#as someone whos been NB for the past 10 years ive seen this change and i think its awesome

[holdmymetaphor]

i dont typically post ~discourse for a number of reasons but as a non-binary person i have never liked the "i hate it when people only ask me, the trans person, for my pronouns, just tell me i look like a freak, or ask every single person in the room"

bc its like whoa, some of us want to look like freaks sorry. as someone who uses they only, i appreciate the effort. and actually, a good portion of the time, i get they'd without asking. i also think that "they" is getting used more and more often when talking about people colloquially (and people dont even realize).

for instance, i was watching a jerma compilation and he said "your mother comes in the room and they're like." like jerma, isn't some out and proud queer icon but he is using they in a way that seems subconscious and protective against assumption. like. i think thats really cool, as a future they mother.

ive also been is real life scenarios where we are in a room together (like a class room) and people reference other people (who don't look classically androgenous) using they pronouns.

the culture is changing, and has been changing, at least in the places i notice. do people use "they/them" as a noun to mean a non-binary person, because they dont know how else to call it? sure. but they use it and they mean it. we exist and people are saying it.