#as someone who admittedly ignored the aforementioned realities and is trying to learn more about them after watching the show bc it opened

[omarfor-orchestra]

I do think people who work in the field should roast the show because it was supposed to bring attention to some kind of realities that get ignored more often than everything else and it became a soap opera instead but consider. I like it.

[rhetoricandlogic]

Alienated: The Rift by Nina Allan

Niall Alexander

Thu Jul 6, 2017 1:00pm

Around the middle of The Rift, a sister who insists that her traumatic twenty-year disappearance came about because she woke up in another world says, by way of explaining why she now shelves her novels in with her non-fiction, that “no book is completely true or completely a lie. A famous philosopher at the Lyceum once said that the written word has a closer relationship to memory than the literal truth, that all truths are questionable, even the larger ones. Anyway, it’s more interesting. When you shelve books alphabetically you stop noticing them, don’t you find?”

I may be too time-poor to even contemplate such an almighty organisational endeavour, and yet… I’m tempted, because there’s some truth to Julie’s attitude, I’m sure. Once something becomes known, you do stop noticing it—and there’s so much in the world that needs noticing, so much that in a sense deserves the extra attention. Not least Nina Allan’s new novel, which, like her last—namely The Race, a story of stories about the lives of ordinary people becoming unfastened from reality—mixes the real with the unreal to tell a uniquely human tale, albeit one that may contain aliens.

Like the lawless library we learn about later, The Rift swiftly resists the rules readers expect fiction to follow from the first by beginning both before and after the fact. Before, we learn of a girl—Julie’s little sister Selena—who befriends a bloke who sadly commits suicide when his koi pond is poisoned. After, the girl is a grown-up, out drinking with a few of her few friends, who answers the phone upon coming home to hear a woman introduce herself as Julie:

Selena’s first, split-second reaction was that she didn’t know anyone called Julie and so who the hell was this speaking? The second was that this couldn’t be happening, because this couldn’t be real. Julie was missing. Her absence defined her. The voice coming down the wire must belong to someone else.

But it doesn’t. The caller is her missing sister. Selena knows it in her bones from the moment they meet in a coffee shop a day later. She has the same way of making Selena feel insignificant; the same memories of what they went through when they were wee; she keeps the same secrets, even.

She keeps a couple of other secrets too, to start. Even after Selena accepts this new though not necessarily improved Julie into her life—a quiet life defined by Julie’s absence as much if not more so than Julie’s own—she simply won’t tell her sister where she’s been all these years, nor why she’s gotten in touch all of a sudden.

Julie’s reticence to speak about her experience rings any number of alarm bells in her sister’s head, but Selena is so relieved to have her back that she wonders whether or not knowing the truth of whatever hell Julie has been through is necessary. “Perhaps it was better to remain in the dark about what had happened,” she tells herself. “There was an argument for not pursuing it, for ignoring the fork in the road, and moving on.” But the truth, inconvenient as it may be, unbelievable as it sometimes seems, will out:

On Saturday July 16th 1994, I travelled from the area of woodland around Hatchmere Lake, near Warrington, Cheshire, to the shore of the Shuubseet, or Shoe Lake, an elongated, slipper-shaped stretch of water not far from the western outskirts of Fiby, which is the smallest and most southerly of the six great city-states of the planet of Tristane, one of the eight planets of the Suur System, in the Aww Galaxy.

How I came to be there I cannot tell you. Cally’s brother Noah believes there is a rift—a transept, he calls it—something like an enlarged pore in the void between Earth and Tristane that allows objects and occasionally people to travel instantaneously from one place to the other.

We’re treated to a Julie’s-eye view of her time on Tristane in the company of Cally and Noah in The Rift‘s second section: a subtly surreal and somewhat sinister story about a young woman trying and invariably failing to fit in in a new world punctuated—as is the rest of the text—by interstitial excerpts of poems, encyclopaedia entries, newspaper reports and erotic novels, some of which are apparently factual whilst others are fabricated from the fantastical. Amidst all this is a detail Julie seems ill at ease with, concerning a man with a van she only narrowly escaped from before she awakened elsewhere.

Here, then, The Rift is quite literally riven, in that this extended interlude divides Selena’s account just as Julie’s strange tale splits the relationship she’s reestablished with her sister down the middle. Symbolically, this is a successful step in the structure of the story’s stairs; narratively, alas, much of the middle acts lacks. Tristane feels so weightless, and Julie’s recollection of her magical vacation there so shapeless, that it all comes off as false.

