#askramadan

[lebensmoode]

Ramadan #21

What do you think young people can learn from older people?

Their dedication to live. Idk but in my eyes, older people were fighting harder about almost everything; education, career, family, etc. Though they came from wealthy family, seemed like "gen-gen rebahan" tu gak ada di diri mereka. Apa-apa kudu gerak, kudu kerja, diem melempem sampe kena mental tu gabisa, ovt tu apaaa, ngumpul-ngumpul nongki di kafe sampe berjam-jam haha hihi tu ngapaiiinn, gaboleh ada yg kek gitu-gitu pokoknya :)))

Their diet. Alias, makan tuh sayur heeey anaq muda! Rang-orang jaman dulu tuh makanannya urap, pecel, lalapan, minumnya jamu gendong. Gimana gak sehat-sehat, kulit mulus, kuat-kuat, ayu-ayu. Belum kenal junk food. Kalopun udah ya tetep kemana-mana yg dicari daun ubi, daun singkong, tumis kangkung :") Apa tidaq mengnangis wahai anak muda yg kalo tengah malem laper pesen mekdi, besoknya gofud kaepci plus es kopi :')))

Their hospitality? Ini gak secara umum ya, tapi kalo mau dibandingin tingkat kesopanan anak jaman now sama manusia jadul tu kayak jauh banget gak sih? Di era yg apa-apa serba self-love, serba insekyur, dan sensitif thdp pertanyaan apapun, people nowadays seem to set boundaries or even "high walls" to separate them from the world. Jadi ya untuk bersikap ramah ga perlu-perlu amat, jatuhnya takut ditipu dan dimanipulasi kalo terlalu open. Gak salah juga sih, but at least tetep hormati orang tua, bicaranya dijaga, 3 mantra kehidupan kudu dipraktekin terus; maaf, tolong, terimakasih.

Hmmm apa lagi ya? Mungkin ada yg mau nambahin. Gw sebagai young people salut sih ngeliat mereka. Apa karna pengaruh jaman juga ya, gatau. Atau emang gw nya aja yg udah malas sampe ke dna 🙂

[lebensmoode]

Ramadan #2

What is your idea of a healthy relationship?

Komunikasi lancar, di dalamnya perasaan dan emosi bisa tersampaikan dengan baik. Saling menghargai pendapat, ruang me-time, dan keputusan masing-masing. Saling mendengarkan. Tidak menuntut banyak hal, terutama yg gak bisa diubah. Tapi seperti kata Tulus, tuntutlah sesuatu biar kita jalan ke depan. Kalo bisa jadi pribadi yg lebih baik setelah bareng sama partner, kenapa gak? Justru kalo stay the same atau bahkan lebih buruk itu dipertanyakan. Dimana salahnya, dan harus diperbaiki.

Hmm apalagi ya. Saling menghindari nada tinggi saat marah. Respect sih akarnya, realizing that you both are human being and have the same rights to be treated like human. Kalo itu dijaga banget ke depannya insyaallah healthy.

[lebensmoode]

Ramadan #30

What is the craziest thing you have done as a kid?

Nyontek pas UAS SD kelas 6. Gak tanggung-tanggung, nyontek nya langsung dari buku cetak/paket nya, bukan lagi di secobel kertas. UDAH GITU SALAH PULAK ITU JAWABANNYA YHAAAA SI GBLK 🤌🏻

Another craziest moment might be when I got a first rank in class then my dad be lyke "what do you want?", "Go to dufan", "ayok". Segampang itu. Padahal waktu itu sedang tinggal di bengkulu.

Tau gitu kan aing minta beliin rumah aja ya ato mobil HRV gitu, itung-itung investasi masa depan 🥹

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This is the last question OMG. You did it, hw! Though this Ramadan I feel so not religious as I was last year, so so soooo much less religious :( gatau ya, masih bole tidak berharap ketemu lagi sama Ramadan tahun depan. Hina bgt hambaMu ini ya Allah :(

Aamiin-in aja dulu ya. Aamiiin

Then I wish you had a great time in this Ramadan, had meaningful and blessed days, had a better condition of yourself. And may Allah let us meet Ramadan again next year to fix what we need to fix, to gain more of His blessings and rahmah (aamiiinn) 🙆🏻‍♀️🌼

[lebensmoode]

Ramadan #26

Do you believe in love at first sight?

Yes, but I do believe that it isn't actually love. It must be admire at first sight, or lust at first sight. Love defined just by sight or visual is so cheap. It must be explored and taken some process if you truly want to feel and give meaning to it.

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Ramadan #19

How would you define love?

Is an emotion. A construction. A power. A process. A choice. A perspective. An action. An illusion too 😆

Lagi males mikir. Intinya cinta itu kayak balon, rupa2 warna dan bentuknya. Rupa2 pula pemaknaannya dari setiap human being, simply because... we experienced (or inexperienced) it in different ways.

Kalo kata babang weslaip mah, even in our solitude, it's love ceunah 🙂

[lebensmoode]

Ramadan #18

What is your idea of a perfect day?

