universally appealing, and that's okay! but.. it still makes me a lil sad that the "cringe" reputation of asmr/audio rp precedes it. there's a whole lot of talent and creativity being poured into these audios by so many people that i feel goes unrecognized and/or disrespected simply due to the medium that the stories are being told through.

[vaguely-concerned]

we've had a death in the family (a long expected one, to be clear, but sad nonetheless :( ) and the funeral is across the country on the day after veilguard releases, so my wait now has a few more days added to it. oh well if I've waited ten years I can wait until the monday after launch haha

[pa-pa-plasma]

kind of frustrating that people took "fat does not equal unhealthy" to mean "fat is not unhealthy." sometimes being obese IS unhealthy & excess fat can cause a lot of problems. ignoring health issues isn't progressive. real "oranges kill people with depression" moment

[werewolves-are-real]

What type of work do you do for a living

Just low-level administration things. I have an English degree but I have a lot of regrets (not doing internships in college, not doing something more specialized) so... bleh. Haven't done anything useful with it.

[eudikot]

Hey baes ship base dropped

Here's the original

[maitanii]

I've got an internship in a marketing agency and my friends have spammed me with videos from a Netflix show and each one of the has made me laugh till my stomach hurt

ps: me at the agency

[lonestatus]

actually can i complain again. it's about relationships this time though

[arcxnumvitae]

First Chia now Lea (rhyme unintended), Minglian's just gaining bunches of cool ladies to look up to huh.

[fuckwoodyallen]

I’m having such strange feelings about my identity again. re-realizing my dykeism was maybe the best revelatory thing to have happened to me in recent years, and I absolutely am happy to call myself a lesbian, but the fact is that my dysphoria is fucking me up so bad. there’s like, this weird sense of internalized homophobia I have, that isn’t due to a dislike of being a lesbian, but rather a deep-seated envy of those who get to experience boyhood and male homosexuality. I don’t know. there’s something wrong with me. I love being a transmasc lesbian - I relate to and see myself in lesbianism more than anything else - but also I still wish I was a teenage boy. witnessing two twinks sharing a tender kiss or whatever makes me want to harm myself out of the sheer dysphoria and envy it gives me. ah. oh well

[dreamlogic]

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[numberone-wifeguy]

05/07/24

[dan-sing-in-the-rain]

This might be a stupid question but is empathy an emotion or a thought process?

For example, when somebody does something that upsets you, and you try really hard to understand why they are doing what they are doing, even if you can't imagine ever feeling that way, is that empathy? Or is it not, because you are not feeling whatever way they are feeling?

[cjgladback]

For the last several months I've been resisting the siren call of machining while enjoying the new-to-me channel Pask Makes, with its woodworking and tool production.

But yesterday I watched two videos from Adam Savage in a row, with all their semi-chaotic plotting, layout work, and winging it. I now desperately need access to a machine shop and I'm being so brave about it.

That said, I have just downloaded FreeCAD to get as close as I can digitally to that thought process without the metal shavings, blue stained fingertips, and sulfuric lubricant smell. Or at least as close as I can for free.

[taliabhattwrites]

I don't think there is a significant or notable number of people who believe transmascs are not oppressed.

I feel slightly insane just having to type this out, but this is rhetoric you inevitably come across if you discuss transfeminism on Tumblr.

The mainstream, cissexist understanding of transmasculine people is the Irreversible Damage narrative (one that's old enough to show up in Transsexual Empire as well) of transmascs as "misguided little girls", "tricked" into "mutilating themselves". It is a deliberately emasculating and transphobic narrative that very explicitly centers on oppression, even if the fevered imaginings misattribute the cause. As anyone who's dealt with the gatekeeping medical establishment knows, they are far from giving away HRT or even consults with both hands, and most transfems I know have a hard enough time convincing people to take DIY T advice, leave alone "tricking" anyone into top surgery.

Arguably, the misogyny that transmasculine folks experience is the defining narrative surrounding their existence, as transmasculinity is frequently and erroneously attributed to "tomboyish women" who resent their position in the patriarchy so much they seek to transition out of it. This rhetoric is an invisiblization of transmasculinity, constructed deliberately to preserve gendered verticality, for if it were possible to "gain status" under the sexed regime, its entire basis, its ideological naturalization, would fall apart.

Honestly, the actual discussions I see are centered around whether "transmisogyny" is a term that should apply to transmascs and transfems alike. While I understand the impetus for that discussion, I feel like the assertion that transmisogyny is a specific oppression that transfems experience for our perceived abandonment of the "male sex" is often conflated with the incorrect idea that we believe transmasculine people are not oppressed at all. This is not true, and we understand, rather acutely, that our society is entirely organized around reproductive exploitation. That is, in fact, the source of transfeminine disposability!

I know I'm someone who "just got here" and there is a history here that I'm not a part of, but so much of that history is speckled with hearsay and fabrication that I can't even attempt to make sense of it. All I know is that I, in 2024, have been called a revived medieval slur for effeminate men by people who attribute certain beliefs to me based on my being a trans woman who is also a feminist, and I simply do not hold those views, nor do I know anyone who sincerely does.

If you're going to attempt to discredit a transfeminist, or transfeminism in general, then please at least do us the courtesy of responding to things we actually say and have actually argued instead of ascribing to us phantom ideologies in a frankly conspiratorial fashion. I also implore people to pay attention to how transphobic rhetoric operates out in the wider world, how actual reactionaries talk about and think of trans people, instead of fixating so hard on internecine social media clique drama that one enters an alternate reality--a phantasm, as Judith Butler would put it.

Speaking of which--do y'all have any idea how overrepresented transmascs are in trans studies and queer theory? Can we like, stop and reckon with reality-as-it-is, instead of hallucinating a transfeminine hegemony where it doesn't exist? I'm aware a lot of their output isn't particularly explicative on the material realities of transmasculine oppression despite their prominence in the academy, but that is ... not the fault of trans women, who face extremely harsh epistemic injustice even in trans studies.

The actual issue is how invisiblized transmasculine oppression is and how the epistemicide that transmasculine people face manifests as a refusal to differentiate between the misogyny all women face, reproductive exploitation in particular, and the contours of violence, erasure, and oppression directed at specifically transmasculine people.

You will notice that is a society-wide problem, motivated by a desire to erase the possibilities of transmasculinity, to the point of not even being willing to name it. You will notice that I am quite familiar with how this works, and how it's completely compatible with a materialist transfeminist framework that analyzes how our oppression is--while distinct--interlinked and stems from the same root.

I sincerely hope that whoever needs to see this post sees it, and that something productive--more productive dialogue, at least--can arise from it.