And perhaps it’s supposed to. Selena clearly doesn’t believe in this other world either, dismissing it as “a delusion of some kind maybe, a fugue state, brought on by her experience in the van with Steven Jimson.” But neither can Selena “bring herself to believe that Julie was simply lying to her, that she had concocted this ridiculous story as—as what, exactly? An excuse for what she’d put them all through? […] On the whole, the idea that Julie had gone mad was a lot less painful.”

Mad she may be—and there is admittedly a bit of family history that supports Selena’s suspicion—but believe it or not, Julie’s truth is what it is. You can take it at face value or fashion a frame of fact around it. But what exactly makes a fact that, Allan asks.

In The Rift‘s last act the aforementioned interstitials come thick and fast, foregrounding the fine line between tall tales and truths. One concerns the Wels Catfish, a “placid and slow-moving” species of beast found throughout the UK and Europe; another gives us the Gren-Moloch, “a fearless, rapacious predator” sometimes seen in the saltwater of Tristane’s Marilly Sea. If we put aside our preconceptions, both of these creatures are either perfectly credible or perfectly incredible. Perspective is the only reason we accept one definition and dismiss the other out of hand.

And so we circle back to the seemingly disorganised library we began with. In this, as in everything in The Rift, it’s up to us to to decide what to pay attention to and what to ignore; what to take on faith and what to doubt. One thing you won’t find in this brilliantly ambiguous book is the truth, but so long as you don’t read it expecting a definitive explanation, you definitely won’t be disappointed.

[detrevniwrit]

re: kacchako is bad (responses)

oh my god I'm going to answer all of these in one post because it’s been a freaking long day and i have no desire to answer each individual permutation of the same sentiments over and over again

read more this time bc it didn’t seem clear enough last time by the bolded ‘kacchako is bad title’ that you can scroll past if you’re sensitive to criticism because this is a criticism of kacchako.

Concern:

Don’t tag it in the ship tag if it’s hate! Just blacklist it if it bothers you so much. People can ship it if they want, don’t be mean/an asshole! :(

Answer:

I can't believe I'm getting "let people ship what they want don't spread hate it's never worth it" msgs in this year of our lord 2017. Don't moralize down to me about spreading hate and quit acting as if I went into people’s inboxes to harass and specifically be mean to them. I used the tag, yes, but I did it to bring kacchako fans’ attention to legitimate concerns I have about the ship’s consequences, and I made my opinion very explicit in the bolded title of the post so people can scroll past if they’re sensitive. I thought it was worth the risk to my sanity to make sure that people who aren't as sensitive to criticism won’t just ignore that there are important issues with kacchako because it’s easier, or because they just don’t know/never thought about it. (I’m now partially feeling it wasn’t worth it, but determined to stand by my points)

Concern:

I think kacchako is fine and I don’t defend abuse! I just imagine them in a place where Bakugou is grown up and not abusive anymore and Ochako doesn’t take that shit!

Answer: 

It has occurred to me that it’s rarely anyone’s intention to support abuse, which is why I bothered to write the original post at all. To reiterate my argument so I don’t get confused ‘kacchako is not abusive’s in my inbox, I’m not saying that kacchako is inherently abusive. I’m saying that as Izuku’s friend, Ochako wouldn’t be motivated to date Bakugou specifically because he bullies Izuku and has abusive tendencies towards her friend, and because she’s someone who cares about Izuku’s wellbeing she wouldn’t be interested in someone who continues to unapologetically treat Izuku like that. 

There is no ‘she secretly likes Bakugou’ right now, or vice versa. She just wants to catch up to Izuku. And Bakugou does not respect her more than he sees her as a threat.

To the reimagining future Bakugou part: again, I doubt anyone has the intention to erase Izuku’s experience as a victim of Bakugou’s bullying. I’m saying that no one writes Bakugou changing from a bully into a better person respectfully or realistically. Most interpret Bakugou’s one interaction with Ochako (in which he considers her a legitimate threat to beat) as an indicator of Bakugou beginning to change because of Ochako, even if after this interaction he’s still only interested in winning and dominating over others and if people are potentially in his way. 