Perfect ya umm maybe, when I'm not home, having a lil trip going out to the city by bus, lying on the park grass, gazing at the sky with blank mind, feeling the breeze on my face, sometimes closing my eyes just to embrace the moment, and after that having a meal I crave without worrying about the price.

Or having a trip somewhere I've never been to, taking a flight or train, meeting new surrounding, being the stranger in people's town, executing sudden plans, being fully aware of where I am and what to do, and eating all food without worrying about the price.

Oh wow, how I wish it would never end. The day.

[lebensmoode]

Ramadan #17

What is your guilty pleasure?

Ngunyah esbatu, rebahan berjam-jam, ada duit sikit langsung dihabisin (laah emang pernah banyak duitnya??), rewatch drama korea sampe nangis-nangis like again.

Karna sejatinya menikmati hidup itu adalah bahasa yg muluk-muluk, padahal artinya sedang melakukan serangkaian guilty pleasure 🙂

[lebensmoode]

Ramadan #10

What movie has made you into a better person?

Hmm looks like there's not a single movie that did me so. Cuma ada 1 yg gw inget pernah gw sukai amat sangat karna waktu itu momennya pas bgt. Lagi merasa desperate sama hidup, no clue, life-less, trus nonton film ini tu sampe pause dulu beberapa kali karna nngis kejer.

Not really turning me into a better person, but at least i was becoming aware of ga perlu hal besar atau spark buat merasa hidup. Jalani, sharing, ambil jeda me-time, dan syukuri hal-hal kecil; It's lively tho.

Judul film-nya Soul. Hehe. Infant 22 adalah panutanku yg benci hidup di bumi, tapi jatuh cinta sama daun yg jatuh ❤️

[lebensmoode]

Ramadan #25

How your priorities changed over time?

I...

Don't think ...

I have...

Priorities

🙂

Kadang cari cuan, kadang solat, kadang kopi, kadang tidur. Ga pernah jelas prioritas hamba. Bahkan hampir gak pernah ngeset sesuatu tu harus jadi prioritas gitu.

Hancur banget ya hidup aing 🙁

[lebensmoode]

Ramadan #16

Would you consider yourself an introvert or an extrovert?

I often lost my self confidence in front of strangers, like I don't know what to talk about, or more like I worried of what question they would ask me. I never feel charged when I was with many people, but always do with some that I have known for a long time.

Sebenernya gamau mengotak-ngotakkan diri dengan bilang introver, tapi ya memang cenderung ke situ. Di rumah pun bahkan tempat ngecas paling debest ya sendirian di kamar. Joining the family kadang gak sanggup lama-lama 🥲

[lebensmoode]

Ramadan #9

What is your happiest memory with a loved one?

Ketika bareng. Kalo yg bikin aku feel precious and loved itu pas dia ngelakuin hal-hal kecil, like opening the doors for me, helping me with the bags, with the bottle can, etc. Iya anaknya punya lovelang act of service akut :')

Tapi so far yg paling membekas adalah waktu makan mekdi. Pas makanan dateng, aku ke wastafel buat cuci tangan, balik-balik ke meja eh wadah sama ayamnya udah diatur, trus si bungkus nasinya udah dibukain 🥺

Sisanya ya being with him is happyy

[lebensmoode]

Ramadan #5

What is your dream job?

Tbh my current job, though still a freelancer, is my actual dream job. Anywhere can be my office, without any uniform on, working with deadlines while I still can manage my own time for work; that's it.

Do you know why alasan pertama gw gak mau jadi pns? Karena seragamnya wkwk. Gw gamau pake seragam pas udah kerja. Ya kali gw dari TK sampe SMA belasan tahun hidupnya udah pake seragam, masa kerja juga?? Kedua, seragam pns itu menurut gw hmm apa ya, punya kesan tersendiri yg condong ke arah negatif. Gak ada maksud merendahkan suatu profesi ya, ini cuma pengalaman pribadi aja waktu kerja jadi CS rumah sakit dulu. Rata2 yg berseragam coklat muda tu monmaap, merasa yg paling diprioritaskan. Dan hampir gak ada yg merasa dia tu "rakyat" biasa alias selalu bawa-bawa "saya pns ya dek, level sekian". Dari sini lah terbentuk kesan pribadi gw itu.

Tapi gak semua kayak gitu ya. Ada 1 bapak-bapak berseragam yg sama, tapi beliau kalem2 aja. Gak ada mencak-mencak minta cepet diurus, gak ada nyebut-nyebut dirinya oknum mana. Manut aja sama gw, sabar, duduk, nunggu. Inget banget gw, masih hapal juga tampang bapaknya. Mayan ganteng loh(?)

Saat kerja jadi guru les sebenernya itu udah lumayan banget sih. Gak ada seragam, pake baju kayak mo hengot aja gitu tapi tetep rapi dan sopan. Jam kerja siang sampe malem, jadi terhindar dari peak hours. It was not really my dream job, but something that I prefer.