Let me give you a definition of domestic abuse (my bolding):

"domestic abuse occurs whenever one person in an intimate relationship or marriage tries to dominate and control the other person. Domestic violence and abuse are used for one purpose and one purpose only: to gain and maintain total control over you. An abuser doesn’t ‘play fair.’ Abusers use fear, guilt, shame, and intimidation to wear you down and keep you under his or her thumb. Your abuser may also threaten you, hurt you, or hurt those around you.”

All kacchako shippers imagine a future Bakugou as someone who automatically deserves forgiveness for not being an asshole anymore, most likely due to Ochako keeping him in line, and not a single one has been able to describe, in informed detail, about how hard it is to change abusive behavior. 

“In discussing why abusers abuse, it’s clear that a lot of the causal factors behind these behaviors are learned attitudes and feelings of entitlement and privilege — which can be extremely difficult to truly change. [...] While we hope abusive partners will change, it’s not always realistic to expect that they can and will. Focus on changes you can control to improve your own life, because you deserved to feel loved, happy and safe.”

Signs of progress of changing abusive behavior include (some bolded for what I think kacchako shippers particularly don’t take into account often when characterizing future Bakugou):

Admitting fully to what they have done

Stopping excuses and blaming

Making amends

Accepting responsibility and recognizing that abuse is a choice

Identifying patterns of controlling behavior they use

Identifying the attitudes that drive their abuse

Accepting that overcoming abusiveness is a decades-long process — not declaring themselves “cured”

Not demanding credit for improvements they’ve made

Not treating improvements as vouchers to be spent on occasional acts of abuse (ex. “I haven’t done anything like this in a long time, so it’s not a big deal)

Developing respectful, kind, supportive behaviors

Carrying their weight and sharing power

Changing how they respond to their partner’s (or former partner’s) anger and grievances

Changing how they act in heated conflicts

Accepting the consequences of their actions (including not feeling sorry for themselves about the consequences, and not blaming their partner or children for them)

Making Bakugou an adult does not change that you need to write him checking his abusive behavior.

Concern:

But Bakugou has changed at this point in the manga---he and Izuku now have an understanding of trust and respect.

Answer:

Bakugou has only demonstrated one instance that he could be changing. Though change for Bakugou is a good and decidedly difficult feat, one instance does not an abusive pattern break.

Let me direct you to the classic cycle of abuse by psychologist Lenore Walker, with helpful manga caps from Ch. 117-121:

1) Tension building phase 

2) Acute battering phase (in which Izuku absolutely does not want to fight at first until he feels obligated to)

3) Honeymoon phase

“The abuse may be terrible, but the promises and generosity of the honeymoon phase give the victim the false belief that everything will be all right.”

Secondly, to the aforementioned abuse-changing bullets Bakugou has not achieved up to after he’s fought with Izuku Ch. 117-121:

Admitting fully to what they have done

Accepting responsibility and recognizing that abuse is a choice

Accepting that overcoming abusiveness is a decades-long process — not declaring themselves “cured”

Thirdly, to what he is beginning to do

Stopping excuses and blaming

Carrying their weight and sharing power

I concede that Bakugou is making steps towards change because he is a hardheaded egoistic teenager who up to this point hadn’t offered help out of his own volition. But if you’re taking this as a sign that he’s anywhere near lasting and permanent change, even years from now---I almost literally just wrote a foot of text and references as to why that isn’t realistic or respectful towards the realities of abusive behavior. Please realize you are likely oversimplifying his path towards change.

Concern:

Not all kacchako shippers are like that! I know (insert fanworks here) that are respectful, good, etc,

Answer:

Show me. I’m more than willing to take a look and then give you my detailed opinion afterwards, if you’d like.

Concern:

I’m not trying to force a het agenda, I just like the dynamic.

Answer:

I mentioned before that people may not realize their intentions don’t match up with consequences. I just wrote more than 2 hours worth explaining why kacchako doesn’t have a sensical basis for a good relationship and am considering just passing out on the spot right at this moment in sheer exhaustion. I’m just going to post screenshots that actually do have the aforementioned good qualities and ask politely that you consider these respective Ochako and Katsuki ships, instead of kacchako het, which endorses a contrived relationship over not straight ones that actually have a basis of mutual affection in canon:

Fuck, if you really really want to ship Uraraka with a guy Iida and/or Midoriya have plenty of shared affection and solid relationships with her, I trust you don’t need me to screen cap to know that. 