Simplenya, bisa kerja di cafe yg nyaman sambil nyeruput caramel macchiato dan memutar playlist favorit adalah jalan ninjaku 🥂

[lebensmoode]

Ramadan #4

Do you believe in heaven and hell?

Yes. If I believe in afterlife, then how can't I believe in heaven and hell?

Mungkin kadarnya masih belum penuh-penuh amat, but I do believe in akhirat. Untuk orang-orang terutama anak kecil yang mati di negara berperang, atau mengalami krisis malnutrition, gw yakin Allah yg penuh rahmat dan rahim pasti menjaga mereka sekarang dan di akhirat dikasih kebahagiaan. Gw mah awalnya mikir kasian ya, masih balita udah ditembak, ditinggalin, tertimpa puing-puing gitu. Then akhirat is the only answer when I think life must be unfair to them.

And I'm actually still questioning whether heaven and hell sehitam putih itu, atau memang ada hak Allah yg manusia gatau soal gimana sih sistem keduanya. Ini mah gw nya aja kali ya yg harus lebih rajin baca dan cari tau. Yang pasti I don't really (want to) hear human yang dikit-dikit bilang ntar masuk neraka loh kalo ngelakuin A, ato dikit-dikit nyuruh ibadah B biar masuk surga. Alih-alih bikin tergerak, gw malah jadi males sorry to say. Malesnya karena, oke itu mungkin emang tujuan akhir beribadah gitu biar mashuk syurga. Tapi buat gw, pendekatan ke hati itu lebih kena. Pemahaman, penerimaan, sampe akhirnya bisa sabar dan ikhlas ngelakuinnya, itu yg bisa bikin gw terus tergerak. Bukan dengan promosi masuk surga atau ancaman masuk neraka.

Ini ngetik sambil agak takut sebenernya wkwk masih dengan template ya Allah hamba gamau masuk neraka tapi keknya juga gak layak masuk surga. Masuk mana cocoknya ya Allah 🥺

Astaghfirullaah. Allahummaghfirlii, warhamnii, wahdinii, warzuqnii. Semoga bertambahnya ilmu tidak membuat lupa diri dan sombong. Gak membuat diri merasa si paling benar. Jagalah hati kami Ya Rob 🤲🏻

[lebensmoode]

Ramadan #3

Which is more important: what you say or how you say it?

Of course, how you say it.

What you say can't be changed, but the way you say it needs emotion, thought, effort, and creativity(?). History lesson, if it is told in uninteresting way, will be forgotten. Kind words, if they are delivered not in a kind way, will be unkind. I love you, if it is said to your partner beside you while you're busy texting with your coworkers, will sound like trash.

[lebensmoode]

Ramadan #1

What's the most memorable lesson you learned from your parents?

Mostly they're good. I feel like I'm raised very well. From we were born until the college education, I think they always prioritize their children's needs, not only basic. I can feel their sacrifice to raise their 5 kids, Dad with his job and Mom with her caring at home.

What's memorable for me, from the good side, is that they signed us up not only in general school but also religious one. Gue masih inget mesjid mana dulu yg gw sama abang gw tuju buat ngaji, madrasah deket rumah di medan, panggil ustad ke rumah pas tinggal di bengkulu, sekolah di kampung arab pas tinggal di manado. Gue selalu salut dalam hal ini, karena efeknya adalah, yaa meski gw gak jadi ukhti ukhti banget yg alim nan solehah, gw akan merasa sia-sia gitu kalo ninggalin solat dan gak baca quran. Gw juga merasa gak tenang kalo beneran ninggalin semua ajaran agama itu. Mungkin karena dari kecil udah dikenalin sama pernak-pernik agama itu kali ya sampe besar, makanya kek ada yg hilang kalo tiba-tiba gw ninggalin itu semua.

It's crucial thing, and I'm grateful I grew up with those rituals. Tinggal qolbu-nya aja nih yg harus terus dibasahin dgn kesadaran, ehe.

From the not-so-good side, hmm maybe for the fact that I feel less connected to them? Yes, they fulfill our needs, they give us all they can. But ... Emotionally, they don't. That's why, gw gak terbiasa curhat layaknya anak perempuan ke ibunya dengan leluasa. Gw merasa kaku bgt dan hampir ga pernah ngungkapin rasa sayang. Gw gak merasa dekat sampe gw bisa ngelendot dan peluk-peluk rangkul-rangkul emak. I save all my personal story away from them.

Di usia dewasa ini, yaa kayak udah masing-masing aja meski tinggal serumah. Si Ummi sering ngasih tau kalo ada apa2 tu cerita, kalo ada yg deketin, dll. Tapi tetep aja, karena gak terbiasa, jadi gak cerita sama sekali. And her response tho, is something that makes me prefer to swallow everything inside. You know what I mean kan?

They're doing great anyway. The closest role model in my life, if I ever have a chance to be a parent someday.

[lebensmoode]

#Ramadan 12

What is your biggest regret in life?

Almost none? Kalaupun ada, it would be about the time I've been wasting for doing literally nothing. I mean, semakin bangkotan kok diri ini makin shantay hidupnya, bukannya berbenah 😮‍💨