Concern:

If Bakugou is so problematic, wouldn’t any ship with him be problematic (including kiribaku)?

Answer:

Finally a good question. I would say yes and no. Yes, because if you’re a survivor of abuse it’s perfectly valid and understandable not to want to think about Bakugou and his potential romantic partners at all. No, for a variety of reasons, using kiribaku as an example: 

a) Bakugou and Kirishima are established friends with a relatively healthy, mutual relationship. Bakugou has a foul temper but he’s not abusive towards Kirishima, even going out of his way to---admittedly badly---help him study (above caps from the manga and light novel); Kirishima admires Bakugou, finds positive qualities in their friendship, and isn’t cowed, wary, or disgusted by him, like Ochako or Izuku and many others are. tl;dr, there is plenty of solid evidence to back up the mutual affection, respect, and trust between them, something that kacchako and---god forbid---bakudeku lack.

It’s actually good for Bakugou to learn how to develop uncontrolling behaviors through healthy relationships where he doesn't feel the need to dominate over his partner.  He can’t do this with Ochako, with whom he regards as nonexistent at best, and a threat to him as Izuku’s lackey at worst (I discussed this in detail further up). Referring back to the changing abusive behavior list, Bakugou’s relationship with Kirishima demonstrates that Bakugou can learn a) respectful, kind, supportive behaviors and b) carrying weight and sharing power. This doesn’t justify how Bakugou treats others, but it does facilitate a view of how Bakugou would be able to treat others better, which I think is worth exploring.

Concern:

Why do you care so much? People ship bad/problematic stuff all the time lol there’s nothing you can do to stop it. Just let it be or blacklist it or something??

Answer:

I’m maybe foolishly invested in the idea that some people don’t have to be like that when they’re informed and engaged in critical discourse, and well fuck I have time and resources and have already started two godamned things this weekend with fandom out of probably masochistic impulses, so why the fuck not. 

Just because I don’t like something doesn’t mean I’m here to attack people or be unwilling to talk to them about it---rather, I’m more concerned that people are so unwillingly to talk about why the things they like isn’t good?? 

Kacchako is just one instance. I can provide a lot more examples of this kind of behavior in different areas of interest, in detail, with plenty of support and reasons, over private message. Otherwise, I’m not interested in making a detailed -post- of examples of bad kacchakos because honestly, I’ve already spent a lot of my time writing this when I could be discussing more pressing issues. The downsides of hyper focus.

On that note, forgive me if I don’t immediately respond to further replies any time soon after this post. After more than 10 messages that entirely missed the point I’ve exhausted myself thinking people could put aside their first impulses and self-indulgences to maybe formulate better opinions on tumblr.com, rather than sending me vague, misinformed, and/or childishly defensive insults that don’t actually tell me I’m wrong.

[ourmrmel]

Mel Feller MPA, MHR, Discusses Success Secrets for the Entrepreneur

Mel Feller MPA, MHR, Discusses Success Secrets for the Entrepreneur

 Mel is the President/Founder of Mel Feller Seminars with Coaching for Success 360, Inc. and Mel Feller Coaching. Mel Feller is an Innovator and Business Leader. Mel Feller currently maintains offices in Texas and in Utah. Currently an MBA Candidate.

  Do you sometimes feel that you could be successful if it were not for the fact that you seem to be missing that one vital clue? If so, you should ask yourself the question whether you have been ignoring that inner voice that is trying to tell you that you should go after what you are passionate about.

 The keys to success may come from virtually anything you do. Always have a concrete plan and if you work constantly to see it through, then you are sure to enjoy some good results. This is one of the success secrets. Nevertheless, the probability of sticking to your preparations increases by a lot if you are in reality enjoying your work.

  There are many differences between doing what you like and being forced to do what is against your tastes.  The success secret is not something that you cannot find. A good planning and executing can ensure your success.

  If you actually derive enjoyment from your career activity, then your success secrets are likely to be popular with your readers. You will automatically expend more time and effort and concentration than you would if you hated your job and all its associated tasks. You also will not be tempted to procrastinate, since you will think of future work with great anticipation. Ideally, you will be having so much fun that you will not really think of it as work at all.

  It is better to let the things happen in their due course than rather to rush out for the outcome. Certain objectives might take a longer time to fulfill but after it is accomplished, the level of satisfaction derived from its completion is much more. Therefore it is important, to concentrate whole-heartedly, on reaching to the level of perfection and contentment, in the task undertaken and not just performing it for the sake of it.

  You will also have more fun while you are doing what you love. Have you ever accomplished something, which was exceedingly hard and exhausting? By the time you finished you were perhaps too weary and thankful that it was completed to completely enjoy the feeling of achievement that you would have experienced otherwise. With the things you really care for, you will have more fun while doing it, and is sure to get a much nicer feeling after you complete it.

 However, history is full of people who noticed a chance to be successful at a particular project, and they put their best efforts into it and were successful in wealth creation, although they did not actually love what they were doing. Two of the most important success secrets are dedication and willpower. In fact, let us look at the effect of willpower on our decision making process.  I have found this a subject that we must look at especially as entrepreneurs.  

 Have you ever wondered why many smart, dedicated people lose control of themselves and make bad choices?  For example, consider the steadfast, straight-as-an-arrow student who binge drinks on the weekends. On the other hand, consider the hardworking, straight-laced executive who reveals himself a reckless gambler. It is a complete shift in character. Willpower becomes depleted until the individual is unable to withstand temptation. He becomes a slave to his vices.

 Roy F. Baumeister refers to this predicament – essentially, making terrible choices – because of “ego depletion,” not simply “willpower depletion.” When our willpower is depleted, our identities are the next thing to fall apart.

 Admittedly, none of this knowledge does us any good unless we can do something practical with it. You cannot just announce to your boss or staff on Monday morning, “We need to take a break. My ego is depleted.”

 So what can you do about it? How do you harness willpower and use it to your advantage?  Here are some things that have come up in my research.

 Keep Your Blood Sugar Stable

 One of Baumeister’s students, Matthew Gailliot, PhD, did a study and discovered that certain foods can boost self-control. It turns out that acts of willpower use – and deplete – glucose stores. Therefore, you need to restore your glucose to give your brain the fuel it needs for further acts of willpower.

 How? Eat meals that contain plenty of quality protein and healthy fats. Both will help you to stay satiated throughout the day so you will not go foraging for sugar-bomb snacks.

 You also need to get your rest! When you‘re fatigued, your brain operates like you‘re inebriated. The more fatigued you are, the less efficient your body puts glucose to work. When you‘re well-rested, your body uses glucose more efficiently, leaving more available when you need to exert willpower.

 Don’t Overwork Yourself

 Our society prides itself on its work ethic. Recall the last time you heard someone say, “I’ve been working like a dog lately.”

 The individual might be looking for sympathy. But more often than not, there’s also a sense of achievement underlying the claim, as if putting in long hours is worthy of admiration.

 The irony is that putting in long hours is a recipe for burnout, the mortal enemy of sustained productivity.

 Working hard can be useful. However, it’s more important to work smart. Look for ways to get more done with less time and effort. Doing so will preserve your willpower “account” for other tasks.

 Take Frequent Breaks

 You do not need me to tell you that taking breaks is important. Many studies have demonstrated as much. Breaks help us to stay focused. They also help to keep boredom at bay.  In addition, importantly, breaks save us from having to make decisions. Making decisions leads to decision fatigue, which slowly erodes willpower.

So how often should you take breaks? Moreover, how long should each one be? That is up to you. Everyone is different. The key is to determine an optimal schedule that accommodates your workflow and ability to focus. Maybe you need a 5-minute break after 30 minutes of focused work. Perhaps you need a 10-minute break after every 50 minutes of work

 The point is that you avoid keeping your nose to the grindstone. Take regular, frequent breaks. You will find that doing so leaves you with more willpower that can be put to use when you need it.

 Delegate Decisions

 Baumeister’s study added another nuance to our understanding of willpower. It is not just work for which we use willpower, but also decision-making.

 Remember, the factor that depleted the students’ willpower – and consequently, demolished their ability to complete the geometry puzzles – in the aforementioned study was not the puzzles themselves.

 It was their decision to resist eating the cookies.

 I mentioned decision fatigue, along with its effect on willpower, above. The more decisions you make, the more withdrawals you make from your willpower “account.”

 Delegate decisions whenever possible, especially if you‘re in a leadership position. Leadership isn’t just about making decisions; it‘s about picking people you can trust to make lower-level decisions for you.  Save your willpower for the big items.

  Implement “If-Then Planning”

  Personally, Iam a planner. I sometimes joke with my girlfriend that I have a Plan B, Plan C, and Plan D for every situation. When I was in college, I used to drive with a book by my side just in case I broke down and needed to wait for a tow truck!  It sounds ridiculous (and admittedly, it was). Nevertheless, it illustrates an important point: we can plan for unanticipated events, and thus save ourselves the trouble of making decisions under stress.  However, I did use it!

  Why is that important? Because making decisions when you are stressed depletes your willpower faster than doing so when you are relaxed.  Bottom line: always have a Plan B.

  Meditate

 Most of us have a natural aversion to the idea of meditation. I use to. Nevertheless, I have found that spending a few minutes doing nothing more than focusing on my breathing and being present has a remarkable effect on my focus.

  There is even research that shows meditation can help prevent relapses among recovering alcoholics. It takes an astounding amount of willpower to fight addiction of any kind. Studies show addicts have better success resisting their respective vices when they meditate. It is no wonder so many alcohol and drug rehab programs include meditation as part of the treatment!

 How and why does it work? It has something to do with the act of releasing your thoughts. When you meditate, you set aside problems looming over your head. Instead of actively working out solutions, you give your brain a break.

 Doing so makes a deposit into your willpower “account.”

  Here is what we know about willpower.  It is a limited resource. It gets used up, little by little, with every decision you make.  Do not think of that as bad news. On the contrary, it is empowering. Once you recognize its limits, you can come up with a strategy that allows you to fully leverage it.

  However, the keys to success can be found in almost any activity. Put a solid plan together and stick to it till the end and you are likely to be successful. That is one of the most important success secrets.  Control willpower and look at the main key of success.

  The ultimate key to success is having a clear outcome in mind. What do you want? What is your purpose for trying to achieve this goal? With an outcome in mind, you can then start thinking about the steps needed to get there. You have to take massive action to turn your goals into reality. Although there is a lot of work you need to do on your own, you should also turn to the people in your life who have already achieved success. What can these people teach you? What can you learn from studying their path to success?

 Success often seems like a gift given to others. What else explains the effortless way they round up achievements while you look on? What is the key to success that they have picked up, but you can’t find?

  The truth is these successful individuals are not lucky, they have just hit upon a strategy that works for them and are engaging it when they make their decisions. In addition, you can do exactly the same thing, provided you are willing to put in the work and time it will require. By turning to the successful people in your life and studying their path to success, you can emulate their efforts.

  At its core, modeling is selecting a person you admire, studying the methodology behind their success and creating a similar path for yourself. This technique is one of the best keys to being successful, and can be successfully deployed in almost every aspect of your life. If you want to be successful, there are three secrets for turning your dreams and goals into reality that involve modeling the best:

  Select the right person

  Look for someone who is already successful in your chosen field, or someone who has created the kind of life you want to live. There is no need to reinvent the wheel here. Look into their history and their rise to the top. How did they get to where they are today? What kind of obstacles and setbacks did they face, and how did they overcome them? What are their philosophies about their life and their work? Use this information to build a path that mirrors theirs.  

  Ask for help

  No matter what it is you are after, someone has already beaten you to it. If it is someone, you already know or have a connection to, so much the better. You do not just have to study them from afar to learn how they found the key to success; you can ask them to share their experiences with you, and perhaps guide you along the path to your own achievements. Understand that their time is valuable and offer a way to add value to their life while they assist you. If this is a friend, it could be as easy as taking them to dinner every month. If it is an acquaintance, perhaps you will take on extra yard work or provide technical assistance.

  Create a strategy

 Those who have succeeded before you have done so because they followed a plan, and you can do the same thing. As Tony Robbins says, “Success leaves clues.” Develop a strategy that works and follow it. Your strategy may be quite similar to what the person you are modeling it on did, or it may be adjusted for your present circumstances.  

 Modeling is absolutely a key to success in life.

  Mel Feller, MPA, MHR, is a well-known real estate, business consultant, personal development consultant and speaker, specializing in performance, productivity, and profits. Mel is the President/Founder of Mel Feller Seminars with Coaching For Success 360, Inc. and Mel Feller Coaching, a real estate and business specific coaching company. His three books for real estate professionals are systems on how to become an exceptional sales performer. His four books in Business and Government Grants are ways to leverage and increase your business Success in both time and money! His book on Personal Development “Lies that Will Sabotage Your Success”. Mel Feller is in Texas and In Utah.